How would u noe if u're ready to settle down?
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CLEAR your mind and think properly what you want 1st... Marriage is not a child's game my dear...Originally posted by shinta:one day i'd say lets get married later..
one day i'd say lets get married earlier..
one day i'd say let's think some more about this before we get married.
marriage is supposed to be between me n him... dunno since when a 3rd person came into the picture..
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Originally posted by FeowFeow:Shinta,
Nobody can fault you for being indecisive, you're still a very young girl. And yes, I agree with you, marriage is between 2 people, but many feel that it's their right to give you their 2 cents' worth whether you want it or Not. Worst of all, they feel that they're being very kind in doing so.
I'm assuming that the 3rd party isn't another lover coming in between you & Nelly, since both of you are in love. I'm assuming the 3rd party is a family member/relative who's very irritating. Unfortunately, this is SG, my girl *rubs rubs Shinta's head*
Nevermind, you should discuss this with Nelly, & make a decision between both of you. Stick by that. Ultimately, it's YOUR wedding. Your parents/his parents/relatives have already had their weddings. It's now YOUR TURN.
FeowFeow
u're right!
the 3rd party is a very irritating person...
the reasons behind all this indecisiveness.... get married earlier.. cos we can get a place earlier.. and move away from this person.
get married later.. cos i wanna move back to my mom's... and stay there until we can move in to our place... but in the mean time.. wanna see if things will turn for the worse if we stop stayin together.. well, even tho we're staying together.. i dun get to see nel very often..
i see this irritating 3rd person more than nel, and he's drivin me nuts..
dun marry at all... cos i can't stand being anywhere near this irritating person. tho i love his parents oso.. things will remain much simpler if we're to just stay together but dun marry. i can run away as often as i want and ppl can't say anything cos... i'm not nel's wife yet.
i've spoken to quite a few ppl... all agree i should move back to my mothers... so thats where the marry later part comes in.
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hanor... at first i didn notice this... until nel pointed it out...Originally posted by Devil1976:CLEAR your mind and think properly what you want 1st... Marriage is not a child's game my dear...
and i still didn see.... until recently -
Well, the decision is yours ultimately, Shinta : ) As I've mentioned, it'll hafta be a decision between you & Nelly.
Discuss this matter with him, & both of you speak your views & brainstorm together. It's during times like these that both of you should work as a team.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by shinta:
u're right!
the 3rd party is a very irritating person...
the reasons behind all this indecisiveness.... get married earlier.. cos we can get a place earlier.. and move away from this person.
get married later.. cos i wanna move back to my mom's... and stay there until we can move in to our place... but in the mean time.. wanna see if things will turn for the worse if we stop stayin together.. well, even tho we're staying together.. i dun get to see nel very often..
i see this irritating 3rd person more than nel, and he's drivin me nuts..
dun marry at all... cos i can't stand being anywhere near this irritating person. tho i love his parents oso.. things will remain much simpler if we're to just stay together but dun marry. i can run away as often as i want and ppl can't say anything cos... i'm not nel's wife yet.
i've spoken to quite a few ppl... all agree i should move back to my mothers... so thats where the marry later part comes in. -
nel says his decision has always been the same...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Well, the decision is yours ultimately, Shinta : ) As I've mentioned, it'll hafta be a decision between you & Nelly.
Discuss this matter with him, & both of you speak your views & brainstorm together. It's during times like these that both of you should work as a team.
FeowFeow
i'm teh only one who's indecisive.
right now, he's sayin we'll start checkin out some of the stuff related to gettin a place of our own first... den we'll see how it goes...
he said sth abt all these will change once.. this irritating fella is out of the picture -
i think marriage need alot of commitment
when we tok abt marriage...one particular thing that appear is always $$
..that we cannot spend as much as before, save up for renovation, pay off loan, car, for kids..like if i got $100 extra to spend..why spend it elsewhere and not contribute to our home..
i am so used to splurging and i worry that i can't take up such responsibility..
even buying flat for instance
although it's our dream house, we end up having to think for others..whether to buy 4/5 room so that either parents or siblings can move over next time, the locaiton so that both our parents can travel to and fro easy...etc etc..
i think i am just making myself worry for nothing..like what he say
'chuan dao jiao tuo..zi rang zhi'...when the time comes..everything will work out easily... -
we're so different from u....Originally posted by BufPuf:i think marriage need alot of commitment
when we tok abt marriage...one particular thing that appear is always $$
..that we cannot spend as much as before, save up for renovation, pay off loan, car, for kids..like if i got $100 extra to spend..why spend it elsewhere and not contribute to our home..
i am so used to splurging and i worry that i can't take up such responsibility..
even buying flat for instance
although it's our dream house, we end up having to think for others..whether to buy 4/5 room so that either parents or siblings can move over next time, the locaiton so that both our parents can travel to and fro easy...etc etc..
i think i am just making myself worry for nothing..like what he say
'chuan dao jiao tuo..zi rang zhi'...when the time comes..everything will work out easily...
we're still deciding what kinda flat to get. 4 room? or exec? or bto?
my sister won't be fond of the idea if we move over to stay near his parents... cos its very troublesome for them to visit...
if we move to sengkang.. she won't protest as much.. cos there's a direct bus over i think..
so we'll just have to get a plc in the middle of both, reachable via direct bus
as for $$, we plan to keep things very simple.. so most likely we'd be gettin most of the furnitures when we need them..
and cos we'd prefer resale.. there's not much to worry about regardin reno.. -
My dad found us our flat. So happens the owner is his friend and wanted to sell it off as he was going back to Canada. He told us it was a good location and nice neighbourhood so we went to see and liked the place alotOriginally posted by BufPuf:i think marriage need alot of commitment
when we tok abt marriage...one particular thing that appear is always $$
..that we cannot spend as much as before, save up for renovation, pay off loan, car, for kids..like if i got $100 extra to spend..why spend it elsewhere and not contribute to our home..
i am so used to splurging and i worry that i can't take up such responsibility..
even buying flat for instance
although it's our dream house, we end up having to think for others..whether to buy 4/5 room so that either parents or siblings can move over next time, the locaiton so that both our parents can travel to and fro easy...etc etc..
i think i am just making myself worry for nothing..like what he say
'chuan dao jiao tuo..zi rang zhi'...when the time comes..everything will work out easily...
It's pretty far from our parents' place. Both our parents live in the North whereas we are in the East, though my parents might be moving back to their old place which is in the East as well. Anyway, we have easy access to transport back so it's fine.
Ours are pretty forward. It's fine if our parents/siblings want to stay for the night but they are not going to stay with us. No issues there.
Of course like most people $$ is at the top of the list. We cut back on alot of spending and I cannot buy as much clothes or the expensive stuff I like anymore, but it's worth it.
We have not bought a car coz we don't need that currently as it is easier for us to take the public transport to work and not having to pay thru our noses for the parking incurred
Anyway, do your calculations properly and you should be fine. Also don't think that installments are good coz you can really feel the pinch every month. -
think the only thing we're payin via instalments would be.... the flat itself..Originally posted by elindra:My dad found us our flat. So happens the owner is his friend and wanted to sell it off as he was going back to Canada. He told us it was a good location and nice neighbourhood so we went to see and liked the place alot
It's pretty far from our parents' place. Both our parents live in the North whereas we are in the East, though my parents might be moving back to their old place which is in the East as well. Anyway, we have easy access to transport back so it's fine.
Ours are pretty forward. It's fine if our parents/siblings want to stay for the night but they are not going to stay with us. No issues there.
Of course like most people $$ is at the top of the list. We cut back on alot of spending and I cannot buy as much clothes or the expensive stuff I like anymore, but it's worth it.
We have not bought a car coz we don't need that currently as it is easier for us to take the public transport to work and not having to pay thru our noses for the parking incurred
Anyway, do your calculations properly and you should be fine. Also don't think that installments are good coz you can really feel the pinch every month.
we've agreed on a pay via cash / nets for everything at home.. not really agreed.. but we both share the same views.. its really nice to be with someone who thinks like u.. dun u agree? -
Originally posted by shinta:
ZEN..
we're so different from u....
we're still deciding what kinda flat to get. 4 room? or exec? or bto?
my sister won't be fond of the idea if we move over to stay near his parents... cos its very troublesome for them to visit...
if we move to sengkang.. she won't protest as much.. cos there's a direct bus over i think.. so we'll just have to get a plc in the middle of both, reachable via direct bus
as for $$, we plan to keep things very simple.. so most likely we'd be gettin most of the furnitures [b]when we need them..
and cos we'd prefer resale.. there's not much to worry about regardin reno..[/b]
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eh.. think so..Originally posted by Devil1976:ZEN.. "
my idea of the perfect place is...
living room no sofa... all use bean bags
if die die must have sofa... den gettin sofa bed
basically if we dun need the stuff, we're not gettin them.. -
Cute. For me I like leather sofasOriginally posted by shinta:eh.. think so..
my idea of the perfect place is...
living room no sofa... all use bean bags
if die die must have sofa... den gettin sofa bed
basically if we dun need the stuff, we're not gettin them..
We didn't buy the things we didn't need either
No Hi-Fi system in our house
Anyway ah shinta, if you wanna see my place, can go to Club 30 Jive pad page 20 see. -
we're thinking... there will be close to nth in the living room, with an ok tv.Originally posted by elindra:Cute. For me I like leather sofas
We didn't buy the things we didn't need either
No Hi-Fi system in our house
Anyway ah shinta, if you wanna see my place, can go to Club 30 Jive pad page 20 see.
den we'd have this room, we call it the entertainment room.
we'd have DVD player, hi fi or sth, ps2/3 pcs and loads of stuff inside...
we'd play games in it...
den we'd have a bar fridge inside too... so we could keep drinks and tidbits inside -
For us, the living room is the entertainment room. We have a study with our stingray tank and computer and books and an empty room for kids if any, though it seems our tank upgrade will go in thereOriginally posted by shinta:we're thinking... there will be close to nth in the living room, with an ok tv.
den we'd have this room, we call it the entertainment room.
we'd have DVD player, hi fi or sth, ps2/3 pcs and loads of stuff inside...
we'd play games in it...
den we'd have a bar fridge inside too... so we could keep drinks and tidbits inside
Then there is the Master Bedroom and the Dining Room and Kitchen
My place is open concept though for Hall, Dining Room and Kitchen and Tatami area -
i'd prefer the gaming area to be out of bounds to a certain irritating person.Originally posted by elindra:For us, the living room is the entertainment room. We have a study with our stingray tank and computer and books and an empty room for kids if any, though it seems our tank upgrade will go in there
Then there is the Master Bedroom and the Dining Room and Kitchen
My place is open concept though for Hall, Dining Room and Kitchen and Tatami area
at least i can count on my frenz and my siblings to put them back to the same place.
irritating person can't be counted on to do such simple stuff.
he'd leave the room with the whole place lookin like a tornado just went thru..
ok i'm exaggerating -
Sounds like BUSINESS...??Originally posted by shinta:i'd prefer the gaming area to be out of bounds to a certain irritating person.
at least i can count on my frenz and my siblings to put them back to the same place.
irritating person can't be counted on to do such simple stuff.
he'd leave the room with the whole place lookin like a tornado just went thru..
ok i'm exaggerating -
End up you'll get EVERYTHING...? It's just a matter of time...??Originally posted by shinta:eh.. think so..
my idea of the perfect place is...
living room no sofa... all use bean bags
if die die must have sofa... den gettin sofa bed
basically if we dun need the stuff, we're not gettin them.. -
nah...Originally posted by Devil1976:End up you'll get EVERYTHING...? It's just a matter of time...??
i'm lazy to clean up the place...
so to make it easier for me... best is to have nth over there -
wa kao... the guy was thinking with his dickhead.Originally posted by browniebaobao:should ask the guy why he so no brain wan.
they were only around 18 years old. -
what business?Originally posted by Devil1976:Sounds like BUSINESS...?? -
Then what for get a house? It should decorate it like your own sweet home!Originally posted by shinta:nah...
i'm lazy to clean up the place...
so to make it easier for me... best is to have nth over there -
ENTERTAINMENT BUSINESS in the house... Got GAMES, got fridge with COLD DRINKS...Originally posted by shinta:what business? -
home sweet home = no dust... no rubbish everywhere... no idiots throwing stuff all over the plaec. (my kids not included)Originally posted by Devil1976:Then what for get a house? It should decorate it like your own sweet home!
must have that very clean kinda feeling
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Can have that minimalist chic kinda look? Black, wood & metallic
Almost No clutter at all... Everything hidden away Even if they rot & grow fungus, it's Not within your sight
I've always liked the look of clean lines, kinda like apartments where you can view the Manhatten skyline, with very clean, minimalist decor...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by shinta:home sweet home = no dust... no rubbish everywhere... no idiots throwing stuff all over the plaec. (my kids not included)
must have that very clean kinda feeling -
sengkang and punggol's flat are cheaper but it's too far for our parents...our friend bought BTO @ Sengkang for $150k, complete in 2008/9..if you don't mind pasir ris/tampines, i heard that there are going to BTO there also..Originally posted by shinta:
i think most probably we will be getting resale as well..can choose the location we want..if near our parents, we can get the grant and they can take care of the kids next time...furthermore we can go slow with the renovation (just the basic cabinets, appliances, bed and stuff) which we will be borrowing from the bank...the money we saving up now are for the ROM, dinner, bridal shots and stuff..
currently, our problem is finding the flat we want and the location, anything below $300k. We should not have any problem paying for downpayment and installment now but we don't wish to fork out cash for the installment. our agent told us if $300k+, after 30 years still got a lump sum to pay..for interest i think..