Missing someone badly
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why are girls like that
one moment nice..then next day for no reason..they give u cold shoulder
and u have done nothing to make her angry
"lift u up so high and just to kick u down and hit the farking ground"
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hey den..sorry to hear that you are in such a situation..haven seen you around for sometime..and i was away for the past few days...
well, if the gal sound out your stuffs from her friend, i think it may be a good thing too..however, we guys never know what a gal might be thinking..
if really possible, you should ask her directly what happened, what is she thinking about, and most imptly, tell her how you feel.. I know you cant contact her at the moment, but wait for the right time k...
one thing, if you are thick skinned enuff, you can approach her friends, and let them know you are eager to find her, hopefully, they will help you to relay the msg..
remember" eagerness and irritation is just a thin line...too much of eager turns to irritate..
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x2.... lift u up so high..let u see n know how nice isit..when ur so into it..suddenly from behind give u 1 hard kick n drop to the ground..Originally posted by StarPuppy:why are girls like that
one moment nice..then next day for no reason..they give u cold shoulder
and u have done nothing to make her angry
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Hey friend.Originally posted by darknessfall:remember" eagerness and irritation is just a thin line...too much of eager turns to irritate..
tell us the good news when she replys u k.
Its good to hear from you. coffee next time?
I figured I'll just ask her friends to call her and see what happens, her mood, etc.
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Funny to see this thread as I'm suffering a "cold" treatment right now also. Any gers here wanna tell us whats going on in their little brains?
This ger initiated contact, chatted, planned to go out together and then suddenly started ignoring me too!
Not that I wan to "date" her or be gf/bf, just want to be friends to start with also cannot............ She neber ignore totally but ignored enough until dun even sound like a person who wan to be friends, machiam some stranger i met 10 mins ago who dun give a fark.
What the fuck is going on with women huh? One moment hot one moment cold. -
If they're having period give it a pass
else the next tiem they ask,ask them if they're begging...if yes consider
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clementius, i ever experienced this kind of treatment from a guy... also ignore me, no respect even as a friend... a friend wouldnt do this to u one...
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Maybe different girls different... Sometimes girls blow hot and cold doesn't mean you are out. She's just testing you to see if you are concerned about her. And from what he says that she's trying to snoop info about how he's doing and that her friends can't get her as well... Well, I don't know. Give her some time, she might really be busy.Originally posted by dokono:no sorrie to say, you are out guy! Think about it: will a girl who loves you do such things to you? If she does, then i'd say she's stupid cos she likes you. Why would she do that for Pete's sake?!
The moment a girl blows hot and cold to you, you are out! Get it? She is just simply trying to play around with your ego and your own high interest in her. -
Well, how long did you know her? Rather, how long has it been since she has initiated contact? Did you ask her out too or is she always the one doing it?Originally posted by clementius:Funny to see this thread as I'm suffering a "cold" treatment right now also. Any gers here wanna tell us whats going on in their little brains?
This ger initiated contact, chatted, planned to go out together and then suddenly started ignoring me too!
Not that I wan to "date" her or be gf/bf, just want to be friends to start with also cannot............ She neber ignore totally but ignored enough until dun even sound like a person who wan to be friends, machiam some stranger i met 10 mins ago who dun give a fark.
What the fuck is going on with women huh? One moment hot one moment cold.
How did the 2 of you communicate? Face-to-face?
Yar, one possibility is that maybe she is having moodswing. Second is that she is like that, only want to know people, then when she's over with the initial state, she's gone. Thirdly, she's into novelty, she's playing with you. Fourthly, she likes you but if you didn't initiate to ask her out or didn't tell her you just want to start as friends first and see if you can progress from there, she might feel that you don't like her or that she's really doing too much and that she's feeling quite silly at having done so. Fifth, she's testing you. =) One thing to learn, women like to test men. So please respond appropriately to give the correct impression! =)
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i started asking her out and have always been the one doing it. she inititaed contact in person abt a week ago, after that we spoke on the phone and thru SMS. (the stuff she said convinced me that she wants to be frens at least!) i dun get to see her in person anymore unless she finally decides to meet up but shes ignoring my requests to go out. (still replies to mundane stuff)Originally posted by tstar02:Well, how long did you know her? Rather, how long has it been since she has initiated contact? Did you ask her out too or is she always the one doing it?
How did the 2 of you communicate? Face-to-face?
Yar, one possibility is that maybe she is having moodswing. Second is that she is like that, only want to know people, then when she's over with the initial state, she's gone. Thirdly, she's into novelty, she's playing with you. Fourthly, she likes you but if you didn't initiate to ask her out or didn't tell her you just want to start as friends first and see if you can progress from there, she might feel that you don't like her or that she's really doing too much and that she's feeling quite silly at having done so. Fifth, she's testing you. =) One thing to learn, women like to test men. So please respond appropriately to give the correct impression! =)
My 2 cents worth.
whats happening man. at first i thought i was bugging her too much asking her out so i backed off when she started ignoring me. but she never got back to me abt meeting up...what gives? -
Either she got scared off and decided not to continue contact with you (not a really valid reason because she initiated contact, unless she's a really shy person) or I think she lost interest in you. My guess is she's only interested in playing around a bit with you. You can give her a bit of time and see if she comes back, or you can just give up, just treat her as a normal friend and see how things turn out.Originally posted by clementius:i started asking her out and have always been the one doing it. she inititaed contact in person abt a week ago, after that we spoke on the phone and thru SMS. (the stuff she said convinced me that she wants to be frens at least!) i dun get to see her in person anymore unless she finally decides to meet up but shes ignoring my requests to go out. (still replies to mundane stuff)
whats happening man. at first i thought i was bugging her too much asking her out so i backed off when she started ignoring me. but she never got back to me abt meeting up...what gives? -
I think so too.Originally posted by tstar02:I think she lost interest in you. My guess is she's only interested in playing around a bit with you.
i'm gonna continue the farce until i get a straight answer.Originally posted by tstar02:You can give her a bit of time and see if she comes back, or you can just give up, just treat her as a normal friend and see how things turn out.
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Guess what people?
She sms-ed me last night and tell me about her dog. Seems like it's sick or something
I still haven't asked her about the MIA act yet.
Quite hard to ask lei
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did she hinted u why she didnt sms u?Originally posted by The Den:Guess what people?
She sms-ed me last night and tell me about her dog. Seems like it's sick or something
I still haven't asked her about the MIA act yet.
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No.Originally posted by Texcoco II:did she hinted u why she didnt sms u?
We were only discussing about her dog. We are both dog lovers lah.
But I can't ask her why she MIA for a week... too awkward...
How to phrase it?
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can u give the specifics of what really happened? gotta see the big picture here before making any conclusions..Originally posted by The Den:No.
We were only discussing about her dog. We are both dog lovers lah.
But I can't ask her why she MIA for a week... too awkward...
How to phrase it?
but one thing i would like to tell you is that blowing hot and cold is not a good sign... it's like her interest is wavering up and down... what you really want is consistency -
you know what's your mistake? you are coming off too fast onto her. she is giving u a chance but she wants to take it slow or she doesnt want to go out with u to begin with... which means she has no interest in u in the first place...Until she calls to ask you out, you remain silent guy.Originally posted by clementius:i started asking her out and have always been the one doing it. she inititaed contact in person abt a week ago, after that we spoke on the phone and thru SMS. (the stuff she said convinced me that she wants to be frens at least!) i dun get to see her in person anymore unless she finally decides to meet up but shes ignoring my requests to go out. (still replies to mundane stuff)
whats happening man. at first i thought i was bugging her too much asking her out so i backed off when she started ignoring me. but she never got back to me abt meeting up...what gives?
and she thinks you are trying to date her when u asked her out that's why! but that's her fault
and trying to confront her shows you are too eager for her answer... you gotta take it easy guy... show like you dun really give a hoot... since she started it she shd end it by initiating contact with you first...
if ur really are dying to call and ask her better not do it on the phone... ask her face to face if u happen to bump onto her and of course naturally and sincerely... if she doesnt seem to let u know what really happened... then dun push it further... let it be... -
It's like this.Originally posted by dokono:can u give the specifics of what really happened? gotta see the big picture here before making any conclusions..
but one thing i would like to tell you is that blowing hot and cold is not a good sign... it's like her interest is wavering up and down... what you really want is consistency
Last night when I was watching football,EPL, around 1200++, she msg me to ask me where is the nearest vet around her area 'cos her dog is quite sick.
I replied abt 1 plus, asked her about hows the dog, is he eating, can she wait till morning, is it serious, etc.
By that time I replied back she was already asleep, I guess. This morning 7 plus she replied her dog has passed away.
I still don't have the flow of the conversation to ask her anything else 'cos right now (I'm waiting for her sms reply) I'm trying to console her before her classes starts.
I know this is not a good sign but I really care about her and hope she's not too upset about her dog. Actually the truth is both of us are sad cos she has the cutest dog she cant stop raving about and I love dogs.
Her dad has made arrangements to have a funeral, dispose, arrangements, etc.
So far I had not asked her any useful questions about from the details of her dog's death, did she take breakfast.
Any advice?
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visit her
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At her sch? By the time I finish work it's too late. I definitely dun want to wait at her block's void deck for her. It's scary to her and it's time wasting for me.Originally posted by olala:visit her
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send a card telling her to cheer up and that u understand how she is feeling now.Originally posted by The Den:It's like this.
Last night when I was watching football,EPL, around 1200++, she msg me to ask me where is the nearest vet around her area 'cos her dog is quite sick.
I replied abt 1 plus, asked her about hows the dog, is he eating, can she wait till morning, is it serious, etc.
By that time I replied back she was already asleep, I guess. This morning 7 plus she replied her dog has passed away.
I still don't have the flow of the conversation to ask her anything else 'cos right now (I'm waiting for her sms reply) I'm trying to console her before her classes starts.
I know this is not a good sign but I really care about her and hope she's not too upset about her dog. Actually the truth is both of us are sad cos she has the cutest dog she cant stop raving about and I love dogs.
Her dad has made arrangements to have a funeral, dispose, arrangements, etc.
So far I had not asked her any useful questions about from the details of her dog's death, did she take breakfast.
Any advice?
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i noe...her dog was sick for the past week and thats why MIA!
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Maybe. I want to believe this also.Originally posted by clementius:i noe...her dog was sick for the past week and thats why MIA!
But she tell me only Sat someone accidentally kicked her dog (she was describing how it happened by sms). Then the dog start to vomit, cant stand properly, etc.
Where was her the entire week? Only she herself knows.
I cant ask her outright 'cos I'm just a friend. But when she 'returns' after MIA she acts as if nothing has happened, the same bubbly voice, same giggle, same.. everything.
Has she stepped inside a time warp or something? I was so freaking worried for her...
Here's my latest sms to her at 6:
Will you be going for MK's (our common friend) chalet next next week?
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Still no reply.
And we were having sms marathon in e afternoon.
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dun get too emotionally involved with her yet. jus treat her as a friend. dun analyse too much.Originally posted by The Den:Maybe. I want to believe this also.
But she tell me only Sat someone accidentally kicked her dog (she was describing how it happened by sms). Then the dog start to vomit, cant stand properly, etc.
Where was her the entire week? Only she herself knows.
I cant ask her outright 'cos I'm just a friend. But when she 'returns' after MIA she acts as if nothing has happened, the same bubbly voice, same giggle, same.. everything.
Has she stepped inside a time warp or something? I was so freaking worried for her...
Here's my latest sms to her at 6:
Will you be going for MK's (our common friend) chalet next next week?
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Still no reply.
And we were having sms marathon in e afternoon.
Should I give up?
do u really love her? if so, u may want to ask her out. This will see if she really likes u and not treat u as a friend only. She may jus be playing with u only.
remember, girls in love will not confuse you or make u feel bad.