help me win her back.
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Let her ride out her anger. After all, 4 years of pent up anger doesn't dissipate in a day or two.Originally posted by sgx088:jojo you are completely right. I did send her smses everyday listing my mistakes and how I finally saw them, asking for a change, but all she did was come back even more pissed. i really don't dare to contact her now. which is why i don't know when i should contact her.
Ask her, what can you do, to ease her anger.
Offer to let her cane you.
Offer to let her slap you.
Offer to let her kick your car ( if you have one)
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession.
She is a steam engine now, let her vent out her unhappiness.
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Yes I do agree with you many men are not listening.Originally posted by jojobeach:Sir,
Pardon me for my directness.
Don't you think perhaps, women does communicate many things to their men, and the problem also lies with men hearing but NOT LISTENING ?
Shell-shocked ? My toes are laughing.
If you are a rational man, you'd have seen this bomb coming at ya thousands of miles away.
Even if you feed a stray dog for many months, if you keep kicking and pulling it, you are not expecting that one day, it will BITE BACK ?
C'mon, perhaps reality is harsher than you might believe ?
Woman express their emotions much more often than men does.
And many times, it is classified as naggings by the men.
Then why aren't the women saying it ? loud and clear? Speak their minds what they want.
Men cannot read minds. Women display a host of behaviours for various reasons. You can't expect us to read too much into everything right ?
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wtf ? do you really hate men that much?Originally posted by jojobeach:Let her ride out her anger. After all, 4 years of pent up anger doesn't dissipate in a day or two.
Ask her, what can you do, to ease her anger.
Offer to let her cane you.
Offer to let her slap you.
Offer to let her kick your car ( if you have one)
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession.
She is a steam engine now, let her vent out her unhappiness.
Then offer to start life all over again together.
doko -
Womens are irrational things and much often they do not know what they want and thus sending out mix signals.Originally posted by jojobeach:Sir,
Pardon me for my directness.
Don't you think perhaps, women does communicate many things to their men, and the problem also lies with men hearing but NOT LISTENING ?
Shell-shocked ? My toes are laughing.
If you are a rational man, you'd have seen this bomb coming at ya thousands of miles away.
Even if you feed a stray dog for many months, if you keep kicking and pulling it, you are not expecting that one day, it will BITE BACK ?
C'mon, perhaps reality is harsher than you might believe ?
Woman express their emotions much more often than men does.
And many times, it is classified as naggings by the men. -
In AA we all need a dose of pain to get out of pain.Lesson learned is that when you are in love please make an effort to stay in love NEXT TIME.Ass holes dont even deserve to fall in love cuz they stink inside/outside.You might be wondering now if one of her friends is saying to her ' Dont cry girl let me introduce a nicer and much better guy to you tomorrow" but the fact is that she is thinking to herself ' dont care lah any guy oso can as long as he got more compassion instead of erection'.
You said that you miss her more at night? I suggest you really go do something with that big ego of yours start reading books like "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" -
How do u comprehend something that does not have a start in mind?Originally posted by Short Ninja:In AA we all need a dose of pain to get out of pain.Lesson learned is that when you are in love please make an effort to stay in love NEXT TIME.Ass holes dont even deserve to fall in love cuz they stink inside/outside.You might be wondering now if one of her friends is saying to her ' Dont cry girl let me introduce a nicer and much better guy to you tomorrow" but the fact is that she is thinking to herself ' dont care lah any guy oso can as long as he got more compassion instead of erection'. You said that you miss her more at night? I suggest you really go do something with that big ego of yours start reading books like "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" -
sgx088 :
did she tell you the reason of breakup?
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To suppose this time round. It's not anger. It's pain.Originally posted by jojobeach:Let her ride out her anger. After all, 4 years of pent up anger doesn't dissipate in a day or two.
Ask her, what can you do, to ease her anger.
Offer to let her cane you.
Offer to let her slap you.
Offer to let her kick your car ( if you have one)
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession.
She is a steam engine now, let her vent out her unhappiness.
Then offer to start life all over again together.
sometimes it's easier to walk away from the source of pain than to pinch the pain further. Sometimes.... -
No doko, I don't hate men, I love them very much.Originally posted by dokono:wtf ? do you really hate men that much?
doko
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Nope.Originally posted by jojobeach:No doko, I don't hate men, I love them very much.
Are you a woman ?
doko -
Offer to let her cane you -> will offer.Originally posted by jojobeach:Let her ride out her anger. After all, 4 years of pent up anger doesn't dissipate in a day or two.
Ask her, what can you do, to ease her anger.
Offer to let her cane you.
Offer to let her slap you.
Offer to let her kick your car ( if you have one)
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession.
She is a steam engine now, let her vent out her unhappiness.
Then offer to start life all over again together.
Offer to let her slap you -> offered, accepted, got slapped
Offer to let her kick your car -> she did this already
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession -> offered; did not answer -
Woah, you kidding right ?Originally posted by sgx088:Offer to let her cane you -> will offer.
Offer to let her slap you -> offered, accepted, got slapped
Offer to let her kick your car -> she did this already
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession -> offered; did not answer
I have a few questions.
4 years , you claim to be successful, why no marriage proposal ?
For her friends to encourage leaving you, you must have done a lot of wrongs to her in the past. Girls tend to be very protective of their own kind.
You wanting to woo her back, is it out of revenge ?
Since you are such a prideful man, I'm sure you must be insulted that she dumped you.
You are not doing this to mend your own ego. Are you? -
We all need to improve on our character and relationship with others this is not about taking sides according to gender.Often we (people with big fat ego)improve ourselves sadly at the expence of others and the other times??This is the time I am asking TS to not KPKB but go relac one corner and pray for that return call.
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You know I know lah some more want to askOriginally posted by jojobeach:Woah, you kidding right ?
I have a few questions.
4 years , you claim to be successful, why no marriage proposal ?
For her friends to encourage leaving you, you must have done a lot of wrongs to her in the past. Girls tend to be very protective of their own kind.
You wanting to woo her back, is it out of revenge ?
Since you are such a prideful man, I'm sure you must be insulted that she dumped you.
You are not doing this to mend your own ego. Are you? -
Hope to hear your answer from my earlier post.Originally posted by sgx088:Offer to let her cane you -> will offer.
Offer to let her slap you -> offered, accepted, got slapped
Offer to let her kick your car -> she did this already
Offer to let her smash your most prized possession -> offered; did not answer -
It's in the posts I have written through out this thread so far. She did mention it generally, but I really got a super clear, accurate view from her best friend.Originally posted by M©+square:Hope to hear your answer from my earlier post.
Jojo: Marriage was on the board, but not yet; of course I would have proposed but I knew she wouldn't accept it yet (practical reasons). With regards her friends supporting her, that's what she said, but when I spoke to her best friend, she said she would do her best to help me. I don't exactly know who these friends of hers are - she made a bunch of new friends (by bunch i mean a whole group of guys girls >15 people?) recently who I don't know personally, might be them, might not be - i don't know. Whatever it is, I put no blame on them. -
OK, and you havn't answered the one most important question.Originally posted by sgx088:It's in the posts I have written through out this thread so far. She did mention it generally, but I really got a super clear, accurate view from her best friend.
Jojo: Marriage was on the board, but not yet; of course I would have proposed but I knew she wouldn't accept it yet (practical reasons). With regards her friends supporting her, that's what she said, but when I spoke to her best friend, she said she would do her best to help me. I don't exactly know who these friends of hers are - she made a bunch of new friends (by bunch i mean a whole group of guys girls >15 people?) recently who I don't know personally, might be them, might not be - i don't know. Whatever it is, I put no blame on them.
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Of course it's not to mend my ego! ... if it's to mend my ego, I would not even approach her friends.Originally posted by jojobeach:Woah, you kidding right ?
I have a few questions.
4 years , you claim to be successful, why no marriage proposal ?
For her friends to encourage leaving you, you must have done a lot of wrongs to her in the past. Girls tend to be very protective of their own kind.
You wanting to woo her back, is it out of revenge ?
Since you are such a prideful man, I'm sure you must be insulted that she dumped you.
You are not doing this to mend your own ego. Are you?
I know girls share this bond amongst their other girl friends, but having spoken to her sis/best friend, they were harsh but they understood where I was coming from; they weren't gonna help me until they heard, and made me promise that I would change (and I have now that i see there is a problem and the problem itself) - bear in mind, these girls are all rational educated and successful adults; they won't just blindly take words in if they knew i didn't mean it, and that i wasn't going to keep to what i have said. likewise, they wouldn't even have answered my call if they werne't sure of my love for her to begin with. -
So she didn't exactly tell you the reason why she gave up.Originally posted by sgx088:It's in the posts I have written through out this thread so far. She did mention it generally, but I really got a super clear, accurate view from her best friend.
and in view of her 'new friends'.
There are somemore things which you have to give thought to. -
Jojo: I am wooing her back because I love her; always have, and always will. I know I can take her to euphoria, while still being that rock solid support she needs - never have held her back in her education/career etc. But I now realise I have huge flaws and now that I have had notice of them, I have changed. I want to go back to it used to be, without that hurt I've been causing her.
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OK.Originally posted by sgx088:Of course it's not to mend my ego! ... if it's to mend my ego, I would not even approach her friends.
I know girls share this bond amongst their other girl friends, but having spoken to her sis/best friend, they were harsh but they understood where I was coming from; they weren't gonna help me until they heard, and made me promise that I would change (and I have now that i see there is a problem and the problem itself) - bear in mind, these girls are all rational educated and successful adults; they won't just blindly take words in if they knew i didn't mean it, and that i wasn't going to keep to what i have said. likewise, they wouldn't even have answered my call if they werne't sure of my love for her to begin with.
Desperate times calls for desperate measures.
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You need to TELL HER THIS.Originally posted by sgx088:Jojo: I am wooing her back because I love her; always have, and always will. I know I can take her to euphoria, while still being that rock solid support she needs - never have held her back in her education/career etc. But I now realise I have huge flaws and now that I have had notice of them, I have changed. I want to go back to it used to be, without that hurt I've been causing her. -
Nothing is as sexy as a man trying his best to make their woman happy
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Oh believe me if I say it gets even sexier when that man is trying to make himself happy>Originally posted by jojobeach:Nothing is as sexy as a man trying his best to make their woman happy
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LOL.. that sound sooo gay.Originally posted by Short Ninja:Oh believe me if I say it gets even sexier when that man is trying to make himself happy>
OK back to work !