Wooing someone(m/f).................
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Originally posted by alexkusu:
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or the signals frm gals not obvious enuf. - "positive" signals -
Wooing girls? First of all u must have strong interest to go after her! and as what many people say-communication! Trying to know more of her and find out more info like her hobbies,like and dislike,thru conversation more or less know her style and character. U can communicate like MSN or hp. When courting,don't chase so tight while at the same time must show sincerity and keen. Like when sms her few times and no reply is ok but must show consistency! Everyday a few will do. Too much sms will make her frustrated and make u look desperate! U must be yrself and comfortable when courting her.
Courting gal MUST HAVE A STRATEGY and a VISION! U must come out a concrete plan. Step by step,where to go ,where to have fun,ensuring everyouting r FUN AND NICE for her! By what time ,u want to achieve what lvl with her? Courting gal is just like fighting a war,with plan strategy and well-prepare. Then u can win the war decisively,be natural is one thing,being well-prepare is another thing too. If u r well-plan,most case will take 2-3months to succeed!
Make an effort to plan yr outing,timing venue. If maybe just a simple dinner or outdoor activities,all must have well info. Like a dinner,what is the food? Is it a Western or Asian crusine? Top selling dish? Price? Ambience? Location? U must find out all the info before u venture there. Nvr go BLUNTLY! During meal time,is the best time to dig more info of her,crap with her and slowly accumulate the info of her.
Gals like to be special,make extra effort to make yr outing be special. Go to some special place with great ambience to have dinner or interesting and uncommon place for outing. Don go to the same old common pizza hut or fast food outlet to make her normal. Find out her interest and liking to tailor and cater every outing for her. Even when both of u ran out of conversation but the interesting outing u plan will create more topic and interest to talk! Yr every effort will show and she KNOWS......... -
1. not every1 (gals) think that a pizza hut or fast food restuarants are not special. it is the person that u r with that makes the occassion special...place/ambience wise is secondary.
2. it seems like the 'us' factor is missing from ur formula? more of 'us' and less of her n i. the latter promotes individualistic ideals which again may not work out? -
The start of a relationship is the sweetest part
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You can't be too sure that not all guys are complex...?? I THINK of RUBBISH lots of the time.... (in the past?) <Originally posted by alexkusu:What you think?
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all i can say is that u suck
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thanks
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dont think too much. It only brings u miseryOriginally posted by Devil1976:You can't be too sure that not all guys are complex...?? I THINK of RUBBISH lots of the time.... (in the past?) <>
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1. This is the problem lies with this mentality...initial,the gal may think like what u mention,imagine all the outing is foodcourt and pizza hut and fast food outlet. No wonder sg gal complain most sg guy r bored....If u want a lasting r/s ,this mentality will nvr worksOriginally posted by tiggersgd:1. not every1 (gals) think that a pizza hut or fast food restuarants are not special. it is the person that u r with that makes the occassion special...place/ambience wise is secondary.
2. it seems like the 'us' factor is missing from ur formula? more of 'us' and less of her n i. the latter promotes individualistic ideals which again may not work out?
2.Lady needs surprise and yr planning must try to fit her liking...Lady hate to plan too and have to let us poor man do all the planning! -
but bo bian la... $ is a factor..
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I seriously agreed! But no need a lot! Is $$ plus effort that counts..Originally posted by Itachi:but bo bian la... $ is a factor.. -
Yeap... I guess the effort is the most important thing...
Which is why I think sometimes I'm rather lousy eapecially in this area... -
do most guys actually always pay for their girls? for things like food, movie tickets etc...
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Yes, most of the time, i do. I try to pay for my girl always, unless she wants to help me pay. even when i was courting her, she also din want me to pay always too. but as a guy, its only right that we pay.. sadly.. but as a matter of fact,most gals would like to see this FENG DU in the guy they are going to date.Originally posted by Itachi:do most guys actually always pay for their girls? for things like food, movie tickets etc... -
1. if the gal thinks like that, then will certainly not be my type. sg has more food courts/kopitiam than posh restuarants. sure, going to those posh restuarants/hotels and special eateries once in a blue moon is great but this is not the way. there're far more things to do than eat alone. sg gals that complain sg guys are bored should seriously do some soul searching. i for 1 will never date this kind of gals...even as frens...no. and u have missed my point being that it is the person that u r with that makes the occassion special. and not abt the place. i wonder if u r a guy or gal. if u r a gal...pls ponder over ur tots. if u r a guy, gd luck to u. u will need not only $$ to substain the constant flow of gd food and posh places ...u might need to go out of sg to savour these 'not-so-boring' places as well. try dubai?!Originally posted by CannyOng:1. This is the problem lies with this mentality...initial,the gal may think like what u mention,imagine all the outing is foodcourt and pizza hut and fast food outlet. No wonder sg gal complain most sg guy r bored....If u want a lasting r/s ,this mentality will nvr works
2.Lady needs surprise and yr planning must try to fit her liking...Lady hate to plan too and have to let us poor man do all the planning!
2. who doesn't like surprises. guys do too. planning should try to fit both. otherwise, y dun u try to wear like a waiter and serve her all the way? in dating, its about fun, communication and being urself. it is mutual in all ways. whether the man plans or otherwise is not important. suggestions will come along the way and plans may take a turn, so its not necessary always plan swee swee and work that way. be flexible. dating is not rigid. -
haiz.. den i tink i can't afford tt kind of feng du.. cash capability not there yet.. i tink girl oso wun wanna spend $ tt comes from the bf's parents unless they r those immatured type..Originally posted by pipeorganfreak:Yes, most of the time, i do. I try to pay for my girl always, unless she wants to help me pay. even when i was courting her, she also din want me to pay always too. but as a guy, its only right that we pay.. sadly.. but as a matter of fact,most gals would like to see this FENG DU in the guy they are going to date. -
X 2. No point trying to act like someone / something you're not, only to suffer the consequences later... If you can't afford to pay, you can't afford to pay... Why strain yourself to go the extra miles just to find yourself suffering to the consequences when you can't keep up to things...?Originally posted by Itachi:haiz.. den i tink i can't afford tt kind of feng du.. cash capability not there yet.. i tink girl oso wun wanna spend $ tt comes from the bf's parents unless they r those immatured type..
If a girl truly cares for you, she would have your interest at heart also... Unless she's really immature in thinking... Which... Won't be a total waste of things even if you can't get her in the end, because being an immature person like that... The relationship is just quite very likely to suffer much in the future.... -
agreeOriginally posted by Devil1976:X 2. No point trying to act like someone / something you're not, only to suffer the consequences later... If you can't afford to pay, you can't afford to pay... Why strain yourself to go the extra miles just to find yourself suffering to the consequences when you can't keep up to things...?
If a girl truly cares for you, she would have your interest at heart also... Unless she's really immature in thinking... Which... Won't be a total waste of things even if you can't get her in the end, because being an immature person like that... The relationship is just quite very likely to suffer much in the future....
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Wah...so much effort required??? I think I'll go become a monk easier.Originally posted by CannyOng:Wooing girls? First of all u must have strong interest to go after her! and as what many people say-communication! Trying to know more of her and find out more info like her hobbies,like and dislike,thru conversation more or less know her style and character. U can communicate like MSN or hp. When courting,don't chase so tight while at the same time must show sincerity and keen. Like when sms her few times and no reply is ok but must show consistency! Everyday a few will do. Too much sms will make her frustrated and make u look desperate! U must be yrself and comfortable when courting her.
Courting gal MUST HAVE A STRATEGY and a VISION! U must come out a concrete plan. Step by step,where to go ,where to have fun,ensuring everyouting r FUN AND NICE for her! By what time ,u want to achieve what lvl with her? Courting gal is just like fighting a war,with plan strategy and well-prepare. Then u can win the war decisively,be natural is one thing,being well-prepare is another thing too. If u r well-plan,most case will take 2-3months to succeed!
Make an effort to plan yr outing,timing venue. If maybe just a simple dinner or outdoor activities,all must have well info. Like a dinner,what is the food? Is it a Western or Asian crusine? Top selling dish? Price? Ambience? Location? U must find out all the info before u venture there. Nvr go BLUNTLY! During meal time,is the best time to dig more info of her,crap with her and slowly accumulate the info of her.
Gals like to be special,make extra effort to make yr outing be special. Go to some special place with great ambience to have dinner or interesting and uncommon place for outing. Don go to the same old common pizza hut or fast food outlet to make her normal. Find out her interest and liking to tailor and cater every outing for her. Even when both of u ran out of conversation but the interesting outing u plan will create more topic and interest to talk! Yr every effort will show and she KNOWS......... -
bo bian.. no pain no gain..Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:Wah...so much effort required??? I think I'll go become a monk easier.
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*rubs chin*
hmm..so i have to be consistent in smsing -
but how to sms sia.. suddenly send ppl msg.. like v weird leh. for me it's hard to start la.. sometimes SMS conversation starts liao.. it's oso difficult to keep it going.. haiz..
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SMS sex??? It's pretty addictive, I heard...
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Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:SMS sex??? It's pretty addictive, I heard...
how to do tt... sound lame.. -
Read 'Vox' by Nicholson Baker. It's phone sex, but basically it's the same thing for SMS sex, except perhaps it's less spontaneous due to the time lag between messages.