SomeOne Help Me - Just break up with my bf
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yeah... right..
go to the Jive Pad and make yourself known.. that's all it takes, we're a friendly bunch..
i'm going for lunch now
Originally posted by smudgey:heeheehee.... oooo... i'm so tempted!!!
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hmmm... what's the jive pad??Originally posted by the Bear:yeah... right..
go to the Jive Pad and make yourself known.. that's all it takes, we're a friendly bunch..
i'm going for lunch now
have a good lunch!
what do u think prettypig? wanna try? -
Blade haven't started. Cycle mah... from IMH area to Punggol or Seng Kang side den back.Originally posted by smudgey:eh eh hougang ah... me around there too....
where u go to blade/cycle?
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If I start, think I cannot end man...Originally posted by Bontakun:Wah Bedok. I sure peng san...
Bad mah... I am biased, think too much, emotional, MCP, dull at times, weird, act cute, bombastic, childish, too chim at times, yet too simple at other times, can shoot without think twice or thrice, etc, etc.
Da rest have to get others in da Forum to carry on listing down how bad I am.
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Wah... so many har? sae sae leh.Originally posted by Devil1976:If I start, think I cannot end man... -
haha, dun think i want to try ba. hahaOriginally posted by smudgey:hmmm... what's the jive pad??
have a good lunch!
what do u think prettypig? wanna try? -
exactlyOriginally posted by missqi:The trick is.........
To get married before he tires of you.
harder to break up lor -
Hey TS (topic starter) mai tu liao!!!!Originally posted by dokono:Where got snatched?
Some of the girls dumped the good guys.
Im not a nice guy but a perfect one..
joking.
doko
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sounds fun....Originally posted by Bontakun:Blade haven't started. Cycle mah... from IMH area to Punggol or Seng Kang side den back.
but i can't get my darn bicycle down from my store room
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ya lor... better start running in opp direction!!!Originally posted by Yunhaier:Hey TS (topic starter) mai tu liao!!!!
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hahaha joking too -
Originally posted by uglypig:Hi everyone,
SOrry that my english not that good, hope everyone willing to read my story. Although it is just a normal story.
On 4 Oct 2006, my bf (now is my ex bf) msg me in the morning say he want to break up with me, he say our thinking is different. I do not what he suddenly say our thinking is different. When he msg me, i really do not know what to do. I cry when i was working. Luckily boss not around or else i dun know how to face him. Cry so loudly, heart so pain. Together with him for 3 years 7 months and 12 days, then he say our thinking is different. What shit is this. Anyone can tell me. Why why why??? why it happen to me? He is my first love, i love him so deeply, give him whatever he want. But in the end, i get what is return. He just left me like that. Only give me one reason which is thinking different. F**K
Now still thinking of him, but no use. He say we only can be friends, cannot patch back anymore. Cry Cry. No use liao. No matter how much tears i drop, he also dun even bother to care about me anymore. Last sat, i think of him so msg him, asked him what he doing. He say he going to sleep liao, just finish doing duty. I asked him whether he got new gf liao ma? He reply say got, sleeping now. I cried, he say sleeping now. Just know the girl for one week already is gf and sleeping together. Why. Why he can changed his heart so fast. Forget about our 3 years relationship in a short time. Do i mean nothing to him, am i just a tool to him, play finished then say break up. I know he break up with me because of a girl. Maybe he tired to see me anymore. Sad cry.. want to die.....
I and him seldom quarrel one, why suddenly say changed then changed. WHY?
Why a relationship will just end like this? Why a guy can change so fast? Did they ever care about how the girl will feel? Do they know they hurt the girl heart? Why guys give up on one relationship so easily? Why guys can start another relationship so fast?
Anybody can help me? I feeling like dying..........
Thank you
People don't change overnight; it just that people change without your knowledge over the time. It may felt like a sudden quake, but behind that disaster lingers some old time-cumulative frustration and dissatisfaction. Having little quarrel doesn't always mean that the relationship is promising - it may suggest a harmonious relationship, but can we always take it at face value and presume that all is well... or perhaps we are deluded that all is well?
It gets very questionable when partners make unconstructive remarks like 'you are damn ugly' kind of statement because it really wonders what he actually feels inside of him (it would be a little different if he actually give constructive advices like how to go about doing it). I recalled an old theory in CloUdiSm - about this phenomenon of human going after the lesser, in search for the better, because there wasn't any other (Riding the donkey while searching for the horse). And your man seemed to fit perfectly in this description for at that period of time when he was chasing you (it's applicable as well if you are doing the chasing instead), it is likely that you are the only candidate and he probably accepted it because there wasn't any other better choices.
Of course, he has tried loving you in the process, which give the relationship a longer lifespan, but it died with an encounter of a third party, which you probably never even knew about her existence until the relationship is pronounce dead.
Love don't change, just that expectation changes with time, as needs not satisfied breeds frustration.
For the benefit of a relationship, it is paramount to have life outside the life of your relationship - having to forsake everyone else (and probably limits that to best friend/s and boyfriend) is doing the relationship more harm than good. Man gets tired much more easily having a woman constantly lingering onto them for accompaniment and woman receive a harder punch trying to recover their fall after losing their relationship.
Somehow, it seemed to me that you have a complacent nature - you are easily satisfied and prefer to maintain status quo than having to initiate action/s to work on what's lacking, both in yourself and probably the relationship. I mean if the break up was so unexpected and contradict the reality in your fairyland you have been believing all these while, there should be more hidden closet not known or spoken to you - about him, his love and the relationship.
Take this time off to explore your potentials. Everyone has the power to change the 'not so pleasant' aspect of their life. If I was you, I would channel this previous relationship into energy to reform myself.
You may begin your first step by changing your nick. If you cannot even convince yourself that you have the prerogative to a better relationship... for somebody better to appreciate you, you will probably repeat history. Your nick degrades your esteem and you will appear to people how your esteem appears to you.
Lastly, don't always pray for a good man... a good relationship to befall on you, trust me you don't want to know how foolish that sort of thinking is.
Don't take chance - always take calculated risk. Empower your life by making resolution to evolve yourself.
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Halo, your english too pro that i hardly can understand what you mean. But what you say is quite true lah. i can easily satisfied and prefer to maintain status. Haha. what nick should i change. hahaOriginally posted by Yunhaier: People don't change overnight; it just that people change without your knowledge over the time. It may felt like a sudden quake, but behind that disaster lingers some old time-cumulative frustration and dissatisfaction. Having little quarrel doesn't always mean that the relationship is promising - it may suggest a harmonious relationship, but can we always take it at face value and presume that all is well... or perhaps we are deluded that all is well?
It gets very questionable when partners make unconstructive remarks like 'you are damn ugly' kind of statement because it really wonders what he actually feels inside of him (it would be a little different if he actually give constructive advices like how to go about doing it). I recalled an old theory in CloUdiSm - about this phenomenon of human going after the lesser, in search for the better, because there wasn't any other (Riding the donkey while searching for the horse). And your man seemed to fit perfectly in this description for at that period of time when he was chasing you (it's applicable as well if you are doing the chasing instead), it is likely that you are the only candidate and he probably accepted it because there wasn't any other better choices.
Of course, he has tried loving you in the process, which give the relationship a longer lifespan, but it died with an encounter of a third party, which you probably never even knew about her existence until the relationship is pronounce dead.
Love don't change, just that expectation changes with time, as needs not satisfied breeds frustration.
For the benefit of a relationship, it is paramount to have life outside the life of your relationship - having to forsake everyone else (and probably limits that to best friend/s and boyfriend) is doing the relationship more harm than good. Man gets tired much more easily having a woman constantly lingering onto them for accompaniment and woman receive a harder punch trying to recover their fall after losing their relationship.
Somehow, it seemed to me that you have a complacent nature - you are easily satisfied and prefer to maintain status quo than having to initiate action/s to work on what's lacking, both in yourself and probably the relationship. I mean if the break up was so unexpected and contradict the reality in your fairyland you have been believing all these while, there should be more hidden closet not known or spoken to you - about him, his love and the relationship.
Take this time off to explore your potentials. Everyone has the power to change the 'not so pleasant' aspect of their life. If I was you, I would channel this previous relationship into energy to reform myself.
You may begin your first step by changing your nick. If you cannot even convince yourself that you have the prerogative to a better relationship... for somebody better to appreciate you, you will probably repeat history. Your nick degrades your esteem and you will appear to people how your esteem appears to you.
Lastly, don't always pray for a good man... a good relationship to befall on you, trust me you don't want to know how foolish that sort of thinking is.
Don't take chance - always take calculated risk. Empower your life by making resolution to evolve yourself.
Cheers -
anything is great as long as it doesn't put u down.Originally posted by uglypig:Halo, your english too pro that i hardly can understand what you mean. But what you say is quite true lah. i can easily satisfied and prefer to maintain status. Haha. what nick should i change. haha -
Ms hisoka??Originally posted by uglypig:Halo, your english too pro that i hardly can understand what you mean. But what you say is quite true lah. i can easily satisfied and prefer to maintain status. Haha. what nick should i change. haha
anyway get over that guy, the relationship prob wasn't a good one anyway. look forward to the next one
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hmm...i remember last time my ex broke up with me, and 3 days later he got attached to another girl oledi...
Dat time, I was really heartbroken, and I even attempted to kill myself...but luckily with the help of my friends (both in real life and those I have made over here), I managed to come back to my senses and let go of the past...Maybe I can let you know what I did last time to make me happy again...
Went out to buy sunflower for myself (somehow the flower cheered me up, dunno why...)
Kept myself busy, went out with friends for coffee and have a good talk with them (that time I realized the importance of having friends around me) and so touched that they told me they would always be there for me. Even tho now I have kinda lost contact with them because of distance, but really grateful they were there for me dat time...
Talked with the forumites here...they were the ones who talked to me when I was about to cut myself (yes, that was the extent of my stupidity) and asked me not to do it, asked me to get someone to be with me in my room that time...and thanks to all the advices, I am still alive now...
Open your heart again...I think if I keep staying in my past, I would not be together with my dear now...
Remember that everything happens for a reason...Maybe the ending of this relationship signal a new beginning...
Hope you will get over this soon...I did it and I believe you can as well -
have been wondering, but too shy to ask this, what is CloUdiSm?Originally posted by Yunhaier:It gets very questionable when partners make unconstructive remarks like 'you are damn ugly' kind of statement because it really wonders what he actually feels inside of him (it would be a little different if he actually give constructive advices like how to go about doing it). I recalled an old theory in CloUdiSm - about this phenomenon of human going after the lesser, in search for the better, because there wasn't any other (Riding the donkey while searching for the horse). And your man seemed to fit perfectly in this description for at that period of time when he was chasing you (it's applicable as well if you are doing the chasing instead), it is likely that you are the only candidate and he probably accepted it because there wasn't any other better choices.
Cheers -
Originally posted by uglypig:Halo, your english too pro that i hardly can understand what you mean. But what you say is quite true lah. i can easily satisfied and prefer to maintain status. Haha. what nick should i change. haha Don't understand meh? *scratch head*
Nick up to you la. Don't think you wanna me to choose for you, right?
Something positive or at least neutral?
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i broke off with my ex, 8 mths later he announced he was getting married. 2 days before ROM still asked me what it would have been if we had not broken upOriginally posted by rainee:hmm...i remember last time my ex broke up with me, and 3 days later he got attached to another girl oledi...
Dat time, I was really heartbroken, and I even attempted to kill myself...but luckily with the help of my friends (both in real life and those I have made over here), I managed to come back to my senses and let go of the past...Maybe I can let you know what I did last time to make me happy again...
Went out to buy sunflower for myself (somehow the flower cheered me up, dunno why...)
Kept myself busy, went out with friends for coffee and have a good talk with them (that time I realized the importance of having friends around me) and so touched that they told me they would always be there for me. Even tho now I have kinda lost contact with them because of distance, but really grateful they were there for me dat time...
Talked with the forumites here...they were the ones who talked to me when I was about to cut myself (yes, that was the extent of my stupidity) and asked me not to do it, asked me to get someone to be with me in my room that time...and thanks to all the advices, I am still alive now...
Open your heart again...I think if I keep staying in my past, I would not be together with my dear now...
Remember that everything happens for a reason...Maybe the ending of this relationship signal a new beginning...
Hope you will get over this soon...I did it and I believe you can as well -
My book of relationship, with stuff written when I was younger and still updating it.Originally posted by blu_sky:have been wondering, but too shy to ask this, what is CloUdiSm?
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Originally posted by blu_sky:i broke off with my ex, 8 mths later he announced he is getting married. 2 days before ROM still ask me what if it would have been if we had not broken up WTF!
/me pat pat
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Wow! wee woo wee!Originally posted by Yunhaier:My book of relationship, with stuff written when I was younger and still updating it.
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why don't you tell him let find out, then get married with him then divorce him to earn some money?Originally posted by blu_sky:i broke off with my ex, 8 mths later he announced he is getting married. 2 days before ROM still ask me what if it would have been if we had not broken up -
Will publish it someday. So must do some branding first. HAHAHA!Originally posted by blu_sky:Wow! wee woo wee!
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i heard another record breaking story last week when i was out with the gals.Originally posted by Yunhaier: WTF!
/me pat pat
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They were together for 1.5 years. Bf supposed to meet gf for her friend's birthday celebration. 1/2 hour before meeting, he texted her "i already have another gf. Lets break up."
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Chey! do i need to do that? ;pOriginally posted by hisoka:why don't you tell him let find out, then get married with him then divorce him to earn some money?
On a more serious note, being a divorcee (female), one's target market will be shifted or downsized.
Anyway, you were sayin, find out wat?