Suicidal and depressed
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they like to play with my emotions. say book alrd waste money la. but i prefer they dont spend 1.5k on me, then i take 100 dollars spend over 1 week. save money, i happy also what. they cannot understand.Originally posted by SeaofLove:Tuition assignment is not hard to find. You just need to look through the newspaper and register yourself as tutor. Online resources also got.
U can tell them u DON'T want to GO. Just insist that and make out some excuses. How old are you already ? Even if they kick you out for not gg holiday with them, you also can survive. -
dude dont think about anything thats got to do with your mum/gf and your life for the next few days first... get yourself occupied.
i have a job for you actually.. its a warehouse that im working in at boonlay for part time to kill time through the hols.packaging job. you might wanna consider? i have friends working there with me but im willing to give my time to you bro.
i just broke with my girl too,real sad but the job really takes my mind off her most of the time...and it can build your stamina and strength quite abit sometimes. its like you are at a dead end with an endless ceiling.but im sure the good ol peeps of this forum and other relatives/friends of yours can break that ceiling and rescue you.its not the end of the world..you still have many years to live on and start your own family maybe
just get loads of your time occupied like go to lan shops for gaming or pick up a random sport! and you can always call helplines on the sticky help lines of auntagony or me!i have loads of stories to share with you. just rmb,.. if there's a will , there's a way. -
thank you for your kind offer. my situation is that i am currently schooling and that i hope to work during the feb-april hols. i cannot work now due to packed sch schedules and that i am recuperating from an operation.Originally posted by shredyellow:dude dont think about anything thats got to do with your mum/gf and your life for the next few days first... get yourself occupied.
i have a job for you actually.. its a warehouse that im working in at boonlay for part time to kill time through the hols.packaging job. you might wanna consider? i have friends working there with me but im willing to give my time to you bro.
i just broke with my girl too,real sad but the job really takes my mind off her most of the time...and it can build your stamina and strength quite abit sometimes. its like you are at a dead end with an endless ceiling.but im sure the good ol peeps of this forum and other relatives/friends of yours can break that ceiling and rescue you.its not the end of the world..you still have many years to live on and start your own family maybe just get loads of your time occupied like go to lan shops for gaming or pick up a random sport! and you can always call helplines on the sticky help lines of auntagony or me!i have loads of stories to share with you. just rmb,.. if there's a will , there's a way.
i would like to gain my first working experience but i have a lack of options due to my current situation. given that i am better, i would definitely work! -
knn, u better not die
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u are quite a sensitive person. Maybe sometime too sensitive and emotionally dependent on others ?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:they like to play with my emotions. say book alrd waste money la. but i prefer they dont spend 1.5k on me, then i take 100 dollars spend over 1 week. save money, i happy also what. they cannot understand.
U say u are not happy. Tell them straight in the face if they want you to be happy, give you what you want and not what they want.
Insist and stand on your ground. Don't go. Remember you have a choice ultimately.
Btw don't look down on tuition job. U can learn alot about yourself too.
ok i gtg already.. stay happy ok. -
oh man,what did you do to injure yourself.dont tell me you go cut wrist
.then you need some counselling? i may be 16, but i may help a thing or two.. or you might wanna stay away from love songs or the type of genre of songs that may remind yourself bout your life.im like working at the warehouse and everyday they on fm 9.33. everyday chinese love songs reminding me bout my gf.if i tell you when she break up with me you sure pity me one. hahaha.fuck it.but still girlfriends are nothing compared to a life,unless its wife or fiancee or fiance i dont know. feb/april? you can call me if you want tho! im not fierce one.im an innocent kid that can do some councelling(: 96642774 -
haha i appreciate all your help. i have been playing sports and injured myself badly, that is why i went through the operation. i hope that i am able to work and enjoy rather than to earn money. my parents prefer i idle around while they provide me money.
wan to provide me money still wan kp i muz save money when they dun even let me work. too over protective i might say! -
ya i agreem i think i need a knock on yur headOriginally posted by Ferret:Suicide is not an option.
however much i wanna smack ur head in and ask u to wake up a bit, this is still AA.
So I will restrain
Mabbe u need to rethink ur life if u are basing it on just two women. -
u are actually a girl...
if ur my bf i tink i will most probably cheat on u le.. sorrie but tis is how mi feeling.. cos you dont have the guts to make things right, you always get bullied and you cant stand up for yourself.
and you like us to pity you.. its an addiction for you instead. cos people can be addicted to comforting words..
u sae u used up all ur venues of resource, but you let women step all over u.. if u wan to be a mama boy all ur life then ur life is realli wasted.. its hard to hear but tis is the truth small boi. -
dude that might not be true,.. anyway sep,if you are the emotional/sensitive kinda guy,just tell yourself to move on with life.if you wanna show your mum and express to your girl how you feel too, seriously just leave home.m-i-a and write a letter? so that she knows how much you wanna speak up for yourself.if not the rest of the options wont really make your mum understand your desperate need for her attention unless you can think of one. goodluck tho!Originally posted by cisforcat:u are actually a girl...
if ur my bf i tink i will most probably cheat on u le.. sorrie but tis is how mi feeling.. cos you dont have the guts to make things right, you always get bullied and you cant stand up for yourself.
and you like us to pity you.. its an addiction for you instead. cos people can be addicted to comforting words..
u sae u used up all ur venues of resource, but you let women step all over u.. if u wan to be a mama boy all ur life then ur life is realli wasted.. its hard to hear but tis is the truth small boi. -
thank god u arent my gfOriginally posted by cisforcat:u are actually a girl...
if ur my bf i tink i will most probably cheat on u le.. sorrie but tis is how mi feeling.. cos you dont have the guts to make things right, you always get bullied and you cant stand up for yourself.
and you like us to pity you.. its an addiction for you instead. cos people can be addicted to comforting words..
u sae u used up all ur venues of resource, but you let women step all over u.. if u wan to be a mama boy all ur life then ur life is realli wasted.. its hard to hear but tis is the truth small boi.
its not having the guts because i have been brought up to listen to orders, if not, there are consequences. that is why i have a clean record. however, their over possessive acts restrict me and make life difficult for me. they can step over me but i m trying my best. i feel suicidal so i m voicing it out, definitely better than those who juz kill emselves without help aint it?
i m very sane now n i do not need pity. i juz need solutions other than suicide. contemplation is not equilvalent to needing pity. i do not need comfort.
comfort can bring me solace, but can never be the solution. sound enough? i m totally sane in evaluating how my situation is. -
i never ever tried the hard way to let her know. i usually use the soft way. i have left home to let her worry but that will cause more insecurity and mind you my pocket money comes from her!Originally posted by shredyellow:dude that might not be true,.. anyway sep,if you are the emotional/sensitive kinda guy,just tell yourself to move on with life.if you wanna show your mum and express to your girl how you feel too, seriously just leave home.m-i-a and write a letter? so that she knows how much you wanna speak up for yourself.if not the rest of the options wont really make your mum understand your desperate need for her attention unless you can think of one. goodluck tho!
i believe in respecting my elders but i will have to talk things out. somehow, talking juz doesnt work! -
looks like you are really tight,.. i think its more of that she's bored and tired of you approaching her with the same old soft method.try crying on the phone telling her that you really have no other solution?? but i doubt she'll bother. have you tried talkingto relatives??
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Leave them a letter and go somewhere for a planned holiday with friends. Maybe that'll wake them up.
Might as well give them a link to this thread too.
Live life for yourself, not for how others want it.
You need to take the first step out and now is a good time to plan where to go during Feb - Apr.
If no money can try to borrow from your frens / gf / siblings. Shouldn't be a problem. -
sephi, suicide should never be an option.
Your in control of your own life, sometimes you just need to go against ppl for whats best for you, you know yourself best. -
U seem like the type always blame the world one.....maybe u ppl should just sit down and trash it out....sometimes....ppl got their own pressure as well...u always complain ur gf also beh tar han.....u are a MAN not woman....stop complaining to ur gf..solve ur own problems...as for ur mum just dun listen to her if u dun think she is right...u want a job go get it...not like she will really chase u out of the house if u get a job...STOP COMPLAINING.....!!!
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hey man,
come on, dun be too pessimistic. You said you have nothing? you have computer, you have house and you have food, you are fully abled now also. In fact you have many things.
i believe many things in ur house and girlfriend is creating many emotional problems. dun be too anxious to get what you want ok? tell yourself its ok to lose whatever that may be lost in these things.
So in all, its down to your desire. Let go of your desire first. Next time, when you are single and free, then reclaim them back. If your really have sucky family memebers and girlfriend, then no choice, endure first ok.
most importantly, dun desire, as long as you got to eat and sleep everyday, that should be happy enuff a thing. -
You have been focusing on self-pity since 15.
I know it have become a serious habit since you have confined yourself in a virtual trap that you have set yourself up.
No one can or will ever know what you are going through as no one is in the same boat as you.
Even if there are solutions given by the forumers, would you have any guts to perform it or would it be suitable for you ?
The choice of suicide is a route of escape and not a solution.
Your life can only be run and control by you.
If you surrender your control to your mum and your gf, it is also your choice.
Instead of wasting your time in self-pity, go and read some autobiography of other who have overcome difficult times and survived.
Get some direction and courage to regain control and direction of your life. -
hey dude. i suggest that you get some professional help asap. in your current situation, you probably feel like the entire world's against you and that is dam fked up, i know i've been through that. it's not your fault, its not what you'vre been wired up to think like. its just that you've been through so much that you can't take it any longer.
take things easy man. get some personal time out and think things through. if it so happens that your negative thoughts manifest particularly during those times, then instead go get a job and make yourself as busy as possible. in fact you play sports right? thats good. play it as hard as you can, so you dont have any energy left to dwell upon the negativity.
whats important now is that you understand your situation is not dire, and that lift yourself out from the depression. take care
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Hey Sepiroth, if you find life life too unbearable mayb you should seek some professional help. Go talk to a counsellor. You don't have to tell your mom that you went to see a counsellor if you really don't want to.
Life is a long and exciting journey. Its just that sometimes you get blinded by certain events and you seem to lose sight of the long term picture. Take a break and try looking at everything from a different perspective, mayb you will gain some new insights. Do something that you really want. For me i went backpacking. Take a semester off from school if its neccessary. Don't lose sight of your goals and dreams
TO ALL FORUMMERS: Everyone goes through a down point somewhere in their life. What people need during these times are the support of one another to pull each other through. So unless you think you are the perfect human who will never encounter such setbacks in your life, keep your criticisms to yourself. Try putting yourself in other people's shoes once in a while. -
Originally posted by BeRt^.^:i dunno how to give adice but just dun be alone in the meantime....
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Originally posted by sEphIrOth:
As of my previous posts, I talked to everyone about my situation but no one wants to realise my position. [b]I am posting this in all seriousness about my feelings as I am helpless and I wish to seek help here as the first option
My family fails to listen to me and my girlfriend does not want to listen to my problem as she says she has work problems. My problem of the limitation of freedom is so big that I feel I have lost a mere sense of mutual respect from everyone around me. I am beginning to feel that life continuing on like this has no purpose.
I have evaluated my thoughts. I talked and discussed matters only to be rebuked by my mother like this 'Anything you say, you will think it is right so I have no comments because you only think of yourself.' I am compromising yet she wants to be right. I have thought of a plan rationally but she holds her ground. I am helpless. Does it give her a permanent high to see me being submissive? I want to stand up to my parents yet they make things difficult.
I feel that my parents curb my potential. I have always thought about a compromising plan so we both could be happy, if not, least unhappy. However, everytime I try to be tactful, my plea gets thrown out even without the slightest concern.
I feel suicidal because I cannot continue being oppressed by my mother. My girlfriend has so many things to see to, she neglected me. Trust me, if I told her how I feel, I would get a 'What is it again now' type of look and she would tell me she is too busy.
I feel that whatever I do cannot be achieved because my potential is stunted by these 2 women of my life. I am truely troubled. Even if I break up with my girlfriend, my mother will always be my mother. Suicide has been my last option yet I have exhausted other options My mother will dismiss everything as a family affair if I seek professional help. I am helpless. I do not want to wash the dirty linen in public too.
I am mentally tired and I do not wish to continue yet it breaks my heart to end everything. Thinking back, I have nothing.[/b]
Hmmm....
If need be, kindly revert to me your following:
1) Birth Date (birthday)
2) Birth Time (time you were born as of birth cert)
3) Birth Place (if Singapore, jus tell me Singapore will do. If not, please revert country and state)
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Still young, don't have negative thoughts.
Pull yourself together.
Watch this.
http://you.youaremighty.com/
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Hey TS,
Dun mind just take a minute to think it ya,
U have a gf, parents, foods, computer, pocket money and a simple life that even can go tour.
Have u ever thought of some peoples are chasing desperately for a gf but yet cannot get one, peoples with no parents, peoples who never even know what is computer, people who dun even have enough to eat, peoples who work till so tired but still cannot make enough money, peoples who so much wanted a simple life but yet get all kinds of problems in life.
I am not asking u to compare, I just want to step out of your life and take a closer look at yourself, I am telling you to feel fortunate that you are here and your life is much much better than many peoples, you should be contended and be enlighted.
If u think of ending your life or life is meaningless, why are those less fortunate ones who are struggling to survive, remain happy with their life.
And if you still cannot get over it, then dun waste your time here, go ahead and end your life, i, as an angel, will bless and pray for you. -
It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. -Dale Carnegie