Is it only me?
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There are some things in a relationship that can't be compromised...
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Stay the way u are....
Dun jump too quickly into r/s cause u seen to long for people to take care of u...
personally I think just be friend with him.. if not comfortable dun go into it cause it will hurt u even more... -
Is it really that case? If it is really so, I would want to stop it even before I develop any more feelings for him.Originally posted by monoslayer:its not advisable to let him get too physical wif u.. initially, he may ask to hold ur hands, den kiss kiss, n gradually he will try to take things further.. if u r not comfortable, jus tell him straight.. anyway, i feel tat all he wan is jus sex.. -
Make it clear to him that u are not with him to satisfy his sexual needs/desires.
He can always go Geylang wor.
What you want is love and respect. If he cannot respect you, forget about him. -
Not always the case lah....Originally posted by Raining Stars:Is it really that case? If it is really so, I would want to stop it even before I develop any more feelings for him.
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Do you realise the newbies adoption to selective reading are getting more and more serious?Originally posted by Devil1976:Not always the case lah.... -
Then how will I know if it is the case?Originally posted by Devil1976:Not always the case lah.... -
Go the distance and you'll find out in due course...Originally posted by Raining Stars:Then how will I know if it is the case?
In all seriousness, with no disrespect, how many relationships have you been in? I've rarely, if ever, come across someone asking how she should react if the guy took the initiative and tried kissing/hugging her... -
There's no formula for it... It's very much based on your own experience, judgement, analysis and such... Even then, there still might not be guaranteed way of telling what's his true intention... It's a complicated process. It's quite unlikely that we would be able to tell just by sitting around here. And it seems unlikely for you to tell too since you're so inexperience?Originally posted by Raining Stars:Then how will I know if it is the case?
My personal advice for you is if you're not comfortable with certain things, just keep your distance or avoid them... RESPECT is IMPORTANT at all level for MOST forms of positive relationships... But try not to be jumping into a conclusion too hastily, you'll never really know if it's just all a misunderstanding? Worse an unfair groundless spectaculation...? -
Maybe they read but they're not replying?Originally posted by M©+square:Do you realise the newbies adoption to selective reading are getting more and more serious?
Anyway, what we can do is advise them... It's up to them to choose what advices they'll like to heed... We can't be controlling them on that, otherwise we'll be brainwashing instead.... -
Sex's what he wants from you. Simple said.
If he's understanding and care about you, the "physical" term he meant shld not be even part of the compromisation...
He doesn't care about your problems, agony, doubts, thoughts, worries, concerns...he just want u to route into his direction....
Sorry for being blunt....
Those who know me directly/indirectly knows my pattern...
hMz...how come ah yun still haben arrive yet? -
Guess I am inexperience when it comes to guys who are more expressive. So far, the past relationships that I had were more of with guys who were less expressive?Originally posted by Devil1976:There's no formula for it... It's very much based on your own experience, judgement, analysis and such... Even then, there still might not be guaranteed way of telling what's his true intention... It's a complicated process. It's quite unlikely that we would be able to tell just by sitting around here. And it seems unlikely for you to tell too since you're so inexperience?
My personal advice for you is if you're not comfortable with certain things, just keep your distance or avoid them... RESPECT is IMPORTANT at all level for MOST forms of positive relationships... But try not to be jumping into a conclusion too hastily, you'll never really know if it's just all a misunderstanding? Worse an unfair groundless spectaculation...? -
You don't have to sorry about your speculations.Originally posted by dcx:
Sex's what he wants from you. Simple said.
If he's understanding and care about you, the "physical" term he meant shld not be even part of the compromisation...
He doesn't care about your problems, agony, doubts, thoughts, worries, concerns...he just want u to route into his direction....
Sorry for being blunt....
Those who know me directly/indirectly knows my pattern...
hMz...how come ah yun still haben arrive yet?
However i agree that his love towards her is questionable.
Cheers -
Originally posted by dcx:
Sex's what he wants from you. Simple said.
If he's understanding and care about you, the "physical" term he meant shld not be even part of the compromisation...
He doesn't care about your problems, agony, doubts, thoughts, worries, concerns...he just want u to route into his direction....
Sorry for being blunt....
Those who know me directly/indirectly knows my pattern...
hMz...how come ah yun still haben arrive yet? 
I am a lurker of this thread....
/me throw smoke bomb and vanished back to hiding place. 
Cheers -
He has to respect your wishes and my advice to you is to believe in what you do and not just succumb to his wants just because you like him.Originally posted by Raining Stars:Hi, came across this forum by chance and find that it is really a very neat and nice one. Wondered if you all can help me with this problem of mine
I am in my mid twenties this year and actually I broke off with my boyfriend like 6 months back. All this while I still have feelings for him but he just keep avoiding me.
Now the problem is as follows, I came to know another guy just a few months back and we have like gone out for the past few weeks, he seems to be a very nice guy and we seems to click off quite well, the same frequency and such
BUT
he mentioned that he is someone who is does not want a relationship that holds back the feelings, when I asked him what does he mean by that he meant that he is more of a physical kind of person
I think I belong to the more conservative side of person so its like he thinks that I am moving too slow while I think that he is moving too fast, initially we said if that is the case, it would be better to remain as friends but then somehow now it becomes a case of 'go with the flow'
So now what should I do? Because it seems to be like its not really a relationship as yet but he wants to have feelings and behaviour like what a couple should do like hugs and kisses etc, I must admit it is not really what I would normally do unless I am deeper into the relationship, and yes, I do have a mutual attraction to him as well.. so any adviceon this matter?
Talk to him about how you feel. Obviously it's about two people have two different wishes. If you two cannot come to compromise, then I suggest you leave him, it will only lead to nowhere. -
Can recognise your own 'pattern' from a distance..?? <Originally posted by dcx:
Sex's what he wants from you. Simple said.
If he's understanding and care about you, the "physical" term he meant shld not be even part of the compromisation...
He doesn't care about your problems, agony, doubts, thoughts, worries, concerns...he just want u to route into his direction....
Sorry for being blunt....
Those who know me directly/indirectly knows my pattern...
hMz...how come ah yun still haben arrive yet? > -
Well.. There's always a 1st time...?Originally posted by Raining Stars:Guess I am inexperience when it comes to guys who are more expressive. So far, the past relationships that I had were more of with guys who were less expressive?
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I see giving advice as 2 way communication.Originally posted by Devil1976:Maybe they read but they're not replying?
Anyway, what we can do is advise them... It's up to them to choose what advices they'll like to heed... We can't be controlling them on that, otherwise we'll be brainwashing instead....
Recieve info and giving info are essentials.
They read and don't reply means we don't know what are the other details we have missed. Therefore, most of the contributors here does one shot Post and stop thereafter, unless there's a reply.
Machiam weapon zeroing session.
I'm addressing in view of a contributor here.
Cheers -
That much, there is a limit to what we can do.Originally posted by M©+square:I see giving advice as 2 way communication.
Recieve info and giving info are essentials.
They read and don't reply means we don't know what are the other details we have missed. Therefore, most of the contributors here does one shot Post and stop thereafter, unless there's a reply.
Machiam weapon zeroing session.
I'm addressing in view of a contributor here.
Cheers -
expressive or horny?Originally posted by Raining Stars:Guess I am inexperience when it comes to guys who are more expressive. So far, the past relationships that I had were more of with guys who were less expressive? -
hi Raining Stars,
if u dun feel like doing it, u definitely have the right to choose not to..
no one can force u to do things which u dun wanna do.. -
Indeed.Originally posted by Devil1976:That much, there is a limit to what we can do.
Limited. -
But at least I am glad that he told me up front and not like some people who acted innocent and pure but is not at all.Originally posted by browniebaobao:expressive or horny?
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Well... I have my reserves for people who said that. Either he is a really honest guy or he is a despicable one.Originally posted by Raining Stars:But at least I am glad that he told me up front and not like some people who acted innocent and pure but is not at all.
If the answer is former, then, its good.
If the answer is latter, then, you will be in for it. He can always turn the table around and said: "I told you before. You accepted it, thats why you are in a relationship with me!"
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Can't he be a honestly despicable guy...?? <Originally posted by ILPSY:Well... I have my reserves for people who said that. Either he is a really honest guy or he is a despicable one.
If the answer is former, then, its good.
If the answer is latter, then, you will be in for it. He can always turn the table around and said: "I told you before. You accepted it, thats why you are in a relationship with me!"
Hmm...>