Girlfriend and friends...
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Coz mum is taken, sises are a plenty, cousins are common and god-sises are pretty boring status...Originally posted by smudgey:huh???
why must be aunts???
50th post.
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After roughly browsing the posts of this thread...l found out that it is really good to see that Rainee and NekoRin toking abt their problem openly and solving it together which nowadays very less couples make the time or effort to do
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Agreed!!!Originally posted by xShevchenkox:After roughly browsing the posts of this thread...l found out that it is really good to see that Rainee and NekoRin toking abt their problem openly and solving it together which nowadays very less couples make the time or effort to do
*Applaus*
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It is the moment that counts,no matter,how much time you spend together, as long you both feel happy at each other company, regardless whether activities, be it, going out, or simply watching vcd together......
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haha at first I felt a bit weird posting problems abt us in the forum...partly cos most ppl here know us, and we have met some in real life as well...Originally posted by xShevchenkox:After roughly browsing the posts of this thread...l found out that it is really good to see that Rainee and NekoRin toking abt their problem openly and solving it together which nowadays very less couples make the time or effort to do
but it's always good to get others' opinions
And I consider some forumites here as my frens as well, so wud love to hear their opinions abt this matter 
And true enuff, I was not disappointed
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thanksOriginally posted by smudgey:Agreed!!!
*Applaus*
*takes out two Pink PomPoms and starts waving them around!*
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must everyday talk meh? need space also mah, just give advance notice like in the afternoon lor.
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Hehe at first I also felt weird. But then having opinions and suggestions given by others is alot better than having both of us sitting down giving the "I don't know" statements.Originally posted by rainee:haha at first I felt a bit weird posting problems abt us in the forum...partly cos most ppl here know us, and we have met some in real life as well...
but it's always good to get others' opinions And I consider some forumites here as my frens as well, so wud love to hear their opinions abt this matter
And true enuff, I was not disappointed
Being open and listening to partner's problems and complains will reduce arguments by alot wor.
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At first this is what I thought also. But in a relationship all these do have to compromise... have to find a balance between the 2 worOriginally posted by hisoka:must everyday talk meh? need space also mah, just give advance notice like in the afternoon lor.
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imho
i think you 2 should hmm restrain yourself? i mean everyday talk on phone not ex meh? maybe a while still ok la, but u all got so much to talk about ah?
then also, if rin and rainee intend to ROM, then of course, you need to put rainee on the top of your list, while friends 2nd on the list. however if still testing out...well, then depending on rainee, you have to alternate the top seat lor, cos cant keep on put rainee first ma, or else next time ur friends also sian to ask u out.
but how long is this going to last? i mean until rainee comes to singapore? if in a while like few months time, ok la put rainee first lor. when she reach SG liao, then put friends first lor she ownself say de ma.
but i wonder leh rainee, u got no life outside of rin and work?
but overall good luck u 2 lol. hopefully 1 day will hear u 2 ROM lol. -
yupz have to find balance lah, but then the way i see it, one week talk 3 or 4 times on the phone + whole of sunday with her, the other 2/3 nights go out with friends not too much mah.Originally posted by NekoRin:At first this is what I thought also. But in a relationship all these do have to compromise... have to find a balance between the 2 wor
just need to maybe unsticky abit bah. -
Everyday talk ok la.
Everyday 3 hour conversations can die. -
intending for this r/s to go until marriage stage of cosOriginally posted by bladez87:imho
i think you 2 should hmm restrain yourself? i mean everyday talk on phone not ex meh? maybe a while still ok la, but u all got so much to talk about ah?
then also, if rin and rainee intend to ROM, then of course, you need to put rainee on the top of your list, while friends 2nd on the list. however if still testing out...well, then depending on rainee, you have to alternate the top seat lor, cos cant keep on put rainee first ma, or else next time ur friends also sian to ask u out.
but how long is this going to last? i mean until rainee comes to singapore? if in a while like few months time, ok la put rainee first lor. when she reach SG liao, then put friends first lor she ownself say de ma.
but i wonder leh rainee, u got no life outside of rin and work?
but overall good luck u 2 lol. hopefully 1 day will hear u 2 ROM lol.
i m wondering if u have been in a r/s before? how can u ever put your frens on top of your own spouse?
I got other things to do also besides meeting rin and working. dats why you don't see him kacau-ing him every hour of the day wat. Like wat I said just now,
Too much to ask for 1/2 hour of communication everyday?
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different couple have different needs...and it depends on the nature of the r/s alsoOriginally posted by hisoka:yupz have to find balance lah, but then the way i see it, one week talk 3 or 4 times on the phone + whole of sunday with her, the other 2/3 nights go out with friends not too much mah.
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lolz you make it sound like I tell him not to go meet his frens at all...Originally posted by hisoka:must everyday talk meh? need space also mah, just give advance notice like in the afternoon lor.
if not you might lose your friends for lack of contact also
I already said just now ma, he can meet his frens...no prob abt that.
But it is like we already set a compromise last time ma...the whole day i wun disturb him but must at least set around 30 minutes a day to communicate...i already fulfil my side of the compromise ma...so dat hard to expect the other party to fulfil his side also? -
Expectation. It can make AND break so many relationships.Originally posted by rainee:lolz you make it sound like I tell him not to go meet his frens at all...
I already said just now ma, he can meet his frens...no prob abt that.
But it is like we already set a compromise last time ma...the whole day i wun disturb him but must at least set around 30 minutes a day to communicate...i already fulfil my side of the compromise ma...so dat hard to expect the other party to fulfil his side also?
Dun have to expect so much from both side. Later he give you surprise leh. -
well, i wud say that not like he is not expecting something from me alsoOriginally posted by Bontakun:Expectation. It can make AND break so many relationships.
Dun have to expect so much from both side. Later he give you surprise leh.
dats y we settle with this compromise...and if i cannot even expect for this compromise to be carried out, whats the use of having the compromise in the first place? -
his situation is that he need/want to go out with friends mah, maybe vary the time abit lor.Originally posted by rainee:lolz you make it sound like I tell him not to go meet his frens at all...
I already said just now ma, he can meet his frens...no prob abt that.
But it is like we already set a compromise last time ma...the whole day i wun disturb him but must at least set around 30 minutes a day to communicate...i already fulfil my side of the compromise ma...so dat hard to expect the other party to fulfil his side also?
its a relationship not a business deal can be mroe flexible mah.
maybe see when you free in the day and call lor afterall he doing freelance also -
ITs very hard to differentiate expectations from an agreement and and abiding to agreements. Oh well, its only 30 min a day. Can one lah.Originally posted by rainee:well, i wud say that not like he is not expecting something from me also
dats y we settle with this compromise...and if i cannot even expect for this compromise to be carried out, whats the use of having the compromise in the first place? -
i where got free in the dayOriginally posted by hisoka:his situation is that he need/want to go out with friends mah, maybe vary the time abit lor.
its a relationship not a business deal can be mroe flexible mah.
maybe see when you free in the day and call lor afterall he doing freelance also cannot make calls at my workplace one la, later will get caught by my boss
yea lor, oledi agree to be flexible, call after he comes back from outing lor...but just worried it will be too tiring for both of us nia with this schedule -
yea lorOriginally posted by Bontakun:ITs very hard to differentiate expectations from an agreement and and abiding to agreements. Oh well, its only 30 min a day. Can one lah.
dats y i said communication has to be done willingly, then there wun be any expectations, cos it is just something done out of free will -
IMO. Don't sweat the small stuff.
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haha true...but if dun pay attention to small stuff it will grow bigger de lehOriginally posted by choco B:IMO. Don't sweat the small stuff. -
ahh for me...haha cant consider myself as attached before.Originally posted by rainee:intending for this r/s to go until marriage stage of cos
i m wondering if u have been in a r/s before? how can u ever put your frens on top of your own spouse?
I got other things to do also besides meeting rin and working. dats why you don't see him kacau-ing him every hour of the day wat. Like wat I said just now,
Too much to ask for 1/2 hour of communication everyday?
And I believe this is something which has to be done willingly.
i not sure of u 2 ma, u forget i born in 87, now only 20yo, to me marriage is like so far away, so people my age have r.s for fun...well they dont normally last till marriage. if both of u aiming for marriage, then of course, putting you above his friends would be a better choice.
but i see so many of my friends, heartbroken after they break up, then i wondered, why is it that we prioritize our bf/gf and neglect others like friends and family, when our bf/gf might leave us, unlike our family.
for frenz, unless there is a serious conflict, or else also will not go to the extend of dissolving the friendship. normally when a r.s breakup, the people who will suppport u are your friends and family, not the one who broke up with u. if so why priortize someone who might leave u, and neglect those who will support u?
however bf/gf, u dont need a conflict, u just need 1 party to be unable to fulfill the needs of the other and there goes the r.s.
however note i said gf/bf, not spouse. to put friends above spouse is ridiculous. haha.
1/2 hour to me is not much, to you might not be much either, but to rin it might be alot. each of us have our own commitments, not saying that 30min for gf is a lot la, i mean outside of this context, 30min might be a lot. lol.
so happy for u 2. lol trying to resolve the problem before it becomes a volcano eruption.
btw pls dont take what i said seriously as i am just a 20yo who hasnt been into a r.s . for all u know, when the time comes i get attached, all these that i just said might go out the window. lol -
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