Hubby obsessed with sports!
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Do you have difficulty talking to him ?Originally posted by ShyShyCat:Im not sure he gambles or not. How should I suggest him to go for the consultation? He will get angry and scold me again.
Is he a violent man ?
Perhaps it is how you approach this subject with him.
Don't do it when he is in the heat of the game.
Like nagging between him and the tv.
Talk to him, when he is not occupied with his games.
You need to let him know that his obsession is killing the marriage.
And that you are no longer happy with the situation.
Keep your calm.
Be reasonable.
Do not raise your voice.
If he is not interested in keeping the marriage.
Why are you still sticking around him ?
Don't you want to start a family ?
Are you certain he will be a responsible father to your children ? -
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TS sounds really troubled.... But I cannot really help
Good luck in resolving your thoughts soon. -
sport not that bad lah but if he do betting than must control loh
anyway is sport not girl he is watching on t.v unless he "gay" than nothing to say -
Im very very disappointed in sgforums. TS is obviously very troubled and looking for help but half of the replies are nonsensical or juz mere digression. Every topic has this problem.
"At least he is obsessed with sports and not something"
"you need to know how to pls him in bed, i can teach u 1st lesson free"
"Support arsenal" etc etc etc
Ppl are juz not in touch with other ppl's feelings. Pls respect urselves even if u dun respect other ppl. -
Mmmm... Fr wad u say, he treat sport more than u le.. i think u should made him noe tat u are nt happy with the way he is now
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hi, y didn't u quote my whole sentence insrtead of just this line "at least he is obsessed with sports and not something", do not make yourself sound so great, my friend.Originally posted by necrolyt3:Im very very disappointed in sgforums. TS is obviously very troubled and looking for help but half of the replies are nonsensical or juz mere digression. Every topic has this problem.
"At least he is obsessed with sports and not something"
"you need to know how to pls him in bed, i can teach u 1st lesson free"
"Support arsenal" etc etc etc
Ppl are juz not in touch with other ppl's feelings. Pls respect urselves even if u dun respect other ppl.
you can also give appropriate advice and not flame the other forumites for their ignorance. I believe there is karma, u can see me messing around in other sub forums but not here.
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but obsessed with you is good, is that what your trying to achieveOriginally posted by ShyShyCat:Obsessed to something is not good...
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make him read this thread
say u find out sth interesting for the WWE
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perhaps u could arrouse himso that he could navigate his sports away and focus on you.
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At least your husband didnt go to the mamak(are you from Penang?) shop to wrestle with the Teh Tarik guy.The only serious advice I can give you now is to be a Manchester United fan and also start praying to Sir Alex 'Tua Pek Kong' Fergusson.Originally posted by ShyShyCat:We've been married for 2 years and things got a lot worst. Before we married, he paid a lot of attention to me but recently he rather focus on sports than his sexy wife.
All this problem started in the beginning of the year when his friends invited him to watch a football match at mamak stall. Since then, he went out almost every night to join his friends play indoor football (futsal?) and I don't mind with that because it's good to attached with some sports.
Last 3 months, he started to watch wrestling and bought a lot of DVDs. He became less caring towards me. Example, when I broke my glass in the kitchen, he just don't even bother to take his butt up and to see what happening. He just stick his eyes to the wrestling program.
Then last month, he bought a lot of posters (football, wrestling and basketball) and football bedsheets to decorate our room. He suggested that we should take down our wedding picture on the wall and replace it with a footballer named (Alex Ferguson?). He said it's a very inspirational poster and he want to frame it. We argued about that and at last I gave up for the sake of his happiness.
And what really upset a lot is during our anniversary recently, i bought him a nice watch and he give me a Nike football shoe as a gift. He said the shoe is pretty therefore he bought for me. Then, previous week is my birthday and his present for me is a DVD of wrestling. He said the DVD is great and I should watch it whenever I'm free.
Yesterday, I was preparing dinner while he read his sports magazine. I called his to take his dinner and he said dont disturb him. And out of my mouth I said "Eat magazines can already, no need to eat dinner!". He was very angry and shouted "You dont talk to me like that, I'm the game and king of kings in this house. If you keep talking a lot, I'll give you a shut the f**k up!". Then he grunted something like "Humaka?". I cried and ran into the room and we didnt talk since then.
Dear members, what should I do to save this marriage? I really love him a lot but recently he changed a lot suddenly and I had a really hard time to be with him.
I dont know what to do....
Thanks for reading such a long whining story of mine and i apologize for my weak grammars.
Yours sincerely,
ShyShyCat -
TS u can give your hubby a "Sweet Chin Music" to wake him up from his obsession
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What is that? Chin as in part of a face (English) or as in C_ _ K (Japanese)Originally posted by sorasky:TS u can give your hubby a "Sweet Chin Music" to wake him up from his obsession -
Hi TS,
If u canÂ’t do anything on your hubby, how about making some changes on yourself? You said u are not working right? How about spending some time reading up stuff on the sport that he like?
There are Book on Indoor football or wrestling in the library right? Go find out what are the rules of the game, which are the well-known player or wrestler at the present. What are the strategy that u need to apply while playing indoor football to win and so on. I guess the more u know about sports, the more u will be interested in sport too
From then u are able to talk to him about sports, go watch live football together with him and so on. I think in doing so, at least both u and your hubby will cold down a bit and the relationship will not be getting from bad to worst. After all, You said you still love him right?
Wish u best of luck -
I think it's ok if your hubby indulge in his favourite hobby/sports, but surely, not to the extend of neglecting his wife.
I think your hubby needs to have a correct perspective of where his priorities should lie. If he's not willing to regard you as more important than his love for sports, then sorry to say, it's doomed downhill. It really takes 2 hands to clap. Good luck. -
I think this is just for the time being.
Any people when given a new toy, would find it amusing and would want to play with it the whole day. Once, they get sick of it, they will left it untouched again.
So, do not panic about the whole situation.
You can do what the other forumers have suggested. Find out more about the game. Maybe, what you are missing here, is the intimate relationship that you once had previously. By knowing the game, you may be able to go into his world again. Fret not. Things will get better!
Cheers. -
Anyway, It better than some guys obessed with big boobs.Originally posted by ShyShyCat:We've been married for 2 years and things got a lot worst. Before we married, he paid a lot of attention to me but recently he rather focus on sports than his sexy wife.
All this problem started in the beginning of the year when his friends invited him to watch a football match at mamak stall. Since then, he went out almost every night to join his friends play indoor football (futsal?) and I don't mind with that because it's good to attached with some sports.
Last 3 months, he started to watch wrestling and bought a lot of DVDs. He became less caring towards me. Example, when I broke my glass in the kitchen, he just don't even bother to take his butt up and to see what happening. He just stick his eyes to the wrestling program.
Then last month, he bought a lot of posters (football, wrestling and basketball) and football bedsheets to decorate our room. He suggested that we should take down our wedding picture on the wall and replace it with a footballer named (Alex Ferguson?). He said it's a very inspirational poster and he want to frame it. We argued about that and at last I gave up for the sake of his happiness.
And what really upset a lot is during our anniversary recently, i bought him a nice watch and he give me a Nike football shoe as a gift. He said the shoe is pretty therefore he bought for me. Then, previous week is my birthday and his present for me is a DVD of wrestling. He said the DVD is great and I should watch it whenever I'm free.
Yesterday, I was preparing dinner while he read his sports magazine. I called his to take his dinner and he said dont disturb him. And out of my mouth I said "Eat magazines can already, no need to eat dinner!". He was very angry and shouted "You dont talk to me like that, I'm the game and king of kings in this house. If you keep talking a lot, I'll give you a shut the f**k up!". Then he grunted something like "Humaka?". I cried and ran into the room and we didnt talk since then.
Dear members, what should I do to save this marriage? I really love him a lot but recently he changed a lot suddenly and I had a really hard time to be with him.
I dont know what to do....
Thanks for reading such a long whining story of mine and i apologize for my weak grammars.
Yours sincerely,
ShyShyCat -
nike football shoe...
Then next time u buy a woman's bag for him. If me i just ignore him...until he realise i m not dead. -
I hope you can understand the next few sentences.
It is not that he won't give you all the attention you want, it is that he can't. There too much more interesting events going on elsewhere. -
it is an addiction and addictions are serious stuff, seek professional help immediately.
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I agree....Originally posted by sEphIrOth:it is an addiction and addictions are serious stuff, seek professional help immediately.
please seek professional help...
if u know someone that your hubby admires, look up to, get this person to talk to him... -
SMLJ.... hahaOriginally posted by ShyShyCat:We've been married for 2 years and things got a lot worst. Before we married, he paid a lot of attention to me but recently he rather focus on sports than his sexy wife.
All this problem started in the beginning of the year when his friends invited him to watch a football match at mamak stall. Since then, he went out almost every night to join his friends play indoor football (futsal?) and I don't mind with that because it's good to attached with some sports.
Last 3 months, he started to watch wrestling and bought a lot of DVDs. He became less caring towards me. Example, when I broke my glass in the kitchen, he just don't even bother to take his butt up and to see what happening. He just stick his eyes to the wrestling program.
Then last month, he bought a lot of posters (football, wrestling and basketball) and football bedsheets to decorate our room. He suggested that we should take down our wedding picture on the wall and replace it with a footballer named (Alex Ferguson?). He said it's a very inspirational poster and he want to frame it. We argued about that and at last I gave up for the sake of his happiness.
And what really upset a lot is during our anniversary recently, i bought him a nice watch and he give me a Nike football shoe as a gift. He said the shoe is pretty therefore he bought for me. Then, previous week is my birthday and his present for me is a DVD of wrestling. He said the DVD is great and I should watch it whenever I'm free.
Yesterday, I was preparing dinner while he read his sports magazine. I called his to take his dinner and he said dont disturb him. And out of my mouth I said "Eat magazines can already, no need to eat dinner!". He was very angry and shouted "You dont talk to me like that, I'm the game and king of kings in this house. If you keep talking a lot, I'll give you a shut the f**k up!". Then he grunted something like "Humaka?". I cried and ran into the room and we didnt talk since then.
Dear members, what should I do to save this marriage? I really love him a lot but recently he changed a lot suddenly and I had a really hard time to be with him.
I dont know what to do....
Thanks for reading such a long whining story of mine and i apologize for my weak grammars.
Yours sincerely,
ShyShyCat -
It is common for men to be crazy in soccer, but not till the extend that he neglects his wife, married only 2 years.
i think you should let him know, since tensions are high now probably not talking(unless u really find the right time with the right atmosphere.) you can try writing notes and stuff.
He gave u a nike shoe, i think that is acceptable, it is still not that overboard to giving you a soccer ball actually. But giving u a wrestling DVD is a lil overboard in my opinion. But perharps he meant well, trying to share or introduce his interests to you.
I think you have a few things you can do...
- TRY to watch soccer with him...wrestling i won't say you'd like..i mean even as a guy i don't like it myself. Maybe as you watch soccer you can try to strike up a conversation..or maybe if you really didn't like it..try to tell him.
- As i mentioned, tell him straight, maybe write a note if you can't open your mouth. If you're going to tell him through the mouth..it'd say try to find the right mood and atmosphere. It's pretty hard to do so, so i'd say write a note.
I think the problem's not that big yet..so you dont really have to refer him to some psychologist or what...but maybe when you raelly cant take it, and he agrees, you two can see a marriage counseller ( spelling?). As always, you can try seek opinions from forumers, but of course, read wisely and follow wisely..
Most importantly you have to be honest with your husband, tell him what you don't like and stuff.
EDIT: From what i read about you saying his friends...if there's a sudden change of attitude, it's probably the influence from his friends..there you can tell him how you don't like him treating you like this...if it's influence, tell him..he'll realise it.
Just my few cents worth, good luck. -
i'm sorry.. but... ur post smells like...
banziee... -
It looks like it has been ripped out from the starhub advertisement.. lol
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ur figure is out of shape...or 110% he got women outside....