Love has no reason?
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in such cases, cut the date short. finish your 1st drink then go home.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:Cos you know, not all girls are that savvy. It boils down to character & personality too.
The worst combination is to hv a little lamby girl to date a wolfish guy
No one will exactly know how your date will be like if you dont date right?
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Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:
alrite, i will do that when I am a bit free-er...another branch just emailed me to ask me to help them to browse some e-libraries stuff with tonnes of books in there, and they wan a reply today
Maybe should post a topic on [b]"How to Say No" to help the women here?[/b]
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that's why every girl needs to learn how to be street smart. even if the girl got a college degree and she doesnt know how to be that and how to sense guys' advances, then she will be putting her life in danger.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:Cos you know, not all girls are that savvy. It boils down to character & personality too.
The worst combination is to hv a little lamby girl to date a wolfish guy No one will exactly know how your date will be like if you dont date right?
I was once like that, and nearly got into some serious sh!t because I trusted someone too much. But it is all in the past now, and I learn heaps from it. So that's why I hope every girl will learn how to say no before they get into some kinda tricky situation. -
in the heat of the moment, i would like to know that the man can control it on his own, but I think only a minority can do thatOriginally posted by dokono:That's the problem. I see your point but the man can control it. It's not too late when her heart is with him and when they are in a relationship isn't it? They can do whatever monkey business they want right?
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Originally posted by dokono:
Woo.. I love a man in control.
That's the problem. I see your point but The Man can control it. It's not too late when her heart is with him and when they are in a relationship isn't it? They can do whatever monkey business they want right?
doko
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Agree with this too!Originally posted by rainee:that's why every girl needs to learn how to be street smart. even if the girl got a college degree and she doesnt know how to be that and how to sense guys' advances, then she will be putting her life in danger. -
Different means of application for different situation with different people..Originally posted by blu_sky:Talking about taking sh1t from gf/bf, i have got this qn to ask you guys in this forum.
i juz heard this from my colleagues who are married. here to verify with you guys.
she said, when a man crosses his line, occassionaly the woman should juz fxxk him (i mean scold him) to wake him up a little. keep him in check, in line.
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x2. But....Originally posted by M©+square:At least 6 pages of chit chatting....
People control yourselves? I don't mind if someone opens a thread for chatting?
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yes? but?Originally posted by Devil1976:x2. But.... -
Sorta. It be better to remind the guy what happened is not nice or beneficial to both or more parties. Unfortunately many guys simply brushes off the "nagging"...Originally posted by blu_sky:Talking about taking sh1t from gf/bf, i have got this qn to ask you guys in this forum.
i juz heard this from my colleagues who are married. here to verify with you guys.
she said, when a man crosses his line, occassionaly the woman should juz fxxk him (i mean scold him) to wake him up a little. keep him in check, in line.
is it true, men?
With all the filer episodes in this topic, I had a hard time catching up. Let alone Kuri.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:But that's gonna take time isn't it? Love takes time to grow. TS's bf seems to be rushing her so much so that she didnt hv a chance to truly experience and explore that herself.
That's when the insecurity comes in.
And where are you kuri? How's things?
Eh... you gals talking abt simi control? I good with the PS2 controller. Not to mention arcade versions.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:Woo.. I love a man in control.
Ong Butt!!! Kick yr butt!!! So many Wai(4) Zhuan(4)!!!Originally posted by Devil1976:x2. But.... 
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I guess the but = meaning people get carried awayOriginally posted by blu_sky:yes? but? -
;pOriginally posted by YouDonKnowMe:I guess the but = meaning people get carried away -
ytd when we met he didnt want to talk bout the tiff we had but when i asked him he told me he doesnt like the way i react insensitively to him and say things like the ex issue which he considered very hurtful but he loves me so he has to accept it and hope i can be more sensitive towards him from now on.Originally posted by rainee:that's infatuation, not love.
Love is when you can already see the flaws of the person, and accept it as part and parcel of him...and you know that his goodness outweighs the flaws
i guess wat he's just trying to say he doesnt really like my wilful ways but has to take my flaws cos he loves me and wants to stay with me. i asked him since u dun like this and that why bother loving me for he says he cant choose his feelings.perhaps this is wat u consider love? but the goodness outweigh the flaws part? it doesnt seem like there's any goodness he really sees in me that he can speak of? so i dun know whether this kinda feeling will last cos loving a person u hav to accept his/her flaws yes but u also hav to see some goodness that's enduring in him/her too otherwise if u see he/she is a menace then aint u just making urself love the person for the sake of loving?
Was really tired when i reached home ytd n when i saw the 6 new pages...tried to read..fainted.guess i answered part of ur qns in the above.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:But that's gonna take time isn't it? Love takes time to grow. TS's bf seems to be rushing her so much so that she didnt hv a chance to truly experience and explore that herself.
That's when the insecurity comes in.
And where are you kuri? How's things?
u just voiced out one of my main concerns actually. btw, thanks for caring enough to drop me a pm. really appreciate it. thanks.
We hav been going out for about a month now i did mention it in my earlier post but guess it got buried somewhere.Originally posted by rainee:Yea, if it is just two weeks since she has been going out with him, it is still too soon for her to decide. And I think she is also in the wrong for letting the guy touches her in the intimate way, because this leads the guy into thinking she is ready for a romantic r/s (after all friends don't really touch each other intimately). So can't blame him for hurrying her because she is showing signs that she wants to be involved in a r/s, yet she still doesnt wan to make it official?
This can be very frustrating for a guy.
I think the reason why things moved so fast is cos we met up almost everyday so it was rather difficult to slow things down but he has been rather respectful to me i appreciate that.
just that sometimes he does things which i don't realise and he got carried away only to call in and apologise for wat he did after he went home n recalled his actions when thinkin bout the time we spent together.
i was quite
everytime i hear his confession(there has been a few times so far) i dunno whether to be thankful that he's honest or to be disappointed that he actually crossed the lines he promised me he wouldnt.
now i m trying to slow things down but it can b quite tricky cos if i make a big move or change my behaviour too sudden he'd b confused and hurt thinking that i m leaving him. -
so far he's still exercising quite a lot of self control ba. he does tell me to step away for a while n let him cool down if i invoke too much reaction unknowingly.i m really too stone to such things.only know hugs r so warm n comfy n they feel so assuring.Originally posted by rainee:in the heat of the moment, i would like to know that the man can control it on his own, but I think only a minority can do that -
i just managed to read thru the last few pages
YouDonKnowMe..
WoW
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him despite being so tired from work n having to wake up tmr early morning decided to log in msn 30 mins ago just to check if i m asleep. when he realise i m online asked me if i m chatting with other guys i said no he started making some accusation n we had a tiff. i feel so hurt. cant sleep. why is he so suspicious bout me. just because i met up a guy frd today for talk crap session at mac's? i did tell him bout that appointment earlier on le n even called him straight after that wat does he want? besides he had known bout my socialable ways from the start.. i m not his gf even bet he'd freak if i mentioned that in the tiff we just had.. n i tot i m the insecure one but these few days he has been getting so paranoid bout my behaviour.. seriously dunno how long can this carry on...
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But since the time he posted that till now already added so many pages more!Originally posted by blu_sky:yes? but?
Alas... Guess sometimes it's just so difficult to ask people to suddenly stop chatting? =X -
I was tempted to do a temp thread closure.....Originally posted by Devil1976:But since the time he posted that till now already added so many pages more!
Alas... Guess sometimes it's just so difficult to ask people to suddenly stop chatting? =X -
Maybe you can just explain things to him a bit so that he can remain hopeful...?Originally posted by kuri:We hav been going out for about a month now i did mention it in my earlier post but guess it got buried somewhere.
I think the reason why things moved so fast is cos we met up almost everyday so it was rather difficult to slow things down but he has been rather respectful to me i appreciate that.
just that sometimes he does things which i don't realise and he got carried away only to call in and apologise for wat he did after he went home n recalled his actions when thinkin bout the time we spent together.
i was quite everytime i hear his confession(there has been a few times so far) i dunno whether to be thankful that he's honest or to be disappointed that he actually crossed the lines he promised me he wouldnt.
now i m trying to slow things down but it can b quite tricky cos if i make a big move or change my behaviour too sudden he'd b confused and hurt thinking that i m leaving him.
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Good sign that he's interested and very much concerned..Originally posted by kuri:him despite being so tired from work n having to wake up tmr early morning decided to log in msn 30 mins ago just to check if i m asleep. when he realise i m online asked me if i m chatting with other guys i said no he started making some accusation n we had a tiff. i feel so hurt. cant sleep. why is he so suspicious bout me. just because i met up a guy frd today for talk crap session at mac's? i did tell him bout that appointment earlier on le n even called him straight after that wat does he want? besides he had known bout my socialable ways from the start.. i m not his gf even bet he'd freak if i mentioned that in the tiff we just had.. n i tot i m the insecure one but these few days he has been getting so paranoid bout my behaviour.. seriously dunno how long can this carry on...
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OK PEOPLE! TS is back! No more chatting in here and GET BACK TO WORK!!Originally posted by M©+square:I was tempted to do a temp thread closure.....
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what big move you planning?Originally posted by kuri:We hav been going out for about a month now i did mention it in my earlier post but guess it got buried somewhere.
I think the reason why things moved so fast is cos we met up almost everyday so it was rather difficult to slow things down but he has been rather respectful to me i appreciate that.
just that sometimes he does things which i don't realise and he got carried away only to call in and apologise for wat he did after he went home n recalled his actions when thinkin bout the time we spent together.
i was quite everytime i hear his confession(there has been a few times so far) i dunno whether to be thankful that he's honest or to be disappointed that he actually crossed the lines he promised me he wouldnt.
now i m trying to slow things down but it can b quite tricky cos if i make a big move or change my behaviour too sudden he'd b confused and hurt thinking that i m leaving him.
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he had 2 gfs before..the last one was with him for about 7 years.i know she used to live with him for how long i m not sure.he said the last 2 years of the relationship she hurt him a lot, went out with guys behind his back slept with 2 guys and came back asking for forgiveness.Originally posted by Devil1976:Good sign that he's interested and very much concerned..
Bad sign as he seems to be on the 'possessive' and 'controlling' side... What is his previous BGR experience(s) like if any?
i told him who i'm meeting for what le didn't hide anything from him cos i didn't want him to have the nagging fear of "she's doing something behind my back" when i go out with friends. the contradicting thing is that he did tell me i'm free to go out with other guys cos we are not yet an item and he wants me to find out want what i want or who i want first before getting together with him yet he's really paranoid bout my behaviour.. say things like why i m torturing him and that i like to see him in pain ytd nite the manner he spoke to me drove me to tears...n he was okie when i talked to him earlier ytd night dunno what got into him in just a few hours.