3 years still never make love with gf...
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You sound like love to you is only about sex..
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You are not nice, just "acting" nice. Stop lying to yourself and telling yourself you are a gentleman. You want the sex.Originally posted by justguyz:Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe
You are acting nice because other people think you are a nice person and so you must act nice in front of them, if not, your image will be shattered.
You know what? Be true to yourself and quit acting like another person.
You have lived for nothing for the past 3 years.
Like I said, be true to yourself. That's all.
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justguyz, can i noe how old ur gal is?
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Love is not all abt sex, do respect her decision. Different people have different mindset and it doesn't mean that she dont't love you if she resist having sex with you or she wouldn't be with your for 3 years! She just feels uncomfortable with it. Take it slowly
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miserable you may be, but do put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes nevertheless.Originally posted by justguyz:thks guy. i'm in the middle too. that y so miserable. I cannot leave my gf neither i can love another ger. Maybe you can love other ger but its just fair for all parties. BUt Seriously I doubt i have the feeling to make love with my gf even she initiate it now... I just cannot do it with you. How to surive through the marriage life....
Justguyz
if you have being with your gf for 3 yrs, than stay on, not may BGR can last so long.
If your gf don't wanna have sex, than forget about it alright?
having sex is just a mutual agreement between you and your girlfriend/ a girl whom u met in a pub/disco.
if it's one-sided sex, than she will not feel happy about it at all, and should you force her to make a decision, she will feel like you're treating her as a sex toy or a prositute after u have and got what you want. (than that's when gals will cry in their shower or hide in their bedroom and cry, thus coverting their love to hate towards guys and covert to les)
if you really love her, than give her the respect that she deserves!
from your first reply, i doubt your gf will initiate it since she's conervative which is good. Be happy and stay contented that you can have light petting on her, holding hands waist, hugging her and to carry her.
but if she one day change, and she's really keen, there will be a critical point whereby she starts it, than when do whatever on you, there will be one moment that your body reacts mentally (gives you the nod to go ahead) and you will carry on.
it's based on her comfort level when she decides to give you.
such ladies are really looking for true love, it depends on the chemistry and feeling if it's romantic surroundings + if the topic that both of you and her are chatting on that day have any links with sex or arrousing her physically or not, that gives you higher chances of at least heavy petting.
learn to treasure your gf, she's really a gem, if you don't want, introduce to the rest of the guys here whom you feel is suits her.
if you can't imagine staying with her till after marriage, and the idea of having sex only after marriage, I suggest that you as a guy who loved her, recommend a trust-worthy guy who u know to her, and hope the best for them both.
A responsible and faithful guy should be one that takes care of his gf even after they broke up, but of course, don't expect to hug her after breaking up la, perhaps just maintain as close friends or best friends to share problems and go out with.
If you really love her, respect her decision. Sex is just a form of communication, there are still many modes of other communications whereby you can try out with her.
Communication by which means eye-contact, you don't need to talk to her yet able to make her feel happy and blissful with your company beside her.
That's understanding.
Love her, don't hurt her.
Make her feel happy, and safe in your arms.
Have a balance and mixture of verbal, physically (light petting in your case) and emotional communication as well as taking care of her when she's ill.
Learn from experience and observe and take note what she is sensitive on so as to not touch the topic again in future.
And listen to her needs.
Use our brain and heart to think, don't use our dick when will only make us no different from beast.
Love is complicated yet simple if you know how to handle it with care and proper communication.
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i think he only want sex... he dun really love his gf....
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i think...
... u are horny..
u make it sound like u would go out with any1 who is willing to have sex with u..
u are willing to ditch some1 u love and some1 who love u for sex.
u are willing to forgo a 3 year r/s just for a little "fun".
get a life man..
r/s are not based on sex.. -
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TS = SOTB, he deserve no credit on being a nice guy, he deserve to be dumb badly.
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to TS, the last thing you want to do is to go some place, know some gals and have an ONS, and later AIDS.
Review your relationship lah. Why does making love or going physical matters so much to you?
cause you want to go to next level? cause going next level to your gf means getting married. Are you ready?
or you just want to have sex?
if you strongly feel the latter, and you feel frustrated, then maybe you are not suited for this long wait.
You can choose to have the most fantastic experience during your wedding night where your love will accelerate to a new level by your joining.
Or you can have it just like digging your ears... Something that is common, and not unique...
End of day, you live your life. -
oh..this is so sad.. is time to move on leow lah..gf going to be ex leow..
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TS.. despite what everyone else tells u, u're normal. Every guy needs sex, and i daresay most long term relationships encompass sex.Originally posted by justguyz:Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe
true, a relationship is not all about sex, but sex is very important to a healthy relationship.
U didn't state in your post the reason why she wants to wait until marriage before having sex with you.. but if you feel you haven't slept with enough girls before u get married, then i would recommend u break up with your current girlfriend and go lead the lifestyle you desire.
Don't wait till you're married, then cheat on your wife. Lead the life you want now, and settle down only when you think the time is right. -
low-life!
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FRANKLY AFTER READING THIS THREAD I CAN ONLY SAY ONE THING!!! YOU JUST DON"T DESERVE HER AT ALL!!! IF YOU BLUDDY LOVE HER YOU CAN WAIT. YOU JUST DESPERATE FOR YOUR OWN URGE RIGHT!? IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER THEN MARRY HER THAN ASK HER TO GIVE YOU HER VIRGINITY WITHOUT ANY FUTURE ASSURANCE THAT YOU WILL MARRY HER!!! I HATE MAN LIKE YOU SO SELFISH FOR YOUR OWN URGE! GO FIND SOMEONE ELSE! GIVE YOUR GF HP NO. TO ME!!!
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Actually that is an excuse!Originally posted by kenn3th:I dont get it, why must guys always want to have sex with their girlfriends to prove that she loves him ect?
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Respect her... She isnt just a hole where you put yr brother into
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geez
noob,
love not equal sex la...
noob...
wan then wait -
wa.
hardup desperado.
shes not a sex toy and she's right in asking you to find other girls.
YOU EXPECT HER TO SAY "OHYEA, IM SO SORRY FOR REJECTING YOUR REQUEST, LET'S MAKE LOVE NOW" ?!
use your brains lah...
They're there for a purpose. -
Originally posted by justguyz:
the ts seems to be saying he's so handsome that all the girls love him
Anyone facing the same problem? I'm with my lst gf for more than 3 years and we still did not make love. Its so sad. I think the best moment to make love is the honey moon stage. Now its over. I feel so sad and feelingless. We pet only. I think i will still be petting even after marriage. I love her and will marry her. But seems like the more I wait the more i'm more tired. Now I understand why there is bad guy. I'm used to a 100% good guy that treasure relationship very seriously. But when i have this gf, i've changed over the years. I respect her decision to only sex after marriage. BUt who respected me? I so surpised. I can have ONS with someone I just knew and I cannot even make love to my gf! Life SUCK YA!? [b]In my working place I can get as many gers as i want. I can even choose. But because of my gf, i resist them. I felt stupid to be nice guy! I have a short relationship with one ger but i broke up beocoz i stil love my gf even though I know I cannot make love to her. I ask her why we cannot make love and argued. She cried and told me to look for other gers! I nearly fatinted. All my loves wasted...I thought making love is a nature thing for couple... U make love to gf beocoz u love her. So she is telling me not to love her? sigh... Currently i'm very close to a pretty ger. How to resist her? I know my gf cannot live without me. But I'm sick of being fatihguy. Goodguy die earier. anyone can advise me? I'm evil now becoz of what my gf's decision affected me. I love my gf but i wanted to play around too. I'm going crazy! PLease help!!
Confused justguyz
End of nice guy, future playboy wannabe[/b] -
lol, the pot calling the kettle back..Originally posted by banzie:FRANKLY AFTER READING THIS THREAD I CAN ONLY SAY ONE THING!!! YOU JUST DON"T DESERVE HER AT ALL!!! IF YOU BLUDDY LOVE HER YOU CAN WAIT. YOU JUST DESPERATE FOR YOUR OWN URGE RIGHT!? IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER THEN MARRY HER THAN ASK HER TO GIVE YOU HER VIRGINITY WITHOUT ANY FUTURE ASSURANCE THAT YOU WILL MARRY HER!!! I HATE MAN LIKE YOU SO SELFISH FOR YOUR OWN URGE! GO FIND SOMEONE ELSE! GIVE YOUR GF HP NO. TO ME!!!
speaking about bad guys, aren't you the same..haha
only wanting he's gf's no after knowing she's a conservative girl who's still a virgin..
sigh..
to think you even speak so angrily in your thread reply..
sigh..
you have better go find other girls yourself too.
no offence intended, it's just my thoughts. -
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Sorry, but what is the agony here
You wanna play, you gotta pay.. can you afford to lose her? Don't do stupid things and regret later..
anyway if your're still feeling damn horny please go bar forums and look for the jackson brothers, they teach many interesting ways to wank.. -
it seem that.
make love with girl, could tie them down.
it a tough decision for girl. what if you not gonna marriage her?
guy, sweet talking to girl for making love is easy?
you enjoy, after that. you go for another girl? what happen?
the best is, wait.
patience is the key, being a good guy is better even you cant enjoy.
if you love your girlfriend, it is better to save till marriage?.
dont let the girl regret. make sure you two love each other deep
before making love.
my 0cent feedback. TIE UR GIRL DOWN ! -
what i wanted to say.. other forumitees have said... so i shall cut it short..
i really pity ur gf... & stop saying u are a nice guy.. cos u are not.. -
My question to everyone who reply to this tread is simple.
1) How many of you out there have a relationship for more than 5 years?
2) If not do you think any of your relationship will last more than 5 years if marriage is not been held?
3) BEFORE EACH AND EVERYONE HERE STARTS TRASHING THE TS ASK YOURSELF FIRST, MANY CAN REACH THAT LONG?
4) The TS is only thinking but he did not do it yet, but there are others who are worst than him, who would have sex with any girl who has a hole, don't you all feel that they are worst then him?
5) Is not easy for a good guy to have maintain a relationship that is so long, a guy must resist lots of temptations and lots of anger in exchange for a gf who loves him.
6) Did anyone here ask him how the gf treated him or not?