Attached but in love with another guy
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anyhow, it's not good to step on two boats at the same time....
it's not easy to love and to be loved... some ppl treat too loosely and end up miserable life and some ppl treat too seriously and they suffer a lot over a tiny matter. ...
We should learn how to balance and judge what is important in life.
Originally posted by TzX-b:aiya, since ur heart already sway, and u are already aware. than just dump ur bf la.
for guys that approach or try to court gurls that already has a bf...
it really depends on individual la.
some ppl feel that chances only come once, life only live once.
so if u nv approach means no chance.
some ppl will think that its wrong, than they will not do it. -
don't regret your decision lor. after all, a 5 years of relationship don't come just like that.
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thanks Yunhaier & the rest of you who have adviced me. appreciate your time in reading my posts.
i did say about my unhappiness to my boyfriend whenever he lecture me. however, he still think he is correct & want me to change to his way. After that we will keep silent never talk to each other till next day or so then forget the topic. After many times, i give up as I don't want to end up quarrel with him.
Due to this reason & my habit, he felt that I never change my habits, he need to everytime tell me this and that then i remember. I am a very forgetful person & yes his family is very well educated and polite. Unlike me is very rude type. I can say is he actually change me more than I change him. Last time in MRT, I will not bother to let people go out first before I go in. Due to his strict training, I already used to it, must let people go out before I go in. Many times, I let people alight till the train goes off before I can enter.
i think my bf is nicer to others than to me. Many times I wanted to go out when I meet him, when we first dating, we will go world trade centre, east coast park, fisherman village, marina bay paktok. after half year, he never bring me to those places. Every time meet him is at his place I watch him play computer games , eat lunch & dinner with him, watch tv & go home. when go lunch or dinner with him, i cannot talk as his family teachings is eat food is eat food, cannot talk very rude! end up we do not talk as much even though i meet him for whole day. sometimes i feel like he does not need me either. he is fighting to be in charge of an China branch company , he so excited on his work. I wonder if he understand how i feel. he should at least discuss with me. but he agree to his CEO that he is willing to take the position. I also understand that a guy should put his career importantly but i just want him to spare some time for me. Am i asking for too much?
I always ask to go out walk walk other places or movies or visit anywhere but he always say he is tired. But when his friends ask him, he will go. but nevermind, without him I can also go walk walk myself. but the thing i want to point out is how come he so unfair when treat me & treat others...whenever i talk to him about my problems in family or work, he will say i like to nag non stop & say he is tired.
i know i like to complain about my bf but cannot deny he is a good man with good characters but i sometimes cannot stand the way he treat me & really don't know what to do.
\when i read your views make me see from more opinions...like after i read some of your posts, really make me think of many things or possibilities which I have never thought before...
. you can continue to scold me. don worry. just speak out your points.
man are from mars, women are from venus.. -
u alreadi say 1st 6months. he treat u very nice le.Originally posted by Vampire X:thanks Yunhaier & the rest of you who have adviced me. appreciate your time in reading my posts.
i did say about my unhappiness to my boyfriend whenever he lecture me. however, he still think he is correct & want me to change to his way. After that we will keep silent never talk to each other till next day or so then forget the topic. After many times, i give up as I don't want to end up quarrel with him.
Due to this reason & my habit, he felt that I never change my habits, he need to everytime tell me this and that then i remember. I am a very forgetful person & yes his family is very well educated and polite. Unlike me is very rude type. I can say is he actually change me more than I change him. Last time in MRT, I will not bother to let people go out first before I go in. Due to his strict training, I already used to it, must let people go out before I go in. Many times, I let people alight till the train goes off before I can enter.
i think my bf is nicer to others than to me. Many times I wanted to go out when I meet him, when we first dating, we will go world trade centre, east coast park, fisherman village, marina bay paktok. after half year, he never bring me to those places. Every time meet him is at his place I watch him play computer games , eat lunch & dinner with him, watch tv & go home. when go lunch or dinner with him, i cannot talk as his family teachings is eat food is eat food, cannot talk very rude! end up we do not talk as much even though i meet him for whole day. sometimes i feel like he does not need me either. he is fighting to be in charge of an China branch company , he so excited on his work. I wonder if he understand how i feel. he should at least discuss with me. but he agree to his CEO that he is willing to take the position. I also understand that a guy should put his career importantly but i just want him to spare some time for me. Am i asking for too much?
I always ask to go out walk walk other places or movies or visit anywhere but he always say he is tired. But when his friends ask him, he will go. but nevermind, without him I can also go walk walk myself. but the thing i want to point out is how come he so unfair when treat me & treat others...whenever i talk to him about my problems in family or work, he will say i like to nag non stop & say he is tired.
i know i like to complain about my bf but cannot deny he is a good man with good characters but i sometimes cannot stand the way he treat me & really don't know what to do.
\when i read your views make me see from more opinions...like after i read some of your posts, really make me think of many things or possibilities which I have never thought before...
. you can continue to scold me. don worry. just speak out your points.
man are from mars, women are from venus..
wad makes u think that 'another' guy will treat u nice 4ever/longer.
ur situation is 99% same as mine ex ba.
she stead with another guy 2days after she decided to leave me.
really have to ask urself, izzit because of that guy.
or the problem lies between both of u.
without that guy coming into ur life.
i dun think u will be posting this thread down here.
hais.. i juz feel that in the end no matter wad we say.
u will leave ur current bf.
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just remember choices have consequences...It aint easy for a couple to stick together for 5 years...every couple have got problems of their own...talk to ur bf about how u feel...keeping quiet doesnt help...communication's always important...at the end of the day,it's still up to u whether u would want to take the risk and embark on a new relationship or not..others can only advice u but not help u make decissions of any sort...hope that helps
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Vampire.
I'm glad you realise that Y is not to be considered now at this moment.
My advice is this.
Sit down. make 2 lists.
1. what makes me unhappy (in regards to my bf)?
2. What are the things that i love in my bf?
look at that list.
In list 1, which are the things you can live with, and which are the ones you cannot
have a heart to heart talk with your bf.
let him know the seriousness of the problem. help him realise you are not trying to criticise him but trying to save your relationship with him
and ask him to help you save your relationship.
communication is KEY here. do it calmly. without pointing any fingers at anyone
avoid name callings and accusational statements.
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Originally posted by Vampire X:
This is enough reason to dump that bas.tard unless u r worried about being left on the shelf...
There's once happened 2 years ago, when I accidentally fell down a block of stairs & roll down. My legs were bleeding & so pain till I cannot walk properly, he scolded me for not paying attention & did not walk properly. He even added that I totally throw his face in public.
He walk off rapidly & I just lipping my leg following him. I am angry but still I tolerate. I apologise to him saying I should have walk carefully next time. I also don't know how long can I stand him. I can always advise my girlfriends this kind of man don't want suak suak ki, but when happen to myself, I really don't know how to handle. Actually I am quite afraid one day I may let off everything & ignore him, then it will really be the end of our relationship.
Love is about give and take, NOT tolerate/tahan. Ask yourself, are u happy together with him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him and his family? [/b] -
I dont noe if this helps.
Love is never one sided. It is always two sided. Whenever, yr bf indirectly hurt u, it hurts him too. It is just one of his ways to express his concern for u. If he is to change his character, it will even make the situation worse.
I am not saying that gal should tolerate guy or guy should tolerate gal. But I am saying that there is a root cause behind this kind of behaviour. I feel that yr bf has many feelings and thoughts locked up inside him. Feelings and thoughts that have been accumulated over years without sharing with some1 that resulted in this behaviour. Example : His mind is probably thinking that what he do is right coz he is thinking in a few more steps further than you.
This kind of relationship is probably :
1) The guy has difficulty in expressing
2) It is always the guy that solved the the girl's problem
3) Whenever, feelings and thoughts that are slipped out of the guy, it was never captured by the girl.
Haha... probably, what I say above is not well-appreciated. Think I better stop before more people get
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peeps btw hows life?Originally posted by Vampire X:thanks Yunhaier & the rest of you who have adviced me. appreciate your time in reading my posts.
i did say about my unhappiness to my boyfriend whenever he lecture me. however, he still think he is correct & want me to change to his way. After that we will keep silent never talk to each other till next day or so then forget the topic. After many times, i give up as I don't want to end up quarrel with him.
Due to this reason & my habit, he felt that I never change my habits, he need to everytime tell me this and that then i remember. I am a very forgetful person & yes his family is very well educated and polite. Unlike me is very rude type. I can say is he actually change me more than I change him. Last time in MRT, I will not bother to let people go out first before I go in. Due to his strict training, I already used to it, must let people go out before I go in. Many times, I let people alight till the train goes off before I can enter.
i think my bf is nicer to others than to me. Many times I wanted to go out when I meet him, when we first dating, we will go world trade centre, east coast park, fisherman village, marina bay paktok. after half year, he never bring me to those places. Every time meet him is at his place I watch him play computer games , eat lunch & dinner with him, watch tv & go home. when go lunch or dinner with him, i cannot talk as his family teachings is eat food is eat food, cannot talk very rude! end up we do not talk as much even though i meet him for whole day. sometimes i feel like he does not need me either. he is fighting to be in charge of an China branch company , he so excited on his work. I wonder if he understand how i feel. he should at least discuss with me. but he agree to his CEO that he is willing to take the position. I also understand that a guy should put his career importantly but i just want him to spare some time for me. Am i asking for too much?
I always ask to go out walk walk other places or movies or visit anywhere but he always say he is tired. But when his friends ask him, he will go. but nevermind, without him I can also go walk walk myself. but the thing i want to point out is how come he so unfair when treat me & treat others...whenever i talk to him about my problems in family or work, he will say i like to nag non stop & say he is tired.
i know i like to complain about my bf but cannot deny he is a good man with good characters but i sometimes cannot stand the way he treat me & really don't know what to do.
\when i read your views make me see from more opinions...like after i read some of your posts, really make me think of many things or possibilities which I have never thought before...
. you can continue to scold me. don worry. just speak out your points.
man are from mars, women are from venus..
Still very stress about your bf?
Just go out to enjoy life.
Since he is always so busy and you cannot change him than go out to have fun. -
recently Y mentioned that he is married and I wondered why I start to feel abit disappointed. He introduced his wife to me. She is very pretty and classy lady.
Due to work purposes, I had a lot chances to work with Y. Sometimes I wondered why I will start to search for him if I cannot see him within my sight in office and when I get home I tend to think of him also & next minute conincidently his sms will arrive. I know its wrong to think of another guy especially when he is happily married with a nice wife. But maybe i should tell Y not to treat me so nice or I should avoid Y myself. Workwise how to avoid, unless i quite my job..There's once when I fell asleep on his shoulder while working overtime we both fall aslep together. I felt my face red like ang ku kuah when I wake up & he also kept quiet...& we both kept quiet...
anyway my boyfriend & I are okay now, so far no arguments yet , just that I have no idea why my heart start to sway although I keep telling myself I cannot do that. -
You don't love your boyfriend anymore. That is the truth.Originally posted by Vampire X:recently Y mentioned that he is married and I wondered why I start to feel abit disappointed. He introduced his wife to me. She is very pretty and classy lady.
Due to work purposes, I had a lot chances to work with Y. Sometimes I wondered why I will start to search for him if I cannot see him within my sight in office and when I get home I tend to think of him also & next minute conincidently his sms will arrive. I know its wrong to think of another guy especially when he is happily married with a nice wife. But maybe i should tell Y not to treat me so nice or I should avoid Y myself. Workwise how to avoid, unless i quite my job..There's once when I fell asleep on his shoulder while working overtime we both fall aslep together. I felt my face red like ang ku kuah when I wake up & he also kept quiet...& we both kept quiet...
anyway my boyfriend & I are okay now, so far no arguments yet , just that I have no idea why my heart start to sway although I keep telling myself I cannot do that.
You are keeping your boyfriend because he gives you some of your needs.
But emotionally you are already detached from him.
If I am you, I would break off with the boyfriend.
Take a long leave, go overseas for a week or two.
Then come back when I am more clear headed.
You will be hurting 3 person if you get yourself involved with Y.
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Actually the real reason is simple. You long for your bf to be like him but you know Y is your friend only. If I guess correctly you have not told anyone else about this. Is a dream come true for you but I must warn you the more you play in this dream the more you will wish it will come true.Originally posted by Vampire X:recently Y mentioned that he is married and I wondered why I start to feel abit disappointed. He introduced his wife to me. She is very pretty and classy lady.
Due to work purposes, I had a lot chances to work with Y. Sometimes I wondered why I will start to search for him if I cannot see him within my sight in office and when I get home I tend to think of him also & next minute conincidently his sms will arrive. I know its wrong to think of another guy especially when he is happily married with a nice wife. But maybe i should tell Y not to treat me so nice or I should avoid Y myself. Workwise how to avoid, unless i quite my job..There's once when I fell asleep on his shoulder while working overtime we both fall aslep together. I felt my face red like ang ku kuah when I wake up & he also kept quiet...& we both kept quiet...
anyway my boyfriend & I are okay now, so far no arguments yet , just that I have no idea why my heart start to sway although I keep telling myself I cannot do that.
I can only advice you from my point of view but I know is hard to change.
In reality life still goes on, whether you like it or not. -
can see you are really hurt by what he had done to you, considering that yu still remembered the incident 2 years ago. it was really bad for him to treat you like that.Originally posted by Vampire X:There's once happened 2 years ago, when I accidentally fell down a block of stairs & roll down. My legs were bleeding & so pain till I cannot walk properly, he scolded me for not paying attention & did not walk properly. He even added that I totally throw his face in public.
He walk off rapidly & I just lipping my leg following him. I am angry but still I tolerate. I apologise to him saying I should have walk carefully next time. I also don't know how long can I stand him. I can always advise my girlfriends this kind of man don't want suak suak ki, but when happen to myself, I really don't know how to handle. Actually I am quite afraid one day I may let off everything & ignore him, then it will really be the end of our relationship.
you have to have a good talk with him. do not keep things in your heart. tell him you would like him to change. if he still doesnt change, you have to consider if that is the man you really want to spend the rest of your life with. -
you must keep your distance from Y since he is married. maybe he is trying to be friendly. you keep thinking of him because you are unhappy with your boyfriend and using Y to fill up your emptiness. if one day if you really break off with your bf, do not blame yourself, as you have many problems between the two of you, not because of Y.
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I won't say follow your heart in your case. but seriously, think before you leap, wad i suggest u to do, is to be alone first. anway from both of them so u can think clearly.
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you are not alone..
I have a bf for 10 years but my heart swayed towards a friend last year too..
With advises from friends, i stayed away from both of them.. went for a 2 weeks trip on my own to sort out my thoughts..
Anyway Y is married, your only concern now is why ur feelings waver? -
I read all of your replies and here are my thoughts.
I canÂ’t really tell if your BF is an MCP or simply has difficulties showing you his affection in a kind way. He sounds like a proper lad so far if he treats his friends well and has stuck with you 5 years faithfully. It may not be a bad thing, waking up and smelling the coffee knowing you've got to make do with what you have. The perfect knight in shining armour isn't out there. Every relation we have with the ones around us has it's pros and cons. Some parts about them we like, other parts we don't. If you are the settling kind and looking for marriage, this boyfriend of yours sounds like decent material.
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So you've been putting up with his bad behaviour for some time now and suspect it may have gone on for too long for you to put things right again. Why don't you start ignoring him the next time he disrespects you in public again? Respond to him after 2 weeks and let him know you've given things a careful thought. You love him but you don't feel respected and that's very important to you.
If you've got the guts to tell him what you expect, he might just give it to you. If you don't, be prepared to mull over an onslaught of power play for the rest of the time you're together. Relationships are mutual but you've got to realise what you expect and you mustn't be afraid of asking for it. If he knows he cannot get away with treating you badly in public, he might respect you more and things may change.
Avoid letting your self esteem take the needless beating. The boyfriend is nasty sometimes because you let him.
I had an ex who was a little like that. I bailed because he was verbally abusive, I responded with the same verbal abuse though after a few years, I realise I was living and struggling to keep up with his expectations in other aspects of my life. It was terrible. I figured in the end he was good for company and friendship, but detrimental for the loving. We are still friends today and in some ways, the conflict during that period of time was good for me. I would never have accomplished some of what I have today if he hadn't set high standards back then. It's all a matter of perspective and afterwards, a matter of choice.
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As for Mr Y, your fellow colleague, he may have sensed your interest/crush in him, which was why he reminded you he is married before introducing his wife. Any married man in need of an affair with you probably would never have done that. Which is why I am puzzled by some of your posts.
Did Mr Y send you clear signals of wanting to pursue something romantic or sexual with you? Is it important to you? Because we all know itÂ’s a dumb move mixing business with pleasure unless heÂ’s your boss and youÂ’re guaranteed a swell promotion afterwards. Even dumber if it is a one sided walk.
Male friend of mine, Mr Peter found himself in similar situation. His girlfriend of 5 years was being pursued by her colleague, who was about to be married back then. The colleague had the cash, the car, the apartment, a doting wife, whilst my mate was just a struggling working guy. Mr Peter placed his trust in his girlfriend, allowed her to go out with that colleague for nightly suppers and wine sessions etc. The unspeakable happened and now Mr Peter is still with his girlfriend though he seems to have begun placing more emphasis on his own life than his girlfriend because she cheated. I think he has forgiven but couldnÂ’t forget. As an onlooker, their future looks bleak to me.
Mr Peter may not have what his girlfriend is looking for right now; stability, security and faithfulness as compared to the attention, passion and thrill her married colleague could spare, in a few years time though I think she would want a man like Mr Peter. Just not now. I think itÂ’s her age. Different girls want different things at different phases of their lives. Relationships are results of a poo poo platter of time and chance.
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If you do want to pursue something with Mr Y for whatever need, and he responds, just remember youÂ’re both going to end up each otherÂ’s side trip. He has his wife to go home to and you, your boyfriend. And there are consequences behind everything we do. Have fun and good luck then girlie. -
poor thing... remind me something..Originally posted by jackdaniels:Male friend of mine, Mr Peter found himself in similar situation. His girlfriend of 5 years was being pursued by her colleague, who was about to be married back then. The colleague had the cash, the car, the apartment, a doting wife, whilst my mate was just a struggling working guy. Mr Peter placed his trust in his girlfriend, allowed her to go out with that colleague for nightly suppers and wine sessions etc. The unspeakable happened and now Mr Peter is still with his girlfriend though he seems to have begun placing more emphasis on his own life than his girlfriend because she cheated. I think he has forgiven but couldnÂ’t forget. As an onlooker, their future looks bleak to me.
Mr Peter may not have what his girlfriend is looking for right now; stability, security and faithfulness as compared to the attention, passion and thrill her married colleague could spare, in a few years time though I think she would want a man like Mr Peter. Just not now. I think itÂ’s her age. Different girls want different things at different phases of their lives. Relationships are results of a poo poo platter of time and chance.
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Honestly...when u say ur bf "is able to live without you" and "often ignores you" when he is busy at work, is self-justification for you. You are latching onto his weak points in order to convince yourself Y is better.Originally posted by Vampire X:I know its wrong, but I can't help it. I must be crazy. My boyfriend X is a nice chap, however he often cares alot on his face. Sometimes, due to some occasions which will make him lose face, he will scold me & ignore me for a while, and always point that I am wrong. I did told him about my view but he still think I am wrong. He always find my behaviour wrong & impolite & trying to correct me. An example is when a stranger accidentally knock onto me from behind (which I am unable to notice at all) , my boyfriend X will say I am wrong not to let people walk first. Sometimes I cannot stand the way he treat strangers nicer than me.
Recently, I have a bit of liking on my colleague Y who is a very nice guy. He often sms me to encourage me. I will smile when I see Y sms but I always tell myself I cannot "hiew" Y as I already got a boyfriend. I cannot have a chance to be in the kind of temptation at all. I should be loyal to my bf but frankly speaking my bf often ignores me when he is busy at work. He seems to be able to live without me. But still he is with me for 5 years and I should not be in love with someone else. I am confused. Can anyone help me?
I mean, do you expect him to spend his time idling on the phone with you during office hours? what will his superiors think... -
vampire X...pls note tat theres a difference btw loving love n loving the person...loving love is easy but loving a person nvr is...how abt if its ur bf who wanna leave u cos u cun spend enuff time wif him??? how will u feel?
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To VampireX,
I have one principle to share :
"It is natural that women need to feel loved, cherished and pampered by men. It is best that the man whom she loves and is in a relationship is going to be the guy that gives her the closest attention."
To restate your problem: You need tender love, but your bf is not giving enough of it to you. Y seems a good alternative, but like u said, it's not really about Y.
In some pple (in this forum's) eyes, Y is a bad guy. Well I would say that each situation is unique. I would say that there are plenty of guys out there who are similar to Y but unmarried, but are willing to try to love you the way you want. It's not about choosing between Y and ur bf. It's really about choosing a man whom u want . And believe me, you (like everyone else) is entitled to ur happiness, even if it means leaving ur bf.
How best to resolve ur problem: communicate. tell ur bf about all ur concerns (maybe u can show him this forum). write a list of his good and bad points, and ask him to do the same... and discuss each other's expectations. From ur MRT post, u may sound a little selfish, and he thinks that's wrong. But maybe his way of transforming u is hurting and faulting, as opposed to being loving and patient.
There is a whole world of difference between
"Dear, you should let others out first so that you can get in easily later" and
"Why do you always not let people out first all the time, don't be so selfish".
Give him a chance since like u said, you have been together for 5 years and he has his strong points. Tell him ur concerns, and if he still refuses to address it given countless chances, decide what you have to do, to seek the love a woman rightly wants.
To the guys out there,
Men who understand the above stated principle go a really long way to making their ladies the happiest and most fulfilled women in the world. It took me years to realize this, and years more to learn to apply this principle. And now I still consider myself an apprentice.
Men are stewards of their gf/wife's love.
My personal experience to share:
I used to take my wife for granted, doing some of the reprimanding things VampireX's bf did. And after a while, I realize she is quite perfect in my eyes but very unhappy. She started to unconsciously seek attention elsewhere, and believe me, there are many good guys out there willing to give it to her. I learn to be more humble, and less judgemental and "principled". Now she's my lovely sexy happy angel. -
it is the guy's responsibility to ensure the gal is happy...at the same time, its also the gal's responsibility to understand the guy's situation...if the gal's heart is going to be swayed juz cos a betta guy comes along, then tis gal is obviously nt ready for a serious r/s...cos there will always be betta guys out there...if the gal is gonna choose onli the one who is betta...then she will be hopping from one r/s to another forever, nvr able to settle down...
n pls, dun ever have the mentality tat as long as tat person loves u n treats u well, hence u shld start a r/s even though u have no real love for that person...when i say real love i mean love tat is nt infatuation, nt lust, nt of gratitude...n we dun love based on feelings alone...love is based on a choice...when u break up, it simply means u choose to stop loving the person...
tink of the married couples out there who have stayed married for so many yrs...r u telling me they feel loved every single day of their lives??? probably nt...so how do they stay married? cos they choose to continue loving even though they may nt feel loved...feelings sway time n again...u can nvr trust them fully... -
woo you guys really good in analysing relationships ! take my hat off you... I will think about what situation I am in now. But something happen !
I think I must be crazy, last week me & Y suddenly held each other's hands while crossing the road for about 20 seconds to jaywalk. After that I quickly let go. . .. then we pretend nothing happen...
What should I do ? I also don't know what I doing. Aiyoo! dangerous. how how!? Recently at times when I am with my bf, my heart can wonder about & start to think of what Y is doing at the moment ....& then very zun his sms came right at the next moment!. Oh No! I think I am really crazy. Pls help ME!this will be hurting everyone. -
i tink u n Y need some time to cool off...by tis i mean stop contacting each other completely for a while...holding hands is beyond wad gd frends of opposite sexes shld do alredi...especially since Y is alredi married...
call him, let him noe ur decision to stop contact for a while...say maybe a few weks to a mth...let him noe how his wife will feel if she knew abt wad u guys did...u r also a female, u shld noe how it will feel to any woman who noes abt such acts...
its nt wrong to have platonic frends of the opposite sex but do draw a clear line when it comes to physical touch n places to go to tgr...dun go to places tat r typically romantic on a one-on-one basis...get some other frends to go along... -
but you were and are still thrilled thinking of that wonderful 20seconds, arent you? Y undoubtedly is seeking an affair with you and if you like him, more importantly, if this is making you happy, whats wrong?! especially when your relationship with your current boyfriend is taking you nowhere. X has taken you for granted and you will forever be at the receiving end in the relationship. I dare say, if this relationship works out in the end, it can only happen at your dear expense!Originally posted by Vampire X:woo you guys really good in analysing relationships ! take my hat off you... I will think about what situation I am in now. But something happen !
I think I must be crazy, last week me & Y suddenly held each other's hands while crossing the road for about 20 seconds to jaywalk. After that I quickly let go. . .. then we pretend nothing happen...
What should I do ? I also don't know what I doing. Aiyoo! dangerous. how how!? Recently at times when I am with my bf, my heart can wonder about & start to think of what Y is doing at the moment ....& then very zun his sms came right at the next moment!. Oh No! I think I am really crazy. Pls help ME!this will be hurting everyone.