3 years still never make love with gf...
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you're welcome, excuse me for that kind of language. i absolutely hate guys who are like that. in fact, despise..Originally posted by justguyz:thk you so much O_X
i will take into consideration. -
are u all doing everythin but not the real thing? if yes, there's still hope u noe!
if no reaction n things are seldom done, i can foresee ur sex life is gonna suffer. imho.
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Common make love??? Do you know why people make love.
There is only 2 reason!
1. Make babies.
2. They dont love each other tat much.
If not why they make love. If 2 person can accept each other and continue on with their life, making love is just like a bonus, without it, life still moves on. Common SOTB, you dont have to post such thread for us to scold the hell out of you right. Shag off into some dirty forum and get post your reason there. Fools like you doesnt deserve to be in AA -
Xiao di di~ its o.k to feel like that. I know what u mean , but if u want to be the 'bad guy' .. by all means. Most of the ppl out there are bad guys , are u going to follow the masses or stick to your true self. The urge for sex is great.. hell its hard for me to resist too..Originally posted by justguyz:Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe
BUT.. i think u just want sex simple la. Like YunHair said , maybe u are trying to justify yourself for something u are about to do .
Oh , and one more thing , i dont think u go EVIL because of ur GF. Its like saying u become a naughty boy because ur mummy spanked you hard. -
I pity your gf.
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I think she said what she said about asking you to find another girl because she was disappointed in you. I would feel very disappointed if my dear kept forcing me to have sex with him. I know I love him, but love can never be justified by whether I am willing to have sex with him or not. When I am ready, I will do it.
If you cant wait, why don't just marry her? Unless both of you are still schooling of cos... -
OK. Suppose your g/f finally relented and make love with you.
Then wat ?
OK. Suppose you took her virginity. Now what ?
You have something pure and precious. Yet you are willing to throw it away for a thrill ride in public buses ?
Think carefully before you take the leap to bad boy status.
It is a point of no return. -
PCC is one of the solution to dismiss ur urge...
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I have a qn for you...
Do you really think you're a nice guy? What makes you think so?
1. You dun respect her decision
2. You pressure her
3. you made her cry
4. You force urself on her
5. You want her to satisfy you.
6. you dun think from her pt of view
7. Most imptly, you hurt her. It must have been painful when a girl who loves u so much cried and asked u to look for another girl.
Who is the nice one here?
1. The guy who wants to possess the girl. A guy who has 2nd thoughts when there is a chio babe beside him?
2. The girl who is prepared to let go?
Love is not how much time or $ u spend on her. It comes from the inside.. ur heart. -
I dont get it, why must guys always want to have sex with their girlfriends to prove that she loves him ect?Originally posted by justguyz:Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe -
You are a so....
Since u so SURE ur love for her and u need TAT. And she willing to do after married.
GO AND GET MARRIED. STOP BULLSHIT SAYING ALL THIS NONSENSE.
As a guy, i despise you. Yes every man have needs. But is also depends whether the gal want or not. understand? -
hey justguyz...
hope tis will be of help...http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=221569 any qns, pm me...cheers!!! -
TS pls go and die
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if u hav the urge, juz get ur ass out and excerise. play basketball or something like dat, all ur urge will go away.Originally posted by justguyz:Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe -
As a guy who has sexual urges, why don't you just you know, DIY?Originally posted by justguyz:thk you so much O_X
i will take into consideration.
May help.
doko -
guys normally have 2 heads.
i think TS has 1.
dickhead -
the solution is simple. Go fark ureself.Originally posted by justguyz:Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe
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seems like you're more interested in having sex than being with your gf.
being in a relationship is not equals to sex.
love is not sex.
i guess you're 'dirtied' cos you did it before. there's where the mistake occured. why did you have sex without any real commitment?
if you did not taste that, you would not have such a sad perspective. -
i agree with your sentiments, that perhaps she might be disappointed in him, after all, which girl wants to be treated like this?Originally posted by rainee:I think she said what she said about asking you to find another girl because she was disappointed in you. I would feel very disappointed if my dear kept forcing me to have sex with him. I know I love him, but love can never be justified by whether I am willing to have sex with him or not. When I am ready, I will do it.
If you cant wait, why don't just marry her? Unless both of you are still schooling of cos...
but i cannot agree to the part you say "If you cant wait, why don't just marry her?" won't it be like marrying for sex only? -
cheers !!!!Originally posted by yasusenpai:I pity your gf. -
better do it fast
if another guy ran infront of u, u will lugi -
looks like at least there are nice ppl out thereOriginally posted by necrolyt3:I have a qn for you...
Do you really think you're a nice guy? What makes you think so?
1. You dun respect her decision
2. You pressure her
3. you made her cry
4. You force urself on her
5. You want her to satisfy you.
6. you dun think from her pt of view
7. Most imptly, you hurt her. It must have been painful when a girl who loves u so much cried and asked u to look for another girl.
Who is the nice one here?
1. The guy who wants to possess the girl. A guy who has 2nd thoughts when there is a chio babe beside him?
2. The girl who is prepared to let go?
Love is not how much time or $ u spend on her. It comes from the inside.. ur heart.
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I don't understand why would u even think that making love with GF is essential for ur relationship. If u are the sort of guy who thinks that "Making love is proof of love", then maybe u should change ur mindset, or even break-up with ur gf.
Call me old-fashioned, call me an arse-hole, but I don't think that having sex with gf can help to make the relationship better, or go to another better level. -
What are her exact words?Originally posted by justguyz:but knowing that she hate sex and finding its distusting really affect me alot.
She thinks the idea of having sex is disgusting or
She simply cannot imagine the idea of having sex with you?
If she thinks the idea of having sex is disgusting.
It could be related to something that happened in the past.
It could be due to her upbringing. A social stigma sheÂ’s trying to dodge.
Simply put, she thinks a woman who desires sex and does it before marriage is a sl@t. She hates the idea of being branded a sl@t.
If she has a psychological barrier that makes her reject intimacy, it may not be easy to help her.
Bu it doesnÂ’t hurt to find out more though..
At least you will understand her better and you can then decide whether you want to stick around and try to help or find another partner.
If she hates intimacy with you.
Then you have already identified the problem.
The problem with you is, to her, you may be a ‘nice guy’
‘Nice guy’ is not a compliment.
A ‘nice guy’ believes that only he wants sex and his partner is actually doing him a favor by giving in to his request.
So you do things out of your nature to get her to grant you that favor.
Your actions reek of your desire and she senses that the craving is not for her but something you need from her.
She felt compelled to give you the occasional kick but sooner or later she will get sick of the idea of being forced to do something sensual with you.
You know why you feel that way? You can sense it as well...if she initiates, it's because she felt obligated to do so!Originally posted by justguyz:BUt Seriously I doubt i have the feeling to make love with my gf even she initiate it now...
If you really want things to work out between the two of you, please get rid of the ‘nice guy’ mentality!
Your Desire = when you want something stronger than what you are presently experiencing.
When you let your desire run wild, your mind is not in the present. It is somewhere else. And women are usually very instinctive in picking this up.
The easiest way to control your desire is not to worry about the outcome!
Concentrate on what you are presently experiencing instead of the outcome.
When you are out on a date, simply enjoy the date.
When you are talking to her, simply enjoy talking to her.
When you are kissing her, simply be kissing her.
Stop thinking about what is going to happen next.
When you are able to let things flow naturally, the intimacy both of you will experience will be far more fulfilling to both of you.