I can't get over a girl.
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For goodness sake I was just kidding about throwing paper at her.
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Sorry, didn't know you were kidding dude. But dun be such an asshole to her dude, stop at a certain level or things get overboard.Originally posted by iSpeak:For goodness sake I was just kidding about throwing paper at her.
And no, I would never, ever use vulgarities against her. -
Hey threadstarter, from the way u type, i can sense that u are someone who think very highly of himself and in addition, think that u are some hot shot with the ladies, but in truth, most girls think u are a d!ck. Am i correct to say this??
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Go occupy your time being involved with hobbies etc.
Sooner or later, being busy with your activities will erase her from your mind.
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if u really wan ask her back, prove it in your actions. also prove to her that you are willing to change. although even she may not accept u again, let some time pass by before asking her again.
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Ask yourself some questions before you go and look for her and ask her to come back to your sideÂ…
1) Do you really love her characteristics or her body, face, boobs, butts or whatÂ…?
2) Is your pride really that important when as compared to true love?
3) Will you still behave in the same way if she decided to come back to you?
4) Are you able to share your thoughts with her in the future?
5) Is she more than a companion to you or a lover to youÂ…?
Only after you have asked yourself all these questions then perhaps you can consider looking for her again else I would suggest you to be friend with herÂ… perhaps close friendsÂ… From the way you put it acrossÂ… I can see that you cherish your pride and face more than anything elseÂ… then no matter which girl came across your life in the futureÂ… the same thing will bound to happenÂ…
Furthermore, if seems like it is also the pride and face issue that you do not wish to let her goÂ… Maybe I am wrongÂ… but why force someone to be with you when you know that you are unable to provide her with happiness even though you believed that she would be able to do soÂ…?
If you really love her then her happiness is the most important thing of allÂ… let her go if you cannot make her happyÂ… someone else will give her the happiness she wantÂ… one dayÂ….
Hope that I am able to shed lights to your problemsÂ… -
time will heal .
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sibeh beng leh u..
dun be so beng can or not? -
the way you write machiam write for exam like that.
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Originally posted by Beckhamagic:
The above reminds me of something I did.
If you really love her then her happiness is the most important thing of allÂ… let her go if you cannot make her happyÂ… someone else will give her the happiness she wantÂ… one dayÂ….
Hope that I am able to shed lights to your problemsÂ… [/b]
I once han-tum my sister's boyfren.
I told him this:
"Just becoz you are happy doing something that she has to do with you doesn't mean that she is happy, or that it is the right thing to do" (he made her go for every single family gathering coz he is happy to show her off in front of his relatives)
"In life, sometimes we must make a decision that pains and hurts us, but in our hearts we know it is necessary, if we really love that person"
To threadstarter:
If you are a nut who cares more for your face and pride than the love for that gal, then do the necessary thing. Let her go. The decision is painful and hurting for you, but is necessary for her. By attempting to keep her for yourself when you know you love yourself more than you love her smacks full of selfishness, and you don't deserve her. -
Not all the girls.Originally posted by industrie:Hey threadstarter, from the way u type, i can sense that u are someone who think very highly of himself and in addition, think that u are some hot shot with the ladies, but in truth, most girls think u are a d!ck. Am i correct to say this??
And no, I am someone with rather low self-esteem, despite my loud mouth. The thought of me being 'hot with the ladies' is one I chuckle at. Which guy wouldn't want to think he is good with girls? But I have no delusions of such sort.
I am prone to arrogance every once in a while. And yes, I am a rather large d-ck. Self-confessed. Still, most people find me acceptable to hang around with. Just overly vulgar. And overly horny. Funny thing is, I would have stopped all such nonsense had she raised a whisper about it.
Look guys, any behaviour that might have not been acceptable to me was purely out sadness and admittedly, bitterness. And the only thing I have done to her was give her the silent treatment. Nothing else. I am not a particularly mean fellow. I did not spite her or whine about her behind her back - that would be inappropriate for a guy to do, wouldn't it? I did not pester her in any manner, just left her alone.
I have spoken to her a few times. There was one time she wanted me to go home with her. It was late, maybe around ten pm? But I didn't want to send her home all the way though. Just said bye and got off at my train stop. Again, probably bitterness. Or perhaps sheer fear? Didn't really talk to her after that, except to wish her well when she was down and ill, once.
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Some of the replies in this thread have really struck home.
To threadstarter:
If you are a nut who cares more for your face and pride than the love for that gal, then do the necessary thing. Let her go. The decision is painful and hurting for you, but is necessary for her. By attempting to keep her for yourself when you know you love yourself more than you love her smacks full of selfishness, and you don't deserve her.
Thank you for your open criticalness, really appreciate it.
But no, I do not love myelf more than her.
Then again, you have really taught me something. Perhaps I am loving myself more than her? What gives? Why can't I just humble myself and admit that I am not exactly Mr. Perfect? Am I too great, too good for her that I just cannot bring myself to ask for a second chance? Too embarrassed that she dumped me? The key word would be bitterness.
I have never thought of myself as an overbearing self-absorbed idiot, but maybe I just need to look into the mirror a little more.
Thank you all for your comments. I have accepted everything with openness. Some of you here, in all your candidness and frankness, have really offered me pearls of wisdom. Perhaps I will never again make it with her. But I have grown a little wiser from this experience.
In summary, the lesson I learnt : Stop behaving like some ceeba- kia. -
You admit your flaws. That is admirable. All you have to do is to reflect on what you have done in the past and learn from it. You WILL be a better person next time round.Originally posted by iSpeak:Some of the replies in this thread have really struck home.
To threadstarter:
If you are a nut who cares more for your face and pride than the love for that gal, then do the necessary thing. Let her go. The decision is painful and hurting for you, but is necessary for her. By attempting to keep her for yourself when you know you love yourself more than you love her smacks full of selfishness, and you don't deserve her.
Thank you for your open criticalness, really appreciate it.
But no, I do not love myelf more than her.
Then again, you have really taught me something. Perhaps I am loving myself more than her? What gives? Why can't I just humble myself and admit that I am not exactly Mr. Perfect? Am I too great, too good for her that I just cannot bring myself to ask for a second chance? Too embarrassed that she dumped me? The key word would be bitterness.
I have never thought of myself as an overbearing self-absorbed idiot, but maybe I just need to look into the mirror a little more.
Thank you all for your comments. I have accepted everything with openness. Some of you here, in all your candidness and frankness, have really offered me pearls of wisdom. Perhaps I will never again make it with her. But I have grown a little wiser from this experience.
In summary, the lesson I learnt : Stop behaving like some ceeba- kia. -
lim peh engrish very the powderful.Originally posted by digicharat:the way you write machiam write for exam like that. 
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What's love but a fleeting emotion conjured up by our convulsions of loneliness?
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i agree with you.Originally posted by tritonyeah666:What's love but a fleeting emotion conjured up by our convulsions of loneliness?
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True to an extent.
A year ago she had a crush on me. I ignored her then. I was too caught up with my studies, wanting to excel and such.
Time passed and we got closer this year, and ta-da. Only for it to end prematurely, for me at least.
It was only after letting her slip did I realize I was one lonely kid. -
If you're still thinking about your pride at this point of time then i advise you to leave her, cos you dun deserve her love
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your english is good!
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Firstly, i dun really understand how u can b so vulgar as u've mention. From the way u write your essay, it seems u're a pretty smart kid... Well, i'm in your situation as well here.
Its been 2 years and 4 mths since my x left me, after which i've not found another gf. Reason being that no matter how i look around on the streets, getting 2 noe pple thru friends, none has gave me e feeling tt they r as gd as her. lols.
Back to your problem, i believe time will heal e soreness and bitterness no doubt, yet e loneliness is something u cant heal, i would suggest u get into either sports, or get a hobby or something 2 occupy your free time. Do not think nor lust bout her and u'll find tt its not so bad after all...
Time will unveil the path u will b moving onto, till then, cherish your life and make e best out of wat u have. Chill out dude. Take Care. =) -
The nabehs and ceeba-s, f-ck yous and kaninas fly out of my mouth like there's no tomorrow. Just a horrid verbal reflex that is almost impossible for me to curb. It's ironic then how she liked me because I was was to quote, an 'intellectual'.
There is a Mandarin saying, "Nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai."
Pardon my hanyu pinyin. Mandarin is not my mother tounge.
Brudders, don't ever fall for that saying.
I spilt out all the dirty secrets I had to her in an effort to be open about everything. I confessed that I am a heavy nicotine addict (honestly which girl in the right mind would like a smoking boyfriend?), confessed that I had ended up in sleazy Geylang motels with even sleazier women while in dubious or intoxicated states of mind, generally admitted all the incredibly stupid things I have done with my life. And I have yet to sit for my O-levels.
As of now, I am willing to accept that I have to leave behind all the emotional baggage carried over from this failed attempt at love. I admit that I cannot keep lamenting about how much of a jerk I am without changing myself for the better. Cliche, but simply the truth.
I am glad to say I no longer hold any bitterness towards her. She is a wonderful person, a beautiful girl and I can never for the life of me wish ill upon her. The sadness stills lingers for me but it will go away.
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tell yourself to be open, i mean force yourself
this is how i get over a girl within a day. perhaps a few hrs at most -
sometimes it's not advisable to tell someone everything abt ur past..Originally posted by iSpeak:The nabehs and ceeba-s, f-ck yous and kaninas fly out of my mouth like there's no tomorrow. Just a horrid verbal reflex that is almost impossible for me to curb. It's ironic then how she liked me because I was was to quote, an 'intellectual'.
There is a Mandarin saying, "Nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai."
Pardon my hanyu pinyin. Mandarin is not my mother tounge.
Brudders, don't ever fall for that saying.
I spilt out all the dirty secrets I had to her in an effort to be open about everything. I confessed that I am a heavy nicotine addict (honestly which girl in the right mind would like a smoking boyfriend?), confessed that I had ended up in sleazy Geylang motels with even sleazier women while in dubious or intoxicated states of mind, generally admitted all the incredibly stupid things I have done with my life. And I have yet to sit for my O-levels.
As of now, I am willing to accept that I have to leave behind all the emotional baggage carried over from this failed attempt at love. I admit that I cannot keep lamenting about how much of a jerk I am without changing myself for the better. Cliche, but simply the truth.
I am glad to say I no longer hold any bitterness towards her. She is a wonderful person, a beautiful girl and I can never for the life of me wish ill upon her. The sadness stills lingers for me but it will go away.
Once again, thank you all for the comments and (heavy) criticism in this topic.
that's my personal opinion..
coz i also need to move on from my past.. dun want anyone to remind me of things that I dun want to remember..
that's why i always keep things to myself.. -
You begin crude just becoz ,subconsciouslyOriginally posted by iSpeak:The nabehs and ceeba-s, f-ck yous and kaninas fly out of my mouth like there's no tomorrow. Just a horrid verbal reflex that is almost impossible for me to curb. It's ironic then how she liked me because I was was to quote, an 'intellectual'.
There is a Mandarin saying, "Nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai."
Pardon my hanyu pinyin. Mandarin is not my mother tounge.
Brudders, don't ever fall for that saying.
I spilt out all the dirty secrets I had to her in an effort to be open about everything. I confessed that I am a heavy nicotine addict (honestly which girl in the right mind would like a smoking boyfriend?), confessed that I had ended up in sleazy Geylang motels with even sleazier women while in dubious or intoxicated states of mind, generally admitted all the incredibly stupid things I have done with my life. And I have yet to sit for my O-levels.
As of now, I am willing to accept that I have to leave behind all the emotional baggage carried over from this failed attempt at love. I admit that I cannot keep lamenting about how much of a jerk I am without changing myself for the better. Cliche, but simply the truth.
I am glad to say I no longer hold any bitterness towards her. She is a wonderful person, a beautiful girl and I can never for the life of me wish ill upon her. The sadness stills lingers for me but it will go away.
Once again, thank you all for the comments and (heavy) criticism in this topic.
you're treating her just a companion/ an acquaintance just to share your woes and flaws or maybe you 're trying to conceal your weakness by contantly
revealing how villain you are!
Doesn't mean begin bad boy and the gal will like it, that was the most naive tot! i bet only the silly girl will fall prey to it. Do you know tt begin a womanize is the worst nightmare to any girl?
Go and change ur attiude first. Sitting behind the screen confessing doesn't help! -
Hmm... I'm surprised the expert Advisers haven't come out yet...
Anyway, you have a good grasp of english. I don't think you are like what the other forumites think you are, even if you appear on the outside. (I hope.)
But I've only one piece of advice, "Let time heal everything." Must persevere and overcome! Haha..