i agree wholeheartedly with thisOriginally posted by browniebaobao:so honest.
guys that say "dun worry, i dun mind.. i only care about the present etc..."
at the back of their mind, he will remember de lor.
then u see whether he will treat u differently. of course not all, but like TS, he will surely go thru a mental struggle.. if can put it this way..
then one fine day he might ask u "since u did it with ur ex, y not do it with me?"
then u will regret.
Don't know? I used to talk about such things with my ex gfs... If they're comfortable enough with it that is?Originally posted by browniebaobao:u dun agree ma?
Ya lo..haha then the guy say dun mind..in the heart..say " wa lao..used product liao...fcuk sia..l hav to reconsider whether l shld MIA or continue be with her"Originally posted by browniebaobao:so honest.
guys that say "dun worry, i dun mind.. i only care about the present etc..."
at the back of their mind, he will remember de lor.
then u see whether he will treat u differently. of course not all, but like TS, he will surely go thru a mental struggle.. if can put it this way..
then one fine day he might ask u "since u did it with ur ex, y not do it with me?"
then u will regret.
haha no la..was juz joking ard...Originally posted by M©+square:![]()
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I don't mind there are such people around, in fact. Some of my friends adopt these mindset.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:haha no la..was juz joking ard...
but seriously..l tink there are sum guys who will tink like that de....
Act as if nice nice...say nvm..but in his head...he is cursing at his own luck!
True love ain't blind. Infatuation is! But I like the true love being unconditional...Originally posted by Cool-gal:Oi, TS!!!
Wer r u!!!??
u get over le ma?
true love is unconditional & blind.
Next time they will be thinking how to retain "virginity" even after use.Originally posted by M©+square:I don't mind there are such people around, in fact. Some of my friends adopt these mindset.
Hopefully this shallow idea will grow out in men's mind.
well.. my exs talked to me over their past sex life also..Originally posted by Devil1976:Don't know? I used to talk about such things with my ex gfs... If they're comfortable enough with it that is?![]()
Do not worry. There is always someone for you. Just dun let him think "some gals prefer their guys NOT virgin" is really the case. Else You can powerbomb him.Originally posted by browniebaobao:well.. my exs talked to me over their past sex life also..
to me, no hard feelings.. doesnt matter how many times he did.. to wat extent.. they might have worried that i will mind.. and felt relieved that i dun mind at all..
as long as dun tell me the process and how the girl feel..
my first love ever told me over the phone that his first time was given to his second ex.. but not he initiated.. it was the ex that helped herself.. then he continued telling me that many girls told him that they prefer a bf that is not a virgin.. coz he will know how to insert and not hurt the girl..
guess how i reacted? I cried..
then he concluded that i was too innocent.. and asked me to find someone as innocent as me..
Yes. Been in that situation before.Originally posted by James1:Though I had been with my gf for about 4 months, and I was struggling to forget about her past, she told me that she and her ex had did uncountable times of heavy petting or sex at her place, what I mean uncountable was like 3 to 4 times weekly without failed and you know as a bf of hers, I felt I was having an 2nd hand stuff, you guys get what I mean? How to forgo her history? Had any one of you had the smiliar situation as me? Thanks in advance...
is it because girls mind lesser about sex than guys?? heard so from others.Originally posted by browniebaobao:well.. my exs talked to me over their past sex life also..
to me, no hard feelings.. doesnt matter how many times he did.. to wat extent.. they might have worried that i will mind.. and felt relieved that i dun mind at all..
as long as dun tell me the process and how the girl feel..
my first love ever told me over the phone that his first time was given to his second ex.. but not he initiated.. it was the ex that helped herself.. then he continued telling me that many girls told him that they prefer a bf that is not a virgin.. coz he will know how to insert and not hurt the girl..
guess how i reacted? I cried..
then he concluded that i was too innocent.. and asked me to find someone as innocent as me..
And you chose to listen to it, didn't you?Originally posted by browniebaobao:well.. my exs talked to me over their past sex life also..
to me, no hard feelings.. doesnt matter how many times he did.. to wat extent.. they might have worried that i will mind.. and felt relieved that i dun mind at all..
as long as dun tell me the process and how the girl feel..
my first love ever told me over the phone that his first time was given to his second ex.. but not he initiated.. it was the ex that helped herself.. then he continued telling me that many girls told him that they prefer a bf that is not a virgin.. coz he will know how to insert and not hurt the girl..
guess how i reacted? I cried..
then he concluded that i was too innocent.. and asked me to find someone as innocent as me..
Originally posted by browniebaobao:well.. my exs talked to me over their past sex life also..
to me, no hard feelings.. doesnt matter how many times he did.. to wat extent.. they might have worried that i will mind.. and felt relieved that i dun mind at all..
as long as dun tell me the process and how the girl feel..
my first love ever told me over the phone that his first time was given to his second ex.. but not he initiated.. it was the ex that helped herself.. then he continued telling me that many girls told him that they prefer a bf that is not a virgin.. coz he will know how to insert and not hurt the girl..
guess how i reacted? I cried..
then he concluded that i was too innocent.. and asked me to find someone as innocent as me..
i am exactly in the same situation as you.Originally posted by James1:Though I had been with my gf for about 4 months, and I was struggling to forget about her past, she told me that she and her ex had did uncountable times of heavy petting or sex at her place, what I mean uncountable was like 3 to 4 times weekly without failed and you know as a bf of hers, I felt I was having an 2nd hand stuff, you guys get what I mean? How to forgo her history? Had any one of you had the smiliar situation as me? Thanks in advance...
Be careful ... Do not be swayed by the people telling you what to do here. Only you yourself know whether you truly mind your GF's past or not. Abstaining from sex till marriage is a value and a personal choice. Being "easy" and casual on sex is a personal choice. Valuing virginity is also a personal choice... Its hard to say who's personal choice is correct and whose is wrong.Originally posted by James1:Though I had been with my gf for about 4 months, and I was struggling to forget about her past, she told me that she and her ex had did uncountable times of heavy petting or sex at her place, what I mean uncountable was like 3 to 4 times weekly without failed and you know as a bf of hers, I felt I was having an 2nd hand stuff, you guys get what I mean? How to forgo her history? Had any one of you had the smiliar situation as me? Thanks in advance...
u mean finding an innocent bf?Originally posted by M©+square:And you chose to listen to it, didn't you?
for me to know, for you not to find out.Originally posted by Devil1976:So are you still as innocent as before...??
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What sort of 'beast'?Originally posted by browniebaobao:u mean finding an innocent bf?
no i din..
the next one was a beast.
errm...can you recommend the drama/movie you watched?Originally posted by James1:I'm sorry for the late reply, as I was in camp from mon - fri and thus I got only this time to reply you all. Firstly thanks for the scolding, it did wake up to my senses a little and some of you eventually ask am I first hand or not? Yes, I am. She is my 2nd girl, the 1st wan was from online so we don't meet up often, and I had never experience sex before, to worsen the circumstances, people often say sex is enjoyable and distress effectively from stress. Upon viewing censor scene from particular drama/movies, my mind often flash back the memory of her being touch, penetrate, blow job, moaning, finger...
You told me love her and accept for who she is, I tried my utmost but still no effect.
devil....let me tell u...is a sex beastOriginally posted by Devil1976:What sort of 'beast'?![]()
ya james...this is normal..dun worry...look at sum forumities here...they too cnt accept a gal that has sex before...is alrite...no1 is gonna force u or wad...Originally posted by James1:I'm sorry for the late reply, as I was in camp from mon - fri and thus I got only this time to reply you all. Firstly thanks for the scolding, it did wake up to my senses a little and some of you eventually ask am I first hand or not? Yes, I am. She is my 2nd girl, the 1st wan was from online so we don't meet up often, and I had never experience sex before, to worsen the circumstances, people often say sex is enjoyable and distress effectively from stress. Upon viewing censor scene from particular drama/movies, my mind often flash back the memory of her being touch, penetrate, blow job, moaning, finger...
You told me love her and accept for who she is, I tried my utmost but still no effect.