4years of relationship and said bye bye now...
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Don't brood on it and move on. Every summer surely has its fall. Jiu de vu qu xin de bu lai lor..... That's life! Ming tian hui geng hao......!
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aiyah... girl is like tht 1... my ex can suddenly tell me i no more feeling to you.. thn go stead with another guy..
wat can i do..
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What kind of attitude she can't stand ?
Can you be more specific ? -
maybe i control her too much or interfere her life... you know, as a age of 23.. girls are tend to rebellious
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Rebellious is not for 23 yr ol.Originally posted by thelesis:maybe i control her too much or interfere her life... you know, as a age of 23.. girls are tend to rebellious
Are you insecure?
Are you afraid you might lose her to other better men ?
23 year old are critical time for a woman to chose her mate.
If you cannot give her what she wants, you need to let her go. -
I support wat Dokono have advice.
Be a man bro.
I'm sure she have options now. so her heart is sway.
and you are only 25, don't make ur view so narrow that you don't see others better person around.
You are not going to be alone. Just take it as a rest for you, get a new life. join your friends and start to plan what you interest at and start a new hobby.
By then, u be recover and ready for a better relationship.
Sometimes, you lost something doesn't mean is not good, is a blessing in disguise.
Be strong and act as a man, is lucky she say this to you, not at the point u are 30 and not after you married.
Now you finally see SHE a real her tat she so easy to sway. Is really lucky for u brother. Otherwise you would had been wearing a green hat after tat
If you need a companion, we all here can support you.
All the best. -
This is a post more about self respect.
What I want to say has little to do with how you act or feel about her.
It has a lot to do with how you feel about yourself.
There are guys I knew of who wouldnÂ’t take crap from another guy but instantly turn into wimps when it comes to women.Originally posted by thelesis:I truly don't understand my girlfriend... how can she break up with me who've been faithful to her for 4years.
"although i like to check on her what she is doing but what i do is to prove that I do care for her... what did i do wrong to deserve this?
And they give all sorts of excuses when they check on their women.
Ultimately, they are just scared.
They put the women first.
They lose sight of other priorities. They have forgotten how important it is to respect themselves.
In a sense, the relationship loses its fun aspect as well and turns into an obligation.
Women usually sense it earlier than men and decide to call it quit.
Women are a nice addition to your life.
But if you spend too much time trying to understand them, you will not be able to love them
When you learn to respect yourself, her rejections and insults will not phase you anymore.
If you decide to improve your shortcomings, you are doing it for you, not her.
You will improve yourself because of your self respect.
Where do you go from here?
Stop needing her too much. If she decides to come back on her own accord, please stop checking on her too much.
At this point of your life, you have mountains to climb. Pleasures in life you have yet to seek.
You have no time to worry about whether a woman stay or go. -
It's not complicated.Originally posted by thelesis:I am 25 and she is 23.. She came from KL to singapore to work just because of me. she don't have any friends or relatives here and i feels so touched by what she did for me. I believe she is not happy living in singapore and somehow, she begin to detest me... and now she having a good future working in a good company. She started to complain that we cannot get along. I don't know why.. it is so strange. It like started out of sudden (i really dun understand gals)..
Yesterday we had argument, she wanted to leave me once and all.. it really hurts me..
I am a faithful man to her. when i used to be in NS. i often take leave to go KL just to look for her, hide a love letter in her room when i going back to SG.
I bought rose bouquet at her school and wait for her school to end at KL..
i even rush to KL just to fix her computer for one day because she need to submit her FYP.
I just love her too much that infact, i went deep to her privacy.. now all she want to be friend with me.. i can't accept the fact that how come after 4years, she now then telling me she can't stand my attitude.. what is this? shouldn't relationship should give and take?
It's she has made a decision to leave you. Chances are, she has already found a replacement for you. She has decided you are not the man for her.
Let her go.
doko -
Yes, how sad.
I'm sure you'd have better luck next time, with a man. -
Yes, relationship is about give and take.Originally posted by thelesis:what is this? shouldn't relationship should give and take?
But , there is a limit to what you can give and what you should take. -
Yes. I am indeed afraid to let her go.. there are so much memories for us... This is not easy to let go, you know... it takes time to mend my broken heart again. How come she don't feel the way i feels now? it really hurts a lot...
It is not about being a real man or not.. it is all about feeling and love... If a man can let go any love, he is not even worth for the love at the first place.
By now, i just feels my situation is like Zhou Jie Lun song "Jie kou" or andy lau "Wan le Ying Chang".
What do i deserve all these when i am just seeking someone who settle down with me? -
hi thelesis,
you are not afraid, you are in a shock of state becz of this sudden change that you don't know how to response and would wish to remain the same.
She don't feel the same because the answer is very simple. she have an option to make her not felt hurt, understand?
love takes to hand to clap. she change heart and can you still call this is love?
you afraid, worry, anxious, lost ... because is just happen in a short time.
take a deep breath, and calm down, then you will understand wat i said.
Definitely you will have a better future without her.
This love had been scar, and if there is an opportunity for u to get back her, the love will never be the same again. think about it.
you just 25. i know is very hard time now, but once u got over u will surely recover. Then u will glad you have get over this -
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Move on.
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Maybe you didn't give her enough room to breathe. Maybe you think you have all the right intrude into her private space.
Do you make her uncomfortable by trying to know too much about what she don't want to reveal?
Are you here just to rant, or find answers to move on, or to find reasons to get her back? -
The main reasons for a failure in relationship can be classified in two grps. Whether u like it or not... it is his and her. It is never his only and it is never her only. And his or her problem is usually something that cannot be changed by oneself and that is what we call fate.
1st thing u need to understand -
A boy love girl relationship cannot be formularised into a simple equation that works for all. For example : Faithful + loving = long relationship.
This equation will change as time, age, society change. But generally, the equation will be less complex as her age increases.
The thoughts of a schooling girl and thoughts of a working girl is obviously different. If u love her, u just need to let her go and let her find a better one that she wants to find. Saying: "Bu(4) zai(4) hu(1) tian(1) chang(2) di(4) jiu(3), Zhi(1) zai(4) hu(1) cheng(2) jin(1) yong(2) you(2)" Nothing is forever that is why memories or what u have last time is a treasure.
"If a man can let go any love, he is not even worth for the love at the first place. "
Starting it is like a chain attached between boy and girl.
When the girl happy, the boy will be happy
When the boy sad, the girl will be sad
As years passed, the chain grow longer and longer
But once any party break the chain, the other party have to withstand the burden of the rest of the chain. And the weight of the chain depends on the lenght of years.
No1 is asking u to cut off the rest of the chain. If u want, u can always take on the burden of this chain. And in time, u will get used to it and be stronger.
And that is what we called "experience"
And lastly, I m sorry for u... -
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She's tired of you and wants to experience more life. She wants to get another bf and see how it works out.Originally posted by thelesis:I truly don't understand my girlfriend... how can she break up with me who've been faithful to her for 4years. We known each other for 7years and yet now, she just said "this is my attitude that causes the problem" I was like "huh, dun tell me you dun have weakness mah" a relationship should just give and take. Appreciate his/her weakness... "although i like to check on her what she is doing but what i do is to prove that I do care for her... what did i do wrong to deserve this?
I think most of the guys are more faithful on relationship than girls.. -
From what u written here,sounds like all of a sudden she found a good company and start to know more of people and becoming smarter. She might have know some colleagues who are very nice guy and become interested in her. Cos the changes sound very sudden,right? Seriously ,her love for u might be moved or weaken by the new discoveries. And plus the double blow of yr intrusion into her privacy make her make up her mind abt breaking up this r/s!Originally posted by thelesis:I am 25 and she is 23.. She came from KL to singapore to work just because of me. she don't have any friends or relatives here and i feels so touched by what she did for me. I believe she is not happy living in singapore and somehow, she begin to detest me... and now she having a good future working in a good company. She started to complain that we cannot get along. I don't know why.. it is so strange. It like started out of sudden (i really dun understand gals)..
Yesterday we had argument, she wanted to leave me once and all.. it really hurts me..
I am a faithful man to her. when i used to be in NS. i often take leave to go KL just to look for her, hide a love letter in her room when i going back to SG.
I bought rose bouquet at her school and wait for her school to end at KL..
i even rush to KL just to fix her computer for one day because she need to submit her FYP.
I just love her too much that infact, i went deep to her privacy.. now all she want to be friend with me.. i can't accept the fact that how come after 4years, she now then telling me she can't stand my attitude.. what is this? shouldn't relationship should give and take?
As what many say,respect a woman. Trust her and let her handle her own things. U learn a valuable lesson abt showing respect for yr other half.
U also need to learn another lesson abt able let go if needed to but at the same time,to have a life of yr own. Yr life shall not completely revolved around her. It is good to let yr parnter to become part of yr life but not completely.
Learn from lesson and tell yrself if u have give yr best shot for this r/s. Even it ended on bad note. U will have no regret and still able to walk with yr head high! Let the next gal have the fortunate to share the remaining happiness with u. -
ur attitude a bit bad u know!
pls go and reflect!
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or maybe she was just tired of the relationship with u
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before i start blabbering whether she's tired or the feelings faded or whether u were wrong blah blah...
i juz like to know...
what was the argument about? how heated was the argument?
wat did she mean by saying your attitude is bad?
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She said she don't like my strength/weakness... that's simple. I think it is time to let go. I will move on without her. Just that i feels i need time to mend myself into a good shape again. Is not easy but i will try...Originally posted by browniebaobao:before i start blabbering whether she's tired or the feelings faded or whether u were wrong blah blah...
i juz like to know...
what was the argument about? how heated was the argument?
wat did she mean by saying your attitude is bad?
perhaps u would like to furnish us with more details first?
Thank you guys.. Really feels better after all these... -
It's like saying you don't turn her on anymore. I suspect if she likes you in the first place. Nevertheless focus on making yourself happy.Originally posted by thelesis:She said she don't like my strength/weakness... that's simple. I think it is time to let go. I will move on without her. Just that i feels i need time to mend myself into a good shape again. Is not easy but i will try...
Thank you guys.. Really feels better after all these...
doko -
great to see u understand already...
when u have heart.. u can accept the person strength and weakness
when no heart... u cannot appreciate the person strength and felt dislike his weakness.
I think u had calm more and moving forward more better.
She is a coward that do not dare to admit directly she is .... just try to find excuse. what goes around comes around. she will get wat she deserve.
If you cannot find companion, let us know... we can be ur friends.
Now take a sit back and think what had u been interested on but have no time to do and now is the best time to do...
organize more gathering and find a new hobby. u will find even with urself u don't even have enough time to spend
all the best...