GF seeing her ex bf
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Looks like alot of girls are such people nowadays..always hurting guys, saying lies as well as cheating our feeling, and yes they like to contradict themselves..they say love u...but no actions de? what is this? Talk shuang de ah..They see we guys mixed with other females, they angry, and fa pi qi..they themselves with their guy frenz, they expect we to diam diam...if we say, they angry, say we are controlling their life? What the fark is this? Men and women hav EQUAL RIGHTS lor..
But l agree of coz there are realli nice gals around, of coz...sumtimz even we guys are bad people...who do the bad things as girls...
Sumtime l do feel that even my gud guy frenz is better than my last time de gf..
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Men and women are the same.. There are good and bad ones.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Looks like alot of girls are such people nowadays..always hurting guys, saying lies as well as cheating our feeling, and yes they like to contradict themselves..they say love u...but no actions de? what is this? Talk shuang de ah..They see we guys mixed with other females, they angry, and fa pi qi..they themselves with their guy frenz, they expect we to diam diam...if we say, they angry, say we are controlling their life? What the fark is this? Men and women hav EQUAL RIGHTS lor..
But l agree of coz there are realli nice gals around, of coz...sumtimz even we guys are bad people...who do the bad things as girls...
Sumtime l do feel that even my gud guy frenz is better than my last time de gf..
At least they didnt humilate me, help me when l realy need help and offer gud advices to me, encourage me..
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Because he felt victimized recently.Originally posted by galfriend:Men and women are the same.. There are good and bad ones.
Why the rant?
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I'll just say that probably everybody has a story to tell (yes, me too). it is just a matter of how you handle it and what you learn from it.Originally posted by M©+square:Because he felt victimized recently.
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You can learn to be negative and paranoid ----> you will then think why all "women always hurting guys, saying lies as well as cheating our feeling, and yes they like to contradict themselves" and blah blah blah
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You learn that there are different types of people in this world, and from there on, you are wiser and have a more enhanced selection process.
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Yup.Originally posted by galfriend:I'll just say that probably everybody has a story to tell (yes, me too). it is just a matter of how you handle it and what you learn from it.
You can learn to be negative and paranoid ----> you will then think why all "women always hurting guys, saying lies as well as cheating our feeling, and yes they like to contradict themselves" and blah blah blah
OR
You learn that there are different types of people in this world, and from there on, you are wiser and have a more enhanced selection process.
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For now, they are in a ranting phrase.
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Yes yes. very true. There're several aspects on how people view it.Originally posted by !hawker:haha, really nice analogy. but just one flaw, in your example, the boss has the right to check on Andy as he is his superior. BUT in threadstarter's case, he and his gf are on the same level playing field. None is superior to the either.
However, I wouldn't say that threadstarter is wrong to read his gf's smses. This is done out of love I presume.
When a couple goes steady, there's a mutual verbal agreement of being faithful to each other. Unless the couple made it clear in the first place that they should be also open to other opportunities. This is like between a boss and his new employee. Except the boss has an extra right to probe into the subordinate's email with or without reasonable doubt though I do not do that on my subordinates unless I really have reasonable grounds that he's doing something in perverse to honour and integrity.
Otherwise by breaking the faith, it means also breaking the agreement. So it becomes the point where the threadstarter stands at the position on whether is he based on overly-suspicious or based on actual events that led him to doubt reasonably. He has the right to confirm his doubts also. Though I believe he could've asked his gf personally before doing any silent actions eg. checking her HP.
His deed of checking her Hp equates to getting a PI to check up on her.
Similarly, he will also have a chance that he ends up finding nothing wrong with his gf. In this case, he will become all the more affirmative that the problem lies with him. And I believe his gf deserves to demand an apology from the thread starter.
However, relationships are based on trust. If there is no trust, then the relationship will not be worthwhile.
What I suggest now to the threadstarter is to let go of this relationship. For him to doubt until his current stage, the relationship has become a sinking boat. Hold on to it and everybody drowns together. -
ya probably.. and seeing so many of such stories of others...it juz make u think y isit like that? l dun rant anymore or feel sad cuz l listen to the advice of everyone here and l slowly let go le...is like no point...l will be a fool to think back again...makin myself indivulge in saddness and depression, this lowers my image and confidence lvl onli..
But hor...l hav recover le..actually not ranting la..is just that l dun understand y sum girls like tat de...
Is like u treat them too gud...they tk for granted and u end up without a backbone or a guy with no charcater, with no style on ur own.. then wad u expect we guys do? Act fierce and scold u to make us got style and character?
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Is your post even geniuneOriginally posted by THG:actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?
You posted on 10 June that you saw her sms that she is telling her friend that she is 2 months pregnant with her ex-bf child -
Lai lai, let's do some cross references.Originally posted by elindra:Is your post even geniune
You posted on 10 June that you saw her sms that she is telling her friend that she is 2 months pregnant with her ex-bf child 
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http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=194462&page=0
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I dunno leh his post like not accurateOriginally posted by M©+square:Lai lai, let's do some cross references.
There is one post which he says that he is trying to kick his drug habit as he does not want to lose his high paying job
Then in another post he has his own business and argued with his partner about hiring a Malay as an accountant
So his gf should be 5 mths pregnant by now if we follow his first story but in the first story it's her ex's baby but right now he doesn't know... so which is which -
Come come, let's examine which is the real post and what is going on right now.
This thread abit draggy, so if possible. I want it to end also.
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Originally posted by THG:actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?
Relationship born out of love, dies unknowingly. As time has revealed; both of you have separate agenda - one that refuse to break up due to the fear of the repercussion and the other clinging onto a past love.
Eventually, it's not a matter of the questionable child; it's a matter of a soured love that deception has taken roots in. And deception will surely kill [Third Law of the Old World (CloUdiSm)]. Most of the people here have engaged a moralistic view of how this child should be treated, but when love is missing - everything else is a mistake. Your child, mine child, his child, nobody's child... all becomes mistakes, it doesn't matter.
When love is present, all becomes acceptance.
You can delay deception's effect, but it will get to the heart of the relationship and leech life out of it. Delaying is only delaying the inevitable - a intense break up will surely happen, when the right planetary trigger strikes. Both parties are like two suspicious state, anticipating each other's move and scheming ahead of one another.
What kind of relationship can one foresee out from such warring attitude?
Different people with different agendas, coming together for a same relationship - what rubbish.
Think about this; whether abortion or not - this relationship is a definite doom right from the beginning. And because this topic is strictly about the relationship, I will not discuss the ethics of abortion because (I repeat) ultimately, aborting or not will not save the relationship. The child cannot save their relationship and in fact, the child WILL become a playing chip in this triangular game of three.
binarynwitz suggested PI - but since you two ain't married, what's the use of the evidence presented by PI? It will STILL end the relationship, isn't it? In the end, it is still back to square one - An inevitable break up.
End it.
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Mc so am I being evil digging this inconsistency upOriginally posted by M©+square:Come come, let's examine which is the real post and what is going on right now.
This thread abit draggy, so if possible. I want it to end also.
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Couldn't help it coz when I was reading the story I thought it sounded familiar so I decided to do a search -
Yun, why now then come??
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Tmd... I type my essay liao then see this..Originally posted by M©+square:Come come, let's examine which is the real post and what is going on right now.
This thread abit draggy, so if possible. I want it to end also.
Evil Mod. YES! FOOOO!!!!~~
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:Tmd... I type my essay liao then see this..
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Originally posted by browniebaobao:Yun, why now then come?? Yunhaier quite busy ma...
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Detective Elindra, you've been empowered to conduct a detailed investigation on this thread and to find the truth.Originally posted by elindra:Mc so am I being evil digging this inconsistency up
Couldn't help it coz when I was reading the story I thought it sounded familiar so I decided to do a search The truth is Out there. *plays soundtrack* -
maybe u come later would be better hor?Originally posted by Yunhaier: Yunhaier quite busy ma...
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Originally posted by M©+square:Detective Elindra, you've been empowered to conduct a detailed investigation on this thread and to find the truth. The truth is Out there. *plays soundtrack* Mc
No need la
I mean if he says it is another gf then I have nothing to say lor
SOS keep repeating, either he is sibei suay or he is good at weaving tales.
Anyway Yun has spoken so case close -
Hmm...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Tmd... I type my essay liao then see this..
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i figured out it's another Ding Shanben's kind of thread.
didn't want to give too much attention.
Good essay though!
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Wah rao... my post become concluding statement.Originally posted by elindra: Mc
No need la
I mean if he says it is another gf then I have nothing to say lor
SOS keep repeating, either he is sibei suay or he is good at weaving tales.
Anyway Yun has spoken so case close
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Argh... DSB.... zzzzzOriginally posted by M©+square:Hmm...
i figured out it's another Ding Shanben's kind of thread.
didn't want to give too much attention.
Good essay though!
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