Need some help..

• pompy

  4 Jul 07, 16:32

  from what i see TS gf is not being understanding n reasonable. it boils down to 2 possibilities. 1= TS gf craves attention OR 2= TS gf is feeling insecure.
  
  solution to no 1 is very easy. a woman is just like a dog. if a dog wants attention, give them the attention they deserve. send the dog to the spca. attention guaranteed. many visitors, the opportunity to take part in publicity campaigns roadshows etc. that is y i said women r just like dogs. in simple terms dump her.
  
  solution to no 2. TS shld sit down with his gf n encourage her to air her feelings probs thoughts etc. by doing so perhaps can find out the cause of her nonsense n it shows that TS is taking a gentlemanly move by initiating such a move. by right he shld not be doing this. if his gf continues her own ways just refer to solution 1.
• de_middle

  4 Jul 07, 16:32

  Originally posted by pompy:

  the problem is that u have spoilt her. women r just like dogs. must b tamed otherwise they run amok. u must know when to release n pull back the leash. if she behave herself reward her with yr banana, otherwise just ask her to use a carrot.

  
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:32

  Originally posted by BakeInc:

  Okie now i noe the reason, nvm at least i noe whats happening and it's not purely her fault.
  
  The cab part still able to afford, she's a nice girl living in 21st century. We share cost of stuffs. Eat someone i treat sometimes she treat. Sometime i noe i have to be more gentleman so i treat but she will insist to pay me back.

  It's still da xiao jie pi qi + a bit of childish behaviour.
• de_middle

  4 Jul 07, 16:34

  Originally posted by pompy:

  what i said is a fact. sometimes when u give in to much to women they take u for granted expect u to do this n that for her carry her fuc* bag etc. small matters blow out of proportion throw tantrums being a bitc* as though we cant do without them. WTF.

  mmmm, u had a bad experience
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:36

  Originally posted by pompy:

  solution to no 1 is very easy. a woman is just like a dog. if a dog wants attention, give them the attention they deserve. send the dog to the spca. attention guaranteed. many visitors, the opportunity to take part in publicity campaigns roadshows etc. that is y i said women r just like dogs. in simple terms dump her.
  

  I'm not going to turn this thread into a flaming war because TS needs help.
  
  I will just say... Do whatever you want in real life. Just don't teach others to treat any human like dogs. If you want to describe, use the words, not the comparison to other forms of animals. If you want to insult, please go somewhere else.
• BakeInc

  4 Jul 07, 16:37

  Okie thanks for the advices, i am more relieve now =)
• akinos

  4 Jul 07, 16:39

  Aiya, u all can start to flame la... TS already understands and i think he has seen some really good advice le. What he needs to do now is up to his own business.
  
  *peace*
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:41

  Originally posted by akinos:

  Aiya, u all can start to flame la... TS already understands and i think he has seen some really good advice le. What he needs to do now is up to his own business.
  
  *peace*

  LOL
  
  

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  IV) Aunt Agony do not encourage gender bashing.
  Although it's a common sight in AA, like cats on the street - if possible keep it minimal? Same goes for overly religious discussion?

• rainee

  4 Jul 07, 16:42

  Hmm, I am afraid I can sometimes be like that esp when I feel insecure or I am feeling troubled about the rs yet dun dare to talk about it with my dear. So I show the insecurities by being clingy and attention seeking lolz
  
  I have learnt that he does not like that, so in order to get rid of my clinginess, we have come to a compromise that we have been adhering to for the past few months.
  
  So I think the best thing to do is to sit down and have a good talk with her. Tell her that you care for her, but caring for someone does not equal to being with that person 24/7. Maybe during the first few months, it is tolerable, but after a while you will still want to go and meet your friends and spend some time with your family. Try to come up with a compromise with her during the talk, and stick to what you have promised her from then on.
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:43

  Originally posted by rainee:

  Hmm, I am afraid I can sometimes be like that esp when I feel insecure or I am feeling troubled about the rs yet dun dare to talk about it with my dear. So I show the insecurities by being clingy and attention seeking lolz
  
  I have learnt that he does not like that, so in order to get rid of my clinginess, we have come to a compromise that we have been adhering to for the past few months.
  
  So I think the best thing to do is to sit down and have a good talk with her. Tell her that you care for her, but caring for someone does not equal to being with that person 24/7. Maybe during the first few months, it is tolerable, but after a while you will still want to go and meet your friends and spend some time with your family. Try to come up with a compromise with her during the talk, and stick to what you have promised her from then on.

  U shud hv appeared earlier to give a girl's point of view
• pompy

  4 Jul 07, 16:46

  Originally posted by eagle:

  U shud hv appeared earlier to give a girl's point of view

  i have already appeared to give a girl point of view. as i said ts gf could be feeling insecure or craving attention. n the solutions outlined.
• rainee

  4 Jul 07, 16:47

  Originally posted by eagle:

  U shud hv appeared earlier to give a girl's point of view

  The others, although not girls, gave pretty good advice as well
  
  But I think be it girl or guy, if you are in a rs, both should understand that compromise and understanding are very important, as well as communication
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:48

  nvm TS happy can liao. Hope he has a happy relationship
• rainee

  4 Jul 07, 16:49

  Originally posted by pompy:

  i have already appeared to give a girl point of view. as i said ts gf could be feeling insecure or craving attention. n the solutions outlined.

  you are a girl?
• pompy

  4 Jul 07, 16:52

  Originally posted by rainee:

  you are a girl?

  my sexual identity is not impt here. cos i have seen several scenarios before among my friends. however i feel that though i spoke the truth though harsh, i felt unwelcome here but nvr mind its ok.
• BakeInc

  4 Jul 07, 16:53

  yeap i am happy with the advices. thanks for giving so many advices in such a short period of time.
• rainee

  4 Jul 07, 16:56

  Originally posted by pompy:

  my sexual identity is not impt here. cos i have seen several scenarios before among my friends. however i feel that though i spoke the truth though harsh, i felt unwelcome here but nvr mind its ok.

  If you had offered your advice not through a harsh manner and refrain from calling women dogs, maybe you would feel more welcomed here
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:57

  Originally posted by pompy:

  my sexual identity is not impt here. cos i have seen several scenarios before among my friends. however i feel that though i spoke the truth though harsh, i felt unwelcome here but nvr mind its ok.

  It's not unwelcoming... But seriously... I still dun like the feeling of generalising the other gender as being like dogs.
  
  Perhaps some black sheeps, but not all.
  
  Hope you get my point.
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 16:58

  Originally posted by BakeInc:

  yeap i am happy with the advices. thanks for giving so many advices in such a short period of time.

  U r welcome... And u got the aunties chatting here... =D
• AndrewPKYap

  4 Jul 07, 16:58

  Originally posted by BakeInc:

  I seriously dunno what to do...anyone got this kind of problem?

  No, and I will never have this kind of problems because I will never tolerate it... you have to make a stand. If you believe that you are right then just ignore her.... and give her no choice but to accept you for what you are. It is not give and give but give and take...
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 17:01

  Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:

  No, and I will never have this kind of problems because I will never tolerate it... you have to make a stand. If you believe that you are right then just ignore her.... and give her no choice but to accept you for what you are. It is not give and give but give and take...

  Are u sure he never take anything?
• pompy

  4 Jul 07, 17:05

  well though my advice was harsh but i encouraged ts to adopt a gentlemanly move to discuss the issues with his gf didnt i ? i did not condemn his gf str away by asking ts to tell her to get lost or such. by ts taking the 1st step it shows that he still values his gf n wish to clear whatever probs they might have. i mean if his gf still cant see it then i have nothing to say.
• AndrewPKYap

  4 Jul 07, 17:13

  Originally posted by eagle:

  Are u sure he never take anything?

  
  
  but either his perceptions are wrong... he is imagining the whole thing or she lost it to him and now is insanely insecure...
  
  as long as he is sincere and does not leave her and she sees that he will take a stand against her nonsense but does not leave her and will not leave her... it will turn out well in the end.
  
  I really don't see how he can continue like this for much longer...
  
  He should just let her scream shout and whatever/anything and then bring her a peace offering after she cools down...
• eagle

  4 Jul 07, 17:15

  Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:

  He should just let her scream shout and whatever/anything and then bring her a peace offering after she cools down...

  Actually this is something true too. TS take note of it hor.
  
  Not peace offering, but offerings.
• BakeInc

  4 Jul 07, 17:17

  what's a peace offering?