Problem zzz
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cant he have his own space?
must report to u when he goes out ar?
go out buy food also muz tell u ma? -
TS, i think u should see a psychiatrist. you are worried sick when he doesn't reply you. You are worried that he will DIE. you are worried that mishap will happen to him... signs of depression...
u dun love him. u love to be loved. u want to tie him up and possess him. He kept his promise.. for the honeymoon period.
Are u ok? Im more worried about ur well being than ur feelings. -
Are you the lord and master??? This is the surest way of loosing him, give the man a break!!!Originally posted by fgfm:My boy and I patched somewhere 3 weeks back and we had this agreement.
He was to tell me when he was going out with his friends so as to prevent unwanted arguments over long waits of smses which usually lead to me being worried about his safety and sometimes, even frustration. Things went on fine the first few days/weeks as we spent our 'honeymoon' period together after being separated for a month. But recently, the same shit happens again.
He would go out with his friends till late night without letting me know. And I would usually assume that he's at home playing online games or sleeping. The first time he did it, he told me he has forgotten to tell me and apologised. I didnt kick up a fuss about the whole matter because, well. I thought it really slipped off his mind.
Just at the next day, he went out without telling me AGAIN. It pissed me off again as its just directly the next day and its unbelievable how he can forget things so easily. And moreover, I felt like he didnt seem to care about me again.
We msged this afternoon, but till now he hasnt replied my sms. I am suspecting he is out with his friends again without telling me. I dont know how will I react when I receive his sms. I really dont think I deserve such a treatment. It hurts me too, because it seems to me that he has the mindset of, "Aiya, its okay if she's angry lah. Just sweet talk her will do. She will SURELY forgive me."
Is sending an sms just to inform me that difficult? I dont need him to tell me about his every single movement, I just want to know that he's not home.
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wah if he go out to buy you a present to surprise you also cannot lah. must tell you where he is and what he is doing what....
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TS, i'm sure you wont like it if he does the same thing to you
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he just likes his own space to breathe..
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I should say u are too possessive over ur bf. U think going out with friend is a serious matter (perhaps u are afraid that he goes ONE-NIGHT-STAND) but to us there is nothing wrong (cos we dun offer free sex unless the girl is chio or we know there is someone we love that prevents us from taking up the offer).Originally posted by fgfm:I mentioned that I need not him to inform me about his EVERY movement. Read carefully.
I believe if ur bf loves u, he won't go astray even if he is in a brothel. Sometimes, trust is important, if u feel insecure goes out with his friend, and see who does he mixs with and make a judgement whether u should trust ur bf a not.
I know ur bf just wanna avoid an argument with u when u sms him. Stay cool and dun be too possessive. -
.. if he is not at home he mus sms u... zzzzzz
first fewdays maybe he will la.. but after tat he sure wont do it de ma.. buay sian ah ? like everytime he go out.. he still mus sms u zzz so ma fun
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Is he prone to any kind of danger such that u have to make sure he's safe and sound every single day?Originally posted by fgfm:Thanks. I am worried sick right now...Sigh.
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Why not just call and f**k him up instead of waiting for him to reply sms?
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anyway if it's me i would usually tell where i'm at
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yes me too, if you are in his mind i believe before he go out he will think about u first. and not just go out like nobody business, this is one of the commitment in a relationship.Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Because I know that my future girlfriend doing all this is out of concern. I guess so is you. I don't mind sending SMSes to her telling my location.
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Hmm.. you call him your 'boy'.
Is he much younger than you?
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i suppose she reacted this way is cause of her boyfriend is not returning her a message. not because of wanting to know where is he going.
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If you are so desperate to reach him, maybe instead of sms and waiting for a reply, why don't you CALL him.
Personally i hate to sms coz i'm using a pda phone and sms is a pain. Especially when i am driving and my gf smses me, if i think the issue is important enough, i'll just call her.. if not i'll just wait till i get home
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Damn! I've heard about such relationships sooooooooooooo many times. It's just so childish. You'll grow out of it as you grow older.
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the most important thing to maintaining a relationship is trust; give the poor boy his space and he'll appreciate it very much.
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why does he has to tell u whether he is at home anot ?
u are rather irritating to him tats why he never sms u -
don't mind inform the girl when i go out somewhere
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Let's face it, u have trust issues. You just don't trust him, and u think that he going out with friends involves him picking up gals.Originally posted by fgfm:My boy and I patched somewhere 3 weeks back and we had this agreement.
He was to tell me when he was going out with his friends so as to prevent unwanted arguments over long waits of smses which usually lead to me being worried about his safety and sometimes, even frustration. Things went on fine the first few days/weeks as we spent our 'honeymoon' period together after being separated for a month. But recently, the same shit happens again.
He would go out with his friends till late night without letting me know. And I would usually assume that he's at home playing online games or sleeping. The first time he did it, he told me he has forgotten to tell me and apologised. I didnt kick up a fuss about the whole matter because, well. I thought it really slipped off his mind.
Just at the next day, he went out without telling me AGAIN. It pissed me off again as its just directly the next day and its unbelievable how he can forget things so easily. And moreover, I felt like he didnt seem to care about me again.
We msged this afternoon, but till now he hasnt replied my sms. I am suspecting he is out with his friends again without telling me. I dont know how will I react when I receive his sms. I really dont think I deserve such a treatment. It hurts me too, because it seems to me that he has the mindset of, "Aiya, its okay if she's angry lah. Just sweet talk her will do. She will SURELY forgive me."
Is sending an sms just to inform me that difficult? I dont need him to tell me about his every single movement, I just want to know that he's not home.
Is it really that difficult? Guys?
In a relationship, the most impt is trust. From what i see, u have the need to control him and his movement, and u want him 2 tell u what he is doing. Is this healthy for a relationship? U decide. -
X2Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:If next time I have a gf, this wouldn't be a problem for me.
actually i dunno what's all the argument after reading all the reply.....
think properly is different view from man & woman...
i din c any problem jus to inform ( NOT REPORT ) my BELOVE where i'm....if he or she really mean important to you. i did that to my gal b4 we get married. -
There is no problem to inform/report. The problem lies when it is forced upon, like sometimes you really really forget, and she kicks a big fuss about it and breaks up with you. Do you do that to your parents? If you do not, they are not important? How about your siblings? IF like that, everytime you go out, you sms your father, your mother, your brother, your sister, you girlfriend, your girlfriend father, your girlfriend mother, your girlfriend brother, your girlfriend sister?Originally posted by baby hunter:X2
actually i dunno what's all the argument after reading all the reply.....
think properly is different view from man & woman...
i din c any problem jus to inform ( NOT REPORT ) my BELOVE where i'm....if he or she really mean important to you. i did that to my gal b4 we get married.
Ok lah, you're a guy with no problems okay? or those who dont inform their girlfriend are people with problems.
if i feel like telling i will tell, which most of the time i will if they ask. But sometimes I'm doing serious stuffs as it will affect my chain of thoughts and I just read the sms and told myself to reply later which I would usually forget in the end if its not urgert. So I like that forget = she not important to me? Isit I must report then call good boyfriend? -
ur boy really suck at keeping his words.. what a man..
a reply if u ask him in sms is always alright .. but he didnt seem to care bout ur sms tho
i think hes just doin what he likes and sometimes guy tend to ignore all things when they are having fun but still, ignoring sms from gf is really terrible thing to be done by useless guy -
I thought this thread was about problem sleeping
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Guys, i think u all should read again.. why jump into conlusion that she is thinking his boy is meeting with other gal or ONS? she never even mention one and for now she just think his boy go out with his friends.. thats all.. why u all make things complicated
U guys know wat,, for ppl to trust u, u should do or prove something for them to trust.. blind trust is kinda ridiculous nowadays.. and shes a gal la.. gal need security.. gosh u guys suck