who will u choose?
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actually, if u are looking for a husband, of cos B is better. stable income,good to u,u like him, he likes u. perfect.Originally posted by silent_lamb:Mr A:
1. been together with him for 2 years, when he is broke, in NS, never left him in lurch before
2. been taking me for granted for these 2 years until i seriously wanted to breakup with him, seeing that he is changing in some ways. except for gambling. (can borrow money from me to gamble even when very broke)
3. in ALOT of financial problems
4. unstable income
5. o'level graduate
6. one thing for sure: his love for me will not change
then when i am being disillusioned abt mr A, Mr B appeared..
Mr B:
1. stable income with a car
2. ite grad
3. good to me too
Note: i am looking for a future husband.
Mr B loves me alot.. i like Mr B too but of cos i love Mr A much more after been thru so much with him.. but i jus feel tired abt worrying for money, his gambling habits.. everytime i get my pay or allowance, most of it goes to him.. im not a materialistic gurl but im jus tired of being broke.. but i still can't bear to let him go.. i have given my everything into this relationship with him..
who shld i choose? i am going crazy..
i think u hv actually decided wat to do, u onli wans some1 to support ur decision, rite? cos by leaving A, u will somehow feel nei4 jiu4(guilty) or du4 bu4 qi3 him. (hope i'm wrong)
since u already listed out SO many bad pts of A, i think the answer is very obvious. -
If your final decision should come to Mr. B, I hope you really give your all to be with Mr. B and STOP contacting A anymore. Lady, please, stop confusing the guy anymore. You are simply stringing two innocent parties along with your selfish acts. So much for liking Mr. B huh? Don't take men for granted ok? Do you like Mr. B because he treated you well while you still treat Mr. A as your real Lover? From what I can see, Mr. B treated you well and you feel guilty and he appeals as a good husband. But are you sure you love him? Do you want to cheat him of his feelings? Do be honest with yourself. Until you are sure you can drop Mr. A like nothing, don't hurt Mr. B in the heart.Originally posted by silent_lamb:Mr A:
1. been together with him for 2 years, when he is broke, in NS, never left him in lurch before
2. been taking me for granted for these 2 years until i seriously wanted to breakup with him, seeing that he is changing in some ways. except for gambling. (can borrow money from me to gamble even when very broke)
3. in ALOT of financial problems
4. unstable income
5. o'level graduate
6. one thing for sure: his love for me will not change
then when i am being disillusioned abt mr A, Mr B appeared..
Mr B:
1. stable income with a car
2. ite grad
3. good to me too
Note: i am looking for a future husband.
Mr B loves me alot.. i like Mr B too but of cos i love Mr A much more after been thru so much with him.. but i jus feel tired abt worrying for money, his gambling habits.. everytime i get my pay or allowance, most of it goes to him.. im not a materialistic gurl but im jus tired of being broke.. but i still can't bear to let him go.. i have given my everything into this relationship with him..
who shld i choose? i am going crazy..
Once you have chosen the red pill, there's no turning back. The red pill, being Mr. B. -
i said that becos he was there for me when i am sick..Originally posted by UandMe:ur one thing for sure is the thing that is the most difficult to be sure. Obvious choice, choose Mr B.
Anyway i'm quite puzzled why u can be sure that A's love for u will nv change.
To me, I can't see how he's even loving u now if he has been taking u for granted and gambling away ur money like nobody's business.
The thing a guy wouldn't want his love one to see most is how useless he is, yet A seemed to be just doing the damn thing happily. -
no i hadn't come up with a decision.. i hope i had and i hope i can..Originally posted by NoTimeToWaitAr:actually, if u are looking for a husband, of cos B is better. stable income,good to u,u like him, he likes u. perfect.
i think u hv actually decided wat to do, u onli wans some1 to support ur decision, rite? cos by leaving A, u will somehow feel nei4 jiu4(guilty) or du4 bu4 qi3 him. (hope i'm wrong)
since u already listed out SO many bad pts of A, i think the answer is very obvious. -
But not too high enough to drop A and go for B huh?Originally posted by silent_lamb:if i really mind, i would have left him long ago.. all along i have suitors, some are really rich.. why i wd consider B is becos i have feelings for him.. -
sick? i dun see how difficult it is to be there for someone if she's sick, whether i really loved her so much or not.Originally posted by silent_lamb:i said that becos he was there for me when i am sick..
anyway, that can't ensure that his love for u will NEVER change wat. -
why must stop contact?Originally posted by dokono:If your final decision should come to Mr. B, I hope you really give your all to be with Mr. B and STOP contacting A anymore. Lady, please, stop confusing the guy anymore. You are simply stringing two innocent parties along with your selfish acts. So much for liking Mr. B huh? Don't take men for granted ok? Do you like Mr. B because he treated you well while you still treat Mr. A as your real Lover? From what I can see, Mr. B treated you well and you feel guilty and he appeals as a good husband. But are you sure you love him? Do you want to cheat him of his feelings? Do be honest with yourself. Until you are sure you can drop Mr. A like nothing, don't hurt Mr. B in the heart.
Once you have chosen the red pill, there's no turning back. The red pill, being Mr. B.
Cannot be frens meh?
Is she selfish? I dun think so. -
Friends can but what's the point ? Assuming she chose B and get married with B and still contact A, isn't that going to hurt B's feelings? Imagine your husband contacting his old flame, won't you be hurt somehow? Once over, it's over. Ladies/Guys, the adventure is over.Originally posted by browniebaobao:why must stop contact?
Cannot be frens meh?
Is she selfish? I dun think so. -
continue to be fren if she still want to lend(without getting back) him money lor.Originally posted by browniebaobao:why must stop contact?
Cannot be frens meh?
Is she selfish? I dun think so. -
Originally posted by dokono:Friends can but what's the point ? Assuming she chose B and get married with B and still contact A, isn't that going to hurt B's feelings? Imagine your husband contacting his old flame, won't you be hurt somehow? Once over, it's over. Ladies/Guys, the adventure is over.
I beg to differ.
who dun want to be in contact with someone he/she ever loved?
Unless it ended very badly and left him/her scarred.
Understand that the past is past, if my hubby wana keep in contact with her, I cannot force him to cut off contacts with her. That's too selfish. I understand how it feels to cut off contacts with someone I loved deeply. I will also want to keep in contact with my first love until I die lor. -
Haha.. I can't change your mind but my point is once you are committed to someone you are married to, it's not responsible by trying to somehow rekindle the love. Im not saying you treat your first love like he did not exist anymore but trying to contact him because you love him is pure irresponsible.Originally posted by browniebaobao:
I beg to differ.
who dun want to be in contact with someone he/she ever loved?
Unless it ended very badly and left him/her scarred.
Understand that the past is past, if my hubby wana keep in contact with her, I cannot force him to cut off contacts with her. That's too selfish. I understand how it feels to cut off contacts with someone I loved deeply. I will also want to keep in contact with my first love until I die lor.
Just be honest with yourself. You are contacting him because you see him as a friend only? That's possible but I don't really see the point. It's kind of BS. It really defeats the purpose of marriage. Might as well stay single and wait for that first love to be single and get back together with him again... lol -
Aiyah, digressing from original topic already lah. Affairs of the heart are so subjective, we can give advices and opinions but what we say and feel cannot apply to everybody.
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neither.
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why?Originally posted by missqi:neither. -
Originally posted by dokono:Haha.. I can't change your mind but my point is once you are committed to someone you are married to, it's not responsible by trying to somehow rekindle the love. Im not saying you treat your first love like he did not exist anymore but trying to contact him because you love him is pure irresponsible.
Just be honest with yourself. You are contacting him because you see him as a friend only? That's possible but I don't really see the point. It's kind of BS. It really defeats the purpose of marriage. Might as well stay single and wait for that first love to be single and get back together with him again... lol
keeping in contact doesnt mean trying to rekindle the love.
why are u so narrow minded?
when u know that it's impossible to continue as lovers, why would u patch?
and when u know that love is impossible liao, y cant be frens? -
haha..i don't want to get too personal here...Originally posted by browniebaobao:
keeping in contact doesnt mean trying to rekindle the love.
why are u so narrow minded?
when u know that it's impossible to continue as lovers, why would u patch?
and when u know that love is impossible liao, y cant be frens?
I did not say become strangers. Ok, for arguments' sake, friends are just friends, nothing more. Same status as your good male friends. Is that what you are trying to say?
Maybe you just want to be friends but would your ex want to be just friends? Have you considered that? Especially when you are already attached to someone new? -
i think you've alreadymade your decision. if you truly love A more and you think he's for the future, you will not consider B.
Sadly this is not the case, you've already made B your priority for your future. sometimes you have be selfish in a relationship, you've given up all you could for A, if he doesnt want to change, there's nothing u can do but move on.
just make sure you do not glance back on A in the future if you really find happiness in B
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i think u need to observe B more before u make ur conclusion to be wif him. just imagine if B already ur partner, will he take for granted just like A did?
r/s cannot just look in short term just becos tis person is alway there when u in need.
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A ...like xiao bai lian lei like that..
how long u can provide for him...
B... do u mind the kid?
do u love his kid?
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sad but true ill go this 1..Originally posted by missqi:neither.
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none of the above... serious...
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i will choose B. for the sake of my future...
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Hmm.
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if u don't mind the son go for mr b
just dont expect him to see u as a mom
nor force it upon him cos i know suddenly stranger ask me to call them mom will be pissed off unless very rich ( i wish )
but yeah mr b is a sign for you is a very strong sign for you where u should know the ans
stop being deluded with mr a any more
GET IN CONTROL
stop the dreading being poor chapters and start new ones with mr b
you don't want your life story to be chapters filled with no money right -
First, A is immature. He doesn't know how to manage his finances and he gambles. God knows how long he will take to quit that habbit if you don't teach him a lesson by leaving him.
Second, B has a son. Does he have a wife? If he does, you might be breaking up his family, even though he shows lots of interest in you. And if he can break his marriage covenant with his wife, what makes you think he'll not break the one with you in future? If he doesn't have a wife, then might want to give him more time to know you better and for you to know him better too.