WTF is with her?
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she find you annoying i guess
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Originally posted by coldzero:
That, my friend, could be your source of problem. You look back at all the wonderful memories, and feel that it was as if u 2 were togther. She may not look at it this way. True, u guys could be the best of buds, but remember, a girl is different from a guy. They are much more sensitive. Whatever your quarrel is may seem trivial to u, but it has changed her opinion of you. I don't know who started the quarrel, but its a good guess that you probably made it a lot worst than needed.
I've got a best(est) friend during my secondary school days. Have just graduated. Once I had a major quarrel with her and it ended up that we weren't talking after that around my prelims period.
After O's, I decided to apologise and hopefully we can get back together again. We started minor minor chats, but I know things will never be the same. She just don't seem to forgive me. During prom night, I plucked up my courage and asked for a photo with her. She agreed.
Now all of a sudden, she just dont wanna talk to me anymore. Countless sms, calls and msg on MSN, she just dont wanna give any reply. Her female friend did talk to her though.
So WTH are these kind of girls thinking? I've been begging like f*ck for that photo I took with her during prom night because the photo was taken with her camera. Why could she forget all the wonderful times we had together so easily? She once told me she treasured me a lot. Those memories really kept me emotional all these while. Those memories, I promise you, are as good as though we're really together as steads. So WTH is she thinking?
Give her time, and give urself time. I say this because she is still probably angry over the quarrel, and she has now seen u in a different light. You need 2 give urself time because u need to realise that you two cannot return to the past. The friendship between u two now is not that of a best bud, but be prepared that it may now just be a normal "Hi-Bye" friend type. -
Sighhh.. I get it. But I find it hard to move on.. =/Originally posted by nanren4ever:That, my friend, could be your source of problem. You look back at all the wonderful memories, and feel that it was as if u 2 were togther. She may not look at it this way. True, u guys could be the best of buds, but remember, a girl is different from a guy. They are much more sensitive. Whatever your quarrel is may seem trivial to u, but it has changed her opinion of you. I don't know who started the quarrel, but its a good guess that you probably made it a lot worst than needed.
Give her time, and give urself time. I say this because she is still probably angry over the quarrel, and she has now seen u in a different light. You need 2 give urself time because u need to realise that you two cannot return to the past. The friendship between u two now is not that of a best bud, but be prepared that it may now just be a normal "Hi-Bye" friend type. -
Give her time,give him time,that's wad u ppl always say. " give ^$$*&$^ time" What if the " give her time" lasts for twenty years?? wud u want the TS to suffer for 20 years?Originally posted by Devil1976:Give her as much time as she needs... Go easy on her if you treasure this friendship yuo have with her.
Ts,myb u shud go to her house and ask her to give u one more chance to start a fresh friendship. No point giving her time. -
Do you think it'll be a good idea?Originally posted by felirox:Give her time,give him time,that's wad u ppl always say. " give ^$$*&$^ time" What if the " give her time" lasts for twenty years?? wud u want the TS to suffer for 20 years?
Ts,myb u shud go to her house and ask her to give u one more chance to start a fresh friendship. No point giving her time. -
It takes 2 hands... From the way you've described it, it seems all quite impossible for much approach unless she equally treasure and look upon for this friendship...Originally posted by coldzero:But I dont think there's time left between us if things carry on like this. I'm going JC and she's going Laselle. No chance of communicating at all..
I just wanna know what's she's thinking. Any forumer counterparts to tell me so? -
So honestly... Is this your main reason or it just the friendship?Originally posted by coldzero:Sighh.. But how she manged to let go of all the memories we had together so easily one? We're really as close as couples that time I can say. -
So what actually was the major quarrel about...?Originally posted by coldzero:I don't think so. Heard from her friends that she have got a fear for guys now because of me..
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Nobody's asking him to 'suffer' for 20 years. In any case, you'll never know what 'suffering' she might actually be getting on her part...?Originally posted by felirox:Give her time,give him time,that's wad u ppl always say. " give ^$$*&$^ time" What if the " give her time" lasts for twenty years?? wud u want the TS to suffer for 20 years?
Ts,myb u shud go to her house and ask her to give u one more chance to start a fresh friendship. No point giving her time.
If on your advice.. May I suggest might as well go to her house and point a gun to her and ask instead? Like that surely won't waste any time one... -
No one is asking him to suffer for 20 years, but you look at the situation, and determine yourself if TIME really helps or not. The TS has MSN, SMSed the girl, but the girl seems hell-bent on not replying. Going to her house only makes it worst.Originally posted by felirox:Give her time,give him time,that's wad u ppl always say. " give ^$$*&$^ time" What if the " give her time" lasts for twenty years?? wud u want the TS to suffer for 20 years?
Ts,myb u shud go to her house and ask her to give u one more chance to start a fresh friendship. No point giving her time.
There's a reason why people ask him to give each other time. Because after a while, both will start to cool down, and look back at why this friendship has turned out this way. Only with time can u look back at something calmly, and then make a decision that will be the best for you. Trying to get something fixed straight away after the damage has been done is NOT always the best solution. -
Originally posted by coldzero:
OMG. If that's all the above what you're saying, then may I know why aren't you both officially an item then?
Kind of (a crush) . But I really treat her more as a friend all the while. We relied on each other a lot, and suddenly, she's gone.
Sighh.. But how she manged to let go of all the memories we had together so easily one? We're really as close as couples that time I can say.
I don't think so. Heard from her friends that she have got a fear for guys now because of me..
Could it be she's waiting for you to make the first move until she's feeling all too fed up? All those anger and arguments perhaps are just some smoke screens? The real reasons behind all the major arguments is due to the lack of attention and care she felt from you. And the real reason that she's avoiding you is perhaps due to her seething anger that perhaps you'll never get it?
Pardon me for all these wild guesses but it's just my intuition. -
From the way she's avoiding you, yet agreed to take that picture with you at prom night, it seems to me she's trying to block out some painful memories.
If you've caused her pain, why?
Do you know why?
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I agree on this..... I am also giving my ex time to think it over also.....Originally posted by nanren4ever:No one is asking him to suffer for 20 years, but you look at the situation, and determine yourself if TIME really helps or not. The TS has MSN, SMSed the girl, but the girl seems hell-bent on not replying. Going to her house only makes it worst.
There's a reason why people ask him to give each other time. Because after a while, both will start to cool down, and look back at why this friendship has turned out this way. Only with time can u look back at something calmly, and then make a decision that will be the best for you. Trying to get something fixed straight away after the damage has been done is NOT always the best solution. -
I remembered she once said I didn't understand her well enough, which I always thought I did.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:From the way she's avoiding you, yet agreed to take that picture with you at prom night, it seems to me she's trying to block out some painful memories.
If you've caused her pain, why?
Do you know why? -
Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:
I dont think this is so. Cause my attention and care is always given to her first no matter what. Seriously.. I think she should have felt it too.
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OMG. If that's all the above what you're saying, then may I know why aren't you both officially an item then?
Could it be she's waiting for you to make the first move until she's feeling all too fed up? All those anger and arguments perhaps are just some smoke screens? The real reasons behind all the major arguments is due to the lack of attention and care she felt from you. And the real reason that she's avoiding you is perhaps due to her seething anger that perhaps you'll never get it? -
I have to make it clear even though there is this slight crush on me to her, I swear I see her more as a friend; a confidant I should say..Originally posted by Devil1976:So honestly... Is this your main reason or it just the friendship? -
Yes, you are only seeing your side of the story. Great friendship, big fight over something unimportant, she will not forgive anymore.Originally posted by coldzero:I remembered she once said I didn't understand her well enough, which I always thought I did.
how about her side of the story? to her it could be:
great friendship, big fight over something very serious (why cant he juz understand that this is very impt to me?), i cant continue with the friendship anymore.
or many other possibilities.
wats more impt now is, she is not keen to continue this friendship. let it go. for wat will be yours, will one day come back to you. and if it is not meant to be yours, no matter how much you try to harp on it, the efforts still gonna be futile.
Learn to move on when it is time to move on.
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Cause i believe we both see each other as confidant.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:OMG. If that's all the above what you're saying, then may I know why aren't you both officially an item then? -
Guys and girls just want one thing from each other.
Not too hard to figure out what.
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Sighhh.. I think you're right. I understand now...Originally posted by blu_sky:Yes, you are only seeing your side of the story. Great friendship, big fight over something unimportant, she will not forgive anymore.
how about her side of the story? to her it could be:
great friendship, big fight over something very serious (why cant he juz understand that this is very impt to me?), i cant continue with the friendship anymore.
or many other possibilities.
wats more impt now is, she is not keen to continue this friendship. let it go. for wat will be yours, will one day come back to you. and if it is not meant to be yours, no matter how much you try to harp on it, the efforts still gonna be futile.
Learn to move on when it is time to move on.
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Thanks everyone for helping! Perhaps I should really learn to let go..
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Finally 700 posts..
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Cheng jing ji mo jia shang ji mo shi lai huo, Ran shao le ni he wo~
Ru jing cheng mo jia shang cheng mo gen cheng mo, zai yea mei you she mo ser bu de~
go listen to "fang shen" by fan yi chen..
maybe u will understand..lolx
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Get another friend
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i've had this case before when i was in sec sch. Let me tell u....
the best thing to do... is never look back. continue with ur life happily, soccer, gaming, gym etc etc
one day, when she bumps into u on the street, she'll start to sms u again.
U must be "zai" enuff to feel indifferent.
guys who usually cling on, tell the girl how she can actually forget all those memories, wait for her at her void deck, shower her with gifts to apologize etc etc WILL NEVER GET HER BACK.
www.askmen.com/dating
look for doctor love. he teaches u all.