I Can't Get Over Her ???
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Wah? Yr ex-gf must be dammed chio!! Btw,a counseller take panadol and try to stand in middle of road and commit sucide? That is very pathetic. Don tarnish the counseller reputation le? Plus,i think yr very young age is also one of the reason u r immature in yr thinking. NSF only? If u think u cannot handle it,Give it up! Uhhh.. I mean yr post ,not life huh!Originally posted by tankh80:The fact is i am a counseller but i know her outside one of my friends actually introduce me to her but i find out about her problems myself...
She had a very bad past having being raped by 2 guys b4 1 is now in prison serving time and the other flee the country. I know what she is going thru right now and also she had 19 other boyfriends b4 me... the first 5 of them broke her heart since then she had a very bad perspective about men from what i can see, hear and gather she is like taking revenge on men and herself she won't listen to anyone not even her parents who time and again advice to get her back onto the right path but she just won't even give a damn...
During out times together I know that she is willing to change for me she try to quit glue for good by cutting down and spending a lot of time concentrating on other things i noticed that she is slowly changing for the better and among things she is like leaving her group of friends for good...
But after about 3 months she went back to her bad habits, i guess a leopard can never change its spots by then she was going out with this other guy when i was overseas training for abt 2 months..... This guy is like a typical ah beng, in lim chu kang camp..... i really dunno why my girlfriend would go with him just like that.....
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u must be very brave to commit suicide, i see the world ard, so many ppl struggling to keep themselves alive...
maybe she just felt she dunwan to drag you down...
+ i thought a counsellor is not supposed to ermz...
side track: i heard from most religion that commiting suicide is the worst sin, am i correct?
meaning you will suffer the worst in hell..etc... never be born as human again? -
On the contary, living takes more courage. It is very easy to die.Originally posted by ejb:u must be very brave to commit suicide, i see the world ard, so many ppl struggling to keep themselves alive...
maybe she just felt she dunwan to drag you down...
+ i thought a counsellor is not supposed to ermz...
side track: i heard from most religion that commiting suicide is the worst sin, am i correct?
meaning you will suffer the worst in hell..etc... never be born as human again?
I think you need to get your priority in life sorted out. Perhaps, learn to love and take care of yourself first, before you love another. -
Threadstarter: the reason your gf left you is because one main reason. You are not man enough for her. You are not the man for her. The guy who got her is a source of strength in some ways for her. That strength attracts her.
We are all on your side.
Listen, when you want to commit suicide, just think: how many innocent babies are being aborted right now all because they can't choose if they want to live in this world.
You, on the other hand, has the right and the choice to live. Cherish your life cos you only have one. Don't take your matters so seriously and anyone so seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself and move on. There are still so many things to explore and do in this beautiful world. -
Originally posted by M©+square:Yunnie, he just missed your post.
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/pat pat hug hugs.Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Nehmind. Me reads enoughs ler.
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The thing is like i really cannot forget her lor... right now i even failed my driving test for the 6 time really dunno what to do about it sometimes i really wan to bang my vehicle onto a tree and died..... but it is like she thinks that she is not fit for me..... what can i do to make her come back to me...
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Do you admit that you're deluded?Originally posted by tankh80:The thing is like i really cannot forget her lor... right now i even failed my driving test for the 6 time really dunno what to do about it sometimes i really wan to bang my vehicle onto a tree and died..... but it is like she thinks that she is not fit for me..... what can i do to make her come back to me... -
One will only believe what he chooses to believe.Originally posted by M©+square:Do you admit that you're deluded?
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If he knows he's deluded. It's a first step to recovery.Originally posted by vgal:One will only believe what he chooses to believe.
He doesn't. He continue the road to self destruction.
Yes, you've pointed what the truth of human nature.
We all are driven by what we believe. Yet this strength could potentially become the weapon against us.
Cheers
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He is probably too deluded to realise that he is deludedOriginally posted by M©+square:If he knows he's deluded. It's a first step to recovery.
He doesn't. He continue the road to self destruction.
Yes, you've pointed what the truth of human nature.
We all are driven by what we believe. Yet this strength could potentially become the weapon against us.
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Yeah... read enough to know that he skipped my post.Originally posted by M©+square:/pat pat hug hugs.
Nehmind. Me reads enoughs ler. 
Cheers -
Just wanna say that whether girl or guy.. its the same... once they decide they want to end the r/s.. no use trying to get back together one. And whats the point right if they don't love you anymore...
When I was 21 and my bf dumped me... I also went through a sucidal state... 10 years later... i now know how silly i was. For you, at this point in time you must be feeling very desperate and that life has no meaning anymore.. but you must just TAHAN and continue to live. Time will heal all wounds. Even if you don't meet any one new, after a while you will find that life is more bearable. You sound like u have alot of friends who care for you. Talk to them more and hang out with them. You will survive this...
You wanna try getting back tog can go ahead. If get back together, good for you that u can accept her despite some of her bad habits. But you must also accept that you may not be tog forever... and u may have to go through this again if u break up next tiem..
If cannot get back tog... move on with your life. You are so young the world is out there for u. You will definitely meet other pp and may even have a few more r/s before you find the girl you are going to marry. -
The fact is that she thinks that she is not good enough for me that's why she ended this relationship, but for me i am even prepared to married her means that i am pretty about this le but she just dun wan to continue really hope that she will change her mind soon... and come back to me again...
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Tell her that u will never be happy without her then. kneel in front of her house 49 days to prove yr sincerity.Originally posted by tankh80:The fact is that she thinks that she is not good enough for me that's why she ended this relationship, but for me i am even prepared to married her means that i am pretty about this le but she just dun wan to continue really hope that she will change her mind soon... and come back to me again... -
I know I'm gonna be slammed for saying this but I feel that I should say it anyway....
I FEEL LIKE SLAPPING U, U KNOW!?
*ahem* back to topic....
pls leh, we know that it's hard to get over a broken relationship lah. In fact everyone knows. I believe u urself knows that, but just chose not to at this very moment. Times doesn't heal everyhing, but it will for most things. Finish ur NS 1st then talk later. U're still young lo, there's a long road ahead of u.
Suicide is a very very selfish thought. Suicide is just a form of escape for yourself. Yes, death can bring an end to YOUR problem. But ur death will only create more probs for those living. Ever thought abt the ones u love and those who love u? If u think the girl still likes u, what will happen to her if u die? And if she doesn't love u anymore, will she even be bothered? Like someone mentioned above, it will only cause her more guilt. And it is true, when a girl makes up her mind on something, NOTHING can ever change her mind. Not even ur death. Cherish ur life k?
I've lost 2 of my frens for the past 6-7 years. 1 thru traffic accident, the other thru suicide. The parents of the one who suicided still haven't really come to terms with his death until today. Do u want ur parents to be the same?...
Althought it's your life, but it doesn't only concern you. Think about everyone ard u. Take care lah~ -
The Facts is that although she doesn't said it i know in her heart i still have some places inside of it..... it is like she only have a sec 2 quailification while i have Nitec but all this doesn't matter what matters most is we must underatsnd each other than can liao...
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Is she your first girlfriend?
If so I can see why it's so difficult to let go. But there isn't much you can do. She's happy with another lad, and won't return to you. Keep yourself occupied with other activities and avoid her for at least 6 months (after reporting her to the authorities).
You may think it's not right, but let them take care of it, okay? You're not Superman. If she's not going to listen to you anymore, your efforts will be in vain, and the problem will simply drag on.
Eventually you won't feel any pain when you look back. Now move on. -
For now, i would see it as a case of obsession.
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Perhaps should just let him rant a little?Originally posted by M©+square:For now, i would see it as a case of obsession. -
Testing... 1,2,3... ~waves fanatically~Originally posted by tankh80:The Facts is that although she doesn't said it i know in her heart i still have some places inside of it..... it is like she only have a sec 2 quailification while i have Nitec but all this doesn't matter what matters most is we must underatsnd each other than can liao...
Are you there...? -
Yeah, for 3 whole page.Originally posted by Devil1976:Perhaps should just let him rant a little? -
hey man... i tell u what the life that is given to u not because u own it but given to u to have ownership dun throw it away.
my frend's frend broke up with his girlfriend who have been together for 10 years and he commit suicide by jumping off the building he stayed. My frend who treasure friendship attend his funeral seeing his mother cried terribly seriously terribly, i wish that u can figure ur thoughts out or best be in the scene of seeing ur own mother crying.
that girl u love, if u really love her, u dun have to own her or be with her but wish her the best for her life or help her out..... dun let ur feelings affect the actions of ur daily life
and start making the first small step which is the decision to let her go in ur own heart. This can only be done by yourself and nobody can help u in it.
come on move on with ur life, if u dun stuck at this state u cant even help her out -
PROMOTE 'ACTIVITY'! GOOD WHAT!!Originally posted by M©+square:Yeah, for 3 whole page. -
ur situation is as sticky as glue. But I trust you have good intentions & have since done everything you possibly can to turn her around but to no avail.
With ur good nature, someone more deserving could be waiting for you instead so don't feel remorseful about what has happened ok