Breakup
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Haha all her frens used to tease me saying that they are waiting for her to dump me so they can grab me. Said if they are attached that moment, they will intro their siblings to me as they said I could be trusted. Then my gf will get secretly pissed whenever I talked or laughed a lot with them. She will complain at night why IÂ’m so close to all her frens.Originally posted by browniebaobao:maybe u were too good to her...
too good.. too perfect.. seems so unreal.
Anyway IÂ’m secretly happy that they bothered to come and talked to me when they heard about what happened. Always tot that as long I continue to be nice to her, she will be with me forever. Maybe we just didnÂ’t have the fate? -
She is complaining because you are FLIRTING with HER FRIENDS IN HER FACE.Originally posted by L.o.s.t:Haha all her frens used to tease me saying that they are waiting for her to dump me so they can grab me. Said if they are attached that moment, they will intro their siblings to me as they said I could be trusted. Then my gf will get secretly pissed whenever I talked or laughed a lot with them. She will complain at night why IÂ’m so close to all her frens.
Anyway IÂ’m secretly happy that they bothered to come and talked to me when they heard about what happened. Always tot that as long I continue to be nice to her, she will be with me forever. Maybe we just didnÂ’t have the fate?
I see already want to puke.
Yah lah, she is blind. She cannot see how wonderful you are.
Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the best boyfriend of them all?
Oh you are LOST, the best boyfriend of them all.
Will you just stop whining and be so self-absorbed ?
If I am your girlfriend, I will also dump you.
The more people get to know you, the more flaws you show. -
Haha. Give yourself a break and give us a break as well.
You loved yourself more.
That's good!
So let's mooove on
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best thing now is dun tink abt the past... show ended liao so continue on wif ur life...Originally posted by L.o.s.t:Haha all her frens used to tease me saying that they are waiting for her to dump me so they can grab me. Said if they are attached that moment, they will intro their siblings to me as they said I could be trusted. Then my gf will get secretly pissed whenever I talked or laughed a lot with them. She will complain at night why IÂ’m so close to all her frens.
Anyway IÂ’m secretly happy that they bothered to come and talked to me when they heard about what happened. Always tot that as long I continue to be nice to her, she will be with me forever. Maybe we just didnÂ’t have the fate? -
There is something that you must understand about "love". It is not something that people approach rationally. From what you have written, you seem to assume that because you have done so much for her, that you have done your best, she should love you.Originally posted by L.o.s.t:Broke up with my gf almost 3 weeks ago..
We had a wonderful time (almost 14 months) together. IÂ’m not those romantic type nor not good looking.. So I gave in everything she wanted to her.. what she wanted, I will get it for her, what she need to do, I will try to assist her or help help her to do it. We spent all our time together. I was in the final yr of my uni while she was in her second yr. I moved back to hall for the first sem to spend more time with her as she was just staying outside school while I stay near central area. Finally in my last sem, I got a single room, she moved in with me and it was almost the feeling of being husband and wife as we would do everything together as we are beside each other 24/7. We talked of getting engaged once she graduate and getting married once she completes her masters. She always said she was very sure that IÂ’m the one for her.
Well here's news for you... she might actually love someone that treats her badly, that is not suitable for her, that beats her up, and she loves him more than you. The reason is that the other guy that is "bad" for her, makes her heart beats faster whenever she sees him whereas when she sees you, nothing.
Let her go lah... find someone that makes your heart beat faster and as well as you make her heart beat faster. -
just curious jojobeach what is your bf like?Originally posted by jojobeach:She is complaining because you are FLIRTING with HER FRIENDS IN HER FACE.
I see already want to puke.
Yah lah, she is blind. She cannot see how wonderful you are.
Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the best boyfriend of them all?
Oh you are LOST, the best boyfriend of them all.
Will you just stop whining and be so self-absorbed ?
If I am your girlfriend, I will also dump you.
The more people get to know you, the more flaws you show. -
My boyfriend is a marther forker son of a biatch.Originally posted by Guardx:just curious jojobeach what is your bf like?
Who beats me up and shoved shieat in my mouth.
NOT. -
Originally posted by L.o.s.t:Broke up with my gf almost 3 weeks ago..
We had a wonderful time (almost 14 months) together. IÂ’m not those romantic type nor not good looking.. So I gave in everything she wanted to her.. what she wanted, I will get it for her, what she need to do, I will try to assist her or help help her to do it. We spent all our time together. I was in the final yr of my uni while she was in her second yr. I moved back to hall for the first sem to spend more time with her as she was just staying outside school while I stay near central area. Finally in my last sem, I got a single room, she moved in with me and it was almost the feeling of being husband and wife as we would do everything together as we are beside each other 24/7. We talked of getting engaged once she graduate and getting married once she completes her masters. She always said she was very sure that IÂ’m the one for her.
I graduated and went back to complete the last 3 months of my NS as I was a disruptee. She had a part time job but we will still meet everyday either to go out for dinner or shopping (she loves shopping and we would go out everyday last time).. Before ord, I got a job and everything seemed so right and wonderful.. Then suddenly one month ago, I was at her house on Sunday as usual to accompany her for dinner (she usually skips her meals if she doesnÂ’t have anyone to accompany her as both her parents are working and her sis is also lazy). She said that she donno the feeling of being single as she had been in quite a lot of r/s before and she was too young to commit (she have a lot of male frens ard her). I asked her if she was thinking of breaking up but she said she still wanna to be with me. She even left an alarm in my phone saying that she will love me forever and ever..
The next day, she started to tell me not to look for her after work (I used to go find her in school after work everyday), saying that she is busy with her school stuffs, it is very tiring for me and we can always meet up during the weekend.. I was reluctant as I was not really used not seeing her but tot it would be good as she can concentrate on her school work and I can concentrate on my new job too. But we would still talk on the phone as usual (we talk every night before we sleep), saying that we missed each other and lets go for a movie as we had only watched one movie together Icoz she only wanted to shop whenever we went out). I went to find the timings but in the end she complained that she had too much work and postponed the event. Asked her out for a quick dinner but she said sheÂ’s tired. Wanted to takeaway dinner to her house like what I would do during exams last time but she refused too. Then came Friday and I went back sch to find her as I bought something from candy empire for her. I didnÂ’t tell her that I was going to look for her but I asked her fren where they were.
When I appeared, she looked shocked and turned to her fren saying ‘F, why is he here? What happened to ******?’ I was quite shocked by her behavior and naturally I wasn’t happy. The dinner was also weird as she behaved strangely. She explained later that nite that she was afraid that ****** (a fren who her fren intro to her and they were quite closed to each other now as she hate to study alone and ****** will accompany her as he stays in hall) will not have any seats as we were taking her fren’s car out for dinner and there were quite a few of us. I tot its funny as we used to squeeze more ppl in the car before. Then I asked her about our plans to go out the next day but she said that she’s meeting her ex and she will be tired after that. I don’t wanna force her but was very upset actually as I was looking forward to Sat and partly of what happened in school. Sat passed and came Sunday, she called me at 4pm saying that I don’t need to buy her dinner, she can take care of herself.. so I went to take a nap.. she called me at 419 saying that she had no more feelings for me and she wanna break up. I was stunned and never said much. She said she’s sorry.
Indeed, a fairy tale relationship in the beginning will keep you drunk with Love's ale of happiness, but how would your relationship truly fare in the looming cosmic lessons of love?
And it actually shows: in your first report card, it was an utterly failure. This incident merely reveals to you that your relationship is but some wax figure melting rapidly and horribly in face of some heat emitted from the monstrous machine of our cosmic lesson.
To feel even more disappointment; it wasn't even extreme heat.
Your entire post did not mentioned any notable crisis or situation leading to the downfall of the relationship and you are probably puzzled at how insidious this decline has unknowingly degenerates the relationship till the point of no return without you understanding why.
Allow me to reframe your post and I will share my two cents through this little story:
*** When Woman declared her love to Man and pledged it as forever, at that magical moment of time, it was true.
Then Doubt popped by and asked 'How do you know?'
'Don't ask me how I know, I just know,' Woman replied.
In a flash, Doubt faded away.
*** When Man had to complete his conscription, in his absence, woman gazed at the other scores of man around her.
Doubt appeared and asked "So do you know now?'
'I think so', she murmured
Doubt just stood there looking blankly at her.
*** Woman was with Doubt, looking over the rice field from the cliff and saw Man harvesting the rice alone.
Doubt pointed at you and said to her: 'You see that little D beside him? That's my twin.'
'How come he seemed oblivion to little D's presence?'
'Oh no, you are mistaken - he can't see little D, only you can see it.'
'Why is it so?' asked Woman.
'That's because I represent what I manifest - I appear whenever you have doubts with yourself. Now, apart from yourself, you doubted the Man you claimed to love forever, thus my twin will shadow him whenever you plant your gaze at him.'
'Then how do I remove that away?' cried Woman.
'Let me ask you again: would you know now?'
'Perhaps... I only thought I knew...' she admitted.
*** You are a good man, but a good man doesn't guarantee you a lasting relationship. In fact, regardless of the position we are standing at, nothing guarantees you an eternal love - it's all a matter of choice.
She has realized that at this current moment of life - she needs a boyfriend, not yet a husband. From the journey before it reaches that destination, a boyfriend is a role you must fulfill to keep love alive. Surely, you are a nice guy, but your quality is ONLY perfect when she has arrived at that destination, but not exactly the journey towards that goal.
She tried to retain you emotionally, despite lacking the passion for you and the relationship because in love, people are ten times more fearful of regrets than rejection. She probably feared that the kind of security you readily offered to her is unavailable elsewhere and that might be lost forever if she has decided to give it away.
Thank goodness, in that confused state of emotions, she has decided to stick to her decision and not allow this fear to create more complication.
Bestow her freedom - let her fly high and go.
If it was meant to be, it will be.
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WowOriginally posted by jojobeach:Hey LOST,
Don't behave like a used chewing gum stucked to her flip flops (slippers).
There's always two sides to a story.
To you, you think you had been the perfect boyfriend.
To her, you've not done enough.
If you are so bent on looking at what you did right, then you never improve.
Focus on what you did wrong.
For the other forumers,
There is no such thing as giving too much love.
There is also no such thing as giving IN too much.
We don't judge our man by how much they give or how much they take.
We judge our man by how much our needs are met.
We've only seen one side of a story.
Perhaps if we have a chance to listen to HER side of story, all these comments will be redundant.
"We don't judge our man by how much they give or how much they take.
We judge our man by how much our needs are met."
So gals judge man by how much their needs are met.
humz so if a gal feels that the guy does not meet her needs she can dump the guy any time she likes?
claps claps...
So I should ask the guys if gals can think like that why complain when we as guys judge gals by how much they meet to our needs?
it runs both ways, if a gal feels this way why can't a guy do it too? -
wow toughOriginally posted by jojobeach:My boyfriend is a marther forker son of a biatch.
Who beats me up and shoved shieat in my mouth.
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Ahem... it was suppose to be a joke. Gettit ?Originally posted by Guardx:wow tough
I showed my boyfriend this thread.
His response was...
This guy sounds so gay.
Thats why his girlfriend left him ?
I bet he walks around with a mirror and stop to admire himself all the time. -
another 6star answer from yun...Originally posted by Yunhaier: Indeed, a fairy tale relationship in the beginning will keep you drunk with Love's ale of happiness, but how would your relationship truly fare in the looming cosmic lessons of love?
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Bestow her freedom - let her fly high and go.
If it was meant to be, it will be.
Cheers -
Yun's a male or female? What's his/her profession?
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haha yeah it was a joke.Originally posted by jojobeach:Ahem... it was suppose to be a joke. Gettit ?
I showed my boyfriend this thread.
His response was...
This guy sounds so gay.
Thats why his girlfriend left him ?
I bet he walks around with a mirror and stop to admire himself all the time.
nah no worries not a gay.
only one gf left me? hummz who cares ? So what?
I got better ones anyway. Just change only what.
just admire your bf thats all as a normal straight guy. -
Guardx,Originally posted by Guardx:Wow
"We don't judge our man by how much they give or how much they take.
We judge our man by how much our needs are met."
So gals judge man by how much their needs are met.
humz so if a gal feels that the guy does not meet her needs she can dump the guy any time she likes?
claps claps...
So I should ask the guys if gals can think like that why complain when we as guys judge gals by how much they meet to our needs?
it runs both ways, if a gal feels this way why can't a guy do it too?
Hellloooo ? Where do you come from ? Planet Z ?
So, you're saying guys normally DON't dump girls who can't meet their needs ?
Not just sex you mean, right?
Not just anytime, hun, we gave them plenty to chance to make up for the shortfall. That's why we nag.. and nag.. and if they still don't buck up..
bye bye love. -
male larOriginally posted by lagrangen:Yun's a male or female? What's his/her profession?
reading stars lar. -
erm. i'm confused. (i nearly wanted to say i'm lost, but hahaha..)
why is jojo shooting TS?
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I'm pretty sure we all wants to know.Originally posted by lagrangen:Yun's a male or female? What's his/her profession?
Knowing it serves no purpose. -
Is the same from us guys, I do not deny the factOriginally posted by jojobeach:Guardx,
Hellloooo ? Where do you come from ? Planet Z ?
So, you're saying guys normally DON't dump girls who can't meet their needs ?
Not just sex you mean, right?
Not just anytime, hun, we gave them plenty to chance to make up for the shortfall. That's why we nag.. and nag.. and if they still don't buck up..
bye bye love.
To be fair to both sides. Each have our own wants and needs thats all.
When any one side feels that they cannot fullfill their roles or wants. They start looking else where. Thats a fact. -
Like what browniebaobao, TS is too unreal.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:erm. i'm confused. (i nearly wanted to say i'm lost, but hahaha..)
why is jojo shooting TS? -
We have boyfriends who did all the good stuff TS claimed he did.
Now why arn't we dumping them ?
Think. -
whether it serves any purpose or not, I'm just curious. Yeah.
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"We judge our man by how much our needs are met."Originally posted by jojobeach:We have boyfriends who did all the good stuff TS claimed he did.
Now why arn't we dumping them ?
Think.
Is that the answer?
Since TS ex wants more of course she dumps him lor.
Then what ? lower her needs? -
Okaaayyy... so, what is your take ?Originally posted by Guardx:"We judge our man by how much our needs are met."
Is that the answer?
Since TS ex wants more of course she dumps him lor.
Then what ? lower her needs?
More of what ?
More sex, more love, more (fill in the blanks) ? -
how would I or you know?Originally posted by jojobeach:Okaaayyy... so, what is your take ?
More of what ?
More sex, more love, more (fill in the blanks) ?
This question only the ex can answer.
If I know I would help the TS but question is will it do any good?
For example she wants better sex, but can the TS produce what she wants?
If the ex want more money can TS gives her what she wants?
Wants and needs grows through time.
Especially if the person is handsome or beautifull, cos the person will want to ask for more and they will ask why settle for less?
Only those who went thru the tough phase of losing something or being thru a lot, will understand what it is like to treasure something.