Should you pay for all the things when you are dating a girl

• Shanks23

  5 May 07, 20:01

  Originally posted by FocusPoint:

  There are a lot of freeloaders in the world expecting the other one to pay for everything when going out on a date. Sad to say, (sure kena hantam from all the females one) majority of the females of these generations expect the males to pay for everything.
  
  Luckily for me, my wife before she marriy me knew I wasn't rich, so very 'jitong' one. Will offer to pay for food if I pay for movie tickets and transport fees. No need me to ask one. That is why after I marry her and as I grow in terms of dollar and cents I will always remember how she treated me so well. And now I will splurge on her without hesitation and also depends on my capability, which quite happy to say I am capable I must be blessed too for she is a very thrifty wife, not those big spender. Even spend also on the kids and for the house. My beloved honey for almost 18 years

  Thats good man...jeslous of you hehe..But happy for you also hope you live as happy as now for the future..^^
• mhcampboy

  5 May 07, 20:04

  Originally posted by FocusPoint:

  There are a lot of freeloaders in the world expecting the other one to pay for everything when going out on a date. Sad to say, (sure kena hantam from all the females one) majority of the females of these generations expect the males to pay for everything.
  
  Luckily for me, my wife before she marriy me knew I wasn't rich, so very 'jitong' one. Will offer to pay for food if I pay for movie tickets and transport fees. No need me to ask one. That is why after I marry her and as I grow in terms of dollar and cents I will always remember how she treated me so well. And now I will splurge on her without hesitation and also depends on my capability, which quite happy to say I am capable I must be blessed too for she is a very thrifty wife, not those big spender. Even spend also on the kids and for the house. My beloved honey for almost 18 years

  How old is your eldest??
• FocusPoint

  5 May 07, 20:11

  Originally posted by mhcampboy:

  How old is your eldest??

  2 boys oni. Eldest 15 and the other one 13. It's ok I don't need a godson I have a lot oredi if you are thinking of applying
• da-cheese-freakk

  5 May 07, 20:19

  Originally posted by FocusPoint:

  2 boys oni. Eldest 15 and the other one 13. It's ok I don't need a godson I have a lot oredi if you are thinking of applying

  hahaha, I actually think he was trying to "get" one of your kids if there were any girl ... xD. or maybe I'm just making crazy assumptions.
  
  okay, regarding the issue ...
  no, you shouldnt have to pay for everything.
  after all, who is the girl dating? you or your money?
  if the girl is sincere and isnt after your money, it shouldnt be a problem to have her pay for her half.
  also, if you pay for everything (if you guys are steading), you may gain the misconception that the girl you are dating is part of your property.
  even when you start to realize her flaws (if she has any major flaws), you may feel hesitant to break up with her, because, after all, didnt you just spend so much money on her?
  also, the girl may feel guilty if she ever has the need to break up with you, because though she may feel that you guys may not work out, it would be a fact that you just spent so much money on her.
  so therefore, in order to prevent such problems from occuring, I strongly advise you not to pay for everything.
• ironpeasant

  6 May 07, 01:06

  But how to ask the girl to pay in a nice way? I usually pay everything for dinner first by using visa, but later how to ask for money?
• yihao93

  6 May 07, 01:53

  Originally posted by FocusPoint:

  There are a lot of freeloaders in the world expecting the other one to pay for everything when going out on a date. Sad to say, (sure kena hantam from all the females one) majority of the females of these generations expect the males to pay for everything.
  
  Luckily for me, my wife before she marriy me knew I wasn't rich, so very 'jitong' one. Will offer to pay for food if I pay for movie tickets and transport fees. No need me to ask one. That is why after I marry her and as I grow in terms of dollar and cents I will always remember how she treated me so well. And now I will splurge on her without hesitation and also depends on my capability, which quite happy to say I am capable I must be blessed too for she is a very thrifty wife, not those big spender. Even spend also on the kids and for the house. My beloved honey for almost 18 years

  that is the price for sex u have to pay...
  no offence lol...
  watch it frm TV
• hiphop2009

  6 May 07, 01:57

  no.
  
  haha.
  
  aiyah, sometimes u pay, sometimes she pay la. fair wad.
• walesa

  6 May 07, 05:20

  Originally posted by Shanks23:

  Dont ever pay everything for your girlfriend she will be too rely on you after 6months..And when she go out with you she will not bring any money out..And when thats happens you better hit 4d everyweek...=P And when you are short of money you also dont dare to call her out...=P

  Are you sure you were dating a girlfriend and not a social escort?
• MyPillowTalks

  6 May 07, 07:38

  i tink hor, by right, that is must, but by left, if the gal treat u like her younger bro(like jie di) she might pay for u
• allentyb

  6 May 07, 07:41

  
• jasonsamster

  3 Jul 07, 13:16

  Originally posted by ironpeasant:

  But how to ask the girl to pay in a nice way? I usually pay everything for dinner first by using visa, but later how to ask for money?

  email her the bill
• AndrewPKYap

  3 Jul 07, 13:19

  Originally posted by jasonsamster:

  all things includes food, transport, gifts, etc

  if they girl offers to pay, then let her... pay for it or pay her share... if she does not offer, then the boy pays bah...
• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Jul 07, 14:17

  Originally posted by jasonsamster:

  ask her to stay back wash dishes to repay the debt

  
• popikachu

  3 Jul 07, 22:27

  Originally posted by jasonsamster:

  all things includes food, transport, gifts, etc

  some of the thing...
  
  Not all the thing...
• Scania N113CRB luver

  4 Jul 07, 00:13

  Originally posted by jasonsamster:

  email her the bill

  aiya . Email still need to do so many things . Just fax to her office lah !
  
  
• de_middle

  4 Jul 07, 09:33

  Originally posted by FocusPoint:

  There are a lot of freeloaders in the world expecting the other one to pay for everything when going out on a date. Sad to say, (sure kena hantam from all the females one) majority of the females of these generations expect the males to pay for everything.
  
  Luckily for me, my wife before she marriy me knew I wasn't rich, so very 'jitong' one. Will offer to pay for food if I pay for movie tickets and transport fees. No need me to ask one. That is why after I marry her and as I grow in terms of dollar and cents I will always remember how she treated me so well. And now I will splurge on her without hesitation and also depends on my capability, which quite happy to say I am capable I must be blessed too for she is a very thrifty wife, not those big spender. Even spend also on the kids and for the house. My beloved honey for almost 18 years

  sweet
• akinos

  4 Jul 07, 09:56

  I'm from the Netherlands/Holland... So i go dutch, its part of my tradition.
• newcomer

  4 Jul 07, 10:02

  if u date xmm who still studying how? ask her to use her pocket money to pay ah?
• sand king

  4 Jul 07, 10:05

  i try to pay for her food but she always tell me not to be gallant and will pay for her own share,
• VaultPrime

  4 Jul 07, 10:22

  i agree... girls can pay for their own meals at times..
  
  Would not it be a better idea if you ONLY go dutch for her on special occasion? It will make her treasure the moment more right? Just a little suggestion~ =D
• puremiLk16

  4 Jul 07, 10:26

  i agree sometimes its ok to go on dutch for me as a ger. But what if let say the bf has financial problems and the gf like have to pay mostly for everything for the outings?? like transport,dinner,movie?? Then on the other hand, e ger herself also doesnt earn much and need to save up for her studies but on the other hand she need to help the bf in everything? Sometimes its a problem when it comes to such situation
• TerenceYYK

  4 Jul 07, 10:29

  if i'm on a date,seriously,i wont gek gao with money issues,its a date,not just a normal outing with frens.
• BadzMaro

  4 Jul 07, 10:47

  I will ask them 1 question to make my decision to go all out.. or to reserve myself.
  
  'Do you believe in equality?'
  
  but if she insists on paying... then i will just have to repay her...
  
  with lots of LOVE... Sweet hard love... he he
• jianfish9

  4 Jul 07, 11:24

  I have a friend who always go out with girls kena chop carrot head. So I always haf to avoid him after he goes out on a date otherwise haf to help him pay for some stuff... Haha...
• jasonsamster

  4 Jul 07, 14:54

  Originally posted by BadzMaro:

  I will ask them 1 question to make my decision to go all out.. or to reserve myself.
  
  'Do you believe in equality?'
  
  but if she insists on paying... then i will just have to repay her...
  
  with lots of LOVE... Sweet hard love... he he

  on bed