My Problem
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i have a similiar prob i think..i always think ppl stare at me n get nervous..i also have low self esteem because of my physical look flaws n s1uttering..
my 2 cents worth is similiar to wad others mention ba
take things 1 at a time...make it a point to go out lor...1st few times go to less crowded areas...have a meal downstairs? take a walk around neighbourhood? have a jog around neighbourhood? going to lib?
then proceed to more crowed places like having meal at hawker centre, fd courts? shopping in supermaket etc
when u r more confortable try crowded places like shopping centres
as for work i suggest u take part time job.get used to it 1st then go look for the ideal job u 1.. -
U should follow doctor's advice & take the medication. It will help to calm u.
Also take up a yoga or some exercise for relaxation.
Also help u to socialise. Remember a healthy body is impt. for mental problems.
I have a relative who suffered from depression, she has been taking medication for years but she is alright now, working. She says the medication helps. -
so it means u get nervous easily?
so will u be more at ease with a fren is with u? i mean eating at public places.. for interviews maybe not appropriate to bring a fren along ba. -
Since you know some causes of your problem, why not you start mingling around with people...? Widen your social circle.... Just anyhow find a job 1st... Mix around with people while looking for another proper job...?Originally posted by dragg:for the last 39 years of my life i never once had an anxiety attack anywhere.
i believe it has something to do with my unemployment, living alone and having only one friend.
Try walking around among people... Observe them... Children at playgrounds if ya prefer...? Note that they're just humans talking and communicating with one another....
If things really ain't working properly for you some time after... I would advise you to go back to the shrink and to consider taking the medication seriously... -
just find a part time job.. you have fun working as part...
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u need to find a job asap. staying too long jobless might worsen ur condition.
maybe u can try SO job in a meantime. -
even with friends and family i get nervous.Originally posted by browniebaobao:so it means u get nervous easily?
so will u be more at ease with a fren is with u? i mean eating at public places.. for interviews maybe not appropriate to bring a fren along ba. -
well since you said it all started when you were in a job interview,i think you can safely say that it is a problem with you being nervous that you are not going to be good enough for a job...or maybe you are self conscious that you might be too old for a job? ofcourse your not....but maybe your mind is trying to tell your body that you are........so you need to tell your mind that your fine.......and you need to try and work through the problems slowly,one by one.dont push yourself too hard....but dont be too soft on yourself either....challenge yourself,but dont push yourself over the edge
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Try just strolling pass through less crowded areas 1st?Originally posted by dragg:even with friends and family i get nervous. -
i no longer have problems in the crowd, buses or trains anymore.Originally posted by Devil1976:Try just strolling pass through less crowded areas 1st? -
oh that's bad... have u ever tried overcoming it?Originally posted by dragg:even with friends and family i get nervous.
like wat devil said, strolling thru crowded places? -
i only have problem when i am sitting down.Originally posted by browniebaobao:oh that's bad... have u ever tried overcoming it?
like wat devil said, strolling thru crowded places? -
strange.. so when u are walking or standing, no problem?Originally posted by dragg:i only have problem when i am sitting down.
then u cannot sit down and have ur meals or do ur work? -
sounds like ....Originally posted by dragg:living alone and having only one friend.
V for vendetta -
maybe you can read more about anxiety disorders to have a better understanding.Originally posted by browniebaobao:strange.. so when u are walking or standing, no problem?
then u cannot sit down and have ur meals or do ur work? -
why dont you recheck the meaning of this word?Originally posted by Redblood:sounds like ....
V for vendetta -
Still have problems when ordering food? I have the same problem when it comes to people. Will stutter even when ordering food. Try ordering with a friend. Your best friend would be ideal. They can give you encouragement. As you get more comfortable, try ordering without your friend with you.Originally posted by dragg:i no longer have problems in the crowd, buses or trains anymore. -
Gosh dragg, do u hv a close companion to share these? s/he can also be a good source of distraction for ur problem...to make ur problem as if it doesn't exist.
if dun hv one, u can try to get some from here. there shld be someone out here to help.
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i suggest u recover first then get a work.Originally posted by dragg:i am now into my 29th month of unemployment.
many must be wondering why i am still without a job. choosy? of course not.
it all started many months ago during a job interview. i had a sudden urge to run out of the office. then things got worst. i start to palpitate and find it hard to breathe when queuing for food, travelling in trains and buses. it was then that i know it is for real.
i booked an appointment to see a shrink. i was told i have anxiety attack and mild agoraphobia.
knn. i never had such problems for the last 39 years. and why now?
i was given medication which i refused to take. it can be addictive. the doctor suggested gradual desenitization.
now i find it ok to travel in trains and buses. but i still feel nervous eating at public eateries.
sianzzzzz. can i ever fully recover?
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hey u slutter? do u sluttler during presentations , intervies or cases when ur nervous?Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Still have problems when ordering food? I have the same problem when it comes to people. Will stutter even when ordering food. Try ordering with a friend. Your best friend would be ideal. They can give you encouragement. As you get more comfortable, try ordering without your friend with you. -
Cheer up ,look at e bright side of lifeOriginally posted by dragg:frankly i dont know why.
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this may sound harsh... so when u sit in front of ur pc typing away do u feel nervous? i suggest u stop talking 2 ur pc n talk 2 pple face 2 face instead... as 4 job... try working frm home?
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try to do something you like?maybe being a boss of your own is your solution...
oh...with regards to stuttering while ordering food...always think about what u wanna say...then say it LOUDLY...this will boost your confidence...
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i still experience the common signs (palpitations, difficulty in breathing etc) when eating in public places. but after say 5 minutes the feeling will be gone.Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Still have problems when ordering food? I have the same problem when it comes to people. Will stutter even when ordering food. Try ordering with a friend. Your best friend would be ideal. They can give you encouragement. As you get more comfortable, try ordering without your friend with you. -
Find a shrink who is also a hypnotist.
Or
Constantly face your fears. Until it is no more.