shld u end a BGR??
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i also think its very rude... and spoil mood... maybe thats why after that she calmly sms those mushy stuffsOriginally posted by rainee:Ok, slam down the phone is a bit too much...I hate it when ppl slam the phone on me
I find it particularly rude for someone to do that. Maybe for her is she flares up easily but after she puts down the phone she started to regret her action hence the SMS?
Maybe talk to her that you don't like this attitude of hers? She needs to control her temper better, is she the hot-tempered type? And is she stressed out recently with her work etc?
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i agree but i really see some light at the end of all these... as it can be better... as sometimes i really dunno to hold on anotOriginally posted by de_middle:seriously if you feel horrible in this R/S, better end it fast. Not healthy to continue on this way
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yes i know... thats why we have talked b4 countless timesOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Love is about holding on, but not giving up.
Why not bring this matter to her, slowly tell her what you feel about this relationship.
talk like left in right out -
some lightOriginally posted by subaru67:i agree but i really see some light at the end of all these... as it can be better... as sometimes i really dunno to hold on anot
i think ur confused or she has snapped ur last straw yet -
maybe thats something i cant see out right ? thats why i always feel that i am always giving inOriginally posted by Chris1988:well guess all i can say is that sometimes we guys are being too practical. we THINK that we are right but in actual fact we don't really know what the girl have been going through thus quarrels happen because both parties thinks the other party is in the wrong.
i agree with angel to a large extend with regards to the "regretful actions". some girls really are like this.
bro i believe you're old enough to think. its no longer honeymoon anymore and i believe you know that yourself. i know its tiring to always give in but sometimes you got to understand that she is also giving in to you. you might not be the one always giving in either 
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pity , ur gf dont understand u at all !!! what a gal for 25 !!!
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i mean i feel that maybe after all this ups n downs there maybe something worth waiting for.. as her sis told me perservance pays offOriginally posted by de_middle:some light i think ur confused or she has snapped ur last straw yet -
of cos i do... will all my heart else i wun be hanging on... i know its not gd... but i really hope we will changeOriginally posted by popikachu:If you really love someone, you would try to help that person by changing that person instead of backing out...
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cant blame her... we human ourselves sometimes dun understand ourselves tooOriginally posted by Zarks:pity , ur gf dont understand u at all !!! what a gal for 25 !!! -
subaru67,
Your gf sounds very much like me when I was her age.
Unfortunately, her attitude will not change, not when she is with you.
Because she knows you will tolerate her princess tantrums, why would she need to change ?
I wasn't like this anymore because the then boyfriend got tired and fed up with my unreasonable ways and finally call it quits.
I remember crying and begging him to come back to me, but it was too late.
Then after some self reflection and a overseas trip, I realized all my relationship will always ends this way, as long as I continue my bad behavior.
The ones who benefitted from this break up was the future guys of my life.
Sometimes, you are just the trainer, and a passer by to shape your current gf's life. -
why wun she change when she is with me? cant she see that i am serious?Originally posted by jojobeach:subaru67,
Your gf sounds very much like me when I was her age.
Unfortunately, her attitude will not change, not when she is with you.
Because she knows you will tolerate her princess tantrums, why would she need to change ?
I wasn't like this anymore because the then boyfriend got tired and fed up with my unreasonable ways and finally call it quits.
I remember crying and begging him to come back to me, but it was too late.
Then after some self reflection and a overseas trip, I realized all my relationship will always ends this way, as long as I continue my bad behavior.
The ones who benefitted from this break up was the future guys of my life.
Sometimes, you are just the trainer, and a passer by to shape your current gf's life.
how to let her know that i really dun want to be the trainer> -
It's not about your intent. It's more about hers.Originally posted by subaru67:why wun she change when she is with me? cant she see that i am serious?
how to let her know that i really dun want to be the trainer>
There is no incentive for her to change, is there ? Not really.
You'd still stick around, anyway.
Perhaps, you need to put your feet down at least once.
Let her know you ain't someone to toy around with.
When someone takes your kindness for your weakness, the only way is to bite back. -
i put it down once b4 already.. and thats why we are like in a cool off period now... depsite us gg to xmas holiday soonOriginally posted by jojobeach:It's not about your intent. It's more about hers.
There is no incentive for her to change, is there ? Not really.
You'd still stick around, anyway.
Perhaps, you need to put your feet down at least once.
Let her know you ain't someone to toy around with.
When someone takes your kindness for your weakness, the only way is to bite back.
really hope it wun affect our trip as it seems if we turn out as fren.. gg the holiday will also be like funny u know... no more lovely doby feeling -
Frankly, I'd cancel the trip for now.Originally posted by subaru67:i put it down once b4 already.. and thats why we are like in a cool off period now... depsite us gg to xmas holiday soon really hope it wun affect our trip as it seems if we turn out as fren.. gg the holiday will also be like funny u know... no more lovely doby feeling
Go only AFTER everything has been resolved.
An overseas trip with undercurrents will eventually lead to an explosion during a trip.
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the prob with her is that she sometimes dunno what she want... she sometimes tell me that if we are still frens, will i still go to the china trip with her... hiaz... i also not mood but i tell myself maybe during the trip we will patch back?Originally posted by jojobeach:Frankly, I'd cancel the trip for now.
Go only AFTER everything has been resolved.
An overseas trip with undercurrents will eventually lead to an explosion during a trip.
Most couples with problems usually finalized their break up decision DURING a trip together. -
she also said dun cancel... as i paid for hotel while she paid for ticket... as we are not gg just alone... but there is another couple...Originally posted by jojobeach:Frankly, I'd cancel the trip for now.
Go only AFTER everything has been resolved.
An overseas trip with undercurrents will eventually lead to an explosion during a trip.
Most couples with problems usually finalized their break up decision DURING a trip together. -
Since money is the priority, it is up to you.Originally posted by subaru67:she also said dun cancel... as i paid for hotel while she paid for ticket... as we are not gg just alone... but there is another couple...
I wouldn't spend my money on a trip destined to be ruined.
Because I know won't be able to fully enjoy it anyway.
Your decision is irrelevant to the other couple. -
Don't hold your breath.Originally posted by subaru67:the prob with her is that she sometimes dunno what she want... she sometimes tell me that if we are still frens, will i still go to the china trip with her... hiaz... i also not mood but i tell myself maybe during the trip we will patch back?
Trips are makers for strong relationships, and mostly breakers for weak links.
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thats why i dun feel like gg on a trip that will not be happy... but it seems like she really wanto go last time with me... i also sense it may be our last trip... keeping fingers crossedOriginally posted by jojobeach:Since money is the priority, it is up to you.
I wouldn't spend my money on a trip destined to be ruined.
Because I know won't be able to fully enjoy it anyway.
Your decision is irrelevant to the other couple. -
confusedOriginally posted by jojobeach:Don't hold your breath.
Trips are makers for strong relationships, and mostly breakers for weak links.
If there be a possibility to patch, you would have patched while you are still in SG. -
TS, take jojo's advice seriously. Ur GF is very much unlikely to change how she'll handle this R/S.
And its most unfortunate that ur destined to be her trainer. So if nothing good comes out of this "cooling period" best to give it up. Also, set a timline for this period unless u guys are planning for it to cool off slowly & permanently. -
correct... my deadline is till end dec... like after the trip... just go for e last timeOriginally posted by de_middle:TS, take jojo's advice seriously. Ur GF is very much unlikely to change how she'll handle this R/S.
And its most unfortunate that ur destined to be her trainer. So if nothing good comes out of this "cooling period" best to give it up. Also, set a timline for this period unless u guys are planning for it to cool off slowly & permanently. -
the prob... is my gf is a super diff person... no 1 can think what she thinkingOriginally posted by jojobeach:Don't hold your breath.
Trips are makers for strong relationships, and mostly breakers for weak links.
If there be a possibility to patch, you would have patched while you are still in SG. -
You need to ask yourself and her this simple question.Originally posted by subaru67:thats why i dun feel like gg on a trip that will not be happy... but it seems like she really wanto go last time with me... i also sense it may be our last trip... keeping fingers crossed
Will she still go to China trip without you ?
Most SG girls won't venture out to another country on their own.
They always tend to seek a chaperone or travel partner.
Is she asking you to go because she needs to meet the double occupancy requirement ?
After this trip, will it be, Thank you and goodbye ?
If her thinking has never been us, but mostly I, me, myself.
I'm sorry to say, she may just be taking you for a last ride.
May I re-quote my previous postings to another forumer.
A last kiss, a last hug, a last fark, those are meant as a last souvenir for a place not to be visited again. -
[color=red]Originally posted by jojobeach:You need to ask yourself and her this simple question.
Will she still go to China trip without you ?
**yes she will still go without me as she got her fren couple still gg
Most SG girls won't venture out to another country on their own.
They always tend to seek a chaperone or travel partner.
Is she asking you to go because she needs to meet the double occupancy requirement ?
**nope... as b4 our quarrel... when all is well
After this trip, will it be, Thank you and goodbye ?
**this is what i am preparing myself for
If her thinking has never been us, but mostly I, me, myself.
I'm sorry to say, she may just be taking you for a last ride.
May I re-quote my previous postings to another forumer.
A last kiss, a last hug, a last fark, those are meant as a last souvenir for a place not to be visited again.
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