Am i thinking too much?
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That is not what he meant specifically.Originally posted by pocari_sweat:That what mac joes seems to say. I guess you must be pretty rich or at least a rich man daughter. Are you?
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well bee , i think it boils down to whether you trust him or not, can you accept his reasons for not answering your calls
If you can come to forum and ask for viewpoints i do think you are trying to either reinforce your trust in him by getting positive viewpoints or
find reasons to not to trust him by negative viewpoints. Trust or not its really your own personal judgment
But from a guy perspective, we too can get pissed off too if the girl get upset all the time over minor things. Dont forget, dumping somebody is not a single party privilege. Both parties are entitled to it.
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Is it sex? Then what is the reason girl?Originally posted by bee_gal:That is not what he meant specifically.
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i do trust him until these perpetually unanswered calls which happened since almost 3 weeks ago. i was making noise cos i had huge problems and need someone to confide in, but he never answer the call until 3-4 hours later (returned call in the middle of the night at 1am). I was very upset by both my problem and being unable to reach him, I made noise. Since then, i began to take note that never once was my call answered in the past 2 1/2 weeksOriginally posted by Space1999:well bee , i think it boils down to whether you trust him or not, can you accept his reasons for not answering your calls
If you can come to forum and ask for viewpoints i do think you are trying to either reinforce your trust in him by getting positive viewpoints or
find reasons to not to trust him by negative viewpoints. Trust or not its really your own personal judgment
But from a guy perspective, we too can get pissed off too if the girl get upset all the time over minor things. Dont forget, dumping somebody is not a single party privilege. Both parties are entitled to it.
take care.
Yes, im writing here to seek viewpoints. Also an avenue to vent my doubts and frustration. I do not want to trouble him with all these. Thus he rarely hear me complain until it is too much for me to take. So, i am not so worried about being dumped actually.
will you be pissed if you forever missed your gf's call and she is upset after the 6-7th consecutive times? Even when times when she is troubled and seriously need to talk to you (she understand that you cant be around despite that it is trouble time for her too), she was never able to reach you. would you be pissed if she is upset?
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he is juz warning about it in general, nothing specific. it could be money, feelings or sex.Originally posted by pocari_sweat:Is it sex? Then what is the reason girl? -
so you dont really care if he dumps you?sorry i dont quite get that remark. seems to shows you dont really worry if this relationship crash or fly, either way you are fine?Originally posted by bee_gal:i do trust him until these perpetually unanswered calls which happened since almost 3 weeks ago. i was making noise cos i had huge problems and need someone to confide in, but he never answer the call until 3-4 hours later (in the middle of the night). I made noise. Since then, i began to take note that never once was my call answered in the past 2 1/2 weeks
Yes, im writing here to seek viewpoints. Also an avenue to vent my doubts and frustration. I do not want to trouble him with all these. Thus he rarely hear me complain until it is too much for me to take. So, i am not so worried about being dumped actually.
will you be pissed if you forever missed your gf's call and she is upset after the 6-7th consecutive times? Even when times when she is troubled and seriously need to talk to you (she understand that you cant be around despite that it is trouble time for her too), she was never able to reach you. would you be pissed if she is upset?
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i think she meant she have not complain to him yet, just to usOriginally posted by Space1999:so you dont really care if he dumps you?sorry i dont quite get that remark. seems to shows you dont really worry if this relationship crash or fly, either way you are fine?
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Of course i want it to work. But if i had done my part, ie when he couldnt visit me because of work, and he had to leave immediately and fly home during a date, and all these time, i had been understanding and caring. Though disappointed of course, i didnt show a tweeny bit of displeasure. In fact, i was being concerned about the situation he is in.Originally posted by Space1999:so you dont really care if he dumps you?sorry i dont quite get that remark. seems to shows you dont really worry if this relationship crash or fly, either way you are fine?
The only time i was unhappy was when he is unreachable despite i was in trouble and needed him, and the perpetually unanswered calls.
I think i have been understanding enough, it is his part that he needs to fulfill, by just being reachable, and not to miss every single of my calls perpetually.
Is that too much to ask for?
Since i think i have done my part, if he wants to dump me, there is nothing i wish to say. That is what i meant by that sentence. -
Yes....Originally posted by pocari_sweat:i think she meant she have not complain to him yet, just to us -
IMO you should just tell him whatever you feel, even if you end up quarrelling so be it! No point bottling up all your emotions so much; you try to be the considerate girlfriend or to appear less needy but it gets you nowhere.
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just tell him that. you know , we men are busy to find food for womanOriginally posted by bee_gal:Of course i want it to work. But if i had done my part, ie when he couldnt visit me because of work, and he had to leave immediately and fly home during a date, and all these time, i had been understanding and caring. Though disappointed of course, i didnt show a tweeny bit of displeasure. In fact, i was being concerned about the situation he is in.
The only time i was unhappy was when he is unreachable despite i was in trouble and needed him, and the perpetually unanswered calls.
I think i have been understanding enough, it is his part that he needs to fulfill, by just being reachable, and not to miss every single of my calls perpetually.Is that too much to ask for?
Since i think i have done my part, if he wants to dump me, there is nothing i wish to say. That is what i meant by that sentence. -
talk to him , its a very small matter. If you are unhappy over this all the time the feeling will be infectious, and it will be a big matter.Originally posted by bee_gal:Yes....
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I told him that on tuesday night. Missed call again on wednesday night. Fed up. So i missed all his calls when he called me later.
I do not know if i am doing the right thing, but i was really angry and do not wish to talk to him. Otherwise, it will definitely be a quarrel. -
Say already also no use. So dun talk, wont get infectious.Originally posted by pocari_sweat:talk to him , its a very small matter. If you are unhappy over this all the time the feeling will be infectious, and it will be a big matter.
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then he will post on the forum citing the same problem, vicious circleOriginally posted by bee_gal:Say already also no use. So dun talk to him, wont get infectious.
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see , its already infectious.Originally posted by bee_gal:I told him that on tuesday night. Missed call again on wednesday night. Fed up. So i missed all his calls when he called me later.
I do not know if i am doing the right thing, but i was really angry and do not wish to talk to him. Otherwise, it will definitely be a quarrel.
anyway just curious, isnt it expensive flying in everyweekend? -
Honestly, i am really fed up. I do not know how to talk to him and yet not sounding fedup and thereby getting into another fight.Originally posted by Space1999:then he will post on the forum citing the same problem, vicious circle
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air asia?Originally posted by pocari_sweat:see , its already infectious.
anyway just curious, isnt it expensive flying in everyweekend? -
Ya, and not to forget accomodation (ie hotel).Originally posted by pocari_sweat:see , its already infectious.
anyway just curious, isnt it expensive flying in everyweekend? -
SQ. Comfort is important to us.Originally posted by Space1999:air asia? -
Fighting is good. Constructive fighting. At least both of you lay all your cards out on the table. If you're not happy after fighting, then break up from there ! Better than keeping it all in and then heart not happy but refuse to show it etcetcOriginally posted by bee_gal:Honestly, i am really fed up. I do not know how to talk to him and yet not sounding fedup and thereby getting into another fight.
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are you in love with him?or its just courtship or simple bf/gf rs?is it deep yet?
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Really? he so stress and busy, still want to fight with him?Originally posted by choco B:Fighting is good. Constructive fighting. At least both of you lay all your cards out on the table. If you're not happy after fighting, then break up from there ! Better than keeping it all in and then heart not happy but refuse to show it etcetc
He is saying by next year it will be fine, but i do not know if it is true. Also, i do not know how much longer can i bottle these.
Bear with it -> very unhappy (see, you see me complaining here everyday)
Fight with him -> dont want to stress him too.
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Do you fight with him? Does he fights back and quarrel with you to stress on his points?Originally posted by bee_gal:Honestly, i am really fed up. I do not know how to talk to him and yet not sounding fedup and thereby getting into another fight.
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It is just the beginning, not too deep, but deep enough to try to be try to bear with one issue after another, one week after another.Originally posted by Space1999:are you in love with him?or its just courtship or simple bf/gf rs?is it deep yet?
you are suggesting i pull the plug?