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No lah...not thru looking at the profile..........i FEEL~~~~ your age.........See lar....told you i bery fierce liao.........Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:You know, can be through the profile.
Very siong, can feel her age.... I wanna learn.
wanna learn huh??? Must pay for a price one de wor.......... -
she got say she wears meh?Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Why he wears? Not she wears meh?
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Originally posted by dcx:
Oceanos de tu di?
No lah...not thru looking at the profile..........i [b]FEEL~~~~ your age.........See lar....told you i bery fierce liao.........
wanna learn huh??? Must pay for a price one de wor.......... [/b] -
Frankly speaking...are you her SO????Originally posted by parn:Hehehe....ok...think it's not a bad idea to have a little getaway with your bf for a short while. Perhaps for a short trip overseas to feel closer again?
Do observe the changes in A guy once you've made up your mind to stick with your bf again...especially after the short trip. And you would've thank yourself for not jumping onto the wrong guy.
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Originally posted by dcx:she got say she wears meh?
wearing the type of clothes he prefers me to wear
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Haha, getting out of topic liao.
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I do have my own friends, meaning good girlfriends. But seldom meet up cuz I always stick withmy SO. We did meet up last yr when i encountered the setbacks and now only contact thru SMS. But i never told them about guy A. Cuz i duno where and how to start.Originally posted by dcx:Consider you're 29, 30 yrs old this year....what's the past 5yrs compared to the past 20yrs+++ above the recent 5yrs of the things which you'ev done?
Btw, don't you have any friends? I mean, own friends.....
Last yr, when i found out that my bf strayed, i was really down. Cuz all along i trusted him and respected his privacy, but he proved me wrong. I told him he can easily find another girl outside but he will never find one like me again. He cried and begged me to stay. I was heart-broken and shattered.
My buddies did told me to take a break, some asked me to give him another chance, .. who doesn't stray? But one told me that if i ever just find a guy outside, the guy will definitely treat me abit better than my present one. But i hanged on, cuz i don't think i will be able to accept any other guys other than my SO. And was chided by them for being silly and so forgiving.
Until A comes along, he brightens up my life. let me find myself back. In the past, i m living in the shadows of my SO. I do whatever he wants or like me to do, and everything i do is becasue of him. My SO is the one who build up my present character. I am not myself. -
hallow............................................................i got my own biz........Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Oceanos de tu di? -
In RED, that's exactly what my 3yrs ex-gf told me.....hMz........nvm..haha...Originally posted by nici:I do have my own friends, meaning good girlfriends. But seldom meet up cuz I always stick withmy SO. We did meet up last yr when i encountered the setbacks and now only contact thru SMS. But i never told them about guy A. Cuz i duno where and how to start.
Last yr, when i found out that my bf strayed, i was really down. Cuz all along i trusted him and respected his privacy, but he proved me wrong. I told him he can easily find another girl outside but he will never find one like me again. He cried and begged me to stay. I was heart-broken and shattered.
My buddies did told me to take a break, some asked me to give him another chance, .. who doesn't stray? But one told me that if i ever just find a guy outside, the guy will definitely treat me abit better than my present one. But i hanged on, cuz i don't think i will be able to accept any other guys other than my SO. And was chided by them for being silly and so forgiving.
Until A comes along, he brightens up my life. let me find myself back. In the past, i m living in the shadows of my SO. I do whatever he wants or like me to do, and everything i do is becasue of him. My SO is the one who build up my present character. I am not myself.
Then what are you by yourself? Btw, if you don't know, i personally feel that it's rather easy to brighten up a girl's life, to make her happy n secure....well...i can say that it's very easy in the 1st stage.... -
For ur info: I m a female, 25yrs old neh. How cud i be the SO when he doesn't even have the slightest idea of wats going on with me? Alamak...
Maybe guy A and I you3 yuan2 wu2 fen4.
But i still like him and think of him all the time. I die le la....
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argh!!!!!! Why you reveal your age????????!!!!! Wei shen me~~~~~~~~~~~Originally posted by nici:For ur info: I m a female, 25yrs old neh. How cud i be the SO when he doesn't even have the slightest idea of wats going on with me? Alamak...
Maybe guy A and I you3 yuan2 wu2 fen4.
But i still like him and think of him all the time. I die le la....
Everyday live in misery, guilt, disgust and sadness
haiz.....*pai seh liao...* lao kui liao..........nici....an zua gong???~~~~
25yrs old is still YOUNG lor~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You still have 2~3more years to decide for yoru marriage.......
hMz...you live where? sekali we could be in the same school........ -
lol, u and your funny statements make my stomach rolls, my legs kicking in the air!Originally posted by dcx:argh!!!!!! Why you reveal your age????????!!!!! Wei shen me~~~~~~~~~~~
haiz.....*pai seh liao...* lao kui liao..........nici....an zua gong???~~~~
25yrs old is still YOUNG lor~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You still have 2~3more years to decide for yoru marriage.......
hMz...you live where? sekali we could be in the same school........ -
Originally posted by nici:lol, u and your funny statements make my stomach rolls, my legs kicking in the air!
Now you know how well same age can click, tio bo???? -
what if there is another man that share equal concern for you or more love for you later down the road,will you be like now,for guys maybe they said seven years itcy but for gals? its veri true that before you say the what "i do" you still have a choice,just make the best in your life ok cheer up anyway are you trying to let us know there is lots of guys care about you,kekeke
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Huh............ tats out of my intentionOriginally posted by Captain ^-^:what if there is another man that share equal concern for you or more love for you later down the road,will you be like now,for guys maybe they said seven years itcy but for gals? its veri true that before you say the what "i do" you still have a choice,just make the best in your life ok cheer up anyway are you trying to let us know there is lots of guys care about you,kekeke
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i feel sad while reading ur story.
It is inevitable that after 5 long yrs, each party tend to take one another for granted. Suddenly becoz someone else showed u so much concern and care, ur feeling has change. Issit this wat you call a Honeymoon period? When ur bf chase u, dun u undergo this period too?
If u are going to dump someone of 5 yrs jus becoz u tink he does nt care for u enuff over someone whom u barely even know, even u are with this new man in ur life, in 5 yrs later wat if the situation happens again? are u going for a new guy who showed u with much love and concern.
5yrs together means that you 2 are pretty to stick it out, going thru thick and thin together. Of course some may argued that time is nt an essetial for relationship. Ppl who marry after 1 yr of courtship may last longer than 5 yrs.
But look back the 5 yrs. In a relationship is nt abt receiving, it is abt giving also. Ur bf has nv cheated on u i presume. Issit fair to him? Imagine how he will feel. Aniway u have already cheated on him by openly declared u like him and going to dinner dates alone. Does ur bf noes? How would u feel if he secretly goes out dining with another girl alone without ur knowledge.
Aniway since the girl already has a bf, yet the guy still chase her. I am nt tolerant of tis. Fuck to those bastards who attempt to be the third party in a relationship. -
The more the merrier, girls must also kill more monster to gain experience you know...before you say "I do" to the last monster and turn him into a prince with your one true love kiss.Originally posted by nici:Huh............ tats out of my intention -
Hi.Originally posted by nici:For ur info: I m a female, 25yrs old neh. How cud i be the SO when he doesn't even have the slightest idea of wats going on with me? Alamak...
Maybe guy A and I you3 yuan2 wu2 fen4.
But i still like him and think of him all the time. I die le la....
Everyday live in misery, guilt, disgust and sadness
Like most others who have already commented their shares... I find that you should really put back your ROM till an OPEN date, so that you won't be rushed into a decision again...
So you wanna be a young mum; scare nobody else might want you(?); live up to the expectations of the others around you; scare your SO might be angry with you.... THUS you're going for the marriage?
Hmm... Take a moment to digest the above paragraph...
Now... Does it really make sense to you?
Let's take a detour and go to 'A'... Which like most others have already suggested, should not even be your primary concern with the 'red & green' lights of your marriage.... Anyway... Since you're concerned... On SURFACE ANALYSIS, 'A' should be INTERESTED in you.... His SINCERITY for now should range at least ~78% or so...
But... A little side track... Look at dcx... Like the way he post..? Tell jokes to you....? The thing is... I personally think you've been kinda 'restricted'...? Is this bf of yours your 1st bf? You're 25 years old already and ya speak like you've hardly spoken to another guy before... So how do you know...? If your SO is really that 'nice' or not...?
Back to your marriage issue... You have DOUBTS but you PUSH ON with a BELIEF.... That others MIGHT not be as good as him....? Based on what? No offence, but you BARELY even have ANY CONTACT with the 'others'...? Do you have a religion?
Now.. Not that I suggest anything to the extremes... But... Rushing so that you're a young mum? Is it worth the chance if your children's gonna suffer along with you in the future...? Afraid you can't find a suitable partner...? Who's wrong with being single or just attached nowadays...? Would you rather be married to one whom might make you suffer for the rest of your life...? 5 years of your life is only 1/5 of what you've lived up to now.... Assuming that you have a minimal life span of 50 years, you've still got to live HALF your life with him.... And that's just 'minimal'...
If you think that Parn's post have struck a nail on you, I won't deny a possibility for you to work on your relationship with your SO... And meanwhile, for (almost) everyone's good... Call off the ROM for now...
You have much to WORK on for the FOUNDATION of your relationship.... 5 years can be quite a long time, but still... It's just TIME.....
Also for reminder again... You're only 25... Learn to interact and socialise more before you hit your marriage... Unless you surely have no intention of socialising and expanding your social circle any larger for the rest of your life...? Prefers to drill yourself into a shell and hide in it.... Then your decision for marriage now might be deem less of an evil..... -
As usual...........the long-winded ones.......
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See REDOriginally posted by Devil1976:Hi.
Like most others who have already commented their shares... I find that you should really put back your ROM till an OPEN date, so that you won't be rushed into a decision again... >>> I agree~~~~
So you wanna be a young mum; scare nobody else might want you(?); live up to the expectations of the others around you; scare your SO might be angry with you.... THUS you're going for the marriage?
Hmm... Take a moment to digest the above paragraph...
Now... Does it really make sense to you?
Let's take a detour and go to 'A'... Which like most others have already suggested, should not even be your primary concern with the 'red & green' lights of your marriage.... Anyway... Since you're concerned... On SURFACE ANALYSIS, 'A' should be INTERESTED in you.... His SINCERITY for now should range at least ~78% or so...>>> NNEz....still got the 8%.....either 70% or 80% mah.....extra 8%....
But... A little side track... Look at dcx... Like the way he post..? >>> wanna gai siao her to me huh?
Tell jokes to you....? The thing is... I personally think you've been kinda 'restricted'...? Is this bf of yours your 1st bf? You're 25 years old already and ya speak like you've hardly spoken to another guy before... So how do you know...? If your SO is really that 'nice' or not...?
Back to your marriage issue... You have DOUBTS but you PUSH ON with a BELIEF.... That others MIGHT not be as good as him....? Based on what? No offence, but you BARELY even have ANY CONTACT with the 'others'...? Do you have a religion?
Now.. Not that I suggest anything to the extremes... But... Rushing so that you're a young mum? Is it worth the chance if your children's gonna suffer along with you in the future...? Afraid you can't find a suitable partner...? Who's wrong with being single or just attached nowadays...? Would you rather be married to one whom might make you suffer for the rest of your life...? 5 years of your life is only 1/5 of what you've lived up to now.... Assuming that you have a minimal life span of 50 years, you've still got to live HALF your life with him.... And that's just 'minimal'...
If you think that Parn's post have struck a nail on you, I won't deny a possibility for you to work on your relationship with your SO... And meanwhile, for (almost) everyone's good... Call off the ROM for now...
You have much to WORK on for the FOUNDATION of your relationship.... 5 years can be quite a long time, but still... It's just TIME.....
Also for reminder again... You're only 25... Learn to interact and socialise more before you hit your marriage... Unless you surely have no intention of socialising and expanding your social circle any larger for the rest of your life...? Prefers to drill yourself into a shell and hide in it.... Then your decision for marriage now might be deem less of an evil..... -
Funny leh u.......how come no one has came across that....only you leh...you must be the SO.....Special One.....Originally posted by Captain ^-^:what if there is another man that share equal concern for you or more love for you later down the road,will you be like now,for guys maybe they said seven years itcy but for gals? its veri true that before you say the what "i do" you still have a choice,just make the best in your life ok cheer up anyway are you trying to let us know there is lots of guys care about you,kekeke -
Aiyo...you all huai nan ren...she already make up her mind and you all ask her to change ROM date, tempt her further with more guys out there more suitable for her.....is this Aunt Agony forum or Potong Jalan forum?
Please help her!!! If she change her ROM date, both parents and her bf will sense something is not right and this action will bring her pre-marriage into an even greater turmoil than the existence of this A guy.
nici...read my post again if you start to have any doubts again. It will clear your doubts and put your mind back to the right state.
And stop posting irresponsible stuffs. Cos once she made the wrong decision, there is no turning back for her. Who is willing to take the responsibility to help her up again?
How many of you guys here can hold a relationship and love a girl for 5 years or more? If there is, then you should be able to understand the love and the efforts that both of them have put into this relationship. Isn't it kinda mean to destroy their love foundation with a few mere sentences to stir up some irresponsible feelings in another?
It may be fun to tease and flirt with her here, but please think of the severity of the outcome should she chooses wrongly. She's confused and that's why she came up here to post for advice. So please think of her as your best friend, sister, daughter and advice her accordingly rather than trying to put her soon-to-be-married relationship at risk.
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Originally posted by pierre^^:
As quoted in red above,
i feel sad while reading ur story.
It is inevitable that after 5 long yrs, each party tend to take one another for granted. Suddenly becoz someone else showed u so much concern and care, ur feeling has change. Issit this wat you call a Honeymoon period? When ur bf chase u, dun u undergo this period too?
If u are going to dump someone of 5 yrs jus becoz u tink he does nt care for u enuff over someone whom u barely even know, even u are with this new man in ur life, in 5 yrs later wat if the situation happens again? are u going for a new guy who showed u with much love and concern.
5yrs together means that you 2 are pretty to stick it out, going thru thick and thin together. Of course some may argued that time is nt an essetial for relationship. Ppl who marry after 1 yr of courtship may last longer than 5 yrs.
But look back the 5 yrs. In a relationship is nt abt receiving, it is abt giving also. [b]Ur bf has nv cheated on u i presume. Issit fair to him? Imagine how he will feel. Aniway u have already cheated on him by openly declared u like him and going to dinner dates alone. Does ur bf noes? How would u feel if he secretly goes out dining with another girl alone without ur knowledge.
Aniway since the girl already has a bf, yet the guy still chase her. I am nt tolerant of tis. Fuck to those bastards who attempt to be the third party in a relationship. [/b]
Sad to say, my SO did. That's why last year we broke up. He got himself involved with a married colleague whom has 2 kids and also other women from pubs and massage salons. A great mess... and alot of things.... like i mentoned in the 1st post.
But i fall in love with guy A is not taking a sort of revenge. It's just a very natural mutual feeling. let's put A out of the picture first.
Before A, i already lost confidence in my r/s because of the pain my SO has inflicted on my life. there's no securities but commitment. I agreed to marry him is because of the r/s built over the yrs and i told myself, no matter wat happens in future, i ve to close an eye. And I really nv thought of getting into any other form of r/s..... -
Parn made a few good points, and those points are good counselling techniques.Originally posted by dcx:wah seh....good..
Which clashes with yours?
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I still and have to be with my SO.
Thanks Parn and the rest.
Maybe I am feeling too empty (kong1 xu1) and got myself into it. -
I am extremely concerned about the above mentioned.Originally posted by nici:Until A comes along, he brightens up my life. let me find myself back. In the past, i m living in the shadows of my SO. I do whatever he wants or like me to do, and everything i do is becasue of him. My SO is the one who build up my present character. I am not myself.
State of denial and delusion have set in.
Just because a new person appeared. All faults are directed at your bf.
If your bf is here, i'd advise him to leave you. Heh. That provided if i get to hear the whole story.
dcx ::: Let yunnie do the posting.
Too many people posted. i don't want to distrupt the thread.