Loving a person without reason.. How truth is it?
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WHY WOULD U LOVE A PERSON? BECOS SHE IS CUTE/PRETTY/KIND,ETC.
OF COS THERE WOULD BE A REASON. -
I'm under e impression that love is acceptance...if he can't accept her e way she is, how can there be love in e first place?
Hmm...perhaps it is just what an enlightened forumer pointed out...love is indeed blind~
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Me too. Able to get along is more important.Originally posted by CannyOng:Hi.. I often heard many people say that,they love their opposite sex partner without a reason.
It might be love at first sight...
It might be solely be feeling...
Whatever... Do u believe u need no reason to love a person and base just on purely feeling?
I have a girl friend, she got a bf recently and I know my friend got foul temper and childish. As I predicted,her bf cannot handle and tahan her. He is trouble and he suddenly call me up to pour out his feeling. He told me he loves my friend just becos he loves her and no reason and based purely on feeling(so call love at first sight). He claim only such love is the ultimate lvl of love. Love a person with any bias,no factor and unconditional love...
Just like my friend case,her foul temper will pissed off a lof of pontential lover. I am feeling that guy is suffering cos of his intuition of loving a person without reason.
I don't believe love a person base on feeling...
What is yr view? -
what kind of emotional feelings can we have "down there"Originally posted by jojobeach:Loving the person's body = emotional feelings emanating from down there.....
Therefore, do not need a reason.
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and helping her to improveOriginally posted by oOprinceOo:agreed.
Accepting a person's shortcomings is just step 1.
The higher state of love is to help the person to improve, which requires even more effort than just acceptance.
Difficult, but that's my sincere belief, and what I do for my wife too. -
wow~ how i wish i hav a bf like u hahaOriginally posted by soul_rage:My wife asks me why do I love her.
Each time, I can't find any reason
Except that my love grows each day, and I must see her each day.
Overseas business trips are particularly painful.
anyway look thru the reply and the words 'bad temper' & 'childish' seems to be refering to mi =(
and whenever i ask my bf why he love me he also say love juz love he also got no reason de and we tgh for 2 yrs plus le =D -
Everything you do have a reason
so Loving a person without reason is not possible instead it is just a lie came up by human -
Hope u spared a thought for yr partner if u really love him..Originally posted by love kitty:wow~ how i wish i hav a bf like u haha
anyway look thru the reply and the words 'bad temper' & 'childish' seems to be refering to mi =(
and whenever i ask my bf why he love me he also say love juz love he also got no reason de and we tgh for 2 yrs plus le =D
No matter how tolerant they are. They will snapped one day becos of yr treatment! -
hm, i also got love my ex without a reason, but too bad it ended up pretty fast.. bad for meOriginally posted by love kitty:wow~ how i wish i hav a bf like u haha
anyway look thru the reply and the words 'bad temper' & 'childish' seems to be refering to mi =(
and whenever i ask my bf why he love me he also say love juz love he also got no reason de and we tgh for 2 yrs plus le =D
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True love comes from within.
Like even when you know the person likes someone else and you try to get them both together, when both of them are finally together and you wish them well from the bottom of your heart.
loving a person without reason is not that easy, you must know how much are you willing to give, knowing that person may not love you at all. -
notice something?Originally posted by CannyOng:Hi.. I often heard many people say that,they love their opposite sex partner without a reason.
It might be love at first sight...
It might be solely be feeling...
Whatever... Do u believe u need no reason to love a person and base just on purely feeling?
I have a girl friend, she got a bf recently and I know my friend got foul temper and childish. As I predicted,her bf cannot handle and tahan her. He is trouble and he suddenly call me up to pour out his feeling. He told me he loves my friend just becos he loves her and no reason and based purely on feeling(so call love at first sight). He claim only such love is the ultimate lvl of love. Love a person with any bias,no factor and unconditional love...
Just like my friend case,her foul temper will pissed off a lof of pontential lover. I am feeling that guy is suffering cos of his intuition of loving a person without reason.
I don't believe love a person base on feeling...
What is yr view?
The person may be foul temper and childish but as long as she is pretty, good looking or perfect body, it does not matter at all..
Since when have you seen someone liking a person if she is foul temper,childish, ugly and an out of shape body? -
i dunno.. but my ex's that loved me all said i bomoh them... wtf!
make me sound like they love me not knowing why like a spell.
but i swear i never bomoh them!!! -
when u start thinking like that, u got to be start afraid that u wun last with yr bf.Originally posted by love kitty:wow~ how i wish i hav a bf like u haha
anyway look thru the reply and the words 'bad temper' & 'childish' seems to be refering to mi =(
and whenever i ask my bf why he love me he also say love juz love he also got no reason de and we tgh for 2 yrs plus le =D -
You don't know ?Originally posted by de_middle:what kind of emotional feelings can we have "down there"
That means you never lusted after a woman before. -
Ofcors he will tell you that lah.Originally posted by love kitty:wow~ how i wish i hav a bf like u haha
anyway look thru the reply and the words 'bad temper' & 'childish' seems to be refering to mi =(
and whenever i ask my bf why he love me he also say love juz love he also got no reason de and we tgh for 2 yrs plus le =D
You'd be angry if he says he loves you because you have big boobies, or you give good blow job. Right ?
Cannot tell the truth sometimes... -
First post... normally lurking around but this topic touches my heart somewhat.
I used to be like that too - as in believing that I could love my (now ex-)GF "without reason". My ex-GF is the possessive and manipulative type (fortunately the r/s lasted just 6 months. Phew!).
Brainwashing is THE word - she'd say things like "if you loved me you would do ______ for me" and the soft part of me would convince myself that "yes, since she is indeed my GF I should love her and therefore do _____ for her, so that she will be happy", even if some of her demands were indeed unreasonable.
Of course, in retrospect, the above is plain blackmail. But it might not be so easy to see it when you're deep in the relationship, when you put your partner as more important than yourself.
Hence I believe that there's no such thing as true unconditional love - in the context of an abusive relationship, it only means that the ability of one party to give willingly in the relationship is being abused to satisfy the other's demands.
All those couples that live "happily ever after" claim to love each other unconditionally - but I believe it's because both parties are first able to provide what their partners needed before their partners are able to reciprocate. Hence it's nowhere near unconditional either.
My 2.14 cents inclusive of GST.
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Love has no reason, when u love a person, u just love him/she, it a feeling of wanting to share something with him/her, a feeling of giving, share and care. And for the sake of love, a person must change his/her attititude, characteristics and even personality. It is important to change onself so as to embrace love that shall bringforth happiness for both. Your fren hot temper will get here no where, because she never truly love her bf, if she really do love him, she should mend her way for the benefit of Love.
Love can be heaven and it can also be hell.
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Yes, I do have a reason, if you guys so insist that everything must be rational and logical.Originally posted by ghimpheng:Everything you do have a reason
so Loving a person without reason is not possible instead it is just a lie came up by human
I love my wife because I like to see her being happy, and see her smile. Yes I know I am selfish to always make her smile. So I am less selfish if I make her cry?
People who say loving a person without reason is impossible = never truly loved at all. Perhaps all you see is lust. And lust for you is the reason. -
am glad you see your weaknesses. Perhaps then you should see how you can improve?Originally posted by love kitty:wow~ how i wish i hav a bf like u haha
anyway look thru the reply and the words 'bad temper' & 'childish' seems to be refering to mi =(
and whenever i ask my bf why he love me he also say love juz love he also got no reason de and we tgh for 2 yrs plus le =D
My wife is extremely stubborn. I accepted that when I married her, but now I am helping her to improve, to see things from another perspective
To me, no one likes to be criticized, so the only person who can truly give you criticism which can help you, is the one that you love.
I know my strengths already, I don't need my wife to trumpet for me. But I need her to see my weaknesses -
Yes, you sum it up adequately.Originally posted by angel7030:Love has no reason, when u love a person, u just love him/she, it a feeling of wanting to share something with him/her, a feeling of giving, share and care. And for the sake of love, a person must change his/her attititude, characteristics and even personality. It is important to change onself so as to embrace love that shall bringforth happiness for both. Your fren hot temper will get here no where, because she never truly love her bf, if she really do love him, she should mend her way for the benefit of Love.
Love can be heaven and it can also be hell.
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Angel
I have a friend, whom is a really attractive lady, but she has reached her 30s. Till now she is single, the sole reason from my analysis is that she is too rational and logical.
Each time a guy goes near her, she will check him off against her criteria, and if he fails her mental criteria, automatically, the door is closed.
Too much logic and rationale (for eg demanding that every love has a reason), kills the concept of love. -
Indeed, L.O.V.E is suppose to be in tis way..But to date, who can actually do it?Originally posted by zeny:True love comes from within.
Like even when you know the person likes someone else and you try to get them both together, when both of them are finally together and you wish them well from the bottom of your heart.
loving a person without reason is not that easy, you must know how much are you willing to give, knowing that person may not love you at all.
Human r gettin more & more selfish. & thy hav more choices now, therefore fickle-minded & lack of appreciations for each others..
I know tis is ironic..I wld really love to know if there's anybody out there who still love & respect each other "til death do us part"? Im sure it wll bring sparkles of hope to pple who believe in L.O.V.E. -
yes I will. I see myself and my wife in old age still happily together, coz the love I have transcends external appearance already.Originally posted by RedizAlertz:Indeed, L.O.V.E is suppose to be in tis way..But to date, who can actually do it?
Human r gettin more & more selfish. & thy hav more choices now, therefore fickle-minded & lack of appreciations for each others..
I know tis is ironic..I wld really love to know if there's anybody out there who still love & respect each other "til death do us part"? Im sure it wll bring sparkles of hope to pple who believe in L.O.V.E. -
Everyone will have some reason(s) to love. But most of all, loving someone is a choice. You love in spite of what others say. You love because you want to.
That said, it is difficult for a relationship to be sustained if only one person is giving into it. -
of cozOriginally posted by sillyme:Everyone will have some reason(s) to love. But most of all, loving someone is a choice. You love in spite of what others say. You love because you want to.
That said, it is difficult for a relationship to be sustained if only one person is giving into it.
it always takes 2 hands to clap
But how one hand clap may differ in the way the other hand performs its clap
I love my wife in my way. I do not force her to love me my way. She has her own ways of expressing love.
Sometimes, in a relationship, a loving couple may conflict because of the differing ways of loving the other half. -
I think u can claim to have unconditional love for that person.
But at the end of the day,don't complain of yr partner!