relationship problem... =(
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fyi guys, wad im doing now- isolating myself from him for the time being till im ready to be his friend again. i can't possibly go and befriend him rite now because i'll start tryin to decipher his silly actions and then the both of us end up being confused... no end to this. so ya, we'll wait and see. relationships wise, i think all my hopes and expectations are dashed in this one alr. i dun think i'll go into one for a really long time, too tired.
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if i were you,i would also do the same thing
just be yourself
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Don't have to force yourself into a 'friendship' just for the sake of it....Originally posted by papercut87:fyi guys, wad im doing now- isolating myself from him for the time being till im ready to be his friend again. i can't possibly go and befriend him rite now because i'll start tryin to decipher his silly actions and then the both of us end up being confused... no end to this. so ya, we'll wait and see. relationships wise, i think all my hopes and expectations are dashed in this one alr. i dun think i'll go into one for a really long time, too tired.
Personal advice is.... If you can't handle it, then don't.... -
grr..thats why i say, guys suckOriginally posted by papercut87:not long ago, i ended a relationship with this guy. we spent really many happy times together.. we did quarrel, almost broke up once but resolved it in the end.. but overall, the relationship was fairytale like and magical..
but it suddenly came to an abrupt end when he told me that we shd break up cos he felt he didn't know what love was afterall cos he felt that he wasnt ready for a r/s... he also thought that we were too different in terms of character and that it was impossible for us go tgr... when i asked him whether he ever loved me during the whole course of the r/s.. he said.... he didn't know- maybe not.
those words cut deep.
i spent the next few days crying my heart out, lost my appetite totally, first few daes i wld sms him telling him how much i missed his presence... to give our r/s one more try.. that it really, really hurts so bad... but no replies.. so i somehow thought that he had more or less gotten over the breakup and that i sucked.. so i spent the remaining time reflecting on the relationship and talking it out with a few close friends... and now, i've more or less come to terms with the breakup.. picking up the pieces.... diverting my attention to my studies..
his friends sensed smth was wrong also, but they didnt dare to ask him... they came to ask me.. cos we both seemed like a really loving couple in d past.. they said he seemed to be v affected by it (they thought we argued or smth).. dey mentioned that he looked upset, zombified and stoned all the time.. but they din dare to approach him. so i told them that we broke up for good le. dey were stunned. i also asked them to look after him.
after a week or so... which was yday, when both of us were feeling more or less better, he asked me out for dinner and i agreed (my friends are so gonna kill me when they hear this.) we dabaoed dinner and watched the night sky together while eating. must admit i still had feelings for him... okay that nite i was feeling kind of sleepy and then he pulled my head towards his shoulder. with my head on his shoulder, we just sat there, talked crap and whiled the time away. my appetite was still very bad that time.. so he fed me food to get me to eat.. then it felt like the times when we were tgr. he also said there was a possibility that we cld go back together. but not now. maybe he was just trying to make me feel better?
but i dunno. when i got back, the whole dinner thing last nite seemed so surreal. cos its like back to single life again. facing harsh reality. i msged him and asked him whether he still regarded me as his friend after that night, whether he still liked me still. den his replies were "haha... I like you... as a friend" and i asked why.. and he said "Hai... We're friends what.. no longer a couple..."
u see, his actions are really confusing... still like him alot...
what shd i do? ah! so confused. guys, what is he thinking?!?! i really need solid advice...
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well, i don't knw how u guys look at this.. but personally i think he doesn't suck and i don't blame him for all that at all?..
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for now, its wise not to be friends with him ba.. but i think it'll be a waste if we can't be friends in the future.. we can click very well.. wavelength very similar...Originally posted by Devil1976:Don't have to force yourself into a 'friendship' just for the sake of it....
Personal advice is.... If you can't handle it, then don't.... -
already say dig deep n see how liao lor. sotong queen
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in life, timing is very impt.
1 very good example would be getting into a relationship before and after NS.
if you met someone who treated u nice and all, started getting used to his attention and all, but when he goes NS, u will feel completed "abandoned". thats why people say before NS dont get into relationship unless u prepared to break up.
but after NS, u meet this same particular guy, but he has completed his NS, is working, then u will have more time to be together to let the relationship progress.
what i trying to show is that timing is really very very important in life.
like the saying goes, you gotta wait for the time to ripe. but before that time comes, you know there is a lot of ruhua show for u to marathon.
bide your time well, good things are worth the wait. why the rush to be together now, if you 2 are meant to be together, you got like half your life to see him daily. lol. this is to all couples out there.
!!! TIMING TIMING TIMING !!!
o well. good luck tho. -
wad dig deep.. si pee toot
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lalalalalalalalalalala..
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withdraw and wait for the right moment is probably the right move. now, if you will try and not think abotu it and get on with your life. don't think about is it a waste or not. thereare other friends around too, if dun have too bad lor
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which is what u intend to do lor sotongOriginally posted by papercut87:wad dig deep.. si pee toot -
Fight fight fight..
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will there be hair pulling and dress ripping?
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your mind is getting cleanerOriginally posted by hisoka:will there be hair pulling and dress ripping? -
of course la.. i administered Dettol for his daily medication mah.Originally posted by crofty:your mind is getting cleaner 
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waa lao...here people so sad... then u all keep joking. later she cant take it how? lol
but i wonder, why everytime people get stump on the relationship problems? -
cos relationships and feelings are not rationalOriginally posted by bladez87:waa lao...here people so sad... then u all keep joking. later she cant take it how? lol
but i wonder, why everytime people get stump on the relationship problems? -
finally.. wise words from u.Originally posted by hisoka:cos relationships and feelings are not rational -
aiya.. ppc is strong girl la.. nonid to worry.Originally posted by bladez87:waa lao...here people so sad... then u all keep joking. later she cant take it how? lol
but i wonder, why everytime people get stump on the relationship problems? -
You never know.A lot of us just put on a strong front..sometimesOriginally posted by Gackt247:aiya.. ppc is strong girl la.. nonid to worry. -
my words are always wise, its merely a matter of comprehensionOriginally posted by Gackt247:finally.. wise words from u. 
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bullshi+.Originally posted by hisoka:my words are always wise, its merely a matter of comprehension -
I do not mind getting a free supply of daily Dettol to heal meOriginally posted by Gackt247:of course la.. i administered Dettol for his daily medication mah.
naughty naughty...u -
Originally posted by Gackt247:bullshi+.