Cant Forget
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You know what you want, but do you know what you can't get?Originally posted by mitgalant:how will u all say i am confused? I all along know what i really wan mah.
i gt drop lots of hints to the girl that i nt interested. cos i duno how to reject ppl. its like first time.
Or even if you get.. Would you know what you get is probably not what you wanted in the 1st place
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And you said you're not a sub? Then you tell me what you are?Originally posted by mitgalant:i really duno what to do. i tried what i can already. No avail.
its like she told me, only when somethin happened between she and the guy, or else she wont be comin back to me, cos its not fair to him. DUH.
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Tell me again you're not confused?Originally posted by mitgalant:what u mean by want spank?
i dun wanna be like her. i already drop lots of hints to her le.
whereas on my ex gf side, she is sort of like givin me some hints here and there. which i dun really get it. sometimes the hints is we can be together, whereas sometimes, the hint is we cant be together. i am confused by her.
i think if given the choice, she sure take both cos both gt gd points. but yet i only wan me to be in her life. thats all.
PS: she goin to a short trip with the guy le. i know somethin sure happen there one. how? what can i do? dun mind wearin old shoes or wat. cos i really love her too deep. -
Even if she goes back to you, you'll still be you... And she has already told you your problems... Ultimately it's still not likely that she'll learn to accept you whole-heartedly.Originally posted by mitgalant:i mean i will be willin to forgive any mistakes she made. cos i believe everyone make mistakes ba?
i wont carry the luggage all these la. but i really dun think she is such person. how to make her not to be confused now? really hurtful to see her and the guy so close and i cant do anythin but juz envy. and the guy, i think he is very smart. he knows how to play with words. whereas i duno how to.
i understand they are in a honeymood period. but will she come back to me soon? i really duno what can i say or do infront of her. i feel so sucky. -
Seriously, sometimes I do wish that she'll go back to you instead. And HURT you EVEN MORE... Maybe that would make you feel better
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Ok. Im going to analyse what she said again.Originally posted by mitgalant:i did told her. y nt one shot, let me pain. y muz u slowly like torture me lidat? if no chance, then say no chance. but she does not wanna give me an ans.
she say she tried to forget me. but she cant. i did told her if u really wanna forget me,i can help u. but yet she say she dun want.
I told her only come back to me with the feelin and not the heart.
Whenever i ask her things like, can we be together? u really like the guy all these, her standard ans is i duno, dun ask me, no reply, no comment all these.
i really duno what to do. i tried what i can already. No avail.
its like she told me, only when somethin happened between she and the guy, or else she wont be comin back to me, cos its not fair to him. DUH.
argh.
She did not want to give you an answer? She is confused. Let me tell you something, girls who like you won't confuse you. They know who they want. It means she don't like you enough to give you a straight answer. It could mean you might be her backup plans if her relationship with the new guy don't go well. And once that happens, you are going to be under her control like a slave, if that's what you want. Remeber, she has sampled you before? She has found you distasteful. She is now tasting the new guy.
No comments? No need comments bro. The fact she is with the guy says everything. All the guy needs to do is make a kiss. You are blown away by the kiss of death. Do you need further comments? Wake up!
Something happened between she and the guy? Meaning you are the backup guy? Sure! If you like it, go ahead. Our words mean nothing. Just make sure your tolerance for her behaviour is high. Prepare a lot of money. Why ? To buy a lot of green hats.
This is what you should be doing: "Babe, I understand. Be with him. By the time you come back, I also do not know who to choose between you and the other hot babe. Good bye!"
But you did not. You cling on. You thought that every ounce of hope she sprinkles on to you, you thought there is chance. She sounds nice but she is not. No. This is reality. You are still in the matrix. Are you in touch with reality?
doko -
i know in reality, more or less, i am the backup plan. but the problem is, i really dun believe she is this type of girl.
she is not so mean in the past. can she be one now?
u guys mean she will never come back to me?
if she wont, why is she sayin all these? why would she say she cant forget me?
when we broke off that time, she told me she got no feelins for me. but recently, she told me she cant deny she stil have feelins for me.
i assure her so much on how much i will change and treat her. but seems like she still cant get enough of the guy. Shd I wait for her?
Whenever we go out, she will not tell the guy she is with me. she will just say with a normal fren. then they guy will keep sms and call her. very irritatin
From what i see, I BELIEVE the guy is also pressurin her. cos she told me the guy feel so jealous abt me. BUT for wat ? i already lost my gf to him, WHY must he be jealous? Dun u think that guy is very cunnin ?
I really duno understand, what she meant when she told me, i cant possible break up with him to be with u now, cos it is unfair to him. Does that mean she still wanna be with me ? -
guys, pls dun ask me to talk like what the TS say frm other thread k. Lettin go. cos i knw i cant do it.
do u guys think, i shd try and do what i do in the past to get her back? maybe can get the feelin again ? -
hmm sumtime bochup can oso be a blessing
juz dun tink and dun bother abt her liao lo...
l guess the feeling of being tortured is really more painful than the 1 shot...over le jiu over liao... at least u get a result -
Originally posted by mitgalant:
Trust me... girls can be really really heartless.
i know in reality, more or less, i am the backup plan. but the problem is, i really dun believe she is this type of girl.
she is not so mean in the past. can she be one now?
u guys mean she will never come back to me?
if she wont, why is she sayin all these? why would she say she cant forget me?
when we broke off that time, she told me she got no feelins for me. but recently, she told me she cant deny she stil have feelins for me.
i assure her so much on how much i will change and treat her. but seems like she still cant get enough of the guy. Shd I wait for her?
Whenever we go out, she will not tell the guy she is with me. she will just say with a normal fren. then they guy will keep sms and call her. very irritatin
From what i see, I BELIEVE the guy is also pressurin her. cos she told me the guy feel so jealous abt me. BUT for wat ? i already lost my gf to him, WHY must he be jealous? Dun u think that guy is very cunnin ?
I really duno understand, what she meant when she told me, i cant possible break up with him to be with u now, cos it is unfair to him. Does that mean she still wanna be with me ?
Why not just leave the old relationship and move on? Make it a beautiful memory, let both of you remember the good times. You know it'll never be the same again ever even if you force fate and be together with her against all odds.
Don't blame the other guy, the guy is just chasing her. It's her that can make a decision anyway.
Take it easy. Don't lose yourself again, see how things develop.[/b] -
sometimes not say wanna forget then forget. i really tried for a mth le. still cant. i do other things, these and that. but it juz cant go away. the feelin is way too strong.
sometimes, i really wonder if she is worth it ? people ard me all call me to move on. but my heart tells me, we are still possible -
I know. One mth is nv gonna be enough. If you drag this on, you are really wanting this to end when she finally get another bf and break your broken heart into smaller pieces.Originally posted by mitgalant:sometimes not say wanna forget then forget. i really tried for a mth le. still cant. i do other things, these and that. but it juz cant go away. the feelin is way too strong.
sometimes, i really wonder if she is worth it ? people ard me all call me to move on. but my heart tells me, we are still possible
I just don't want to see you remembering this heartbreak moment and let it cloud all the good memories.
Tell yourself, it's good when it lasted. You loved her and she loved you during that beautiful period of time. The love remains but you both have moved on and are living wonderful lives. -
she already have a bf now alraedy. but the problem is that she is still givin some hopes. which i duno is it real or false hope.
judgin by how much i know her frm the past, i dun think she will give me false hope. thats why i am clingin onto them now.
cos i think she and the guy nt so stable now. Yet i cant let them too long. cos surely will stable one. -
Hey bro!!! I know how you feel man cause I can't forget her and she does sometimes give me false hopes but look on the bright sight, you have many things to look forward too and I bet someone better will come by. Hold your head high and always look up ok??
Live life to the fullest -
she dun love you anymore.
it hurts but u have to accept it. -
How you know you can't do it? Or are you simply unwilling to do it? If you're simply unwilling to do it, what do you think we can help you with?Originally posted by mitgalant:guys, pls dun ask me to talk like what the TS say frm other thread k. Lettin go. cos i knw i cant do it.
do u guys think, i shd try and do what i do in the past to get her back? maybe can get the feelin again ?
And you really think one month is a long period of time?
If you INSIST on doing whatever you wanna do, JUST DO IT... Why come back and ask for more advice? Why ask others to help you achieve the unreasonable? -
Originally posted by mitgalant:From what i see, I BELIEVE the guy is also pressurin her. cos she told me the guy feel so jealous abt me. BUT for wat ? i already lost my gf to him, WHY must he be jealous? Dun u think that guy is very cunnin ?
What 'hopes' she is giving you? She has already said that she won't leave her bf and come back to you. Don't you understand English?Originally posted by mitgalant:she already have a bf now alraedy. but the problem is that she is still givin some hopes. which i duno is it real or false hope.
judgin by how much i know her frm the past, i dun think she will give me false hope. thats why i am clingin onto them now.
cos i think she and the guy nt so stable now. Yet i cant let them too long. cos surely will stable one.
Frankly speaking, I don't see how the guy could be 'very cunning' from the way you've described him? From the way I see it... Someone who simply refuses to let her ex go though she has already made her point clear.. Shouldn't he be more wary of such a guy? No offence but... If I am that 'bf', I would also have some concern over my gf's safety and whether that guy might just turn psycho and hurt my girl?
Btw, what do you mean by they not 'stable' now and you cannot let them too long or will surely stable one...? Though I don't know that 'bf' at all... But in my own opinion, you certainly sounds cunning in certain ways...?
PS. Advice given is for EVERYBODY'S GOOD. If you INSIST... Just do whatever you deem fit ok? -
the hope she is givin me is like, she suddenly tell me she got feelins for me. that time when we broke off, she told me she got no more already. now suddenly she told me she still have feelins for me. this make me feel like there's still hope.and she also dun rule out that we wont be together in future.Originally posted by Devil1976:What 'hopes' she is giving you? She has already said that she won't leave her bf and come back to you. Don't you understand English?
Frankly speaking, I don't see how the guy could be 'very cunning' from the way you've described him? From the way I see it... Someone who simply refuses to let her ex go though she has already made her point clear.. Shouldn't he be more wary of such a guy? No offence but... If I am that 'bf', I would also have some concern over my gf's safety and whether that guy might just turn psycho and hurt my girl?
Btw, what do you mean by they not 'stable' now and you cannot let them too long or will surely stable one...? Though I don't know that 'bf' at all... But in my own opinion, you certainly sounds cunning in certain ways...?
PS. Advice given is for EVERYBODY'S GOOD. If you INSIST... Just do whatever you deem fit ok?
She say she wont leave her bf now is because its unfair to him. However if there is no such guy now, i am sure, very sure, we will be together again.
i duno. i dun like that guy la. whats the point of him tellin my ex that he feel jealous of me WHEN THEY ARE TOGETHER ? whats the point for tellin her how not fair is it to him when in the first place, i am the one thats not fair ?
i heard what he say ar, i really da** f***in pissed man. What is he tryin to prove ? anyway i wont be psycho.
seriously if someone is to be stable, will she suddenly tell me all these? i think likewise. in fact, if possible she want to have two pieces of cake.
This is after lots and lots of analysis by many many people ard me. everyone think lidat. but how is it possible to have two pieces of cake right ?
she juz know both have their gd points, but she overlook some of the bad points -
You're just not thinking. This is no longer about how much you love her. Just a lousy tale about how much you love yourself.
Yes. I can clearly see that.Originally posted by mitgalant:the hope she is givin me is like, she suddenly tell me she got feelins for me. that time when we broke off, she told me she got no more already. now suddenly she told me she still have feelins for me. this make me feel like there's still hope.and she also dun rule out that we wont be together in future.
Having some feelings for another person doesn't necessarily means that one has to go into relationship or even anywhere near there with the other person.
She cannot rule out whether both of you would or would not be together in the future because there's no absolute way to tell.
She say she wont leave her bf now is because its unfair to him. However if there is no such guy now, i am sure, very sure, we will be together again.
How sure? Just because you wanna believe? Did she even directly tell you anything like that? And so what if you got her? You think you'll 'live happily ever after'? Seriously?
i duno. i dun like that guy la. whats the point of him tellin my ex that he feel jealous of me WHEN THEY ARE TOGETHER ? whats the point for tellin her how not fair is it to him when in the first place, i am the one thats not fair ?
i heard what he say ar, i really da** f***in pissed man. What is he tryin to prove ? anyway i wont be psycho.
I think you don't like that guy is not an issue here. I'm quite sure neither does he like you? What's the point of him telling your 'ex' what? Your EX? MIND YOU... His GF NOW... Imagine someone who keeps pestering your gf despite the fact that she has already told that person she's not interested... Somemore your gf can be so kind to spend time with such a 'PEST' instead of her bf? Shouldn't you be JEALOUS?
What's not fair to you? You're BOTHERING HIS GF.... Which part of it you DON'T UNDERSTAND?
I SHOULD BE THE ONE ASKING YOU THAT QUESTION.. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO PROVE?
seriously if someone is to be stable, will she suddenly tell me all these? i think likewise. in fact, if possible she want to have two pieces of cake.
This is after lots and lots of analysis by many many people ard me. everyone think lidat. but how is it possible to have two pieces of cake right ?
'Analysis' by who? What sort of 'analysing'?
If you think it's not possible for her to get 2 pieces of cake together at the same time, why don't you just back off? If you INSIST on DRILLING into the SH|T.. Sorry, I cannot help you. But remember you're the one who INSIST on getting into SH|T.. Don't come back and ask STUPID QUESTION like "why?" in the future.
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How can someone who loses feelings for you suddenly gains feelings for you mysteriously, unless she has a secret agenda? Think about it. She has already made it clear to you. It's like she remembers what mistakes you made and it's not going to be erased with a button. Women remembers things very well and they take it very personally. How is it possible she suddenly like you again? You cannot just trust her words at face value when she contradicted her statements. Unless you are rich of course and she may need to depend on you in the future?Originally posted by mitgalant:the hope she is givin me is like, she suddenly tell me she got feelins for me. that time when we broke off, she told me she got no more already. now suddenly she told me she still have feelins for me. this make me feel like there's still hope.and she also dun rule out that we wont be together in future.
She say she wont leave her bf now is because its unfair to him. However if there is no such guy now, i am sure, very sure, we will be together again.
i duno. i dun like that guy la. whats the point of him tellin my ex that he feel jealous of me WHEN THEY ARE TOGETHER ? whats the point for tellin her how not fair is it to him when in the first place, i am the one thats not fair ?
i heard what he say ar, i really da** f***in pissed man. What is he tryin to prove ? anyway i wont be psycho.
seriously if someone is to be stable, will she suddenly tell me all these? i think likewise. in fact, if possible she want to have two pieces of cake.
This is after lots and lots of analysis by many many people ard me. everyone think lidat. but how is it possible to have two pieces of cake right ?
she juz know both have their gd points, but she overlook some of the bad points
I don't know how you can form your own conclusions based on your feelings but to me, this relationship is over. And you are getting played around like a fool. Where is your pride as a man? Seriously, you don't behave like one. You be direct. Tell her don't waste your time anymore. Then thank her. If not, you can delete her number.
doko -
Precisely.Originally posted by Devil1976:What 'hopes' she is giving you? She has already said that she won't leave her bf and come back to you. Don't you understand English?
Frankly speaking, I don't see how the guy could be 'very cunning' from the way you've described him? From the way I see it... Someone who simply refuses to let her ex go though she has already made her point clear.. Shouldn't he be more wary of such a guy? No offence but... If I am that 'bf', I would also have some concern over my gf's safety and whether that guy might just turn psycho and hurt my girl?
Btw, what do you mean by they not 'stable' now and you cannot let them too long or will surely stable one...? Though I don't know that 'bf' at all... But in my own opinion, you certainly sounds cunning in certain ways...?
PS. Advice given is for EVERYBODY'S GOOD. If you INSIST... Just do whatever you deem fit ok?
If you refuse to let go or accept defeat, you will come across as a turn-off or a STALKER.
doko -
Some guys complain about being cheated, let down, lied to by the girls they love, then they accuse girls of being evil, bad, unappreciative of "nice guys"....
But they don't realise, during the course of the relationship, many times it's the guys who are too dumb or too blind to heed warning signs, despite how obvious and glaring they are.... the guys were suckered , because they were willing suckers ! -
duno leh. haiz. everytime she sms me or wat, i will surely give in to temptation one. i wanted to MIA from her life. but yet i am very soft hearted.
plus i really cant bear to ba?
like what doko had said, maybe she gt secret agenda. But i really doubt so. really. cos she is not lidat in the past. she is someone far far away from this.
not provin anythin ba. she did told me directly in my face that time it's nt fair to the guy if she break with him now, cos he done nothin wrong.
but from this statement, can i say that she will break with the guy if anythin happened ?
i think if i got her ya, we really will last very very long. till marriage and so on ?
maybe my thinkin is naive all these to u all la.
she also gt think abt tat. if shd we get back together, she really think we can last very long too.
she said she dun love the guy and also i am someone special in her heart.
is this some kind of like tryin to make me feel better ?? to ease the guilt in her ? gosh. -
but not special enough to dump that guy and be with you huh?Originally posted by mitgalant:duno leh. haiz. everytime she sms me or wat, i will surely give in to temptation one. i wanted to MIA from her life. but yet i am very soft hearted.
plus i really cant bear to ba?
like what doko had said, maybe she gt secret agenda. But i really doubt so. really. cos she is not lidat in the past. she is someone far far away from this.
not provin anythin ba. she did told me directly in my face that time it's nt fair to the guy if she break with him now, cos he done nothin wrong.
but from this statement, can i say that she will break with the guy if anythin happened ?
i think if i got her ya, we really will last very very long. till marriage and so on ?
maybe my thinkin is naive all these to u all la.
she also gt think abt tat. if shd we get back together, she really think we can last very long too.
she said she dun love the guy and also i am someone special in her heart.
is this some kind of like tryin to make me feel better ?? to ease the guilt in her ? gosh.
Ask her to prove it with actions and not with words. Words mean nothing.
doko -
hey TS u seriously deserve a wake up slap. I got the same shit from a girl just like you but i didn't stoop so low as you did.
Move on.
love is just like an addiction.
u said u want to move on. actually u don't. u WANT to be back with her which is impossible.
u don't love urself enough. you act so weak which turn girls off. you even try to gain her pity. Girls avoid guys like you to the core because u are needy and u are weak.
I know now u feel that u can't go on with ur life without her. BUT once u move on, it won't even bother you! and the feeling is like wow i don't have to suffer , i don't have to feel down, i don't have to feel heart broken. And she wasn't even pretty, she is just someone good at playing mind games, tricks, and following the rules of dating.
The tricky part is to be strong now. cut off all contacts from her now, don't feel pity for her, don't, and soon u will be out of your life.
Girls like this are just immature and any guy that fall for her are just gonna suffer. Seriously, they don't deserve us. She still enjoy ur attention even when she got no intention of patching back with you.
Because it feel GOOD to be wanted, to be desired, to be wooed, to have many guys showering their attention on them, especially to girls. So some girls resort to playing games with you, behaving like someone who she actually is not, following the rules of attraction, playing hard to get, giving u hopes now and then, making u falling heads and heels over her.
She don't really care if she hurt u or wat. she just want to boost her big ego. that is why she is giving u false hope.
she no longer see u as a potential relationship parthners, her actions clearly show that fact, so why are u still deceiving yourself? why are you still listening to her bullshit? playing her game?
don't tell fucking say you want her back. U are telling her that " hey i can go get laid by some guys then come back to you whenever i want to and u are a loser that is still gonna take me back". Take her back if u want, she is just gonna go do it again. if u really have no self respect then i really have nothing to say.
and looking at ur other post, seems like u also toys around with others feeling. So? hows it like having ur feeling played? love it?
better don't go around breaking others heart if u don't want others to break yours.