relationship problem... =(
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bid ur time and c wad happens =D
jiayouuuu
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papercut87..
i can understand exactly how u feel..
cus my gf left me rite aft my BMT, ended our 5 months r/s..
reason being, there's a 3rd party (another man who is much eligible than me) and i'm way too young for her..
u r much fortunate than me..
both u and ur ex can still be frenz aft broke up..
for my case, we hardly contact one another aft we broke up..
it has been 4 months since we broke up..
i still have feelings for her..
i still love her..
i really wish that she will come back and stay rite by my side..
i guess my wish will never come true.. -
thankew fer all ur replies guys.
anw, i made up my mind already. i told him to give me some time to isolate myself and cool it off before we can start over as friends. yea. it was a tough decision, but yeah, i hope its worthwhile in the long run. -
He has already hurt you, arent you afraid of having such hurts again? i think it is better for you to move on. Dont ever have the hope of having the r/s back. It is better to move on. Dont wait anymore. Time will heal everything. There might be a better guy out there!
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mm..
I can sense you are tired..
Jus be yourself for the moment, don't contact him..coz it will make urself more worse only..
Tell him you cannot forget him ( if that is so)
Why being "the" friend with him when you know you cannot resists the love in him. It only making yourself in pain..
Its hard i know...im trying that too..apparently to a certain % of success..haha...
haiz..
Love is just an illusion i guess.. -
hmm im kinda lazy to analyze so muc.. first thoughts? that guy could be an asshole who is sweet to girls or whatever nonsense but what he actually wants? friends with benefits..
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dinky, no, he's a reserved kind of person, guai guai and studious kind.. not that easy-going, a small circle of friends. he doesn't do sweet talk at all, more down to earth kind, actions speaks more than words. thats what i used to like. i don't exact like hua yan qiao yu. that's most probably why i wouldn't classify him as friends with benefits, maybe like what the others say, he's either confused about himself or that he doesnt love me at all. dreamykite, love is a very funny thing. at this point of time, it is almost impossible for me to think about how much he has hurt me, or what so ever.. only can remember the happy times..
universe.... glad u experienced a certain % of success.. hope to be like you! -
When a person's words and actions don't match, I'd prefer to read his actions coz actions speak louder than words ma.........
However, in this case, it seems that he is experiencing a conflict within himself. His heart tells him he likes you but his head is obviously telling him otherwise.........
Ultimately, I think he has feelings for you but isn't prepared to commit into an exclusive relationship with you at present..... which means there could be such a possibility - just not for the moment lor. It's a comma, not a full stop!
So best way forward is to shun qi zhi ran..... lu yao zhi ma li, ru jiu jian ren xin ma
There's nothing you can do about it anyway but your exams are something you can definitely do lots about! Focus on your upcoming mission to clear your them best as you can. Failure is not an option ok?
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ok!brand new day! start afresh!
take some time off!
be yourself!
remember! life goes on... -
thankew bladez and precious.
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im facing the exact problem that your ex bf is facing. Very confused abt the r/s dunno which direction it is heading. Nt sure if i still love her. very tormenting. Add in the fact that i do not trust her. =(Originally posted by papercut87:not long ago, i ended a 6mth relationship with this guy. we spent really many happy times together.. we did quarrel, almost broke up once but resolved it in the end.. but overall, the relationship was fairytale like and magical..
but it suddenly came to an abrupt end when he told me that we shd break up cos he felt he didn't know what love was afterall cos he felt that he wasnt ready for a r/s... he also thought that we were too different in terms of character and that it was impossible for us go tgr... when i asked him whether he ever loved me during the whole course of the r/s.. he said.... he didn't know- maybe not.
those words cut deep.
i spent the next few days crying my heart out, lost my appetite totally, first few daes i wld sms him telling him how much i missed his presence... to give our r/s one more try.. that it really, really hurts so bad... but no replies.. so i somehow thought that he had more or less gotten over the breakup and that i sucked.. so i spent the remaining time reflecting on the relationship and talking it out with a few close friends... and now, i've more or less come to terms with the breakup.. picking up the pieces.... diverting my attention to my studies..
his friends sensed smth was wrong also, but they didnt dare to ask him... they came to ask me.. cos we both seemed like a really loving couple in d past.. they said he seemed to be v affected by it (they thought we argued or smth).. dey mentioned that he looked upset, zombified and stoned all the time.. but they din dare to approach him. so i told them that we broke up for good le. dey were stunned. i also asked them to look after him.
after a week or so... which was yday, when both of us were feeling more or less better, he asked me out for dinner and i agreed (my friends are so gonna kill me when they hear this.) we dabaoed dinner and watched the night sky together while eating. must admit i still had feelings for him... okay that nite i was feeling kind of sleepy and then he pulled my head towards his shoulder. with my head on his shoulder, we just sat there, talked crap and whiled the time away. my appetite was still very bad that time.. so he fed me food to get me to eat.. then it felt like the times when we were tgr. he also said there was a possibility that we cld go back together. but not now. maybe he was just trying to make me feel better?
but i dunno. when i got back, the whole dinner thing last nite seemed so surreal. cos its like back to single life again. facing harsh reality. i msged him and asked him whether he still regarded me as his friend after that night, whether he still liked me still. den his replies were "haha... I like you... as a friend" and i asked why.. and he said "Hai... We're friends what.. no longer a couple..."
u see, his actions are really confusing... still like him alot...
what shd i do? ah! so confused. guys, what is he thinking?!?! i really need solid advice... -
why dont trust? isnt trust the most basic requirement in every r/s?
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She let me down many times. Even though shes willing to change totally now. I cant bring myself to trust her. Hence im very confused over this r/s. sigh..Originally posted by papercut87:why dont trust? isnt trust the most basic requirement in every r/s? -
trust is the basic to have an ongoing healthy relationship,
he/she may have let u down before but if you really love him/her,
give it a second chance for you to see an improvement. i believe everybody
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Just dig deep in. and see how it goes!
Need to give both sometime alone and see how things iron out. No point rushing into such stuff. After awhile i believe both of you will know what u guys want.
To be honest this could drag on forever. its its almost 3 years already for me and counting. True sometimes u may think of the past.. but at times u question urself, perhaps its better this way.
I always tell myself, is it because i think she is the one.. or is it just because i havent found someone else yet. ah... just remain single la. -
haha what if she keeps screwing up my trust with the small things she does that i cant stand?Originally posted by TerenceYYK:trust is the basic to have an ongoing healthy relationship,
he/she may have let u down before but if you really love him/her,
give it a second chance for you to see an improvement. i believe everybody
deserves a second chance...
We just had an arguement last night and im really very tired of everything. -
I would have given you all of my heart
But there's someone who's torn it apart
And she's taking almost all that i've got
But if you want, i'll try to love again
Baby i'll try to love again but i know
The first cut is the deepest, baby i know
The first cut is the deepest
'cause when it comes to being lucky she's cursed
When it comes to lovin' me she's worse
But when it comes to being loved she's first
That's how i know
The first cut is the deepest, baby i know
The first cut is the deepest
I still want you by my side
Just to help me dry the tears that i've cried
Cause i'm sure gonna give you a try
And if you want, i'll try to love again
But baby, i'll try to love again, but i know -
So the way she betrayed your trust was only 'small things'....?Originally posted by freestyle:haha what if she keeps screwing up my trust with the small things she does that i cant stand?
We just had an arguement last night and im really very tired of everything.
Small things like what...? Care to share....?
Perhaps you would like to just open a thread of your own....? -
i know how he feels. I'm in the same situation as him. Can't bear to lose you, yet he don't want to waste your time/cheat your feelings by being with you. When he said he's not ready, HE REALLY IS NOT READY. And he doesn't really want such commitment just yet.
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Originally posted by Pitot:
The 1st papercut is the deepest.. baby i know...
[b]I would have given you all of my heart
But there's someone who's torn it apart
And she's taking almost all that i've got
But if you want, i'll try to love again
Baby i'll try to love again but i know
The first cut is the deepest, baby i know
The first cut is the deepest
'cause when it comes to being lucky she's cursed
When it comes to lovin' me she's worse
But when it comes to being loved she's first
That's how i know
The first cut is the deepest, baby i know
The first cut is the deepest
I still want you by my side
Just to help me dry the tears that i've cried
Cause i'm sure gonna give you a try
And if you want, i'll try to love again
But baby, i'll try to love again, but i know
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jiemei.. i duno la.. i probably can relate to ur bf better den to u.. but den again.. i duno him n ur situation tt well so can only judge from the little i know.
But hey.. take it easy.. it's not doom's day. -
When a person's actions don't match what he says, I'd disregard what he says because actiona speak louder than words..... But in your case, it seems that thw fella's experiencing some kind of conflict in that his head doesn't agree with his heart.......
From his action as described by you, it is plain that he has some feelings for you. Minimum. he enjoys your company. To what extent, it's difficult to say coz there are just not enough facts........ This is his heart talking!
Yet, he seems hesitant and wants the r/s to end - this is his head talking!
At the end of the day, even though he likes you, he is just not prepared to commit to an exclusive r/s with you for reasons best known to himself...........
Probing to find out what his problems are will not do you any good coz there are things which only he can help himself..........
Best way forward is to just continue being good friends and see how things develop. Shun qi zhi ran ba. After all, ru yao zhi ma li, ri jiu jian ren xin ma!
In any case, there's nothing you can do about this r/s problem. So just leave it one side first lor. But your exams are something you can do plenty about! So, focus on being at your best for the exams!
Dun worry about not being left on the shelf coz you won't! At most I come and pick you up if nobody really wants you lor...! Ahem! -
Tch.. precious making a move on ppc.
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my condolence to you, papercut, please accept my sympathy...... Why? well, the relationship is as good as dead.
Your ex probably got what he wanted all along...... perhaps he got it......and ........... and........ time for him to move along and look for greener pasture to hunt..... ...... and ..... "Another one bites the dust!!". Best you forget about your ex and start life anew....... one dead relationship won't be the end of the world, baby... -
bishbish.Originally posted by Gackt247:The 1st papercut is the deepest.. baby i know...