BF breaks up to patch with ex and is marrying her

• candiz

  27 Feb 09, 20:01

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  i will try to shorten the story. Sometime back met this wonderful guy and things were really looking bright. I love him deeply and he did too.11 feb we were still fine and as per normal but by 13feb he discarded our plans for valentines day (later realised he had to keep some1 else accompany as he could definately could not half himself).

  Valentine days he broke off with me, citing reason as he could not forget his ex who was with him for 10yr (she had repeatedly lied to him & cheated on him) and asked me to give him time.

  we did remain in contact as friends  and he once told me (after we brokeup) he love me

  but today he sent me an sms saying he had already patched with his ex and they were going to get married.. The ex was the one he love.

  Turns out all the while he was lying and lying and lying....

  Told me to never call him ever again------------------------------------

  be strong, treat it as the phase before u meet yr right guy

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 20:03

  Originally posted by Babelfish:

  are you feeling better alrdy? =)

  
  still can cope then suddenly will think of somethings burst out crying

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 20:04

  Originally posted by candiz:

  be strong, treat it as the phase before u meet yr right guy

  
  okay......

• Babelfish

  27 Feb 09, 20:05

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  
  still can cope then suddenly will think of somethings burst out crying

  hmm.. do you mind telling how you know him? maybe from there we can help u so that u won be cheated again=)

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 20:40

  Originally posted by Babelfish:

  are you feeling better alrdy? =)

   

  hmm.. do you mind telling how you know him? maybe from there we can help u so that u won be cheated again=)

   

  
  its ok, thanks, talking about the good memories makes me very pain

• kopiosatu

  27 Feb 09, 20:41

  enjoy and cherish your singlehood.

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 20:44

  Originally posted by CarterM:

  Songs recommended to heal:

  1. Leona Lewis - Better in Time
  2. My Chemical Romance - I don't love you
  3.lydia (FIR)
  4.
  5.
  
  Hm... sure there are lots more of such songs, but these 2 are my favorite... All are welcomed to add in... :)

   

• gigabyte14

  27 Feb 09, 20:55

  archerly

  we all post all these also no use

  if u can absorb all these advices then can

• The HeartBreakKid

  27 Feb 09, 20:59

  Ask your Lancer/Mazda2, it might give you an answer to your problem. Until then,

  

• The HeartBreakKid

  27 Feb 09, 21:02

  Originally posted by gigabyte14:

  archerly

  we all post all these also no use

  if u can absorb all these advices then can

  oh hi there buddy

• Yunhaier

  27 Feb 09, 23:22

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  i will try to shorten the story. Sometime back met this wonderful guy and things were really looking bright. I love him deeply and he did too.11 feb we were still fine and as per normal but by 13feb he discarded our plans for valentines day (later realised he had to keep some1 else accompany n he could definately could not half himself).

  Valentine days he broke off with me, citing reason as he could not forget his ex who was with him for 10yr (she had repeatedly lied to him & cheated on him) and asked me to give him time.

  we did remain in contact as friends  and he once told me (after we brokeup) he love me

  but today he sent me an sms saying he had already patched with his ex and they were going to get married.. The ex was the one he love.

  Turns out all the while he was lying and lying and lying....

  Told me to never call him ever again------------------------------------

  He reserved you, just in case he didn't work out with his ex. You know, somewhat like how people who had to 'chop seat' for the 'just-in-case' situation?

  P.S: You truly deserve someone who could perceive the worth in you and to date you for who you really are.

  Cheers 

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:29

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• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:31

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  He reserved you, just in case he didn't work out with his ex. You know, somewhat like how people who had to 'chop seat' for the 'just-in-case' situation?

  P.S: You truly deserve someone who could perceive the worth in you and to date you for who you really are.

  Cheers 

   

  i feel very very innocent in this whole situation,caught in their break and patch.I believed at the moment we were together he really loved me. I pressume he met her or whatever before valentine day eve his feelings for her all returned and i was discarded like a paper plate................................................

• Miss Tiny

  27 Feb 09, 23:35

  I guess there are some guys who can make a 180 degrees change and 翻脸ä¸�认人.  tsk.

  dun worry girl, u will find someone better.

• Babelfish

  27 Feb 09, 23:38

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

   

  i feel very very innocent in this whole situation,caught in their break and patch.I believed at the moment we were together he really loved me. I pressume he met her or whatever before valentine day eve his feelings for her all returned and i was discarded like a paper plate................................................

  i kinda agree with you.. but i think that he is just using you as a back up

  Dont accept another guy so easily again. Get to know the guy for longer time 1st

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:38

  Originally posted by Miss Tiny:

  I guess there are some guys who can make a 180 degrees change and 翻脸ä¸�认人.  tsk.

  dun worry girl, u will find someone better.

  
  ya he was very very caring and made effort on our relationship....then suddenly yesterday become inhumane  & cruel

• Miss Tiny

  27 Feb 09, 23:43

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  
  ya he was very very caring and made effort on our relationship....then suddenly yesterday become inhumane  & cruel

  Some people are like that. Treat u very good then the next moment, change attitude already. i hope u won't meet such a guy next time. Agree that he's just using u as a back up too.

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:44

  Originally posted by Miss Tiny:

  Some people are like that. Treat u very good then the next moment, change attitude already. i hope u won't meet such a guy next time. Agree that he's just using u as a back up too.

  
  i trying to be strong..but once i think of their wedding i cant do it...............................

• KrenByte

  27 Feb 09, 23:46

  Not implying anything, I just have this nagging feeling that the sms is typed by his ex instead of him.

  Try to distract yourself, you have any best friends that you often hang out with? Try to arrange outings or regular meetups, like gym sessions or pick up a course together. The more you spend time alone and not doing anything, the more likely you'll think too much...

• Miss Tiny

  27 Feb 09, 23:47

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  
  i trying to be strong..but once i think of their wedding i cant do it...............................

  Be strong girl.  Maybe the guy will have a change of love suddenly and divorce his wife in future too, who knows? Be glad that u are not the one.

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:47

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  He reserved you, just in case he didn't work out with his ex. You know, somewhat like how people who had to 'chop seat' for the 'just-in-case' situation?

  P.S: You truly deserve someone who could perceive the worth in you and to date you for who you really are.

  Cheers 

  
  i rejected him twice before we were 2gether

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:48

  Originally posted by KrenByte:

  Not implying anything, I just have this nagging feeling that the sms is typed by his ex instead of him.

  Try to distract yourself, you have any best friends that you often hang out with? Try to arrange outings or regular meetups, like gym sessions or pick up a course together. The more you spend time alone and not doing anything, the more likely you'll think too much...

  
  yes the sms style is not his.....................................

  i already forced myself to start learning driving tmr...................

• Babelfish

  27 Feb 09, 23:51

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  
  i rejected him twice before we were 2gether

  TS, make sure that you are in a clear state of mind before you start anything.. You are taking Basic Theory or what now?

  Take cares.. there are guys out there.. waiting for their angels to appear.. And guess what? You are one of them angels

• mancha

  27 Feb 09, 23:53

  Originally posted by ButterCake:

  
  we wun ever be together again, his that sms showed how firm he is, so i wun go and think about will i or not , cos that will never happen, he is gone for good and he is getting married

   

  Originally posted by hisoka:

  wrong. given his past actions. there is a good chance he will try to coem back if the wife does something funyn again.

  You need to be clear that he is an inappropriate person and not for you. You need to be firm and sure that you will not even bother about him.

  She is a liar, and he love her.

  He is a liar, and you love him, remember.

   

  I wonder if you're lonesome tonite

  You know someone said "The world's a stage"

  And each must play a part

  Fate had me playing in love with you

  As my sweetheart

  Act one's when we met

  And I love you at first glance

  You read your lines so cleverly

  And never missed a cue

  Then came Act two

  You seemed to change, you acted strange

  Why, I'll never know

  Honey, you lied when you said you loved me

  And I had no cause to doubt you

  But I'd rather go on hearing your lies

  Than to go on living without you

  Now the stage is bare, and I'm standing there

  With emptiness all around me

  And if you don't come back to me

  Then they can bring the curtain down

  - Elvis Presley

• ButterCake

  27 Feb 09, 23:53

  Originally posted by Babelfish:

  TS, make sure that you are in a clear state of mind before you start anything.. You are taking Basic Theory or what now?

  Take cares.. there are guys out there.. waiting for their angels to appear.. And guess what? You are one of them angels

  
  practical................always had fear of driving..but sudden had big courage to do so