Am i thinking too much?

• Space1999

  15 Dec 06, 10:56

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  Words words and words. Words are cheap.
  
  I am so tired of hearing words.

  then pull the plug
  
• rainee

  15 Dec 06, 10:57

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  Words words and words. Words are cheap.
  
  I am so tired of hearing words.

  He has already taken action to assure you, at least you must show that you appreciate him for doing that...guys dun work too well when they try to show you that they appreciate you and then you reply with more complaints...
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 10:57

  Originally posted by rainee:

  lolz dun tink he will be able to concentrate
  
  and he has already sent u two long emails to assure you, wat more do you want?

  And you think that i can concentrate for the past days when i was feeling so insecured?
• Space1999

  15 Dec 06, 10:58

  Originally posted by rainee:

  lolz dun tink he will be able to concentrate
  
  and he has already sent u two long emails to assure you, wat more do you want?

  Obviously she is the "victim" here, she demands justice!
• rainee

  15 Dec 06, 10:59

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  And you think that i can concentrate for the past days when i was feeling so insecured?

  look, i think you are not suitable to be in this kinda r/s...you want someone who can always be there for you, someone you can meet up with maybe every evening, someone who will always be there to pick up your call. This guy seems like someone who puts his work and family first before his r/s with you...that's why I said this is a problem caused by different expectations and personality...
• Space1999

  15 Dec 06, 11:00

  Originally posted by rainee:

  He has already taken action to assure you, at least you must show that you appreciate him for doing that...guys dun work too well when they try to show you that they appreciate you and then you reply with more complaints...

  she even rejected his proof of his work. so i dont think she cares much about the work situation.
  she wants him to be there for her 24/7. i think this relationship is doomed.
  if i was her i tell him now end the pain for both parties.
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:01

  Originally posted by rainee:

  He has already taken action to assure you, at least you must show that you appreciate him for doing that...guys dun work too well when they try to show you that they appreciate you and then you reply with more complaints...

  Businessmen... pep talks...
  
  i am not complaining. I am offering a temporary solution to our misery.
• pocari_sweat

  15 Dec 06, 11:03

  I think if the complaints go on this way and the expectation continue to be like this , if she dont end it the guy will get tired of it. So dont be surprised if he send you a text starting like
  "i cant take it anymore"
  But i guess you dont really care since its not so deep isnt it?
• pocari_sweat

  15 Dec 06, 11:05

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  Businessmen... pep talks...
  
  i am not complaining. I am offering a temporary solution to our misery.

  your email is almost the same as mum telling her kids
  'go go to play but dont be surprised if im not home when you come back!'
  bet his mind is so tormented right now
  tell him what you want .
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:05

  rather than talk talk talk and more talks, dont you think it is good, that since he is busy over the weekend, he can concentrate on his work? while i use this weekend to go manage my own emotions?
• pocari_sweat

  15 Dec 06, 11:07

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  rather than talk talk talk and more talks, dont you think it is good, that since he is busy over the weekend, he can concentrate on his work? while i use this weekend to go manage my own emotions?

  What his answer?
• rainee

  15 Dec 06, 11:07

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  Businessmen... pep talks...
  
  i am not complaining. I am offering a temporary solution to our misery.

  hmm r/s is all abt compromise yea? You cannot want things your way all the time...he has other stuff to do as well besides catering to your needs...esp since his sis is sick and his work makes him busy..
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:07

  Originally posted by pocari_sweat:

  your email is almost the same as mum telling her kids
  'go go to play but dont be surprised if im not home when you come back!'
  bet his mind is so tormented right now
  tell him what you want .

  That is what i want.
  
  Since he is busy on the weekend, he go concentrate on his work, me on my life, and meanwhile i sort out my feelings. And we talk on monday. I am sick of living under the shadow of insecurity.
  
  Which part is hard to comprehend?
• rainee

  15 Dec 06, 11:08

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  rather than talk talk talk and more talks, dont you think it is good, that since he is busy over the weekend, he can concentrate on his work? while i use this weekend to go manage my own emotions?

  but lets put urself in his shoes, if you receive this kinda email from him, do you think you can concentrate on your work?
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:09

  Originally posted by rainee:

  hmm r/s is all abt compromise yea? You cannot want things your way all the time...he has other stuff to do as well besides catering to your needs...esp since his sis is sick and his work makes him busy..

  rainee, then what should be done? he is busy over the weekend anyway. So the natural way out is he concentrate his work and i use this weekend to sort out my feelings and find my own programs.
  
  Whats wrong with it?
• Space1999

  15 Dec 06, 11:09

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  That is what i want.
  
  Since he is busy on the weekend, he go concentrate on his work, me on my life, and meanwhile i sort out my feelings. And we talk on monday. I am sick of living under the shadow of insecurity.
  
  Which part is hard to comprehend?

  shadow of insecurity?if you cannot cope now - i dont think you can cope later.
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:10

  Originally posted by Space1999:

  shadow of insecurity?if you cannot cope now - i dont think you can cope later.

  Honestly, i never said i can cope a LDR. I cant. he knows.
• rainee

  15 Dec 06, 11:13

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  rainee, then what should be done? he is busy over the weekend anyway. So the natural way out is he concentrate his work and i use this weekend to sort out my feelings and find my own programs.
  
  Whats wrong with it?

  well, this action is already done wif and nothing else can be done...
  
  but next time, if you still want this r/s to continue, since you only want to talk to him on monday and he has important stuff to do on the weekends, then maybe dun send out this kinda email. Instead say sth like, you appreciate receiving his email, and just go and do your work first since it is more important. And it has been a long time since we has a nice dinner together, so shall we have one on Monday?
  
  Then during the dinner on Monday, bring up the issue. Dun need to mention it before the weekend that you want to talk abt this thing.
• Space1999

  15 Dec 06, 11:14

  Originally posted by rainee:

  but lets put urself in his shoes, if you receive this kinda email from him, do you think you can concentrate on your work?

  to me it reads: you go and do your stupid work and dont talk to me till monday!im too angry now.
  
• pocari_sweat

  15 Dec 06, 11:18

  Quick question
  will you be angry if?
  1. He totally dont calls you or msg/txt/email you till monday?
  
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:18

  Originally posted by rainee:

  well, this action is already done wif and nothing else can be done...
  
  but next time, if you still want this r/s to continue, since you only want to talk to him on monday and he has important stuff to do on the weekends, then maybe dun send out this kinda email. Instead say sth like, you appreciate receiving his email, and just go and do your work first since it is more important. And it has been a long time since we has a nice dinner together, so shall we have one on Monday?
  
  Then during the dinner on Monday, bring up the issue. Dun need to mention it before the weekend that you want to talk abt this thing.

  Do you realise that if he is not meeting me on this weekend, that doesnt mean he is still not meeting me on monday or tuesday? the next time is probably the following weekend? This is the 3 weekend of the month, 2nd weekend he is not coming here. And the only one weekend he was here was ended abruptly.
  
  What you want me to think?
• pocari_sweat

  15 Dec 06, 11:19

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  Do you realise that if he is not meeting me on this weekend, that doesnt mean he is still not meeting me on monday or tuesday? the next time is probably the following weekend? This is the 3 weekend of the month, 2nd weekend he is not coming here. And the only one weekend he was here was ended abruptly.
  
  What you want me to think?

  he is not meeting you for christmas?
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:20

  Originally posted by Space1999:

  to me it reads: you go and do your stupid work and dont talk to me till monday!im too angry now.
  

  LOL! i will not say things like 'stupid' work. Work is important to me too.
  
  Basically, i think it is better for me not to talk to him for a while. i can clear my feelings and thoughts. Good for him too, cos he can clear his work.
  
  Meanwhile, i go get myself occupied with things that i enjoy doing.
  
  What is wrong?
• rainee

  15 Dec 06, 11:22

  Originally posted by bee_gal:

  Do you realise that if he is not meeting me on this weekend, that doesnt mean he is still not meeting me on monday or tuesday? the next time is probably the following weekend? This is the 3 weekend of the month, 2nd weekend he is not coming here. And the only one weekend he was here was ended abruptly.
  
  What you want me to think?

  
  
  can ask nicely ma, and he mite meet you on Monday. And if he says he is busy with his work, can say that he still needs to eat dinner and try to coax him to eat together with you.
  
  Think if you suffer so much for not meeting each other and he is not willing to spend more time with you, better end this r/s before it gets worse and bring you more suffering wor
• bee_gal

  15 Dec 06, 11:22

  Originally posted by pocari_sweat:

  Quick question
  will you be angry if?
  1. He totally dont calls you or msg/txt/email you till monday?
  

  No. We had done this before during our courtship. We ever 'declared' not talkin for 2 days.