Terribly upset..
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Thanks for all the advice guys!
I would really doubt she would come running back to me as her new bf seems to be real nice to her, according to the blog. If she does however, I would really be on my guard.
And as for whether I makan her already..
, of course not, that's a no brainer .
I take things like sex very seriously. I must really really love the girl and be very comfortable with her before I do it and ya.... I'm a virgin -
Bro, all the best to u. Even if she is not yr gf nvm, just be friends, noe something call fate that can do wonders if u got faith in it. If you have the heart, girls can see it,feel it and it just matter of time and the more mature u r the more girl will like u.
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I think you are mostly hurt becoz of the lies she told you, doesn't matter that her intentions are good. A lie is a lie, it hurts like any other lies. Third parties like us can suggest that she was trying not to hurt you, but a lie is a lie, it breaks your heart. I had been lied to, so I understand how you feel. You rather people to tell u the truth, get upset about it and move on, rather than get lied to and harbour false hopes, this hurts 10 times more.
I think what you will learn from this experience is learn to pick out the truths and the lies. It will make u a more savvy and intelligent person. Just dont let such an incident make you into a skeptical person. It should strengthen you, not worsen. -
All I can say is nice guys dun always meet nice gals.Originally posted by UsedKill:Here's what happened(brief summary).
btw...that's also part of the risk U have to take for pursuing a gal on rebound(sort of). -
when u r nice, u r a good candidate as a pillar of support ( backup) for their emotional needs. they pour all their problem to you and they would just lead to on intentionally or unintentionally to make themselves feel better and boost their ego? some girls like to feel like they are the most attractive female with many guys chasing.?Originally posted by Xcert:All I can say is nice guys dun always meet nice gals.
btw...that's also part of the risk U have to take for pursuing a gal on rebound(sort of). -
Yeah treat this as a harsh lesson. Sometimes, being a good guy is a bad thing...Originally posted by UsedKill:Here's what happened(brief summary).
I met this girl during attachment and she would frequently talk to me through emails, etc. We soon exchanged hp numbers and we would sms each other alot.
She had bf problems, she said he was quite abusive and stuff and would confide in me. I asked her why she told me all this things, she said it was because she felt that she could trust me. I offered to help her. Once I went to accompany her when she left her bf house, but she couldn't take it and went back a day later. Anyway a few days later she found out that I liked her but she did not get angry, only asked me to find out more about her first because rushing into a relationship is not good, I agreed fully.
The next day she told me her bf broke up with her. I was happy of course. And over the weeks, we would hang out, I gradually fell in love with her, I asked whether she had feelings for me, she replied she saying "abit" but she needed to get over her ex bf stuff first. We would exchanged many smses, some mushy ones, she told me she felt lucky to be loved by me and was lucky to have me. But one day she became very cold towards me, she would not reply to most of my smses. I asked her about what was going on, she replied that she had family problems, I offered to help her but she said that her family only wanted her to be with people they trust. I accepted it. Still, I felt there was something wrong, I asked her about it, but she stuck to what she said, I decided not to bother her and let her deal with her own problems first.
A couple of weeks later, she said she had to go overseas for a month or two to settle some stuff. I wished her well and anxiously waited for her return.
Two weeks later, I was bored and decided to see if I could find her blog on a blogsite. I found it, and it was a blog that she started with another guy.
I was shocked, horrified, totally shattered. Apparently she did not break up with her bf after all and it was only after she got together wtih this guy(an old friend I think whom she didn't contact for a long time I think) only then did she went to settle things with her bf. When she got together with this guy, it was around the same time she started becoming cold towards me. Oh ya, apparently she went overseas for two days only.I was taken for a fool for a whole month not knowing what was going on. In fact I was fooled from the very start because she did not actually break up with her bf, either that or she went back to him without telling me. I confronted her about this through sms, she told me it was a decision made by her parents and a relative. Her mother did not approve of her becoming close to me and her mother loved the new guy.
Now thinking back about what she said. It really meant nothing at all. Words with no substance. She took me for a total fucking fool, made use of my good will. I was just a spare tyre after all. Gave me half truths when I asked her for an explanation, pushing blame to her parents. Now I find it hard to even believe whatever she said about her bf. I'm taking this as a valuable lesson not to trust people so easily, especially people who come up to me with problems. I have finally seen the duality of people's personality.... Sickening people, pretentious, double headed snakes.
The fact that you infatuate with that girl so quickly was your fault too..don't you think so? that's why love in this type of thing is soo...easily manipulate.. -
Yes, but I couldn't help it, she was really a very nice girl(at that point). Girls like that very rarely come into my life.
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take it easy bro~ it's better to see it now den next time.
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Cheer up...
Gal are very complicated issue now...
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I used to think that that only applies to girls....Now i noe its not that case....Originally posted by UsedKill:I take things like sex very seriously. I must really really love the girl and be very comfortable with her before I do it and ya.... I'm a virgin Me same as eu...virgin... 
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Three guys liked her at the same time? She must be very attractive.Originally posted by UsedKill:I admit I am a little bitter that she went with another guy. But that's not the point, its how she handled it. If she had told me straight it would be ALOT better for me. I wouldn't have to waste one month thinking what was going on and pinning for her. And I did not pester her to be my gf when she apparently "broke up" which I now I'm not sure that even happened.
The thing is she lied to me/ gave me half truths, one minute so nice to me, the next min decided to throw me away like a used towel..
I told her to take her time. I wasn't in a rush.
And yes, I admit I was gullible and naive, thinking that she really liked me. It was partially my own fault for falling too deeply in love with her.
Anyway it is pointless to be bitter and to try to "learn" from this experience. There is nothing to learn... this kind of things, you just be a man about it and look for another girl to love. -
I wouldn't say she's chio from that "hot body, big curves" perspective. But she does have a very demure and serene face and very nice eyes.
However, what actually attracted me to her was her personality. She was one of the very very few girls or actually at that point, the one girl who actually gave a shit about me (really cared about me at that time) and was willing to trust me and yeah she initiated many of the conversations. -
lesson learned.. must really understand a girl before committing your feeling in the future. glad that you took this in a logic way of thinking.
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Your post just reminded me of Pink Floyd. That would be perfect background music for this thread...IIIIIIII have become comfortably numbOriginally posted by zeny:take what had happen to you and repeat the whole cycles a few more times and you will be numb. Whats the point of being angry? she nv cheat your money and only your time.
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Ya I definitely won't "wish she was here" anymoreOriginally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:Your post just reminded me of Pink Floyd. That would be perfect background music for this thread...IIIIIIII have become comfortably numb -
Not necessary true. For me, i would like the feeling of feeling safe to talk about almost anything including my ex with my dearest. That would mean the most ultimate of my trust in him.Originally posted by SumOne:This part is typically quite true, girls/ladies/women never feel comfortable talking about an ex with someone they truly like. There's friends you talk about your bf with, and there's bf potential. Kinda seperate there.
Just wanna point out that dif thing means differently to different people...
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So share with us how u make her pay back?
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In the context of the original poster, the girl mentioned she has feelings for him.Originally posted by jojobeach:Guys,
Just because a girl pour her heart out to you doesn't mean she is interested in you ok ?? -
No, I didn't go harass her or demand for more explanation. I'm not gonna do that kinda stuff.Originally posted by soulwinner:So share with us how u make her pay back?
But I tried to remove every trace of her from my life. E.g., deleting her hp number, hotmail, friendster, friendster testimonials, etc.
It was just painful to even look at her photos at that time.
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That's right. Delete every trace of her from your life. Make sure they are gone and start afresh. A new love awaits.Originally posted by UsedKill:No, I didn't go harass her or demand for more explanation. I'm not gonna do that kinda stuff.
But I tried to remove every trace of her from my life. E.g., deleting her hp number, hotmail, friendster, friendster testimonials, etc.
It was just painful to even look at her photos at that time.
So ya, its over..
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Glad that you can finally move on. Look towards the future and all the best.Originally posted by UsedKill:No, I didn't go harass her or demand for more explanation. I'm not gonna do that kinda stuff.
But I tried to remove every trace of her from my life. E.g., deleting her hp number, hotmail, friendster, friendster testimonials, etc.
It was just painful to even look at her photos at that time.
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Ranting about your ex to your current bf is different from ranting to your potential b/f.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:Not necessary true. For me, i would like the feeling of feeling safe to talk about almost anything including my ex with my dearest. That would mean the most ultimate of my trust in him.
Just wanna point out that dif thing means differently to different people...
Ofcus we girls are guilty of bi thching about our ex to our b/f even if they hate to hear bout it.
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Abit .Originally posted by boyrage:In the context of the original poster, the girl mentioned she has feelings for him.
Perhaps some. But not enough to fall in love with TS. -
TRUE...Originally posted by jacqn:lesson learned.. must really understand a girl before committing your feeling in the future. glad that you took this in a logic way of thinking.
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Did you met her parents before..?If No how her parents dont like you when they never met you before..Originally posted by UsedKill:No, I do not have many friends, much less friends who know about this
I have not even met her mother or her family for that matter before. I only knew her for a like few months.
Anyway as your previous post that you post she asked you to understand more about her before she accept you..This part maybe she is guilty of lieing to you about her stuffs and therefore asked you to understands her more..
I think is her fault by saying she like you abit if she is not interested in you. She shouldnt gave you hope that maybe you think you have the chance..Be Strong I understand how you feel~~..And Do not judge or trust a person when you only know her/him for a few months..=P~~