Opinions wanted: 2nd date
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sori, i meant "when he was sending me home that nite"Originally posted by blu_sky:huh?
I was actually abit irritated cos he tried to touched my hair when he was sending me home last nite. contemplating to cut him out. already blocked him in msn messenger. but he is a nice guy, wondering am i too petty, hence the post here. -
Ok, so you're ok to keep him as a friend.
But not a potential date right? -
yes, im ok to keep him as a friend
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Then just tell him!!!!Originally posted by blu_sky:yes, im ok to keep him as a friend 
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Yes, i think i will !!!!
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wats with this 'keep' him n that?
its like treating him as an object nia....
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nah... it is not treating him as an object. More of, hmmm..... a term people used when they say 'keepin a friend'. got it?Originally posted by alexkusu:
wats with this 'keep' him n that?
its like treating him as an object nia.... -
i dont mind having you as a friend
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Hmm...
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Without knowing you or your character, I think it's important that you bear in mind the notion of "reasonable expectations" can actually be quite subjective and therefore, there really isn't a simple "yes/no" answer to whether your expectations are reasonable.Originally posted by blu_sky:i know what you mean, thats why im here asking for independent opinions on whether my expectation are reasonable. Any comment?
I mean, it's not hard to understand the kind of guys you attract possess certain traits for a certain reason, is it? For instance(ok, I know this example is a bit extreme and I'm not saying this relates to your example by any stretch of the imagination, but it kind of illustrates what I'm driving at), chances of a mild-mannered and well-educated professional hitting it off with an expletive-laden street thug are so remote even billionaires wouldn't find it prudent to bet a penny on such a proposition becoming reality.
In essence, I think it's more important that you reflect and see if there is any unwarranted mismatch of expectations between you and him (and if so, ponder over the measures you - by that, I mean you and him - would like to take to improve the relationship) rather than wondering if your expectations are "reasonable". As most have already pointed out, one man's meat is another's poison as there really isn't a hard-and-fast defintion of "reasonable expectations" - afterall, two criminals could well make a perfect couple and have perfectly reasonable expectations of each other even if their morals and beliefs were despised by the majority.
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small eyes or big eyes, still ur eyes lor.
why get urself so affected?
hmm... was it really a date?
or u thot it's a date?
he may be only treat u like a friend? -
Well, to me, they were juz outings to know a guy friend better. But he keeps stressing that they are dates.Originally posted by browniebaobao:small eyes or big eyes, still ur eyes lor.
why get urself so affected?
hmm... was it really a date?
or u thot it's a date?
he may be only treat u like a friend? -
It is probably time to say ~
"Next please!" -
Originally posted by blu_sky:
Me me.... <
It is probably time to say ~
"[b]Next please!" [/b]> -
sudden random thought: personally, i'd say "next please" to both of you.
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me tooOriginally posted by Devil1976:Me me.... <>
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LOL!
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pass~
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hmmm guy so comfortable ... hmmmm treat u like a friendOriginally posted by blu_sky:I went out with this guy over the weekend, he shows interests in me. But he is so weird, 2nd date tellin me i got small eyes (first time in my eyes someone tell me tat. ok i dun have big eyes, but they are not small), i got dark circles and eyes bags.
I told him nicely he shouldnt say this on 2nd date, otherwise he can forget about the 3rd date. He says he is juz comfortable with me, treat me as a friend. But does he know doin that on 2nd date will make a gal uncomfortable? And therefore destroying any future chances?
Guys, what do u think he is trying to do?
aiyaaa dump the slob -
weird le.. if he's the one stressing, y are u telling me that he shouldnt say all that to u on a second DATE? Unless u take it as a date also..Originally posted by blu_sky:Well, to me, they were juz outings to know a guy friend better. But he keeps stressing that they are dates. -
Sorry late on my reply, How Man think, seriously i don't know, its more like being yourself than to "make" up who you are if you get what i mean. However sometimes is that the guy does not know how to react to the situation, as in the communciation part. Each to his own character
I not having luck with girls myself so better ask some experts here. All above I am talking about myself. However first impression rules haha. Hopefully i am not that guy
And lastly, better tell the guy that you want him as a friend only asap hehe -
It is very simple to me. When we are out, if you think that it is a date, then you should behave up to the expectation of it. If you think that is an outing, then different set of expecation from me. It is whether "how YOU think/expect it to be" vs "how you behave". Get the drift?Originally posted by browniebaobao:weird le.. if he's the one stressing, y are u telling me that he shouldnt say all that to u on a second DATE? Unless u take it as a date also.. -
Latest update:
Before i had the chance to say anything, he told me he kinda likes me, and hope to bring this to the next level. But i told him lets not think about that now and stay as friends.
I brought up the drinking thing to him. Told him that it is not nice to drink till tipsy especially when you juz know a gal, and the gal may think that he has a drinking problem. He said he didnt know that it will affect me. And said that he was just happy, thats why. And he will be more conscious of that part in future. -
Seems like he's making an effort in chasing u