CLEAR your mind and think properly what you want 1st... Marriage is not a child's game my dear...Originally posted by shinta:one day i'd say lets get married later..
one day i'd say lets get married earlier..
one day i'd say let's think some more about this before we get married.
marriage is supposed to be between me n him... dunno since when a 3rd person came into the picture..![]()
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Originally posted by FeowFeow:Shinta,
Nobody can fault you for being indecisive, you're still a very young girl. And yes, I agree with you, marriage is between 2 people, but many feel that it's their right to give you their 2 cents' worth whether you want it or Not. Worst of all, they feel that they're being very kind in doing so.
I'm assuming that the 3rd party isn't another lover coming in between you & Nelly, since both of you are in love. I'm assuming the 3rd party is a family member/relative who's very irritating. Unfortunately, this is SG, my girl *rubs rubs Shinta's head*
Nevermind, you should discuss this with Nelly, & make a decision between both of you. Stick by that. Ultimately, it's YOUR wedding. Your parents/his parents/relatives have already had their weddings. It's now YOUR TURN.
FeowFeow
hanor... at first i didn notice this... until nel pointed it out...Originally posted by Devil1976:CLEAR your mind and think properly what you want 1st... Marriage is not a child's game my dear...
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u're right!
the 3rd party is a very irritating person...
the reasons behind all this indecisiveness.... get married earlier.. cos we can get a place earlier.. and move away from this person.
get married later.. cos i wanna move back to my mom's... and stay there until we can move in to our place... but in the mean time.. wanna see if things will turn for the worse if we stop stayin together.. well, even tho we're staying together.. i dun get to see nel very often..
i see this irritating 3rd person more than nel, and he's drivin me nuts..
dun marry at all... cos i can't stand being anywhere near this irritating person. tho i love his parents oso.. things will remain much simpler if we're to just stay together but dun marry. i can run away as often as i want and ppl can't say anything cos... i'm not nel's wife yet.
i've spoken to quite a few ppl... all agree i should move back to my mothers... so thats where the marry later part comes in.![]()
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nel says his decision has always been the same...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Well, the decision is yours ultimately, Shinta : ) As I've mentioned, it'll hafta be a decision between you & Nelly.
Discuss this matter with him, & both of you speak your views & brainstorm together. It's during times like these that both of you should work as a team.
FeowFeow
we're so different from u....Originally posted by BufPuf:i think marriage need alot of commitment
when we tok abt marriage...one particular thing that appear is always $$
..that we cannot spend as much as before, save up for renovation, pay off loan, car, for kids..like if i got $100 extra to spend..why spend it elsewhere and not contribute to our home..
i am so used to splurging and i worry that i can't take up such responsibility..
even buying flat for instance
although it's our dream house, we end up having to think for others..whether to buy 4/5 room so that either parents or siblings can move over next time, the locaiton so that both our parents can travel to and fro easy...etc etc..
i think i am just making myself worry for nothing..like what he say
'chuan dao jiao tuo..zi rang zhi'...when the time comes..everything will work out easily...
My dad found us our flat. So happens the owner is his friend and wanted to sell it off as he was going back to Canada. He told us it was a good location and nice neighbourhood so we went to see and liked the place alotOriginally posted by BufPuf:i think marriage need alot of commitment
when we tok abt marriage...one particular thing that appear is always $$
..that we cannot spend as much as before, save up for renovation, pay off loan, car, for kids..like if i got $100 extra to spend..why spend it elsewhere and not contribute to our home..
i am so used to splurging and i worry that i can't take up such responsibility..
even buying flat for instance
although it's our dream house, we end up having to think for others..whether to buy 4/5 room so that either parents or siblings can move over next time, the locaiton so that both our parents can travel to and fro easy...etc etc..
i think i am just making myself worry for nothing..like what he say
'chuan dao jiao tuo..zi rang zhi'...when the time comes..everything will work out easily...
think the only thing we're payin via instalments would be.... the flat itself..Originally posted by elindra:My dad found us our flat. So happens the owner is his friend and wanted to sell it off as he was going back to Canada. He told us it was a good location and nice neighbourhood so we went to see and liked the place alot
It's pretty far from our parents' place. Both our parents live in the North whereas we are in the East, though my parents might be moving back to their old place which is in the East as well. Anyway, we have easy access to transport back so it's fine.
Ours are pretty forward. It's fine if our parents/siblings want to stay for the night but they are not going to stay with us. No issues there.
Of course like most people $$ is at the top of the list. We cut back on alot of spending and I cannot buy as much clothes or the expensive stuff I like anymore, but it's worth it.
We have not bought a car coz we don't need that currently as it is easier for us to take the public transport to workand not having to pay thru our noses for the parking incurred
Anyway, do your calculations properly and you should be fine. Also don't think that installments are good coz you can really feel the pinch every month.
Originally posted by shinta:ZEN..
we're so different from u....
we're still deciding what kinda flat to get. 4 room? or exec? or bto?
my sister won't be fond of the idea if we move over to stay near his parents... cos its very troublesome for them to visit...
if we move to sengkang.. she won't protest as much.. cos there's a direct bus over i think..so we'll just have to get a plc in the middle of both, reachable via direct bus
as for $$, we plan to keep things very simple.. so most likely we'd be gettin most of the furnitures [b]when we need them..
and cos we'd prefer resale.. there's not much to worry about regardin reno..[/b]
eh.. think so..Originally posted by Devil1976:ZEN..![]()
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Cute. For me I like leather sofasOriginally posted by shinta:eh.. think so..![]()
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my idea of the perfect place is...
living room no sofa... all use bean bags
if die die must have sofa... den gettin sofa bed
basically if we dun need the stuff, we're not gettin them..
we're thinking... there will be close to nth in the living room, with an ok tv.Originally posted by elindra:Cute. For me I like leather sofas
We didn't buy the things we didn't need either
No Hi-Fi system in our house
Anyway ah shinta, if you wanna see my place, can go to Club 30 Jive pad page 20 see.
For us, the living room is the entertainment room. We have a study with our stingray tank and computer and books and an empty room for kids if any, though it seems our tank upgrade will go in thereOriginally posted by shinta:we're thinking... there will be close to nth in the living room, with an ok tv.
den we'd have this room, we call it the entertainment room.
we'd have DVD player, hi fi or sth, ps2/3 pcs and loads of stuff inside...
we'd play games in it...
den we'd have a bar fridge inside too... so we could keep drinks and tidbits inside![]()
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i'd prefer the gaming area to be out of bounds to a certain irritating person.Originally posted by elindra:For us, the living room is the entertainment room. We have a study with our stingray tank and computer and books and an empty room for kids if any, though it seems our tank upgrade will go in there
Then there is the Master Bedroom and the Dining Room and Kitchen
My place is open concept though for Hall, Dining Room and Kitchen and Tatami area
Sounds like BUSINESS...??Originally posted by shinta:i'd prefer the gaming area to be out of bounds to a certain irritating person.
at least i can count on my frenz and my siblings to put them back to the same place.
irritating person can't be counted on to do such simple stuff.
he'd leave the room with the whole place lookin like a tornado just went thru..
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End up you'll get EVERYTHING...? It's just a matter of time...??Originally posted by shinta:eh.. think so..![]()
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my idea of the perfect place is...
living room no sofa... all use bean bags
if die die must have sofa... den gettin sofa bed
basically if we dun need the stuff, we're not gettin them..
nah...Originally posted by Devil1976:End up you'll get EVERYTHING...? It's just a matter of time...??![]()
wa kao... the guy was thinking with his dickhead.Originally posted by browniebaobao:should ask the guy why he so no brain wan.
they were only around 18 years old.
what business?Originally posted by Devil1976:Sounds like BUSINESS...??![]()
Then what for get a house? It should decorate it like your own sweet home!Originally posted by shinta:nah...
i'm lazy to clean up the place...
so to make it easier for me... best is to have nth over there
ENTERTAINMENT BUSINESS in the house... Got GAMES, got fridge with COLD DRINKS...Originally posted by shinta:what business?
home sweet home = no dust... no rubbish everywhere... no idiots throwing stuff all over the plaec. (my kids not included)Originally posted by Devil1976:Then what for get a house? It should decorate it like your own sweet home!![]()
Originally posted by shinta:home sweet home = no dust... no rubbish everywhere... no idiots throwing stuff all over the plaec. (my kids not included)![]()
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must have that very clean kinda feeling
sengkang and punggol's flat are cheaper but it's too far for our parents...our friend bought BTO @ Sengkang for $150k, complete in 2008/9..if you don't mind pasir ris/tampines, i heard that there are going to BTO there also..Originally posted by shinta: