Have I failed as a boyfriend?
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On regular days, I'd say, don't let a girl toy with you or push you around unreasonably.
But since this is a special occassion (falling v sick), I think it's OK to indulge abit after all if you don't shower love & concern on her now, then who or when?
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hmm.. i think you should show more concern for her in future. and don't forget to keep communicating. because if u stop communicating with her, the r/s will suffocate.Originally posted by dragoncat:Recently, my gf has food poisoning. On the first night, she said that she is vommitted a few times and feel very weak. I asked her to take a rest and to see a doctor tomorrow if she is still unwell tomorrow morning since there is no doctor at night unless it is an emergency. She did not have a fever then.
The next morning, I sms her to see if she is feeling better. She say it is still the same. Then, I ask her to go see a doctor. She say she is too weak to go and see a doctor, so I advice her to rest at home first and I will come and visit her after work. After that there was no more communication.
Then when I went to visit her after my work, she told me that she has went to see a doctor alone in the afternoon. Maybe due to her sickness, she say that I did not care for her when she is ill and she has to go and see doctor alone. Her condition is pretty bad as she also got a fever and the doctor have to give her a antibacterial injection.
I felt bad after that. But at that time, I did not know she has a fever and how serious is her condition that I need to take immediate leave to take her to a doctor because the other time when I have food poisoning, I am ok after some time of vommiting and diarrhoea without a need to see a doctor.
Do you think I did not do enough as her bf?
you are having a partner, not a pet.
in this case, u might as well go and get a dog. -
It's non habitual.Originally posted by Gwangetto:hmm.. i think you should show more concern for her in future. and don't forget to keep communicating. because if u stop communicating with her, the r/s will suffocate.
you are having a partner, not a pet.
in this case, u might as well go and get a dog.
threadstarter have explained the measures he took and admitted the fact that he overlooked the details.
Spare him the 'pet' talk? -
Originally posted by dragoncat:Recently, my gf has food poisoning. On the first night, she said that she is vommitted a few times and feel very weak. I asked her to take a rest and to see a doctor tomorrow if she is still unwell tomorrow morning since there is no doctor at night unless it is an emergency. She did not have a fever then.
The next morning, I sms her to see if she is feeling better. She say it is still the same. Then, I ask her to go see a doctor. She say she is too weak to go and see a doctor, so I advice her to rest at home first and I will come and visit her after work. After that there was no more communication.
Then when I went to visit her after my work, she told me that she has went to see a doctor alone in the afternoon. Maybe due to her sickness, she say that I did not care for her when she is ill and she has to go and see doctor alone. Her condition is pretty bad as she also got a fever and the doctor have to give her a antibacterial injection.
I felt bad after that. But at that time, I did not know she has a fever and how serious is her condition that I need to take immediate leave to take her to a doctor because the other time when I have food poisoning, I am ok after some time of vommiting and diarrhoea without a need to see a doctor.
Do you think I did not do enough as her bf?
On the bright, as least you are reflecting.
If you think it isn't enough, then give more next time.
P.S: Sometimes, you give more, sometimes you give less, but ultimately, you must care enough to even think about it - know what I mean?
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Take a leave and acc her to see a doctor(if possible) is the best! Gals always like to have their man beside them when they r sick! Btw,she don't often sick,right?
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I missed a test in my uni to bring my ex to see a doc.
After the doc attended to her,I asked the doc to give me MC also.He very understanding and gave me also.
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pm me the lobang leh..Originally posted by Marco_Simone:I missed a test in my uni to bring my ex to see a doc.
After the doc attended to her,I asked the doc to give me MC also.He very understanding and gave me also.
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i think she too demanding la. o.o sick see doc lor. why must have everyone act like ur so important like dis.
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couldn't u go down during lunchtime?
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Thanks for the advice. The storm is over liao!
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try calling her instead of sms......I personally hate sms too
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couple sure have quarrels one lah...can understand urself and her more mah...go take leave then make porridge for her and tell her stories by her bedside lah...
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Actually she is understanding. Just that during that time she is not feeling well and get a bit emotional.
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food poisoning if vomit a few times and is weak , then is very dangerous and painful, you should just bring her to see doctor as these are emergency cases. People can die from serious food poisoning !!!Originally posted by dragoncat:Recently, my gf has food poisoning. On the first night, she said that she is vommitted a few times and feel very weak. I asked her to take a rest and to see a doctor tomorrow if she is still unwell tomorrow morning since there is no doctor at night unless it is an emergency. She did not have a fever then.
The next morning, I sms her to see if she is feeling better. She say it is still the same. Then, I ask her to go see a doctor. She say she is too weak to go and see a doctor, so I advice her to rest at home first and I will come and visit her after work. After that there was no more communication.
Then when I went to visit her after my work, she told me that she has went to see a doctor alone in the afternoon. Maybe due to her sickness, she say that I did not care for her when she is ill and she has to go and see doctor alone. Her condition is pretty bad as she also got a fever and the doctor have to give her a antibacterial injection.
I felt bad after that. But at that time, I did not know she has a fever and how serious is her condition that I need to take immediate leave to take her to a doctor because the other time when I have food poisoning, I am ok after some time of vommiting and diarrhoea without a need to see a doctor.
Do you think I did not do enough as her bf?
You should have bring her to hospital or there is a lot of 24 hr clinics also if you bother to put in effect to find, or hop on any taxi they will know where the 24 hr clinic is. -
Hi.
I would like to borrow topic.. Sorry about that.
I suffered the same thing as you do. MY GF will complain only AFTER the whole event.
I really really do not understand woman.
If you are sick, go see a doctor.
Does my companion with you to the doctor enhance anything? NO!
Neither am I medicine. Looking at me or with me around does not make the illness go away! Medicine DO!
We are working people, engineers, marketers, bankers etc,
who mostly are (8am - 5pm or more) in time constraint, weekdays.
WE visit immediately after work, to find out how you are etc, and only to find out that the visit has been done. The blame starts rolling.
"How come you are not here for me, you don't love me anymore? "
"How come you don't show concern? Maybe when I die then you will show! "
"You can at least SMS to ask ,right? "
My god... The only thing I can do is keep quiet when the fireballs are hurled, and keep asking her how is she etc.. Want to eat anything, I go buy etc. When she recovers, that hurling never happened. The vicious cycle starts again when she
falls sick.
Hai...
Sorry for the rants. Thanks for reading. -
ok la ok la...finish...
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That explains why even academic institutions of the stature and prestige of Yale offer courses on "Women's Studies" (yet no equivalent course on men) as a course on its own - welcome to the wonderful world of understanding women!Originally posted by shrekho:Hi.
I would like to borrow topic.. Sorry about that.
I suffered the same thing as you do. MY GF will complain only AFTER the whole event.
I really really do not understand woman.
If you are sick, go see a doctor.
Does my companion with you to the doctor enhance anything? NO!
Neither am I medicine. Looking at me or with me around does not make the illness go away! Medicine DO!
We are working people, engineers, marketers, bankers etc,
who mostly are (8am - 5pm or more) in time constraint, weekdays.
WE visit immediately after work, to find out how you are etc, and only to find out that the visit has been done. The blame starts rolling.
"How come you are not here for me, you don't love me anymore? "
"How come you don't show concern? Maybe when I die then you will show! "
"You can at least SMS to ask ,right? "
My god... The only thing I can do is keep quiet when the fireballs are hurled, and keep asking her how is she etc.. Want to eat anything, I go buy etc. When she recovers, that hurling never happened. The vicious cycle starts again when she
falls sick.
Hai...
Sorry for the rants. Thanks for reading.
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A girl once told me that there is no logic in how girls think. I tend to agree.
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Simple, you are not by her side when she is weak or rather when she needed you the most
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when i was hospitalised, the guy who likes me never come visit me as he was in NS Unit training. (nevermind)
i was discharged on friday after an operation, got home and rested. He also never come to my house and visit me. no flowers no cards, jus sms me alot. (nevermind, i jus gif him the benefit of the doubt that he is plain dumb in relations n stuff)
3 months later we're still loving each other and im back being healthy...
so, DragonCat, i jus think she needs to be more independent. tell her to live life as if she has never met u. she'll be happier this way, i guess. -
was he your boyfriend at that moment of time?Originally posted by elektra:when i was hospitalised, the guy who likes me never come visit me as he was in NS Unit training. (nevermind)
i was discharged on friday after an operation, got home and rested. He also never come to my house and visit me. no flowers no cards, jus sms me alot. (nevermind, i jus gif him the benefit of the doubt that he is plain dumb in relations n stuff)
3 months later we're still loving each other and im back being healthy...
so, DragonCat, i jus think she needs to be more independent. tell her to live life as if she has never met u. she'll be happier this way, i guess. -
no... he's not my bf now also...Originally posted by M©+square:was he your boyfriend at that moment of time?
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Pengz... so how can you justify like that.. It's just so different from your scenerio and thinking...Originally posted by elektra:no... he's not my bf now also...
they are couples, so naturally they have expectations of each other...
But u n ur fren... are jus only friends.. even best friends are free of such obligations.
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at that time we were already acting like bf/gf. we had done most of the couple things.Originally posted by shirurinu:Pengz... so how can you justify like that.. It's just so different from your scenerio and thinking...
they are couples, so naturally they have expectations of each other...
But u n ur fren... are jus only friends.. even best friends are free of such obligations.
so ... your comment doesn't link to topic...
he jus never pop the question... and im waiting patiently for that. -
why didn't you ask? At least you could clarify?Originally posted by elektra:at that time we were already acting like bf/gf. we had done most of the couple things.
he jus never pop the question... and im waiting patiently for that.