When u were 15..
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Omg, i totally agree with you!Originally posted by Quinsy:That's true. But sometimes parents just expect that since they pay for everything, you belong to them, you are their property and therefore is OBLIGED to do as tey want you to.
I dont know, at this point in time, i just wanna do things my way, i hate the feeling of how i envy my frens, whereas i have to go home. That feeling sux, the envious and jealousy feeling. -
Growing pains
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Dota wcg cannot lah, i still suck at dota actually..Originally posted by shade343:Instead of keeping your dad in the dark about those CS prize money, you shld be telling him about it and show him all the prizes you won. In this manner, you not only prove that you have got skill, you can also dispel any doubts he has on your ability. and if you can take part in wcg and win something.
And if you manage to acheive all these while still passing all your subjects, you can also prove to him that you are a good all rounder. And tell him that employers in future are looking to hire ppl who are all rounders and not just good at studying.
lol but anyway.. i failed half my subjects currently.. lol.. So much for being an all rounder, I consider myself full time gamer, part time student! -
no, the motivation to study should not be your desire for freedom. (imo la) it should be towards an ambition or dream you have, a future career, lifestyle or position in life.Originally posted by gLc:I always thought that given the freedom, I would study hard.
Would u believe in that?
but it really depends on individual, there is no real right or wrong in this world. your parents believe in this formulae, so they simply follow it, believing its for your good. the intentions are there, and its respectable.
i always had to freedom to study or not to, so i won't understand the other side of the coin. -
And yea, I know his character, instead of encouraging, he would SEE and ENFORCE that my daily training sessions would turn into STUDY sessions.. which is something i dont want. Although I hate to keep it from him.
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Bring the house key lah....duh.Originally posted by gLc:Yea, and when i get locked out of my hse i go ure hse stay? -
orh...Originally posted by Rejected:sec 3 la ito.
i went out quite often, didn't noe wus a curfew is.
but i like never went out too late either. -
ok. So what are you waiting for? Just run away from home!Originally posted by gLc:Omg, i totally agree with you!
I dont know, at this point in time, i just wanna do things my way, i hate the feeling of how i envy my frens, whereas i have to go home. That feeling sux, the envious and jealousy feeling. And when you get rape by strangers beside the drain, you would so wished that you listen to your dad. -
Yes, i cant agree more with you. But at this age, the desire for freedom can really lead me to killing my own studies. The envy of others, of how other teens my age can go where they want. It kills.Originally posted by Ito_^:no, the motivation to study should not be your desire for freedom. (imo la) it should be towards an ambition or dream you have, a future career, lifestyle or position in life.
but it really depends on individual, there is no real right or wrong in this world. your parents believe in this formulae, so they simply follow it, believing its for your good. the intentions are there, and its respectable.
i always had to freedom to study or not to, so i won't understand the other side of the coin. -
Originally posted by shade343:ok. So what are you waiting for? Just run away from home! And when you get rape by strangers beside the drain, you would so wished that you listen to your dad. raped by drunk bangala and we're here happily posting on sgforums.
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Thats why you need to convince your mum and dad to trust you in doing what you want and at the same time acheiving their objectives.Originally posted by Quinsy:That's true. But sometimes parents just expect that since they pay for everything, you belong to them, you are their property and therefore is OBLIGED to do as tey want you to. -
When I was 14+ I was forced to stay in a 5m by 5m by 6m cage.Originally posted by gLc:Yes, i cant agree more with you. But at this age, the desire for freedom can really lead me to killing my own studies. The envy of others, of how other teens my age can go where they want. It kills.
I could only go out for 1 hr of walk every week. -
No.. my dad has got extra locks, in which i dont have the keys to unlock them.Originally posted by shade343:Bring the house key lah....duh.
My bro used to say he had lived in tyranny last time when he was young.. Like how my dad would throw him out of the car at the tender age of 7 to walk in to school by himself..
You guys know when ure in Pri1, all the parents would walk their son right up to classroom, even standing outside to make sure their son is alright before leaving.. But this wasnt the case with my bro. Personal statements and eyewitnesses by my mum and bro to prove this. What sort of dad I have. But then again, he has improved much over the years and mellowed from his behaviour, but still.. he thinks he has a monarchy rule whereby he happy den put u to death, if not keep u alive, or just locked up//
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ya thanks so much hor..Originally posted by Ito_^: raped by drunk bangala and we're here happily posting on sgforums.
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Your dad sounds abit like my dad. He was rather strict with since young, but I have always believed that whatever my dad does is in my best interest. I think your dad probably thinks the same way too.Originally posted by gLc:No.. my dad has got extra locks, in which i dont have the keys to unlock them.
My bro used to say he had lived in tyranny last time when he was young.. Like how my dad would throw him out of the car at the tender age of 7 to walk in to school by himself..
You guys know when ure in Pri1, all the parents would walk their son right up to classroom, even standing outside to make sure their son is alright before leaving.. But this wasnt the case with my bro. Personal statements and eyewitnesses by my mum and bro to prove this. What sort of dad I have. But then again, he has improved much over the years and mellowed from his behaviour, but still.. he thinks he has a monarchy rule whereby he happy den put u to death, if not keep u alive, or just locked up//
hmm...why not ask your mum speak to your dad about how you feel? Or organise a family council and discuss how you feel in an open manner? -
I have to applaud u if u can think that way ( what ever my dad does is in my best interest ).Originally posted by shade343:Your dad sounds abit like my dad. He was rather strict with since young, but I have always believed that whatever my dad does is in my best interest. I think your dad probably thinks the same way too.
hmm...why not ask your mum speak to your dad about how you feel? Or organise a family council and discuss how you feel in an open manner?
I cant seem to, the more I think of it, the more my hatred for him grows.
My mum doesnt dare to talk to my dad much, much afraid of getting scolded, cuz he always say, " When Im looking after my son, YOU dont interfere. ", say dis sort of things to my mum. My dad already thinks hes king and im his prisoner.. To be able to decide my whole fucking life in his opinion. -
I feel my hse isnt a house, more like a place to go to sleep and to play com.
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OMG. MY MUM IS LIKE YOUR DAD. And she DOESN have an extra lock which I do not have the keys to too!Originally posted by gLc:No.. my dad has got extra locks, in which i dont have the keys to unlock them.
My bro used to say he had lived in tyranny last time when he was young.. Like how my dad would throw him out of the car at the tender age of 7 to walk in to school by himself..
You guys know when ure in Pri1, all the parents would walk their son right up to classroom, even standing outside to make sure their son is alright before leaving.. But this wasnt the case with my bro. Personal statements and eyewitnesses by my mum and bro to prove this. What sort of dad I have. But then again, he has improved much over the years and mellowed from his behaviour, but still.. he thinks he has a monarchy rule whereby he happy den put u to death, if not keep u alive, or just locked up// -
I concur. A place to sleep, play com, feel caged.Originally posted by gLc:I feel my hse isnt a house, more like a place to go to sleep and to play com.
wth. -
-_-u how come become parent bashing thread liao.
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You know what I did? I rebelled and stayed out more often then they would like. Till early ams even. But I didn't play. Although I dressed like I was. I went to the library/friend's house/bf house to study instead.Originally posted by gLc:Yes, i cant agree more with you. But at this age, the desire for freedom can really lead me to killing my own studies. The envy of others, of how other teens my age can go where they want. It kills. -
dont complain lah....at least they let you out
parents may be strict or whatever, but at they end of they day, they still love you and want the best lah.
they are humans. and so obviously will never be perfect and they also have their quirks and bad habits and whatnot...
and just in case you wanna know, i wasnt allowed to go out with my friends or anything even when i was 18 -
Cuz we happen to be in the same plight.Originally posted by Ito_^:-_-u how come become parent bashing thread liao. -
and what did they do when u return home? No beating? scolding?Originally posted by Quinsy:You know what I did? I rebelled and stayed out more often then they would like. Till early ams even. But I didn't play. Although I dressed like I was. I went to the library/friend's house/bf house to study instead. -
They did. But I just heck care them lor. And everytime when they check my bag they cant find anything but books so...Originally posted by gLc:and what did they do when u return home? No beating? scolding?