heartless guy
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I think his fondness for you is shallow, forget him and look forward to meeting somebody better.Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him.
doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time...
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Could be that he is trying to have a clean cut so that you and him can move on with no attachments and baggage from your relationship.Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time... -
This kinda of guy is just those type that want to get in your panties thats all. Ask him to *uck himself and *uck off.Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time...
Move on with your life. There are mcuh more better friends for your time. -
u tio this kind of guy twice ??? hmmmm....Originally posted by bearie000:this is not once..but twice...the guy i dated previously is also like that
i must be a unlovable person..thats why i cant make people develop feelings for me
i mean if u see a person for few times, after that, you will also miss the person even if you dont love the person...but he doesnt seem to miss me or care a damn abt me!
most guys wont break with a gf just because she turned down his request for intimacy...
Errrr.... at least, the reason above wont be a direct effect...
Two case :
1) u may need to change yr circle of friends... lol... u keep having rotten apples from basket that full of rotten apples...
2) Sadly, there maybe another true reason for the break up... -
Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time... 
This is an exchange of needs - he wants intimacy and you want companionship.
You deny one aspect of this trade, the deal cannot run.
Be glad that you have seen his colours even before he transpire; why bother to have the affection of someone whom never meant to be true to you and himself in the first place?
I hope you have the sense to find someone who is both genuine inside and out, not some clown donning jester's mask. Why bother to have the latter's love and affection, where your suffering will likely to intensify when you learn of his facade later on in a relationship?
Originally posted by bearie000:this is not once..but twice...the guy i dated previously is also like that
i must be a unlovable person..thats why i cant make people develop feelings for me
i mean if u see a person for few times, after that, you will also miss the person even if you dont love the person...but he doesnt seem to miss me or care a damn abt me! Our love life is governed by the sort of mindset we implement in our life: People with twisted mindset about love always have screwed relationship - that equation hardly changes. We attract the quality we exude, therefore attracting the wrong kind of mate is often a quality found in ourselves upon close examination.
Such gloomy automatic thoughts have no absolute benefit to your love life; in fact, if you began to believe in your own propaganda, you will always meet man like these. Unconsciously, your poor outlook in love might just be the cause of your so called 'destiny/fate' in love.
Many people failed miserably in love because they failed to understand that self love must come before love. These people attempt to supersede the love they received from others to mollify their emotional deformity and hatred for themselves. They somewhat reckon that the source of happiness can only be bestowed from the others' approval, love and recognition.
But as much as we love to be loved, if the core belief of our love is aberrated, whatever love that was granted to us merely acts as a screen to avoid facing our psychological and emotional imbalance, resulted from the lack of self love.
And the moment when our love fleets, the mayhem triggers instantaneously - we slipped into hysterical mode when we realised that we have to face our ghastly unloving side once again, which has always been blotted out momentarily by the superficial nature of our relationship.
One can only hope to win in love if they have the wisdom to win themselves.
Cheers -
You guys write so many and yet TS no reply..
To me... frankly speaking
Sex is part of the relationship. no sex means no love at all.. come mon, guys.. please do not act like super No Need Sex at all.. when you are in a relationship, eventually sex is a need for guy... -
of course need, but that will come later in the rs ma...not just a few months already force the girl to do it with him...Originally posted by thelesis:You guys write so many and yet TS no reply..
To me... frankly speaking
Sex is part of the relationship. no sex means no love at all.. come mon, guys.. please do not act like super No Need Sex at all.. when you are in a relationship, eventually sex is a need for guy...
rs doesnt just need sex, it also needs respect and understanding from both sides.. -
wank too much no good for hands and that organ nia..Originally posted by rainee:of course need, but that will come later in the rs ma...not just a few months already force the girl to do it with him...
rs doesnt just need sex, it also needs respect and understanding from both sides..
and ffs we are in 21st century..22nd century in 3 more years only.. dun be so "traditional" eh sai boh... -
he must have gotten the wrong signal to initiate the intimacy attempt ... only to be pipped at the post. in order not to be hurt again, he has chosen to move on without you. whats wrong with that? to him, you are just as heartless ...
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simple.
you haven't found the right one yet. -
For me
You did the right thing to reject him for the intimancy,
Hmm
You said nobody miss you or you are unlovable.
That really struck me cos when I say I miss my ex-gf last time,
She said I too sticky to her.
Then she dumped me for loving her too much......
I dun know whether to love a girl too much or love her less now..
Sian I am single again cos I love my ex-girl too much
What to do.
Cannot love too much, Cannot love too little....
What do girls really want? -
hahaha....
3 more years is 22nd century?
Sure or not?
yes....to the thread starter.....please dont lose heart....dont worry this is a good lesson and life experience, to make u more mature and stronger.
Meat Pao. -
so if it happened twice already, TS must change her expectations of bf, check their intentions before going deeper.
no need to be upset, take it that there are all kinds of males out there, some behave this way, but there are others who don't. -
Which girl thinks that "hugging your BF won't turn him on?"
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not related to topic.Originally posted by NotFromVenus:Which girl thinks that "hugging your BF won't turn him on?" -
I feels sad for you... I know how you feels.
how long you've been with your ex?Originally posted by Ionlytalknoaction:For me
You did the right thing to reject him for the intimancy,
Hmm
You said nobody miss you or you are unlovable.
That really struck me cos when I say I miss my ex-gf last time,
She said I too sticky to her.
Then she dumped me for loving her too much......
I dun know whether to love a girl too much or love her less now..
Sian I am single again cos I love my ex-girl too much
What to do.
Cannot love too much, Cannot love too little....
What do girls really want? -
where is TS
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Consider yourself lucky girl. Plenty of good boys out there, take your time to pick. Those who wants to get intimate with you only are player, fun is all they seek. Don't give up on man yet!!
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hmmm.... I feel for you gal...Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time...
just be glad that you found out about him NOW rather than later.... -
we been together for around 10 months
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10 months it's not really that long. Don't dwell on it anymore, be happy that you know what kind of person he is.Originally posted by bearie000:we been together for around 10 months -
being together for 10months does not mean he can do stuffs that you're uncomfortable with.Originally posted by bearie000:we been together for around 10 months
simple words is.....he doesn't respect you so.......u know what to do -
wah liew, girls also heartless wat, go out with a guy and then realize he is not rich and then stop going out with him. Then later realize that he is actually super rich, then wants to come back.Originally posted by bearie000:been dating this guy for a few months.however,when i turned down his request for intimacy, he didnt want to talk to me anymore.I thought he sincerely liked me all these months but now he is ignoring me.......
why? even if he is in for intimacy in a r/s ..doesnt have any feelings for me?
i mean even if you dont love a person, you still have fond memories of the person and want to keep in touch..
why is he so heartless?cut off with me after i refused to be intimate with him. doesnt have feelings for people ?or is it im too duo qin....and devoted..when he just took me for a ride.
i cant believe a human being can be so callous....for me, even if i have a normal friend from the opposite sex, i still keep in touch,afterall,he has bee my friends for so long and i still care and think of him from time to time... -
at least u know now,Originally posted by bearie000:we been together for around 10 months
and u were not taken advantage of...
chin up gal -
i dont know..it happened twice...why am i always under the illusion of being loved and being in love?
why dont the guys develop any true feelings..afterall, we shared good times together and had alot to talk...but come to think about it, they dont even seem to miss me or remember me.just delete me instantly from memory......
this fallacy of love.....Its seems that everyone has someone who truly loves them except me...