heartless guy
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different ppl have diff needs, he needs sex after his love function has been fufilled.
its up to u to give it or not, but i think its childish to put down a relationship for sexual intimacy, totally not worth it. -
if not, why is there something called 'jian nan ren'?Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Why are you saying such an over generalized statement?
nan ren jian, but nv ren fan jian lor.
if not, how to get fooled?
haha..
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he juz wants u for ur body...no point holding on to him...sad to say some guys, when they r in it for sex they r reali in it for sex ONLY...fond memories n stuff were onli part of their plans to get u on bed....Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him.
doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time...
well accept reality bah for a word like callous to exist, there must be people out there to be like that, afterall all words r only symbols used to describe things...dun haf to care for him so much...not worth ur brain cells... -
ok, r u sexy? ok do u wear revealing clothes?probably coz of these then guys r attracted more to ur body than ur character...Originally posted by bearie000:this is not once..but twice...the guy i dated previously is also like that
i must be a unlovable person..thats why i cant make people develop feelings for me
i mean if u see a person for few times, after that, you will also miss the person even if you dont love the person...but he doesnt seem to miss me or care a damn abt me!
dun say ur an unlovable person, for u to care for people even after they haf treated u badly shows that u r in fact lovable le mah
erm...not reali...many people, see a person for a few times only....the next time u see the person, he will b asking....who r u arh?
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there is no point feeling sad over this kind of guys, not worth it. You did the right thing by turning them down as it is obvious that the reason they get close to you is for the sex and not because they loved you.
Do not ever give in to a guy for sex if you're not ready for it. If he really loves you, he'll respect you and wait otherwise your much better off without these guys.
The right guy will come along don't worry.
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Haha, as usual TS disappear again after you guys post so many replies.
Maybe it a clone again. Haha -
not all are jian nan ren, but it's difficult to look for good nan ren.Originally posted by browniebaobao:if not, why is there something called 'jian nan ren'?
nan ren jian, but nv ren fan jian lor.
if not, how to get fooled?
haha..
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Dear Bearie,Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time...
Can i ask how old are u?
Let me tell u this straight, u are playing this "game" totally the wrong way.
Any healthy relationship needs to have intimacy. Why are you not giving in?
Lets say u reject intimacy with ur bf, how do u reject him? A slap in the face? A straight No answer? A push away?
Rejecting intimacy are not signs of healthy relationship.
What u need to do is to seduce him, but not give in. I repeat,
"Seduce him, not give in"
How to do it? Guys can crazily attracted to girl who to do, lemme teach u,
- If he wants to french kiss u, u hug him and kiss him on the cheek. Whisper to his ear, "next time darling"
- If he wants a hug, touch his neck and give him a scrub on the head.
- Smile and him, bite your lips, play with your hair and walk away.
- Remember, always tease him, seduce him and love him.
Else if u are just gonna say NO and give him black face, he is gonna be very hurt too. Rmb, guys are sensitive too.
Your signs and reactions keep showing tht u are not progressing the relationship with him.
Since u are treating him as a friend, he is treating u back as a friend loh...
Do u really think that by sending cute smses and go out "walk walk" every weekend is gonna improve the relationship? This actually will only reach point of saturation sooner or later.
Remember, u want a guy to be attracted to u. U have to be attractive, seductive, playful, suggestive.
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i'd assume the 'intimacy' mentioned is sex.
in that case you dont want to give in and therefore he ignores you, i guess you shouldnt be sad over a guy like him.. he just wants sex and when he got rejected, he cuts off all ties from you. What does this show? Think bout it. Luckily you didnt give in. Imagine by givin in and after that he dumps you and find another girl.......
honey, your not unlovable. It's just that you havent meet that someone out there....
Dont give up on love just because of the 2 jerks you've met ok?
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I guess it's about the 5min first 20 post thingy.Originally posted by GhostStalker:Haha, as usual TS disappear again after you guys post so many replies.
Maybe it a clone again. Haha -
u all juz hear frm 1 side only...
a few mths le no intimacy... oso dunno how u reject him... u got try to find out abt his feelings after u rejected him anot?
I guess this is not a one day thing only... guess happened on many occasions le correct anot? -
maybe they felt that you dont love him when you turn him down. they might also afraid to find a future wife who is cold towards intimacy.
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no sex no love.
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huh?? it is no love, no sex.Originally posted by rathcycle:no sex no love. -
no love no sex then prostitutes must be damn fkin happy.. they got over hundreds who love themOriginally posted by zix1:huh?? it is no love, no sex. -
that is not love, but lust.Originally posted by rathcycle:no love no sex then prostitutes must be damn fkin happy.. they got over hundreds who love them -
then from what you say love is no sex at all lorOriginally posted by zix1:that is not love, but lust.
i tell u...
that 1 is not love..
that 1.. is cannot stand...or infertile.. -
you very funny leh!Originally posted by rathcycle:then from what you say love is no sex at all lor
i tell u...
that 1 is not love..
that 1.. is cannot stand...or infertile.. some don't believe in having sex b4 marriage lah, so there must be love then do it after marriage.
put it this way, there can be sex without love, love without sex (before marriage), however if there is love though at the moment there is still no sex, sex will come later. -
A few questions:Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time...
Do you feel comfortable with him so much so that you like to cuddle with him?
Do you love him ? How much?
Do you have time trying to get used to physical with guys?
What do you mean you are devoted and yet you don't like to be physical with him? Aren't you contradicting yourself? It leads to the question of where is the love, if any, you have for him?
I don't see how he's taking you for a ride when you rejected him by rejecting intimacy with him. If you truly like him, why are you rejecting him? It's not a nice feeling to get rejected you know. He probably got hurt and you know, a man has a high ego. He probably thought you are not interested in him.
You rejected him and you say he's taking you for a ride? haha..
What else do you want him to do when you already rejected him? To keep requesting? Or to not waste time by searching for new love?
If you love someone, will you let them go?
Some guys like intimacy not necessarily because of sex, they just love the warmth of a body to hug. It's just a nice feeling. I know because I am a guy.
=)
I have to agree his attitude is wrong for ignoring you but it does not mean he is totally wrong. However, it's too quick to judge. "Heartless" is too strong a word.
I feel he thinks you don't really like him by giving him bad signals, hence he does not want to waste his time and yours, as well.
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the guy waited a few months le leh...Originally posted by zix1:you very funny leh! some don't believe in having sex b4 marriage lah, so there must be love then do it after marriage.
put it this way, there can be sex without love, love without sex (before marriage), however if there is love though at the moment there is still no sex, sex will come later.
not long enuf ar ???????????
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he has made it very clear to u that he just wants sex. His only interest is to get free sex. Many girls stupidly give in to demands for sex, after the man threaten to dump her if she refuse to give sex. In the end the girl gives in, only to be dumped in the end. After the initial success, the man will then continue to search for other new girls to get free sex, using the same tactic.
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few months is damn short la...Originally posted by rathcycle:the guy waited a few months le leh...
not long enuf ar ???????????
TS must have super traditional family values..
Btw, Japan has marriages where the couple never has sex in their whole lives; they rather focus on career... be back tired out... then sleep -
cannot wait until after married ma?Originally posted by rathcycle:the guy waited a few months le leh...
not long enuf ar ???????????
TS must have super traditional family values..
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that mean he is just out to have physical intimacy with you
guyz who respect you and love you even when u reject physical intimacy with them they will still want you and love you
they will respect your decision when u say NO to them
so now girls should try saying NO to test out their relationship is physical intimacy only or true love -
if all the guy wants is to have sex with here, he can go geylang. There are many he can select. If can't wait, then it is not love, it is lust.Originally posted by rathcycle:the guy waited a few months le leh...
not long enuf ar ???????????
TS must have super traditional family values..