How Do I Tell A Guy I Can't Stop Thinking About Him??
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1: i've been engaged once before........only to be cheated on.Originally posted by M©+square:If i could be frank to you.
I'll say.
You're a girl who's unable to take control any longer. Ready to explode.
Calculate your cost already?
Some extra info. (optional to answer)
How many relationship have you gone thru b4?
How long were each duration?
Ever been cheated before?
How do you fare yourself as a gf?
2: i've been in 2 other serious relationships....only 2 be cheated on.
3: the shortest relationship went for 5 1/2 months.
4: as a gf......i'd hope im a good gf.....i do everything for my man.....look after him,clean for him,feed him,go to the ends of the earth for him if he wants me to! or if he doesnt want me to do all that,i dont. i find out what he wants,and i do it.but ofcourse,he has to make me happy too,,.,,but im not a fussy gf.i dont like guys buying me things,i dont like guys that constantly tell me im pretty,every now and again is nice....but not 20 times a day.
if my guy wants space,he gets it.if he wants to see me,he can.i like to have time apart where we can go out seperately with our own friends,but then i like to have time together where its just the 2 of us.im not bossy,cause i cant stand being bossed around by guys,so i dont boss my guy around.
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i heard there a great singapore guys across the ditch in Nz
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thats why im so scared...im not going to sg to see him.....im going to see family.....but since i'll be there...i'll be catching up with him and the other guys aswell.Originally posted by alexkusu:wow..ur really serious bout him. What if you travelled all the way only to be rejected by him? Have you thought about that? What if he dosent even want to meet you?
i know he wants to meet me,cause he suggested it,and he has planned for him n his mates to meet me at the airport,and go clubbing and stuff.
but as for the rejection part..............thats not my biggest fear.......him telling me that he doesnt even wanna be friends anymore is my biggest fear!!!
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u will be fine. Just go and have fun. What will be, will be~
i think the two of you will hit it off well
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maybe he aso like u?
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First, Stop being silly by saying you're blonde. That has got nothing to do whether you're a blonde or not.Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:im a girl that cant take the pain any longer...im in control.just dont want to be in pain anymore.
what do you mean did i calculate the cost??? this may just be cause im blonde,and tired,and i cant think properly,but,the cost of what??
im just so sik of not knowing how to approach the sunject,if i should at all.
i cant decide whether to or not....so i post here for suggestions! everyone has been great help.....im sorry,everythings just getting to me....i'll be in sg in bout 3 weeks,and i'll HAVE to talk to him about it.....im just scared.......im not even really sure of what i want anymore.
i cant keep my mind on dealing with the government here to arrange my travels even,,,,my mind is constantly on him...its draining me
Everyone have the right to fall in love and to express their interest.
Second, you've let this issue dwell and grow within you. I have my reason for saying you can't control anymore.
Yes, you should speak out. BUT....have you considered many factors?
Have you count the cost?
Have you considered the price you've to pay for doing that?
Esp when you're sure of your own feelings but unsure of his?
Sigh...take care yeah? -
Well i have a very big problem that has been bugging me for the last 5 months! there is this guy i really,really like.i spent a month and a half with him when i first met him,at my work.i clicked with him from the first moment i met him.we became close,and then he had to go home to sg!
he knew i like him a little bit when he left,,,,,,but i dont know how to tell him that he is what i think about every day!
at first i thought i just got along well with him like a friend,as i always get along with guys better than with girls.
but as time went on,i found myself crying when he left.....and i think i love him.
i am going to be seeing him soon,but i think he has a gf now.
how am i supposed to be happy for him,and act as if i dont have anymore feelings for him than a friend should have?
i dont want to put him in a bad position,and i dont want to embariss myself.
but i feel like i have to tell him how i feel. i know he's excited to be seeing me again soon,but i dont know if he likes me as anything more than a friend now.
please help...im so confused....i dont want to make the biggest mistake of my life.
i could tell him i think i love him.....but then he might freak out and i could lose his friendship.
or i could not tell him,and i could lose any chance i might have of being with him!! Confused
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Crying or Very sad
Hello,
U sound very sincere in your problem, so i would like to dedicate this video to
you. Hope it strengthen your resolve and if not at least u can enjoy it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38G-3_UGhqU
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if he already have a gf,pls give up.
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Your biggest fear is your best solution. Lose all contact and after a while, maybe longer for you than most people; slowly but surely, you will forget him. Cancel your trip and don't come here. Go to err... bangkok instead... bangkok is good place for broken hearts.Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:but as for the rejection part..............thats not my biggest fear.......him telling me that he doesnt even wanna be friends anymore is my biggest fear!!! -
It's chaos there....not good for broken hearts.Originally posted by casino_king:Your biggest fear is your best solution. Lose all contact and after a while, maybe longer for you than most people; slowly but surely, you will forget him. Cancel your trip and don't come here. Go to err... bangkok instead... bangkok is good place for broken hearts.
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send him an sms saying "it's annoying i cant get u out of my mind u noe.."...... he'll get the hint
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What if he's like me.Originally posted by yoghurt:send him an sms saying "it's annoying i cant get u out of my mind u noe.."...... he'll get the hint
Just reply with a
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so chaotic takes your mind off everything.... but seriously, nothing, no problem for the average person in BKK and no prob for tourists.Originally posted by M©+square:It's chaos there....not good for broken hearts.
Bangkok is good place for broken heart because easy to find somebody to talk to.... so many tourists, everybody willing to talk to someone. -
Originally posted by casino_king:so chaotic takes your mind off everything.... but seriously, nothing, no problem for the average person in BKK and no prob for tourists.
Bangkok is good place for broken heart because easy to find somebody to talk to.... so many tourists, everybody willing to talk to someone.
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thats it...im going to bangkok!
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Originally posted by alexkusu:thats it...im going to bangkok!
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True love is letting another person go as his wish, if you truly loves someone, whatever he do you will be happy for him, for it's his freedom. Do not think being possessive over someone is loving him.
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hi ozzy-gurl...
Your situation sounded like mine actually...I was also afraid to let my ex crush knew how I felt about him for the fear of losing the friendship. But still, because I thought he was worth it, I confessed to him twice...and although I got rejected (because he only sees me as a close friend and a sister), I knew that it is better to have done it then to have not at all. Because now I know I would never have any regrets in my heart, at least I have tried my best in letting him know my feelings, and even though he did not reciprocate the way I wanted him to, at least I know the outcome and that makes it easier for me to move on. At least there is no more "what if" question on my part...
The first time after I confessed, we managed to stay close friends, but after the second time, I admit that the friendship is now a bit strained...but the question is, is he worth the risk? Do you want to have a life w/o regrets? If yes, then let him know today -
Only do this after you have tried all you could...if not, it is not called a sacrifice in the name of true love, it is called giving up...the letting go part is just an euphemism to cover up the lack of courage...but if confess already and the other party said he does not share the same feelings as you, then letting go is the right way to go...Originally posted by 022615:True love is letting another person go as his wish, if you truly loves someone, whatever he do you will be happy for him, for it's his freedom. Do not think being possessive over someone is loving him.
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Yes. It is true at least you try before you let it go. After my b/f left, I met a new friend who is Sg who has been the motivation for my career achievements. During my depression, he spent a lot of time to comfort and bring me back to normal life when my heart was torn. I decided to spend holidays with him in Malay and it was a sweet memory.
I came back to Australia. After that, there were endless conversations over the internet, email...We both realized sth was going on b/w us. I said to him I would move to Sg one day. Then he prepared to go home after 15 yrs working overseas. Since he moved back to Sg, life wasn't easy for him. Our communication was not as good as before, and I used to keep calling and emailing to nurture my hope for our r/s . Our story was real and I believed him at that time he was honest and true to me. Days after days, I carried my special feelings for him, but living in Australia, I wouldn't know what really happened to him in Sg. Two years had passed since we first met. The communication was weaker and weaker. I wanted to find out what really happened to him because my feelings for him were still there. Also, I did not want to leave him if he was experiencing some difficulties. As a good friend, we would be there when our friends are in need. I decided to go to Sing to find out what happened. At least, being there it would give me some information for decision making. He picked me at the airport and dropped me at the hotel. Next day, he came to have dinner together. Yes. Things have changed. He said to me things have changed but did not mention what it was...He also changed. But I still wanted to know more what had happened to him, but he didn't tell me. He promised to drop by the next day and would take me to the airport when I departed, but he disappeared, just the messages left with the Reception. No phone call. I came back to Australia and I decided to give up although there are always special feelings for him in me, even it has been five yrs.... Yes, at least I have tried if it was a chance, but it wasnÂ’t. I donÂ’t blame him because I understand things have changed and he doesnÂ’t want to share. We departed then.
It has been 5 yrs. We email each other off and on. Recently, he sent me a note for Valentine day. It stirs my emotions. Lately, he asked me to go to visit him again and implied of coming back, my answer was no because for me, r/s is not a game although I know people do come back to their old friends. I came to visit him twice. Nothing further happned. I have made up my mind. If it happens, he should be the one who comes to visit me to show his sincerity. Today, he has achieved his corporate ladder of a Gen. Mangr, and a person who is charming like him is always surrounded by women. I donÂ’t want the get the pain with him again. Nothing supports me to do so. Am I right?
What I want to share with you Ozzy-Gurl, be prepared for what it may happen. If it doesnÂ’t happen, at least we have tried and would not regret for not having made it known to him. Be also prepared if it turns out to be painful too. -
thankyou everyone.....and i have come to a decision.
thanks to the great advice from you all.......
i am going to wait until i get to sg...and when i go out with him and the rest of the guys,im going to sit down and talk to him about it.im going to tell him that im happy for him,that he has a new gf.....and that i wish him well.its true.......i do.
i just hope she treats him as well as i would,or even better,and as well as he deserves,hes a great ,kind hearted guy.i just hope he can be happy with her.
i'll be there for him....as a friend,unless he tells me otherwise.
its going to hurt me......but i'll have to deal with it...im an adult.....i can do that.
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I think the reason why your rships dont work out is because of above underline. Guys dont fall in love with girls who do everything for them. You spoil them, and they take you for granted. They want to be with girls that interests them, intrigue them, and not ALWAYS available for them. And you dont have to do everything he WANTS you to do cos it becomes boring, no challenge, no excitement cos everything becomes expected. Be unexpected, unpredictable!Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:1: i've been engaged once before........only to be cheated on.
2: i've been in 2 other serious relationships....only 2 be cheated on.
3: the shortest relationship went for 5 1/2 months.
4: as a gf......i'd hope im a good gf.....i do everything for my man.....look after him,clean for him,feed him,go to the ends of the earth for him if he wants me to! or if he doesnt want me to do all that,i dont. i find out what he wants,and i do it.but ofcourse,he has to make me happy too,,.,,but im not a fussy gf.i dont like guys buying me things,i dont like guys that constantly tell me im pretty,every now and again is nice....but not 20 times a day.
if my guy wants space,he gets it.if he wants to see me,he can.i like to have time apart where we can go out seperately with our own friends,but then i like to have time together where its just the 2 of us.im not bossy,cause i cant stand being bossed around by guys,so i dont boss my guy around.
is there anything wrong with all that???
I reckon the fastest way to get the guy to 'disappear' is to tell him you can't stop thinking about him (if he doesn't like you the same way). A lot of guys feel very pressurised if they sense a girl NEEDS them a lot, they just want to be WANTED not needed all the time (even if their ego tells them otherwise) -
wow.............thanks shrodingers cat........you just opened my eyes up hey!!Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:I think the reason why your rships dont work out is because of above underline. Guys dont fall in love with girls who do everything for them. You spoil them, and they take you for granted. They want to be with girls that interests them, intrigue them, and not ALWAYS available for them. And you dont have to do everything he WANTS you to do cos it becomes boring, no challenge, no excitement cos everything becomes expected. Be unexpected, unpredictable!
I reckon the fastest way to get the guy to 'disappear' is to tell him you can't stop thinking about him (if he doesn't like you the same way). A lot of guys feel very pressurised if they sense a girl NEEDS them a lot, they just want to be WANTED not needed all the time (even if their ego tells them otherwise)
ive never really thought about me trying to be such a good gf,,,actually being boring for a guy.wow.......thankyou for being so honest!! it really helped!
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Hmm...Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:thankyou everyone.....and i have come to a decision.
thanks to the great advice from you all.......
i am going to wait until i get to sg...and when i go out with him and the rest of the guys,im going to sit down and talk to him about it.im going to tell him that im happy for him,that he has a new gf.....and that i wish him well.its true.......i do.
i just hope she treats him as well as i would,or even better,and as well as he deserves,hes a great ,kind hearted guy.i just hope he can be happy with her.
i'll be there for him....as a friend,unless he tells me otherwise.
its going to hurt me......but i'll have to deal with it...im an adult.....i can do that.
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Hmm... It's more like striking a balance and depending on who you're with...Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:I think the reason why your rships dont work out is because of above underline. Guys dont fall in love with girls who do everything for them. You spoil them, and they take you for granted. They want to be with girls that interests them, intrigue them, and not ALWAYS available for them. And you dont have to do everything he WANTS you to do cos it becomes boring, no challenge, no excitement cos everything becomes expected. Be unexpected, unpredictable!
I reckon the fastest way to get the guy to 'disappear' is to tell him you can't stop thinking about him (if he doesn't like you the same way). A lot of guys feel very pressurised if they sense a girl NEEDS them a lot, they just want to be WANTED not needed all the time (even if their ego tells them otherwise)