Over generous bf?
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What makes you all think that he is not enjoying practising altruism? As long as he is not "pound foolish", I see nothing wrong not being "penny wise" all the time.
I used to save every single penny I made and not to spend unless it was absolutely necessary. Now I realise how much fun I have missed
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the fairer gender is extremely difficult to understand.
When we r affectionate, they say we are horny.
When we avoid physical contact, they either say we are gay, or we are having affairs outside.
When we are generous, they say are spend like water.
When we are thrifty, they say we are 'ngiao'.
When we want to take the initiative, they are we are MCP.
When we let the take the initiative, they are we are weak and indecisive. -
'Originally posted by No9:the fairer gender is extremely difficult to understand.
When we r affectionate, they say we are horny.
When we avoid physical contact, they either say we are gay, or we are having affairs outside.
When we are generous, they say are spend like water.
When we are thrifty, they say we are 'ngiao'.
When we want to take the initiative, they are we are MCP.
When we let the take the initiative, they are we are weak and indecisive.
that's because whenever we say we prefer moderation, but they will still take things to the extreme. Just be MODERATELY affectionate, moderately generous, moderately assertive la. heheh. -
I am also a person like that.
Sometimes my friends are in debt, need money, etc, I will just give or lend it to them to ease their situation even though I know they will never pay it back. They need money more than me and I believe there are more important things than money.
When there are situations where I need money, I just snap my fingers and money will come pouring in.
So yeah. -
Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS! -
You should be glad that his friends are not those who take advantages of your boyfriend's character.
Hearing from you that his friends actually offerred to return the excess money or his money shows that his friend aren't those who take advantages of him. Drinking can be give and take. Perhaps, you only see the times that he gives and not the times that he receives?
Regarding your worries for your future life with him, do have a small talk with him. Regarding the rising cost of living, house, education of your future child. The most important part is do not enforce your thinking into him, the rebound effects would be extreme.
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can i be your friend? we go genting one day ok?Originally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS!
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She didnt even post up all your vital info such as your name, address, ic no etc...how do you know it is you?Originally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS! -
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genting trip, offering of his chips, his age, their arguments, how much he paid for this and that, etcOriginally posted by rainee:She didnt even post up all your vital info such as your name, address, ic no etc...how do you know it is you?
all unique to him and her. -
relac man...no pt getting all worked up.
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I'm not sure if you're who the TS is talking about but if you are, relax bro ..... all she is doing is getting advise on how to plan a better future for the both of you and its not like she mention your name or anything.Originally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS! -
Originally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS!
Chill my friend.
No info was leaked, neither was it all over the internet - it's mainly within this forum space.
TS didn't 'do' anything to you - she is probably just seeking a public opinion.
Aside to TS: let me know (or the other MODs) if there's a need to lock this topic.
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yeah, but she might suffer later.Originally posted by dokono:From what you say, he sounds like a pretty good guy, hard to find in Singapore. It is in his nature to give. It's his money anyway.
Maybe he might give you even more considering you are his girlfriend?
doko
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Honestly? Not a very good point especially for a husband material.Originally posted by galfriend:My boyfriend is pretty generous with everyone. He always buys friends drinks. it can be like one or 2 bottles of hard liquor a week, and when his sister has problems, he will pass her few hundred dollars to buy things to make her happy. and at times, he will sponsor her to go for trips. i think rendering support to sister is good, but think he tends to go overboard when he is being so generous with money all the time especially when we are not rich people.
recently we went genting with friends. he even go to the extend of giving chips (ie money to a friend). to note, at the end of the trip, this friend won money and he lost and the friend sought of said "hey, you still got money with me" he said "it is ok, forget it."
and when we came back from the trip, he overpaid the organiser of the trip >$100, organiser said wanna transfer the money back to him. he said never mind lah, next trip then say. but ther is no trip in the foreseeable future, so it is as good as giving money again.
i really think his generosity is excessive. how should i communicate with him? or am i the petty one?
Unless you're one who don't mind non-materialistic and simple life at all... And I'm talking about not at all...
Personal caution is that if it's lingering a bit of problematic thoughts on your mind now, it might be giving you a more serious problem later on... Another side note question. He's not a 'show off' type now, is he? -
I cannot believe your friend did this to you.Originally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS!
They want to see your relationship break ?
Good friends you have.... on the contrary. -
can i know ur bf~?
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just my 2 cents,
i think its unlikely he'll change his thinking unless something snaps him out of it. i used to spend money freely among friends but changed my thinking only after i got cheated by my friends. -
you are not married , and u do not have control of his money .
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LOL! Fret not. You aren't my boyfriend. We were spending time together last night from approximately 8:55pm onwards. And at where we were during that time, there was no internet access. Thats why you dont see me posting last night. ChillOriginally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS! -
even if you are her bfOriginally posted by Where Is God:Why are you posting our things all over the internet? I was so shocked when i heard this from my friend, and turns out it is real!
Why can't you just talk to me personally? Not post all my info for all to see. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID THIS!
i think u r damn siao qi coz it is a compliment,not complain.read a little bit more la.... -
Originally posted by galfriend:LOL! Fret not. You aren't my boyfriend. We were spending time together last night from approximately 8:55pm onwards. And at where we were during that time, there was no internet access. Thats why you dont see me posting last night. Chill
Nice one.. -
LOL...Originally posted by galfriend:LOL! Fret not. You aren't my boyfriend. We were spending time together last night from approximately 8:55pm onwards. And at where we were during that time, there was no internet access. Thats why you dont see me posting last night. Chill
So did you discuss the issues with your boyfriend ? -
we just briefly talked about it. told him such behaviour will breed greed among friends, not healthy. he say he will be more conscious about that in future.Originally posted by jojobeach:LOL...
So did you discuss the issues with your boyfriend ? -
Taking advantage is a very subjective thing. It can be passive or proactive. By passive, i mean, one knows another is generous and 'allow' that to happen. In the case of the ''offer to return the money", i doubt there was much sincerity in it, as the conversation went like:Originally posted by caleb_chiang:You should be glad that his friends are not those who take advantages of your boyfriend's character.
Hearing from you that his friends actually offerred to return the excess money or his money shows that his friend aren't those who take advantages of him. Drinking can be give and take. Perhaps, you only see the times that he gives and not the times that he receives?
Regarding your worries for your future life with him, do have a small talk with him. Regarding the rising cost of living, house, education of your future child. The most important part is do not enforce your thinking into him, the rebound effects would be extreme.
Friend: wow, you lost so much money. you still have some money with me you know
BF: oh, you win hor?
Friend: ya, but i spent all of them shopping already
BF: it is ok, forget it