Coming home really late..

• Shanghai_Grand

  12 Jan 08, 13:33

  Originally posted by thinking too much:

  Under wat ground can I file 4 a divorce..? Unreasonable Behaviour..? Anybody had any idea how much the legal cost will b..? I must find a lawyer 2 file a divorce petition right..? Any recommendations..?

  Infiedlity or whatever they call it
  
  I can reccomend Lam & Co
  
  Thier legal cost is quite cheap and their lawyer is quite good
  
  I cant remb might be $700-$1500 for a divorce proceeding.
  
  Hope for a quick seperation.
• blu_sky

  12 Jan 08, 13:47

  Originally posted by thinking too much:

  Under wat ground can I file 4 a divorce..? Unreasonable Behaviour..? Anybody had any idea how much the legal cost will b..? I must find a lawyer 2 file a divorce petition right..? Any recommendations..?

  It is not difficult to prove unreasonable behaviour. Anyway, you are married more than 3 years?
  
  i think if divorcing without contest from both parties, the rates is about $2k? i know of a good lawyer, if you really need, can pm me.
  
  Divorce should only be last resort, but i really sympathise with your predicament. *pats
• dreamykite

  13 Jan 08, 12:34

  Originally posted by thinking too much:

  Any1 married here tat wakes up in the morning & doesn't know where ur other half is or who he/she has spent the nite with..? 5/6 times a mth.. & u dunno who 2 call or where 2 go 2 find out..
  
  I really felt like a fool here..

  that's the problem u ll face when marrying foreigner as wife.
• bahnoo

  13 Jan 08, 14:12

  not sure where ur wife work but so long let thai wife working in golden mile is a very big mistake.
  
  the place full so shit. nice to have fun there but letting them to work there n mixed ard with the pple there is a big no no.
  
  All kind shit pple there.... i seen many that allow their thai wife to work there in the end wife come home late or sometime dont even come back for days.
  
  where they go? they go gamble with their friends, go drinking, some even go sex ard with other man.
  
  i know some pple there tells me is best not to let them work in golden mile cos they tends to mixed ard with this shit pples.
  
  
• kiss_my (_i_)

  16 Jan 08, 16:14

  All i can say is GG.
  
  i dont call this husband and wife.
• New Creation

  22 Jan 08, 12:30

  A thai wife... Hmm.. different culltural upbringing lar. u jz got to accept it.
• vertmonyet

  23 Jan 08, 17:07

  Originally posted by New Creation:

  A thai wife... Hmm.. different culltural upbringing lar. u jz got to accept it.

  possible to change her clubbing lifestyle if "thinking too much" wants to.
  
  i personally feel it's getting out of hand. married, 3 years. should spend together rather than clubbing. what if you both are going to have children? would she have that motherly commitment?
  
  i don't know about you all lah, but it's just me.
• blu_sky

  23 Jan 08, 17:16

  Originally posted by vertmonyet:

  possible to change her clubbing lifestyle if "thinking too much" wants to.
  
  i personally feel it's getting out of hand. married, 3 years. should spend together rather than clubbing. what if you both are going to have children? would she have that motherly commitment?
  
  i don't know about you all lah, but it's just me.

  Well, she does not even want kids
• pwnz0r

  23 Jan 08, 17:17

  2-3 times a month is ok... its not that frequent, neither is it a big deal.
  
  however, if you are talking 2-3 times a week, then perhaps you should be more careful.
• blu_sky

  23 Jan 08, 17:20

  Originally posted by pwnz0r:

  2-3 times a month is ok... its not that frequent, neither is it a big deal.
  
  however, if you are talking 2-3 times a week, then perhaps you should be more careful.

  but not going home is not acceptable
• Jamie Zawinski

  23 Jan 08, 18:02

  your biggest mistake is not accepting payment for the marriage
• vertmonyet

  23 Jan 08, 21:54

  i guess you have to talk it out to her about it. no, really.
• thinking too much

  3 Mar 08, 22:31

  I've found out 2 day tat a guy has been calling & msging her by the name "Baby".. I've just able 2 get msg from him saying "I love u 4ever".. She admitted tat the relationship has been lasted for 3 mths.. Wat shd I do..? I wanna confront tat fucker in the face but he keep avoiding..

• HyuugaNeji

  3 Mar 08, 22:39

  she confirm give her body to that guy liao...gg you wearing a big green cap.

• jojobeach

  4 Mar 08, 00:22

  Originally posted by thinking too much:

  I've found out 2 day tat a guy has been calling & msging her by the name "Baby".. I've just able 2 get msg from him saying "I love u 4ever".. She admitted tat the relationship has been lasted for 3 mths.. Wat shd I do..? I wanna confront tat fucker in the face but he keep avoiding..

  Why do you need to confront that guy when you should be confronting your wife ?

  If she is not such a loose woman, that guy wouldn't had a chance.

   

• BrUtUs

  4 Mar 08, 00:25

  Originally posted by thinking too much:

  I've found out 2 day tat a guy has been calling & msging her by the name "Baby".. I've just able 2 get msg from him saying "I love u 4ever".. She admitted tat the relationship has been lasted for 3 mths.. Wat shd I do..? I wanna confront tat fucker in the face but he keep avoiding..

  
  wat to do? of course divorce lo.... but gather the evidence 1st... nx time get a MIS gal...

• mancha

  4 Mar 08, 02:00

   thinking too much,

  I don't think any counseling advise here would help you. You can't handle your Thai wife. And she knows it, and blatantly disregard you. You can't do anything. You don't have the character to command her respect or even fear.

  Don't think any more, divorce her. Don't hope, and don't catch at slight  improvements to defer divorce. She has no respect for you. Do not believe her promises to change. She will only be discreet in future.

  Don't be too hard on yourself, we all make mistakes, frequently that mistake is in the choice of ones spouse.

• Ed11790

  4 Mar 08, 02:08

  dont let her go out anymore......girls nowadays always 1 leg step on 2 boats.............
• gigabyte14

  4 Mar 08, 04:01

  just talk over calmly

  like when hanky panky time

  "darling, why you always go out until so late"

  and carry on

• blu_sky

  4 Mar 08, 14:57

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  Why do you need to confront that guy when you should be confronting your wife ?

  
  I totally agree.  Why confront that guy if your wife is the one who is at fault?  Oh com'on, which man wouldnt fxxk an attractive young gal if she allows him to?  free fxxk?

   

  Learn to take responsibility of your relationship and resolving it the right way.  Dont blame others cos your wife is the one who allowed others to come in between you.

• blu_sky

  4 Mar 08, 14:59

  Originally posted by gigabyte14:

  just talk over calmly

  like when hanky panky time

  "darling, why you always go out until so late"

  and carry on

  
  That moment had passed.  Why ask this qn when we already have the answer?  She had already admitted having another man.  And the reason why she is staying out late is obviously cos of that man.  What else you want her to say?

• Zarks

  4 Mar 08, 14:59

  still not divorce?

   

  You good game ,man.

• Freebala

  4 Mar 08, 15:27

  no point keeping her as she no longer cares about you. Bite the bullet and let her go, I hope you will find someone better

• aremeis

  4 Mar 08, 22:26

  I think it is still not late to make her realize how important she is to you if you still want this marriage to work. Since you have held out for so long, no point not trying another effort convincing your feelings you have for her.

  No point wasting your effort in confronting the other guy, when what you care is your wife. You should let her know that what the both of you here is sealed and concrete and that you would want to spend the rest of your life with her. Forget about the past mistakes that the both of you might have, but try and make her realize that she would be sorry if she wants to call it quits on you. Remember it is her that you want.

  I don't know how your feelings and situation is for her and the r/s. But if the both of you would still want to continue then you should step up and consult some professional counselling. Start off anew.

  Otherwise, let go if it for the better of the both of you.

• cApitaland

  4 Mar 08, 22:32

  sorry buddy. divorce is the only solution for your happiness.