What should i do?
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Relax man, still have long way for your to go. If she thinks that she don't want to continue this relationship,. just forget it. Even if you don't what can you do. No point forcing yourself into it. Once girls have says all this stuffs meaning that they start to think about this relationships etc.
Be like a man, be decisive. You haven't been into NS you already like that. If you been to NS and you have this problem, you will sure get into some kond of depression................ -
Dude, u call her at night for her to set her alarm.
Then u call her in the morning to sound the alarm.
Now, she wanna consider if she gonna buy a new alarm clock.
Or after one month of no alarm clock, if she miss u, will go to the trash and find u back.
Stop being an alarm clock and be a man dude!
She'll respect u more if u take her as an adult and let her wake up her idea for once. -
she needs me.. she is a heavy sleeper. Got once i called her 99 times then she wake up. Normally before i slp i would call her. i yesterday nite nv call her & went to bed. While i was slping, she called me.Originally posted by Rephidim:Dude, u call her at night for her to set her alarm.
Then u call her in the morning to sound the alarm.
Now, she wanna consider if she gonna buy a new alarm clock.
Or after one month of no alarm clock, if she miss u, will go to the trash and find u back.
Stop being an alarm clock and be a man dude!
She'll respect u more if u take her as an adult and let her wake up her idea for once. -
omg... not to be rude...Originally posted by aljudvin:mmmm any idea wat can i do to make her feel touched? Our 13th month anniversary is on the 13th of july. i wan to give her surpise oso.
Tat GF IS YRS
U should be able to noe what she need or want...
Tat is y I stated tat we cant help much...
U really need to recap the last 12 months of memory, BRAINSTORM on the memory and come out something that can surprise or touch her...
Yr case is not tat bad... but u really have to make effort that comes out from u ONLY... -
U dont really need to wait for one month time...
Coz, yr case is not really that bad...
U just need to noe what she really feels, want and need... -
My suggestion:
Gather all the photos you have had over the past 1 yr, and make into something... Then give it to her... Promise to listen to her problems more in the future, and make true your promise...
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Originally posted by aljudvin:i have been with my gf for 1 yr already. 1 week after our 1 yr anniversary, she suddenly said that she feel that we don have even communication. Meaning that everyday i would call her wake up in the morning and before i slp i would call her and ask her what time she wanna wake up the next day. This has been going on for the past 12 months. She asked me if i love her. I really love her alot alot alot!!!!!! she told me she is very confuse between love and feeling comfortable with the person. then she say give her 1 month time to re-consider our relationship. She say if she loves me she would come back to me. I'm very sad.
guys, i need your advise. What should i do? She say we lack of communication. i always sms her the same thing ask her to drink more water blah blah blah. What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do? What should i do?Originally posted by aljudvin:
It's your choice & you've made the choice....not her or any of us here...
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i will wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/b] -
I think she's not the one who needs an alarm clock. You probably need it more than her.Originally posted by aljudvin:she told me that if everyday meet up there wont be like gt a feeling of missing each other. She say she need some space and freedom. so wat kind of sms can i sent? i always sent her : the weather is hot today, drink more water wor. Take care of urself when i'm not by ur side.
This will be long, I hope you bear with me for a few minutes.
First of all,
Your girlfriend is not a camel. Don't keep telling her to drink more water.
Read my above sentence one more time and memorize it.
She needs space and freedom.
That is why I'm telling you to see her sparingly but make each date count.
You didn't call her the night before...and guess what happened?
She called and she wanted to know what happened!
You realise the moral of the story?
She is intrigued when she sees a bit more unpredictability in you!
I think she has been really really patient with you and trying to make things work:
"Don't keep telling me I love you cos it doesn't seem special to me anymore"
"Don't have to see me everyday cos I want some time on my own (to miss you)"
All those things she said translate to two points, you are losing her because:
You are too predictable.
Read my previous post to you if you seriously want to work on this.
You fail to give her a sense of impending finality.
A feeling that she might lose you to someone/something else.
She wants some fight (or some work) to keep you by her side.
It doesn't mean swinging her handbag on another girl's face to win your attention. Read the above sentence in red again.
Now read the little story I prepared for you below:
In her ideal world
Once upon a time, she met a cute boy named Aljudvin.
But Aljudvin seems distant at times, it seems like he didn't mind her by his side.
He enjoyed it...probably.
At the same time, he demostrated that he can jolly well do without her.
Then like some crap korean movie, Aljudvin and her went through some dramas in life and Aljuvin finally realised that she's the most important person in his life.
And on that fateful day, Aljudvin said to her the three words she's been wanting to hear for a long time.
So she wept tears of joy.
And that crap continues...
It's crappy but that's not too far from what she likes.
That's the reason why she don't want to hear those three words from you.
Not so soon.
There's not enough drama yet. Not enough excitement.
Not enough passion.
She hopes to see you escalating her desires further and make her want more. -
she's back to me.
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CONGRATS! Well worth the wait....Originally posted by aljudvin:she's back to me. -
very naturally she hold my hand and give me a kiss while we were walking home. i bought her donuts from donuts factory also.
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congrats...Originally posted by aljudvin:very naturally she hold my hand and give me a kiss while we were walking home. i bought her donuts from donuts factory also.
but seriously when I read your story about being her "alarm clock", I can't help laughing out loud...
Some sort of predictability is good, but not until that routine. Try to incorporate surprises into your rs
Like you always call at 10, then one day try to call a few minutes earlier. Even though just a tiny surprise, I am sure she will love it -
when a gal behave tat way, a normal cause is because her heart sway... maybe she had someone flirt or court her and she a bit 'dong xin'
anyway now she's back.
but this time, u must learn to protect ur heart, got it?
a gal will not say confused if her heart is 100% to u.
and wat cz the heart to sway... simple because of another person appear.
so be clever next time ya. anyway all the best... -
anihow anihow guess oso can ah?Originally posted by vivasg:when a gal behave tat way, a normal cause is because her heart sway... maybe she had someone flirt or court her and she a bit 'dong xin'
anyway now she's back.
but this time, u must learn to protect ur heart, got it?
a gal will not say confused if her heart is 100% to u.
and wat cz the heart to sway... simple because of another person appear.
so be clever next time ya. anyway all the best...
You Bad!
Don't put evil thoughts sin people's head leh.... that is the job of the devil.... -
Not to add salt to ur wound.But i feel its time to let go...
Think she is abit sian with wat she is getting from you..
When a char bor want to let go.. there is almost no chance to cling on to it.
Unless u 2 hv good foundation in the beginning.
If she is soft-hearted, try to melt her heart once again..
But again, if the case is of what you say(you side of story)
Let Go...not much of a point...
*I once seen from a HK show.
A guy telling his friends regarding the problem he & his gf hv.
A guy said> if u cannot keep the heart, load more seads into her, at least your kids to tie her down & use for few more years.
EDITED..Oh, u got her back liao. that's good...Hope u 2 can go long long... -
ooooooooo.. haha! thx for ur advise.Originally posted by rainee:congrats...
but seriously when I read your story about being her "alarm clock", I can't help laughing out loud...
Some sort of predictability is good, but not until that routine. Try to incorporate surprises into your rs Like you always call at 10, then one day try to call a few minutes earlier. Even though just a tiny surprise, I am sure she will love it -
Congrats.Originally posted by aljudvin:she's back to me. -
noted. Thanks! i'm beriiiiiii smart. =XOriginally posted by vivasg:when a gal behave tat way, a normal cause is because her heart sway... maybe she had someone flirt or court her and she a bit 'dong xin'
anyway now she's back.
but this time, u must learn to protect ur heart, got it?
a gal will not say confused if her heart is 100% to u.
and wat cz the heart to sway... simple because of another person appear.
so be clever next time ya. anyway all the best...
oH btw suntec newly open donut factory. lesser ppl. i went to buy que for 30mins like tt only. -
Originally posted by bo liao:Not to add salt to ur wound.But i feel its time to let go...
Think she is abit sian with wat she is getting from you..
When a char bor want to let go.. there is almost no chance to cling on to it.
Unless u 2 hv good foundation in the beginning.
If she is soft-hearted, try to melt her heart once again..
But again, if the case is of what you say(you side of story)
Let Go...not much of a point...
*I once seen from a HK show.
A guy telling his friends regarding the problem he & his gf hv.
A guy said> if u cannot keep the heart, load more seads into her, at least your kids to tie her down & use for few more years.
EDITED..Oh, u got her back liao. that's good...Hope u 2 can go long long...
we going for a tour in sept on our birthday. -
u really are funny.. i laughed quite a bit while reading this thread, and i'm in the office, mind u.. LOLx
cos if for 12 long months, my bf only call me twice a day, (1 at night, 1 in the morning), and says the same thing ("what time do u want to wake up tml dear?" and "time to wake up le!!!"), and sms me the same sms that i can type myself ("today weather hot, drink more water wor") i might as well date my hp.. got alarm clock, so i can set the time myself, it can wake me, and i can set reminder to drink water everyday also.. i can even set reminder to bring umbrella if the forecast says its gonna rain.. heh...
anyway, i'm happy for u that u got her back. but that's not the end of the story.. its just the beginning.. and erm, pls try not to do the "weather hot, drink more water" sms EVERYDAY anymore. once or twice, it can warm the heart and if its me, i'll get a warm, cuddly, fuzzie feeling. but everrrrryday will make u look like u're not being sincere anymore, and will slowly lean towards 'irritating'.. think of smth new to say!
ps: are u sure u are 20y/o?? -
gratz...
But it wont be easy if there will be a 2rd time...
Try to understand her needs and let her feel loved from her opinion. -
ACTUALLY, ask her to read this thread can liao. -.-
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Congrats, aljudvin!Originally posted by aljudvin:she's back to me.
Usually, girls like surprises to sweep them off their feet, and such surprises need not be expensive.
You might think it's demanding, and sometimes i agree it is. The key thing is not to get too stressed over it, and let your sincere heart guide you.
I suggest you read up a book on "Romancing Women", in there, they emphasize on the need to listen to what your girl really wants. And it can be as trivial as rubbing her back, and as costly as a candelight dinner.
Doing very caring things like being an alarm clock is very sweet, and she undoubtedly appreciates it... but relationships need to be passionate too..
Girls want to be loved like a baby, but they also want to be princessess too. Occasionally they want to be indulged, and occasionally practicality takes over, and they want to be a good gf/wife.
There is room in BGR for SNAGs, sensitive new age guys like you, but you do need to be a little more passionate too, like casanova. Lastly, be a bad boy when it comes to sex.
You remind me of myself when i was 20+.
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i agree with thumbelina about not doing the same sms everyday.Originally posted by thumbelina:u really are funny.. i laughed quite a bit while reading this thread, and i'm in the office, mind u.. LOLx
cos if for 12 long months, my bf only call me twice a day, (1 at night, 1 in the morning), and says the same thing ("what time do u want to wake up tml dear?" and "time to wake up le!!!"), and sms me the same sms that i can type myself ("today weather hot, drink more water wor") i might as well date my hp.. got alarm clock, so i can set the time myself, it can wake me, and i can set reminder to drink water everyday also.. i can even set reminder to bring umbrella if the forecast says its gonna rain.. heh...
anyway, i'm happy for u that u got her back. but that's not the end of the story.. its just the beginning.. and erm, pls try not to do the "weather hot, drink more water" sms EVERYDAY anymore. once or twice, it can warm the heart and if its me, i'll get a warm, cuddly, fuzzie feeling. but everrrrryday will make u look like u're not being sincere anymore, and will slowly lean towards 'irritating'.. think of smth new to say!
ps: are u sure u are 20y/o??
it can be irritating..
the key thing is to predict/read your gf's mood like stock market, football or whatever you are into...
here's one romantic suggestion:
while holding her hand and strolling home one night, when the mood is correct, the moon is high up there, and nobody's around..
when she seems to be calm and untroubled by anything,
stop abruptly, turn to face her, look at her straight in her eyes, (don't waver!) and tell her "i love you", and then give her a big hug.
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lol i'm 20!!!Originally posted by thumbelina:u really are funny.. i laughed quite a bit while reading this thread, and i'm in the office, mind u.. LOLx
cos if for 12 long months, my bf only call me twice a day, (1 at night, 1 in the morning), and says the same thing ("what time do u want to wake up tml dear?" and "time to wake up le!!!"), and sms me the same sms that i can type myself ("today weather hot, drink more water wor") i might as well date my hp.. got alarm clock, so i can set the time myself, it can wake me, and i can set reminder to drink water everyday also.. i can even set reminder to bring umbrella if the forecast says its gonna rain.. heh...
anyway, i'm happy for u that u got her back. but that's not the end of the story.. its just the beginning.. and erm, pls try not to do the "weather hot, drink more water" sms EVERYDAY anymore. once or twice, it can warm the heart and if its me, i'll get a warm, cuddly, fuzzie feeling. but everrrrryday will make u look like u're not being sincere anymore, and will slowly lean towards 'irritating'.. think of smth new to say!
ps: are u sure u are 20y/o??
. thanks for ur advise. lesson learnt