Damn frustrated and confused.
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From the abovementioned replies alone, isn't it obvious one doesn't really need a blessed cognitive ability at interpreting psychological thoughts and behaviour to understand your brand of love demands that reciprocation of the same magnitude (as what you give) be part of the equation?Originally posted by fgfm:1.) As I mentioned before....There were times when we were supposed to meet but he overslept. I cabbed to his house before. I waited at his void deck for like 2 hours? My presense wasnt really much appreciated.
4.) He was using vulgarities throughout the previous smses while trying to find me.
5.) Thanks.
6.) If only they could.
7.) Well..When he's angry he does the same to me.
Last but not least. Yeah, maybe he doesnt enjoy my company. And he painstakingly stuck with me for more than 2 years. Maybe.
As with some others who posted another daft thread sometime back about such issues, if you're so adamant about the fact that you're getting the poorer cut of the deal (and I'm pretty sure your bf probably thinks the same way too), why not just call it a day and move on?
After all, if you're that concerned about receiving more than what you actually give, good luck to whoever has the misfortune of dating you. -
Lets us all vote do any guys here would ever want a gf like the TS?
For me NEVER EVER!!! -
all these teasing....................so what is his hobby?
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I'm curious too.Originally posted by Deportivo:all these teasing....................so what is his hobby?
Bikes? RC heli(IFO-siaos)? -
Never say never, OK ?Originally posted by Guardx:Lets us all vote do any guys here would ever want a gf like the TS?
For me NEVER EVER!!!
Life is like a box of chocolate, you wouldn't know what you'd get.- Bubba Gump's mama. -
You are entitled to your own opinion.Originally posted by Guardx:Lets us all vote do any guys here would ever want a gf like the TS?
For me NEVER EVER!!! -
Guys,
TS's boyfriend use vulgarities on girl.
And if I didn't read wrongly, he also slaps her when he is angry with her.
And helloooo, would you let your girlfriend wait for you 2 hours at your void decks ?
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Yes. He used vulgarities on her. I feel that no matter what, guy should not use vulgarities on girls.Originally posted by jojobeach:Guys,
TS's boyfriend use vulgarities on girl.
And if I didn't read wrongly, he also slaps her when he is angry with her.
And helloooo, would you let your girlfriend wait for you 2 hours at your void decks ?
Isn't it obvious that guy is a total jerk ?
No. She didn't he slap her.
No. If I have a gf, I won't let her wait for me for such a long time.
Yes. He is somehow not gentleman enough. Not till the extend of jerk -
x2. i tink the love period is over. time to break. its the upbringing la and frm my POV i tink the bf is far frm a gentleman. the gf is used and abused probably.Originally posted by jojobeach:Guys,
TS's boyfriend use vulgarities on girl.
And if I didn't read wrongly, he also slaps her when he is angry with her.
And helloooo, would you let your girlfriend wait for you 2 hours at your void decks ?
Isn't it obvious that guy is a total jerk ? -
That said, it's easy to dismiss what the guy actually makes of this relationship and sympathise with TS.Originally posted by jojobeach:Guys,
TS's boyfriend use vulgarities on girl.
And if I didn't read wrongly, he also slaps her when he is angry with her.
And helloooo, would you let your girlfriend wait for you 2 hours at your void decks ?
Isn't it obvious that guy is a total jerk ?
Truth be told, it'd hardly surprise me if he thinks he's got an ultra-demanding, self-centred and uncompromising girlfriend who's more interested in getting more than she gives than actually making a concerted effort for the relationship to work out. On the basis of that, it's perhaps about right the two of them went their seperate ways, isn't it? At the very least, they're incompatible. -
And... even if she is friendly and sociable type, when her bf see her playing with guys.. Do u think he will be happy? Tat's i think he dun want to introduce his friend to herOriginally posted by dumbdumb!:yeah, it would work if the girlfriend's the friendly and sociable type.
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Love is nt as simple as 1 + 1 = 2Originally posted by Guardx:Lets us all vote do any guys here would ever want a gf like the TS?
For me NEVER EVER!!!
& a outsider will never understand what actually is going on....
we can only listen & advise......
no comment!
no dicission made 
we are nt them!! talk is always easier then done...
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I got 99 problems but a b*tch ain't one...
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why do you think so?Originally posted by Guardx:I have to admit you are one of the most insensitive types.
You are the types who expect guys to treat you like a princess and you treat them like a dog.
seen so many of your types around and I always advice guys to stay away from girls like you.
Sadly your bf do not seems like a real man at all, kena f by gf still treat you so well.
One word of advice for you, better change your ways. people give face to gals who are young and pretty, once you are old or turn ugly, people will hack care about you. Tell you to f off.
To the bf of this girl who maybe reading this :
Dump this gal asap. No point going out with her cos she treats you like trash. Keep saying she loves you but her actions only shows that she treats a dog better than you. They are many other gals who are better looking and treats you with much more respect.
just curious
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there's a diff between sociable and flirting/playing around with guys leh.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:And... even if she is friendly and sociable type, when her bf see her playing with guys.. Do u think he will be happy? Tat's i think he dun want to introduce his friend to her
like i go out with my friend and his gf, we 3 can joke around etc, we're all friends, so it's always fun and pleasant.
i mean, there are girls who're abit cold cold type, then only talk to the bf. this will cause awkwardness, like during conversation, he will hv to talk to the gf then talk to me etc. dinner will be weird la. -
because what i feel is that, if he didn't want her to go, he shouldn't even have asked her if she wanted to go, thus putting the idea into her head.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:why do you think so?
just curious
its weird that he asked her if she wanted to go, then later ignore her and not answer her smses and leave her hanging etc without any confirmed planning.
but she was wrong when she threw a tantrum and insisted he take a cab down to meet her. but she was already full of frustration, it becomes a grey area already. i guess she reached her limit of patience.
and she was wrong to start hurling abuses at her bf.
i think all these problems can be solved with careful planning and sticking to a schedule.
these type of girls are great as friends la, but need careful handling as gfs.
hey, fgfm, what do you think? do you think that you were too much to start hurling abuses at your bf? and you're too princessy? and how? managed to make up with ur bf? -
sorry to seem abit lost. but isn't it the girl who hurled vulgarities at him. and he didn't scold back?Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Yes. He used vulgarities on her. I feel that no matter what, guy should not use vulgarities on girls.
No. She didn't he slap her.
No. If I have a gf, I won't let her wait for me for such a long time.
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Wahahaha....you just brought back so many memories with that one line...Good one.Originally posted by In_Between_Days:I got 99 problems but a b*tch ain't one...
TS isn't ready for the complexities of a long lasting relationship yet...
But none of us start off with all the answers....so don't lose hope....
You'lll get there some day....and hopefully with the right guy.....
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I felt the guy could have done better planning and better communication. I felt that he could have been more sensitive in some situations, but I think he purposely was nonchalant just to get back at the girl for hurling abuses at him. The oversleeping part could have been avoided, but it was a minor issue.
I felt the girl was being really anal and acting like a princess. I understand that she was frustrated with waiting alone at Orchard, but there're plenty of things she could have done while waiting for the boyfriend. Go Borders, read a book, go grab a bite, or do window shopping. I felt the girl was not matured or independant.
another thing, both are in the relationship for 2 years, its more than enough time to find compromises and know each other's bad points
So what do you guys think?
also, i wonder what was that hobby? otaku?
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who's TS?Originally posted by Kyndred:Wahahaha....you just brought back so many memories with that one line...Good one.
TS isn't ready for the complexities of a long lasting relationship yet...
But none of us start off with all the answers....so don't lose hope....
You'lll get there some day....and hopefully with the right guy.....
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i see myself in you. i can understand how you feel. i can imagine your frustration when you're out at orchard alone and instead of easing your frustration, your boyfriend isn't doing anything to help you.
i don't think the relationship is working out anymore. both of you have broken up a few times already and it shows that the r/s probably isn't so important to both of you anymore.
during the last few times of breaking up and patching, have you both thought about what was the problem? understanding or trust or what?
think about it this time round and let your thoughts of it be known to him and see what he says. if it's time to let go, let go. there's no point clinching onto a relationship that is painful and torturous. it's not happy at all.
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nice adviceOriginally posted by Guardx:I have to admit you are one of the most insensitive types.
You are the types who expect guys to treat you like a princess and you treat them like a dog.
seen so many of your types around and I always advice guys to stay away from girls like you.
Sadly your bf do not seems like a real man at all, kena f by gf still treat you so well.
One word of advice for you, better change your ways. people give face to gals who are young and pretty, once you are old or turn ugly, people will hack care about you. Tell you to f off.
To the bf of this girl who maybe reading this :
Dump this gal asap. No point going out with her cos she treats you like trash. Keep saying she loves you but her actions only shows that she treats a dog better than you. They are many other gals who are better looking and treats you with much more respect.
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We are not u, therefore we are unable to give the best advise simply from ur side of the story. But since u hav oready started this thread, allow me to give my point of view.Originally posted by fgfm:My ex and I have been together for more than 2 years. We broke up yesterday and I was the one who initiated it. We have broken up a few times before but patched soon after and were back to being loveydovey.
I believe he still loves me because before the day we broke up, he told me he really loves me and when I asked where he expected this relationship to go, he said he wanted me to be his wife. I dont think feelings fade that easily? So I guess there's still chances for us to be together again, I still love him but I am really confused.
For all he has done and said, I am really hurt. His insensitivity has disgusted me because he wasnt like this in the past. He knows that I cant accept his hobby and hopes that he would reduce doing it to spend more time with me but he just refuses to do so. Its not like I am totally stopping him from doing it what. He's a really nice guy when we are 'Okay' and I enjoy times spent with him. It has been a long time since we knew each other. We knew each other for months before getting together.
From ur post, I hav find u being a spoilt princess. Hopefully, I am wrong abt tat.
U hav mentioned tat both of u hav broke up & patched back a couple of times & back to being lovey-dovey.. + u also mentioned tat u believe he still love u bocs of wat he said. My question is, do u REALLY believe tat?
Do ur patchin up after the breaks is bcos tat both of u REALLY like each other alot OR u hav been to used to each other's company tat leads to being somewhat lonely when broken up??
If it's the former, y do u still initiate break up over such minor issues??
If it's the latter, y do u still wanna break up??
Ok, then we take it as he somehow abused u, be it verbally or physically, WHY do u still hopin to patch back with him??? (note: the underlined sentence)
For tis, i hav no advice to give neither will i sympathise. Cos it's pointless.
U need to sort tis out urself. Since u r oready confused, by goin thru all advises over here will onli make u even more confused.
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Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????
Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????
Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????
Hello? WHAT IS HIS HOBBY???????
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where u read that he abused her?Originally posted by RedizAlertz:We are not u, therefore we are unable to give the best advise simply from ur side of the story. But since u hav oready started this thread, allow me to give my point of view.
From ur post, I hav find u being a spoilt princess. Hopefully, I am wrong abt tat.
U hav mentioned tat both of u hav broke up & patched back a couple of times & back to being lovey-dovey.. + u also mentioned tat u believe he still love u bocs of wat he said. My question is, do u REALLY believe tat?
Do ur patchin up after the breaks is bcos tat both of u REALLY like each other alot OR u hav been to used to each other's company tat leads to being somewhat lonely when broken up??
If it's the former, y do u still initiate break up over such minor issues??
If it's the latter, y do u still wanna break up??
Ok, then we take it as he somehow abused u, be it verbally or physically, WHY do u still hopin to patch back with him??? (note: the underlined sentence)
For tis, i hav no advice to give neither will i sympathise. Cos it's pointless.
U need to sort tis out urself. Since u r oready confused, by goin thru all advises over here will onli make u even more confused.
Best of luck.