Why girls are so petty?
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If you purposely get the picture knowing that you shouldn't, that means you are not giving her any respect. How can you expect her to trust ya again?Originally posted by soulness:im not supposed to get the pic
seriously, i might have done wrong here but i think most ppl think this is acceptable
even if i was unacceptable, and she gets angry its absolutely normal
wat is abnormal here is that, she gets angry and strike me off as fren!
this is kinda extreme isnt it?
Or maybe it's an entirely different thing that you said to her but din noticed that it offended her? -
it wasnt on purpose.....
it just my luck i guess -
Yeah... And ya call her 'petty' for that..??Originally posted by soulness:it wasnt on purpose.....
it just my luck i guess
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so u think its normal?Originally posted by Devil1976:Yeah... And ya call her 'petty' for that..?? -
Maybe she is very conscious of her own body and the so called 'joke' you made offended her. Especially if you had said it in a very sarcastic tone. And if her pic is circulated and many ppl have made comments about her body and you, as a friend, rubbing it in, maybe she has reach her limit.
If a friendly person suddenly changes to a very cold person, perhaps you would like to think back what you really done wrong..I mean how long have you know her? if for a very long time, you've done something wrong. (meaning she is not this way before) If for a short time, perhaps it's her other side you've never seen before. All in all, you really have to think back what really went wrong. -
haiz soul, if that girl doesn't bother u anyone, dun fret, there's always more frens in future. and u call that girl a fren? when things turn sour, she turned her back at u?! c'mon on! be a man and move on. with a fren like this, who needs enemies?
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Which part? On you calling her 'petty' or she behaving in that way....?Originally posted by soulness:so u think its normal?
Well... What you're seeing is just from your point of view... You've got to understand that she probably might not even have an idea of how you come across that photo to give her that comment, not to mention your intention for mentioning that (lousy?) comment.... As much as you try to claim 'innocence', she's just 'whacked' with a 'funny' sms out of the blues by a guy on her figure... Whatever that guy is really trying to say... So YEAH. I can take it as a NORMAL reaction as different people just behaves differently and her reaction really wasn't one so UNIQUELY DIFFERENT that you don't expect the same treatment from another girl you try to pull that 'stunt' on... Say... 1 in a 100 or so...? (in fact quite a conservative figure, meaning it can be quite common lah...) SHEESH.. I'm becoming to sound like my age already... 115 years old... < " -
thats basically wad i said also.Originally posted by Devil1976:Which part? On you calling her 'petty' or she behaving in that way....?
Well... What you're seeing is just from your point of view... You've got to understand that she probably might not even have an idea of how you come across that photo to give her that comment, not to mention your intention for mentioning that (lousy?) comment.... As much as you try to claim 'innocence', she's just 'whacked' with a 'funny' sms out of the blues by a guy on her figure... Whatever that guy is really trying to say... So YEAH. I can take it as a NORMAL reaction as different people just behaves differently and her reaction really wasn't one so UNIQUELY DIFFERENT that you don't expect the same treatment from another girl you try to pull that 'stunt' on... Say... 1 in a 100 or so...? (in fact quite a conservative figure, meaning it can be quite common lah...) SHEESH.. I'm becoming to sound like my age already... 115 years old... < "
then i got accused of being petty also.
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i wonder if she ever wonder if her actions are as insensitive as the person who offended her..?Originally posted by Devil1976:Which part? On you calling her 'petty' or she behaving in that way....?
Well... What you're seeing is just from your point of view... You've got to understand that she probably might not even have an idea of how you come across that photo to give her that comment, not to mention your intention for mentioning that (lousy?) comment.... As much as you try to claim 'innocence', she's just 'whacked' with a 'funny' sms out of the blues by a guy on her figure... Whatever that guy is really trying to say... So YEAH. I can take it as a NORMAL reaction as different people just behaves differently and her reaction really wasn't one so UNIQUELY DIFFERENT that you don't expect the same treatment from another girl you try to pull that 'stunt' on... Say... 1 in a 100 or so...? (in fact quite a conservative figure, meaning it can be quite common lah...) SHEESH.. I'm becoming to sound like my age already... 115 years old... < " -
oh well, im seeking helpOriginally posted by Devil1976:Which part? On you calling her 'petty' or she behaving in that way....?
Well... What you're seeing is just from your point of view... You've got to understand that she probably might not even have an idea of how you come across that photo to give her that comment, not to mention your intention for mentioning that (lousy?) comment.... As much as you try to claim 'innocence', she's just 'whacked' with a 'funny' sms out of the blues by a guy on her figure... Whatever that guy is really trying to say... So YEAH. I can take it as a NORMAL reaction as different people just behaves differently and her reaction really wasn't one so UNIQUELY DIFFERENT that you don't expect the same treatment from another girl you try to pull that 'stunt' on... Say... 1 in a 100 or so...? (in fact quite a conservative figure, meaning it can be quite common lah...) SHEESH.. I'm becoming to sound like my age already... 115 years old... < "
not here to listen to some lecture or nag
thanks for helping(not?) -
yah flame me if u wishOriginally posted by Ito_^:i wonder if she ever wonder if her actions are as insensitive as the person who offended her..?
but how about giving some advice or even suggestions?
if not, i rather u stay out
thanks alot -
soulness, u're not being objective. u're being lectured by not just me but some other people because we feel that u're to blame, and that without pointing out that fact to u, u cannot be helped.Originally posted by soulness:oh well, im seeking help
not here to listen to some lecture or nag
thanks for helping(not?)
if u cannot take the criticsm that comes with the advice, u shouldn't be asking for advice here. -
i take criticism but after which i expect advice or suggestions
not just criticise and then end there
i already had enough criticism here and there and from my frens etc
so im not expecting anymore from high intelectual who post here -
but this is forums. u don't expect doesn't mean won't have. Especially if u cannot take the criticism from the mod of the forum, u really shouldn't be posting in here then!Originally posted by soulness:i take criticism but after which i expect advice or suggestions
not just criticise and then end there
i already had enough criticism here and there and from my frens etc
so im not expecting anymore from high intelectual who post here -
everyone including you're friends criticise you and you think they're all wrong? So basically your topic was just looking for someone to agree with you....pat you on the back and say "aww, poor fellow".Originally posted by soulness:i already had enough criticism here and there and from my frens etc
so im not expecting anymore from high intelectual who post here -
haizOriginally posted by skid:everyone including you're friends criticise you and you think they're all wrong? So basically your topic was just looking for someone to agree with you....pat you on the back and say "aww, poor fellow".
why didn u understand wat im trying to say?
wat i mean is tat since i take criticism means i admit is my mistake
but i need to listen to some suggestions from high intelectual here
i guess ur not one of them then.
but oh well, thanks for dropping by. -
like i said earlier, i can accept criticism but i also expect advice or suggestionOriginally posted by HENG@:but this is forums. u don't expect doesn't mean won't have. Especially if u cannot take the criticism from the mod of the forum, u really shouldn't be posting in here then!
but sad to say mod also don give advice...only criticism
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soulness dismisses people that think he's in the wrong rather quickly doesn't he?Originally posted by soulness:but i need to listen to some suggestions from high intelectual here
i guess ur not one of them then.
but oh well, thanks for dropping by. -
why don u quote the whole post?Originally posted by skid:soulness dismisses people that think he's in the wrong rather quickly doesn't he?
quoting part of the post if very misleading btw
i only see criticism from u, but where is ur advice or suggestion?Originally posted by soulness:haiz
why didn u understand wat im trying to say?
wat i mean is tat since i take criticism means i admit is my mistake
but i need to listen to some suggestions from high intelectual here
i guess ur not one of them then.
but oh well, thanks for dropping by.
if u don have pls stay out. thanks alot
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soulness,
i hope u can chill out n take criticism, alot of us regard u as friend n only friends willing to point out mistakes u make.
hope u can stay cool. -
I think it might purely be a misunderstanding between you and him...??Originally posted by HENG@:thats basically wad i said also.
then i got accused of being petty also.
Maybe he meant 'pretty' but made a typo error instead...??
~WAHAhahahahaha... <> -
When someone punched you in the face, would you think you're equally brutal by punching him back in the face OR you'll just punch him back in the face to defend yourself...? May I remind you that she's a GIRL....Originally posted by Ito_^:i wonder if she ever wonder if her actions are as insensitive as the person who offended her..?
Integrity, self-defence, insensitive or oversensitive... Whichever you wanna label it as, is somehow a rather subjective thing... But based on a more 'intrusive' ground (he made the 1st outwards move), I would say he should be more careful for a starter....? Of course, none of us are perfect beings, and we all made mistakes... But no reason for finger pointing since one has commited a mistake (however small you might wanna imagine it to be) in the 1st place...? -
Precisely my point...Originally posted by soulness:oh well, im seeking help
not here to listen to some lecture or nag
thanks for helping(not?)
You couldn't be helped if you just wanna 'play victim'... In fact, it certainly buffers my intelligence to figure what sort of 'help' you might require...?
As of my previous posts... If one made a mistake and realise it, it might just be genuinely a human's nature to error from time to time...
But if one commit a mistake and can afford to make such a LUXURIOUS EXCUSE for HIMSELF... Even in an attempt to turn the table around to the other party (on a generalised level).... All I can say is GOOD LUCK to you....?
Actually you need not us to tell you of what you already know deep within yourself... If you really think you're 'right' on your grounds, would you even wanna come out during an outing as yourself and stand for your 'point'?
YOU DECIDE
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did u even read my replies?Originally posted by soulness:yah flame me if u wish
but how about giving some advice or even suggestions?
if not, i rather u stay out
thanks alot
when did i flame you? i was wondering if she ever felt that she was insensitive to your feelings when she decided to treat u like an enemy.
and i did suggest u apologize and direct her frustration back to the person who decided to post her photo on the internet against her will.
u got a problem with that?
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READ your TOPIC AGAIN.Originally posted by soulness:This girl i know for almost 1 year, suddenly turn hostile after a harmless comment i made
i wasnt mean harm, insult or anything, it was merely a joke which she took is seriously. Now already about 1month from the incident, she treats me like enemy
no longer the friendly, cute and bubbly girl i know..
You 'attacked' her and she 'reacted'.
Okay, now what 'help' you want?