Have I done the wrong thing?
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Vonderful,
wanna tell ya a little about myself... I've been in a game addiction before.. DEEP ADDICTION. I tried to balance off my relationship and the game well, but regretfully to say... Often activities for the relationship would have to bite the dust just so that that game can work out simply because the game won't be able to accomodate for me....
After a while... It makes me realised that the game has no life but only one simple objective. To get me addicted and hooked to it. Some might say that 'giving entertainment' is also one of the game's objective. But I would rather say it's the game's MOTIVE. In order to achieve it's objective number 1, it provides for this objective number 2. Which really isn't it's interest at all. Do ya think it won't really care less if it can achieve '1' without '2'?
It's like on drugs once you're hooked. Once you slowly blends in. Especially once you're GOOD. But it's a CRUEL game IN and OUT of there... As it slowly eats off your time and life... Compete for ATTENTION from you AGAINST your LOVE ONE(S)... Even when you realise what it's doing to you, it's just difficult to get off the pills...
My girl asked me to teach her too, but I declined. I know what's happening to me and I don't wish to see the same happening to her... And since I was thinking that way, I thought to myself... This mustn't be good... The THING IS, one just have got to be HONEST with himself / herself... No point trying to paint a beautiful sky over a TORN sheet of paper....
Just like what you might think of your bf... I thought I could be real sweet to my gf if I wanna... I thought I could be real caring... But the POINT is, I WASN'T... And I had rather let our relationship take the beatings than the GAME itself... The SWEET... ALMOST INNOCENT LIKE POISON controlling over my mind....
That's when I told myself, GIVE ME MY LIFE BACK.
TODAY. I have LOST ALL my GAME STATUS. ALL of FANS. All the ENVY EYES. But I MUST SAY... I SERIOUSLY a MUCH HAPPIER PERSON THIS WAY....
"When the clock strikes twelve, who would be there for you....?"
PS. You might wanna let your bf read this while he still can?
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Time to change bf.
Plenty of guys out there who will appreciate you more than this self centered fellow you are with now -
Wah, even old bird say leave him.Originally posted by X-men:Time to change bf.
Plenty of guys out there who will appreciate you more than this self centered fellow you are with now
Gone case liao. -
Well, not everyone is self-sacrificing like Devil. If that is the case than it is all well and good but it just don't know how to express himself.
All the guys I know who game and not limited to my guild have this secret wish that their gf/wife plays the game. Alot of them got their gf/wife in the game because it gives them something to do together besides going out and they are happy with the arrangement. On the other hand there is a small minority whom I know personally who prefer to keep their gf/wife out of the game for various reasons. Some of them want someone to cook/clean/look after the baby and others with not-so-good intentions because "I cannot flirt freely with online female players if my gf is playing the game."
and some do actually have something else going outside besides keeping it in-game.
In Vonderful's case, her bf may be feeling guilty coz his gf actually bothered to try and by trying it adds to his guilt, or he is busy trying to hit lvl 60 and doesn't want to 'waste time' trying to teach her the ropes to the game itself.
My 2 cents. -
.Originally posted by M©+square:Yeah, and his story will be. 'She don't understand, what should i do' (Potential Thread title)
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my favourite reply of the dayOriginally posted by skeujin:yr bf is jus an immature unsensitive little prick tt doesnt appreciate you. next time he gets horny. tell him to go fook his hard drive.... -
very rare the mutant appear to say something leh!!!Originally posted by M©+square:Wah, even old bird say leave him. Gone case liao.
/me go buy 4d -
what's there to flirt? everyone's ugly and polygonal in the gameOriginally posted by elindra:"I cannot flirt freely with online female players if my gf is playing the game." and some do actually have something else going outside besides keeping it in-game. -
even fiona xie give up and go thailand liaoOriginally posted by X-men:Time to change bf.
Plenty of guys out there who will appreciate you more than this self centered fellow you are with now -
wah vonderful damn pro... posted today and get so many pages liao.. haha.. anyway... tell your bf...
tell him to wake up his idea... alrdy lost so much $$ to a darn car and now WoW.. omg... tell him its for kids... and tell him better show more attention to you b4 you go on shopping rampage...
hehe... like the red bull rampage.. instead of climbing hills.. you go shopping spree... hehe... buy all the Dopods and claim from him.. lol
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Von, you deserve better than this. Leave him and let him marry the game.
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So how did you react to that?
I hope you taught him that if he ever vents his fustrations on you over a game, there'll be hell to pay.
It's one thing to be a game addict, but another to lose temper and take it out on one's partner because of a game.
I think you're doing a good job being the nice girlfriend and fully encourage you to continue. But know where to draw the line and don't be afraid to be fierce with him. He's got to learn how far he can go. You can't give in all the time. Once he loses respect for you, it's hard to get it back. The soft method isn't the most effective way all the time when it comes to men.Originally posted by Vonderful:When i got home, (we stay together), I showed him the game excitedly & he suddenly flared up at me," I already told you that if you want to learn it because of me, and not coz you like it, then NO NEED." Then he just threw the game on the bed... -
You have not done the wrong thing. Naturally if u love a person, u would love or make urself love the things he likes too.
But I think he did not use the right words and tone ba. What he meant was that you need not force yourself to do something that you dun enjoy doing juz bcos of him. He loves you for being you.
When men are playing games or watching soccer, women seems invisible sometimes. If I were you, I will just let him play lor.. somemore, you two are staying together.. see each other everyday also sian ba? muz have some private space and time de mah.
Be glad that he's addicted to games and not another woman lor. -
Wah Dev... didn't noe you avid gamer and you chose to do something beneficial to you and yr gal. Kudos to you.
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Wow, first time i heard this.
If u really wanna get started on the game, i think u should start other simpler and easier games to master like dota? Where items and combinations to the games are least complicated as compared to WOW's..generalising.
Games like maple,dota things that involve casting spells, healing talking online.
I feel that u, not an avid gamer if to rush into WOW, would get pretty bruised quite badly at the start, so my advice is to try out other simpler games and master them first before hitting WOW.
As for ure bf's case, Keylog his com and hack his acc.
ahh// he'll then be too siian to continue liao. -
Once again! There is hope for sg gal! Gals like u are rare but not impossible to spot. I got a colleague who is also very wonderful and I also got a great gf.Originally posted by Vonderful:He is in fact a vey loving person inside, just that he can be quite MCP and insists of what he thinks is right. Very stubborn. And sometimes as much as I hate his lack of participation in what i like, i appreciate the fact that being homely is a virtue in some ways too... At least he is home playing games, not flirting around in clubs every night...
I choose to join him instead of forsaking him because of the game coz i think there's nothing wrong with gaming. When you get so addicted to something, there must be a reason. Your interest is there. Men are little boys inside, so no point snatching his toys from him and have him say," Mummy is a BAD mummy!!! I hate Mummy!!!" I'd rather sit beside him and learn about what you can do with the toys together...
But apparently, this little boy would rather play alone while mummy stays in kitchen and cook... Like," Mummy, don't touch my toys, you don't know how to play one la, and my friends are waiting for me inside, i can't teach you now........... are my french fries ready?"
Overall, he is still a very great person within...
Just like any gamers, addiction is not by choice...
And like any girls, complaining is not by choice too!!!
I feel so good pouring things out here, at least i won't bottle everything inside and end up picking a fight with him...
You guys are really sweet people!!!
Sometimes,I see so many complain abt their r/s and usually is the result of bad quality of their partner. Then they all start to complain there is no good gal in sg. LOL!!!
I will say their critieria for a gf is too easy and low. Don complain if u make the choice. Some even more lame,like the gal cos she is very chio. Totally disregard the character side. Serve u all right for having bad r/s.. And serve u right for not using yr brain. -
hacking a/c works when mine was hack i was too sianz to continueOriginally posted by gLc:Wow, first time i heard this.
ahh// he'll then be too siian to continue liao. -
The truth is. If, ANY. I meant ANY . Girl would do such a thing. Any guy would be happy enough to dieOriginally posted by Vonderful:I am really confused here. I am not sure if my bf is being mean or I am really what he claimed but i just didn't realise..
As some of you here know, my bf is addicted to WoW, and he commits all his free time to the game. I am sickened by it, but came to terms that an addiction is an addiction, you can't expect to pull a man out of his addiction w/o pissing him off...
And i admit that I complained a lot when he spends everyday on his games and he always say he has no freedom to even play games...
I felt that all these arguments are uncalled for since this might just be a passing phase in our relationship... So to better situation, i decided to join him by learning how to play the game. But he gets impatient when i ask him questions about the games...
Then Elindra from this forum offered to teach me and so i went to get the game today, hoping to learn the basics from her then join him in the game so at least we would have some common topics in daily life, and who knows it might bring us closer...
When i got home, (we stay together), I showed him the game excitedly & he suddenly flared up at me," I already told you that if you want to learn it because of me, and not coz you like it, then NO NEED." Then he just threw the game on the bed...
Have i done the wrong thing? Would guys feel pissed off when you think your gf is pretending to like something? I admit i don't like games, coz i always die after 3 mins in every game, no matter what games... but i was hoping that i would like it once i know how to play... Of coz i might not like it ultimately, but i just wanted to try & find out...
Don't know la... Wierd... I'm fine, just puzzled... Coz sometimes you think you've done a darn great thing when in fact, it was a stupid thing to do. Just want to hear from you guys your opinions... You know, you need people to tell you when you are wrong, if not, you forever think you are right one... I want to hear some guys' point of view...
Thanks Peepz...
From what i see, He's far too much . Why?
Dude, if my girl were to join me in the activities i liked, Just because of me. I'll cry myself to death.
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Originally posted by NewAge:hacking a/c works when mine was hack i was too sianz to continue Hack acc...what happen if her bf decide to start all over again.
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Buy a couple of empty cds and try throwing them a-la frisbee style..aim for his head (the forehead) and hope it knocks some sense into his head...when this is all over.. hes gonna think back and realise wat a prick he had being...Originally posted by Vonderful:Haha.. thank goodness he's not there yet.. smashing keyboards.... I notice that he gets irritated or distracted when i talk to him during games so now i don't ka jiao him coz i know he can't hear me... Haha...
Now i am trying to live live as if i were living alone... Just do my own things and treat it as he's not home... And sometimes i get as busy as him when i am posting here...
JUst got to tide this over, everything would be fine... Hope his server gets down on alternate days... *** Pray...***
envy your bf for what u are willing to go through because of him..but seeing that he's addicted to Wow.. watever you do now especially just to get him to forcus his attention onto you when he's playing is gonna make matter worse..
yes.. trying to join his game wasn;t a good idea.. but it wasn;t a bad idea as well, in most cases it does work u know..? but look like it didn;t work in your case.. -
he's totally unappreciative, unfeeling, and screwed up.
i cant believe you're actually contemplating the fact that u did something wrong.
just like he is addicted to WoW, you are addicted to him. break off the addiction before it brings u pain in the future. -
Zzz... dump him go look for other guys liao lah. Still go on. Ur guy's a jerk.Originally posted by Vonderful:Haha... He'd rather kill himself than learn knitting i believe... Anyway he has a job, but it's sales so his time is flexible... Good thing is he still knows how to wake up & go work tough his boss doesn't check on his timings...
I did tell him that i am rather hurt by him coz here i am trying to enter his world to get closer to him, and there he is throwing me a wet blanket... & I asked him if he had ever made an effort to like the things i like... He just said," when you knew me, i am like that already..."
I think to him, there's no pointing in trying too hard to please someone by being someone you are not... But to me, i didn't play games to please him, i wanted to mend the potholes...
And also, the things i like to do doesn't affect him much, like I don't do them till i neglect him to bits, so he doesn't really get what i am trying to get across to him... -
yeah i agreeOriginally posted by Quinsy:Zzz... dump him go look for other guys liao lah. Still go on. Ur guy's a jerk. -
money spend on WOW........i rather go eat swensen with my gf.....althought its better to play wow and power lvl my char.....but a game char is still onli a game char.....u cannot bring it out and show it to others......how i will there is a second ger like u................OH MY.....WHERE IS THE BALANCE IN LIFE
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it depends on the addiction.Originally posted by browniebaobao:You have not done the wrong thing. Naturally if u love a person, u would love or make urself love the things he likes too.
But I think he did not use the right words and tone ba. What he meant was that you need not force yourself to do something that you dun enjoy doing juz bcos of him. He loves you for being you.
When men are playing games or watching soccer, women seems invisible sometimes. If I were you, I will just let him play lor.. somemore, you two are staying together.. see each other everyday also sian ba? muz have some private space and time de mah.
Be glad that he's addicted to games and not another woman lor.
if he's a chocolate addict, fine. crab addict, ok.
but this game addiction is getting too far. i would say its making the relationship almost one sided. doesn't make a difference if he was addicted to another women anyway.