SomeOne Help Me - Just break up with my bf

• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:07

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  for starters, why call yourself "uglypig" ?
  
  don't think like that..
  
  now that things have reached this stage, cry, mourn, wail, grief... then try your damnest to move on..
  
  do the things you were doing by yourself before he came along.. go out with friends, do stuff.. try to keep your mind off the whole thing...
  
  after a while, you will find that time does wear away the jagged edges of the hurt, and it becomes bearable...
  
  and after more time, you will look upon this time as a memory and a lesson, a milestone in life...
  
  most suffer multiple heartbreaks before they find someone for good...
  
  i'm no exception, and i'm middle-aged, and still looking...
  
  so keep up your spirits, i hope you will be well sooner rather than later, yah?

  I called myself uglypig, because he always say i ugly and look like a pig. I not those pretty girl lah, that why call myself ugly pig. I want to do alot of things just to make myself busy so that i will not think of him, but it is so hard as weekends, all my friend need to accompany their bf. No one is there for me, is not i do not want to go out, just that no one accompany me. Every weekend, stay at home, i will start thinking of him. It is so hard. Hai.
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:14

  Originally posted by blu_sky:

  If a man can get tired of you so easily, that means he is juz not meant to be. Better to break up now, than to divorce if he gets tired of you already after you got married rite?
  
  Chin up, gal. You're still young. Sure can find someone who treasures you!

  Yes, i am still young. but i want to get married at a younger age. hope the next guy will treasure me and not to hurt me again.
• Bontakun

  31 Oct 06, 10:15

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  I called myself uglypig, because he always say i ugly and look like a pig. I not those pretty girl lah, that why call myself ugly pig. I want to do alot of things just to make myself busy so that i will not think of him, but it is so hard as weekends, all my friend need to accompany their bf. No one is there for me, is not i do not want to go out, just that no one accompany me. Every weekend, stay at home, i will start thinking of him. It is so hard. Hai.

  I assume you are not on close terms with your parents or siblings (should you have 1 or 2) and ALL of your friends have boyfriends? What about those whom you seldom contact? Got ask them out for a drink and chit chat?
• LoveBeaR

  31 Oct 06, 10:18

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  I called myself uglypig, because he always say i ugly and look like a pig. I not those pretty girl lah, that why call myself ugly pig. I want to do alot of things just to make myself busy so that i will not think of him, but it is so hard as weekends, all my friend need to accompany their bf. No one is there for me, is not i do not want to go out, just that no one accompany me. Every weekend, stay at home, i will start thinking of him. It is so hard. Hai.

  If he always say you are ugly and look like a pig, then he is not worth your love... How can he say you (as his gf) are ugly and look like a pig?? If he loves you, why must he say you ugly and call u pig.... Maybe u say u are not those pretty gals, but beauty is from inner not outer... outer will not last forever... But inner like kind, love, care will last forever and ever..
  
  Try to go out with friends whom they no need to accompany or have no bf de... I am sure that not all ur friends have bf, right? you can get them to accompany you... Maybe some of ur friends have bf, but maybe weekends, they could still meet u to go out with u with u really need them...
• dragg

  31 Oct 06, 10:19

  he smsed you to initiate the breakup. he did not even bother to tell you in person. that shows he has no respect for you.
  
  he sms you on a working day. thats shows he did not even bother about your feelings.
  
  forget about him. its not easy but you have no choice.
  
  
• smudgey

  31 Oct 06, 10:22

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  I called myself uglypig, because he always say i ugly and look like a pig. I not those pretty girl lah, that why call myself ugly pig. I want to do alot of things just to make myself busy so that i will not think of him, but it is so hard as weekends, all my friend need to accompany their bf. No one is there for me, is not i do not want to go out, just that no one accompany me. Every weekend, stay at home, i will start thinking of him. It is so hard. Hai.

  For that reason alone, I thank God that you are no longer with him.
  
  I believe that in any relationship, our partners must never put the other down by saying such things to each other. even in anger. you are so much better off without that A$$hole!!!!
  
  pls know that you are special and beautiful in your own way, we all are. and some day some one will see the beauty in you. pls do not put yourself down.
  
  A friend once told me. The major diff between me and all those beautiful gals out there is one word "confidence" when you are confident and not self concious, you will look amazing (btw, i'm not great beauty myself, but i believe i have my charms)
  
  Every morning look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. as for friends being busy, I'm sure your friends will spare some time with you when they know you need them, do not be ashame to ask for help. that's what friends are for.
  
  if not you can always make new friends... take up a course, if u like drawing, photography, dancing, anything. go join something and make new friends.
  
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:31

  Originally posted by dragg:

  he smsed you to initiate the breakup. he did not even bother to tell you in person. that shows he has no respect for you.
  
  he sms you on a working day. thats shows he did not even bother about your feelings.
  
  forget about him. its not easy but you have no choice.
  
  

  on that day, i wanted to call him ask why want to break up. He say he dun have the face to talk to me. I cry like hell. Talk on phone also dun dare. What is this sia. Maybe he only want to get rid of me asap so dun even care about my feeling at all.sad
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:37

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  I assume you are not on close terms with your parents or siblings (should you have 1 or 2) and ALL of your friends have boyfriends? What about those whom you seldom contact? Got ask them out for a drink and chit chat?

  haha, no lah. I very closed to my parent and my sister one. My sister now taking O-level so i dun want her to pei wo. But when i need her, she still willing to go out with me. haha. not all my friend got bf, but they also have their other friends. I dun like to go out with friends one, i only go out with best friends. Those seldom contact already, they would not bother me one lah. Sian....
• smudgey

  31 Oct 06, 10:41

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  haha, no lah. I very closed to my parent and my sister one. My sister now taking O-level so i dun want her to pei wo. But when i need her, she still willing to go out with me. haha. not all my friend got bf, but they also have their other friends. I dun like to go out with friends one, i only go out with best friends. Those seldom contact already, they would not bother me one lah. Sian....

  why do you say that?
  
  I got good friends that seldom meet, but when anyone of us have probs, we will be there....
  
  don't have so little faith in them, just call them.
  
  you don't like to go out with friends? you should... sometimes the ppl u think you may not get along that well with may turn out to be your new best friend...
  
  you are only 21, don't limit your friends now... go out make new friends
• Bontakun

  31 Oct 06, 10:42

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  haha, no lah. I very closed to my parent and my sister one. My sister now taking O-level so i dun want her to pei wo. But when i need her, she still willing to go out with me. haha. not all my friend got bf, but they also have their other friends. I dun like to go out with friends one, i only go out with best friends. Those seldom contact already, they would not bother me one lah. Sian....

  Wah... liddat limit you relationship growth with friends leh. Hmm... how about exercising? Swimming, running, cycling, blading, or walking. Or read books in library? Free air con.
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:44

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  For that reason alone, I thank God that you are no longer with him.
  
  I believe that in any relationship, our partners must never put the other down by saying such things to each other. even in anger. you are so much better off without that A$$hole!!!!
  
  pls know that you are special and beautiful in your own way, we all are. and some day some one will see the beauty in you. pls do not put yourself down.
  
  A friend once told me. The major diff between me and all those beautiful gals out there is one word "confidence" when you are confident and not self concious, you will look amazing (btw, i'm not great beauty myself, but i believe i have my charms)
  
  Every morning look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. as for friends being busy, I'm sure your friends will spare some time with you when they know you need them, do not be ashame to ask for help. that's what friends are for.
  
  if not you can always make new friends... take up a course, if u like drawing, photography, dancing, anything. go join something and make new friends.
  

  Heehee, although he say i fat, ugly but he treat me very good loh. Just that it changes so suddenly. Hai. When i tell myself i am pretty, but when i think that guys only look at the appearance of a girl then i no more confident liao. Most guy only find beautiful girl, look at the out look and not the inner beauty. My friends told me i have inner beauty just that i dun know how to doll up myself ba. Haha. i only like to watch tv, listen to 933 that all. Now thinking how to make new friends. HEEHEE. Maybe you all are my new friends.
• dokono

  31 Oct 06, 10:45

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  Cannot turn back the time already. hope my pain can be heal asap. really very hard. it really hurt me alot. CRY..

  I know it's hard.
  
  I know it hurts.
  
  That is life.
  
  At least you know the result sooner than later, rather than he telling you on the day of your marriage and he says "I have no more feelings for you."
  
  There are tonnes of good Singapore males here.
  
  Just as good girls are hard to find, good guys are also hard to find as well.
  
  Just wait and the right guy will appear soon.
  
  doko
• mhcampboy

  31 Oct 06, 10:46

  Wow.. this is very sad.
  
  Ok la, on the positive side, maybe he does have feelings for you still. You have been together for more than 3 years now. Its a shame and a lie if that guy do not love you anymore. In my heart, i strongly believe he still loves you.
  
  Why did he break up with you then if you may ask? simple, he found a new gal. Its typical for someone to break up easily when they got a new partner. This is the case for your ex. But trust me, when he is alone, he will still think about you and remember all the good times you both had. im sure you do not want him to forget you right? well, in short, im sure he wont.
  
  But of course, i also have to say, is this the kind of guy you want? someone who call you names and break up with you over a new gal? trust me when i say this. When he has problems with that gal, the first thing he would do is to call you.
  
  do you want a guy who takes you for granted? human nature is like that. they tend to overlook the diamond in his life for something which he thinks is much more worth outside.
  
  so, think about it. 3 years is a long time. you can still wait and try to salvage the relationship cos i believe his love to u is still there.
  
  but are you prepared to be hurt over and over again in the future? or be hurt now and in the future u can think back and laugh about it?
  
  
  
  be strong...
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:47

  Originally posted by smudgey:

  why do you say that?
  
  I got good friends that seldom meet, but when anyone of us have probs, we will be there....
  
  don't have so little faith in them, just call them.

  I got contact those lost time nv contact friends, but they like nothing to talk with me. So i only managed to find some good friends only. To me, have some good friends is enough liao, not need to have so many one. Best friend very hard to find one. I already have my best friends beside me already.
• LoveBeaR

  31 Oct 06, 10:52

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  I got contact those lost time nv contact friends, but they like nothing to talk with me. So i only managed to find some good friends only. To me, have some good friends is enough liao, not need to have so many one. Best friend very hard to find one. I already have my best friends beside me already.

  Best friends are hard to find... Glad that you have found ur best friends.. I believe that your best friend will always be with you when u need their accompany de... Must treasure best friends... Dun let them slip away...
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:52

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  Wah... liddat limit you relationship growth with friends leh. Hmm... how about exercising? Swimming, running, cycling, blading, or walking. Or read books in library? Free air con.

  Haha, exercising also at home. now i on diet. then i will go to swimming after i slim down abit ba , too fat go swimming, ppl see will vomit.
  
  cycling and blading must find friend to go one loh. Alone so boring.
• smudgey

  31 Oct 06, 10:53

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  When i tell myself i am pretty, but when i think that guys only look at the appearance of a girl then i no more confident liao. Most guy only find beautiful girl, look at the out look and not the inner beauty. My friends told me i have inner beauty just that i dun know how to doll up myself ba. Haha. i only like to watch tv, listen to 933 that all.

  Hey hey hey, i used to think that too... but when u think about it, do you really wanna associate yourself with those shallow ppl who only go for looks?
  
  and as your friends already said, you have beauty, you just need to learn to doll up and bring the beauty out (all women need a little help to bring out the beauty) so take up a course in make up (i've been meaning to do that) and experiment!!
  
  

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  HEEHEE. Maybe you all are my new friends.

  sure thing, but... i have to warn you, making friends online can be a wonderfull experience but it can be very dangerous too. so take wat ppl online say with a pinch of salt. do not believe them wholeheartedly (that includes me too, you can never be too carefull). i'm not saying that the ppl here are out to get you, just be carefull.
• Bontakun

  31 Oct 06, 10:54

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  Haha, exercising also at home. now i on diet. then i will go to swimming after i slim down abit ba , too fat go swimming, ppl see will vomit.
  
  cycling and blading must find friend to go one loh. Alone so boring.

  Haha ok. But can still cycle or blade alone. Dats wat I do when I free.
• smudgey

  31 Oct 06, 10:56

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  I got contact those lost time nv contact friends, but they like nothing to talk with me. So i only managed to find some good friends only. To me, have some good friends is enough liao, not need to have so many one. Best friend very hard to find one. I already have my best friends beside me already.

  i agree.
  
  i'm just saying if you do not spend time going out with new friends... you may miss out on future best/good friends.
  
  I was surprise how many of my so called 'hi-bye' friends were there for me when i needed company... and then they became my good friends...
  
  
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 10:56

  Originally posted by dokono:

  I know it's hard.
  
  I know it hurts.
  
  That is life.
  
  At least you know the result sooner than later, rather than he telling you on the day of your marriage and he says "I have no more feelings for you."
  
  There are tonnes of good Singapore males here.
  
  Just as good girls are hard to find, good guys are also hard to find as well.
  
  Just wait and the right guy will appear soon.
  
  doko

  Life is so miserable loh. Hai why should i be the one to suffer.
  
  Singapore all the good guys has been snatched by all the girls liao. Haha, so hard to find loh. Are you one of the nice guy?
• Bontakun

  31 Oct 06, 10:57

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  Life is so miserable loh. Hai why should i be the one to suffer.
  
  Singapore all the good guys has been snatched by all the girls liao. Haha, so hard to find loh. Are you one of the nice guy?

  
  
  No I am not.
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 11:01

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  Haha ok. But can still cycle or blade alone. Dats wat I do when I free.

  Huh. go alone, not boring meh? ask me alone lah. haha
• JuanRomanRiquelme

  31 Oct 06, 11:02

  Originally posted by uglypig:

  Life is so miserable loh. Hai why should i be the one to suffer.
  
  Singapore all the good guys has been snatched by all the girls liao. Haha, so hard to find loh. Are you one of the nice guy?

  I am one of the nice guys! LOL! But i am not in singapore
  
  Anyway...there are many guys out there too...just forget about your ex and since he is such a jerk...one black sheep does not represent the entire population.
  
  All da best!
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 11:03

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  
  
  No I am not.

  Haha, faint. Another bad guy sia.
• uglypig

  31 Oct 06, 11:05

  Originally posted by JuanRomanRiquelme:

  I am one of the nice guys! LOL! But i am not in singapore
  
  Anyway...there are many guys out there too...just forget about your ex and since he is such a jerk...one black sheep does not represent the entire population.
  
  All da best!

  Haha, aiyo, too bad you are not in singapore. Singapore nice guy all dun know gone where liao loh. Haha. Just hope that still got good guy waiting for me ba.