Help!!I'm so vain..
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I know its prob the norm to put on makeup when u're working cos u'd have to look presentable afterall..but i did see quite a number of working women without makeup on when im on my way to town or something and they still look so nice and radiant..so envious
I admit its sort of a call for attention..mc is rite i guess.. though many people don't see me as a low-confi person, i think deep down, i feel insecure and low esteem..but duno how to bring the esteem up..
People around me dont console me or anything cos no one really knows i feel this way.. -
.. i rarely requite makeup or foundation cause of my complexion.. all i ever wear or feel comfortable wearing is dark eyeliner & some lipgloss.Originally posted by Livvy:I know its prob the norm to put on makeup when u're working cos u'd have to look presentable afterall..but i did see quite a number of working women without makeup on when im on my way to town or something and they still look so nice and radiant..so envious
I admit its sort of a call for attention..mc is rite i guess.. though many people don't see me as a low-confi person, i think deep down, i feel insecure and low esteem..but duno how to bring the esteem up..
People around me dont console me or anything cos no one really knows i feel this way..
but i consider myself fucking vain in hell lot of other aspects as well..
see.. each of us can be vain in different ways. lol -
nothing wrong being vain, but u must deal with ur own insecurities and low self esteem.
u're not suffering from any mental disorders or illnesses. dun worry.
u just need time to discover ur identity.
i'm pretty sure u're quite young.
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dun worry abt it..
cus u r not the only 1 who is vain.. -
There is never make up on my face except mascara. I look weird with make up on, so for me less is best. Envy those who can play around with various make up and colors
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i don't put makeup unless there's a need to or for special occasion..
haha..i'm the opposite of you..i actually don't like makeup..i always feel there's something on my face..and it also clogs the pore..although there's makeup removers all that..i prefer natural..i feel that the most important is your routine skincare regime..
how's ur complexion like? dun be offended..are u suffering from any serious face problems like acne, scars etc..? my frenz have those problems..thats y she always put on makeup whereever she go..she says is to conceal the ugly side..but as time goes..when she dun put on makeup..she looks like ghost..sorry to say that..but it's true..most important have confident in urself..heckcare wat ppl says.. take care..
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everyday take pictures of yourself with a camera lor then post online
dont put make up eh just take photo...
take right after u wake up b4 lunch after lunch after dinner and b4 u sleep...
see ur face got what difference...then slowly slowly post some of your photo online lor haha then see ppl give what reviews or scores! hahaha
then u will slowly get confidence liao but if u see bad remarks....then u gotta accept the fate thats how u look! but oso must see what bad things they say la some ppl just like to hurt ppl hahah... or go for plastic surgery if u really feel insecure..
ps. thats what i thought....sounds stupid but might work la...lol -
U just like being praised of beauty...can't withstand or tahan ppl looking at you with a "abnormal/unappreciative" look...Originally posted by Livvy:I'm an undergrad & i can never bring myself to go to sch without putting on makeup.
i simply cannot bring myself to face ppl without puttin on make up. I just feel so ugly.
I know there are people talkin behind me, saying this gal n her group of friends put on makeup even to sch bla bla bla. Actually, Im envious of those naturally pretty gals who have the confidence to strut their natural self in public. But i simply cant bring myself to do that! Even if its just for a short walk to the newspaper stand near my house, i will feel extremely insecure. I always tell myself that its ok and i survived thru pri sch, sec sch, jc without makeup, so what's the diff in uni??But i always nvr succumb to vanity.
Am i suffering from some kind of illness??
But then hor....what's this insecure of yours? Might as well go for plastic surgery? Become Boa?
Actually, if you have yet realise, the real beauty of one's inner beauty....need i explain further on inner beauty?
One of the beauties (Inner) which i see you've is your courage to face up this problem of yours and trying to resolve it...the attitude is already a beauty.. -
Indeed....Originally posted by kopikid:everyday take pictures of yourself with a camera lor then post online
dont put make up eh just take photo...
take right after u wake up b4 lunch after lunch after dinner and b4 u sleep...
see ur face got what difference...then slowly slowly post some of your photo online lor haha then see ppl give what reviews or scores! hahaha
then u will slowly get confidence liao but if u see bad remarks....then u gotta accept the fate thats how u look! but oso must see what bad things they say la some ppl just like to hurt ppl hahah... or go for plastic surgery if u really feel insecure..
ps. thats what i thought....sounds stupid but might work la...lol -
Being vain is not wrong.Originally posted by Livvy:I just feel so ugly.
But feeling ugly IS A problem.
Just like people who are skinny and slim sees themselves as FAT.
It's the same, but you're not as bad as those people who goes into bulima or became anorexic. Similiar effects of psychological effects, yours is considered mild.
Self acceptance is the way to overcome shame and envy. Self-love lifts and free yourself from the devaluing system you've embrace all these time.
It'll take time and you surely need patient people to help you out. -
Maybe you're living off too comfortably.....if you think you're ugly...try to look ard on the road/street...there're more uglier ppl but they're yet so happy n natural...it's a beauty from them also.......
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you probably need a guy who tells you that you look pretty without makeup, and encourage you to use less makeup.
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i prefer ppl who at least make an effort to dress up appropriate than those whom u thought they are going to the market in that kind of attire in sch
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wah steady la moneratorOriginally posted by M©+square:Kinda sad to deal with. People who have low self esteem. -
did u watch Palace Jewel ( da chang jin) ? the maids there seem to haf nice smooth facial skin... but actually they haf put on makeup... like eyeliner, mascara, abit of lipstick, eyebrows and foundation....
so actually we ladies still need to put on abit of makeup before we go out to work, socialising. at least put those foundation wif SPF 30. eyeliner, darken ur eyebrow abit and lip balm. tat shd do.... to gif a natural look and enhance ur features.
dont reali need to put on more... especially u can sweat when u walk abit of distance in sg... so warm and humid. -
double post
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U think too much liao la. Since u have a bf, i guess maybe he would be able to help u. Find one day dun make up ask him about how he look, just ask him to be truthful and dun doubt his word. People will like u will tend to disbelieve any "good word" that came out from other people.Originally posted by Livvy:Actually i dont know what triggered..It just happened after i entered uni.
My ex bf used to tell me i still look good without cosmetics.i know i dont look ugly but its that tat i feel so much nicer with makeup on and once i doll myself up, i feel like i belong to a different league of beauties? And when the makeup is off, i just fall into the lower category and i dont want to be there. I dont know if i make sense to u guys..sighz..
You may not believe it but my current bf of six months havent even seen me without makeup! I'm just so afraid..that he'll see..the lower category of me?
But just ask yourself, if u are more happier with the way u are than why bother to change, if not than try your best and change your thinking. u could start with going to the neighbour without applying makeup.. boast your confidence first...
Good luck ~~ -
Obsessive compulsive behaviour. Common, many ppl have it
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haah you just think that you are not pretty... hahah well just need to be more confident about yourself can liao la! hahah
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Thanks all for the comforting words! sob sob..so touched..i'll try the minimal approach when i go out tomorrow..hmm..not totally bare faced as yet..cos i think i really cant..not right now.. i dont think i can take it when some strangers whisper walk by me and my bf and says "whats this plain jane doing with a guy like him"
maybe just the minimal approach for now..and hopefully one fine day i can reach the pt where i can go downstairs without makeup comfortably..
i think its both..attention seeking and low esteemed?i sort of like the attention i get when im all dolled up -
Actually, on the contrary, i dont really have pimples and such (touch wood)just that without makeup, i find myself so...sallow-skinned..pale and dowdy..
There's an even more astonishing fact..there was once when my bf asked me to go to chalet..i was all panicky..cos..i was thinking..wouldnt that mean he will see me bare faced?????in the end, we stayed up all night chatting and i managed not to reveal the sallow skinned me to him
i know i know..low esteem, vainpot, call me anything..but i just cant help the insecure feeling thats burning inside me..sadly, no one knows..no one except u guys whose reading all these.. -
Hmm...i've spent a few years to guide a gal to self confidence.Originally posted by Livvy:Actually, on the contrary, i dont really have pimples and such (touch wood)just that without makeup, i find myself so...sallow-skinned..pale and dowdy..
There's an even more astonishing fact..there was once when my bf asked me to go to chalet..i was all panicky..cos..i was thinking..wouldnt that mean he will see me bare faced?????in the end, we stayed up all night chatting and i managed not to reveal the sallow skinned me to him
i know i know..low esteem, vainpot, call me anything..but i just cant help the insecure feeling thats burning inside me..sadly, no one knows..no one except u guys whose reading all these..
She's just like your case, however different in other aspects.
It's not impossible.
Yup, people with low esteem are secretly hungry for attention.
Just don't let it eat your personality and your true self. -
Differnt in other aspects?how different?as in not about looks and such?
Eat into my true self..hmm..i dont really know if i can answer that..whilst im typing this, im just thinking, whats my true self? actually whats true self? the ability to reject someone when u dont feel like doing what they suggest? Not to blindly follow what other people suggest? i dont know.. [/code][/list] -
Its also about looks. With other issues too.Originally posted by Livvy:Differnt in other aspects?how different?as in not about looks and such?
Eat into my true self..hmm..i dont really know if i can answer that..whilst im typing this, im just thinking, whats my true self? actually whats true self? the ability to reject someone when u dont feel like doing what they suggest? Not to blindly follow what other people suggest? i dont know.. [/code][/list]
Many won't know our true self, but surely we know when our desires will harm us, to become no longer ourselves.
We might become obessessive to certain longings at the expense of our loved ones or even at the expanse of our happiness.
You don't have to know now.
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Thanks all for the comforting words! sob sob..so touched..i'll try the minimal approach when i go out tomorrow..hmm..not totally bare faced as yet..cos i think i really cant..not right now.. i dont think i can take it when some strangers whisper walk by me and my bf and says "whats this plain jane doing with a guy like him"
maybe just the minimal approach for now..and hopefully one fine day i can reach the pt where i can go downstairs without makeup comfortably..
i think its both..attention seeking and low esteemed?i sort of like the attention i get when im all dolled up