I can get used to anything, except a guy
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Originally posted by barista:
i'm drained being with him . I'm confused whether should i be with him because i just want to enjoy my free time (without keeping my mind occupied of my thoughts of him) which i can't seem to set myself to do that anymore. I'm very unhappy being with him.
Finally the real reason is out. Aft so long. -.-" -
Originally posted by barista:
i'm drained being with him . I'm confused whether should i be with him because i just want to enjoy my free time (without keeping my mind occupied of my thoughts of him) which i can't seem to set myself to do that anymore. I'm very unhappy being with him.
Well, of course you are. A jerk like that could ruin anybody's day on a consistent basis.
Now you know what the problem is, so you may as well dump the loser and find someone who does make you happy.
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well what you can do is actually try to prove it to him. though i can understand, some guys are just serious hard nuts to crack, stubborn and refuse to change their mindset. and in such instance, you can rly just shrug.
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"Do you love me?"
On many occassions, the words he said and the things he do doesn't seem like he wants me by his side anymore. Is he waiting for me to pick up my things and go ? Till then , he will continue picking on me?
Sometimes, i look at him and have an inner conversation with myself , where are you? That man who loves me for who i am is gone. But yet question me with a " do you love me?" Does he still love and care for me when he ask that?
If you say he is a jerk , then i'm a bitch. I'm no perfect. I do things which he can't tolerate as well. Initially , when he was head over heels with me, everything was possible, as long as i am happy. Now, i got blame for all the shit he had to take last time.
Perhaps, the only partner who is worthy of him is someone in the same industry he is doing. ( because thats the one of the few industries that he looks up to).If his partner is doing the same thing as he does , she will probably earn him some respect. Unfortunately i'm not .Then why be with me? Or am i speculating wrongly?
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Originally posted by barista:
On many occassions, the words he said and the things he do doesn't seem like he wants me by his side anymore. Is he waiting for me to pick up my things and go ? Till then , he will continue picking on me?
Sometimes, i look at him and have an inner conversation with myself , where are you? That man who loves me for who i am is gone. But yet question me with a " do you love me?" Does he still love and care for me when he ask that?
Ah, familiarity breeds contempt. You've probably heard it said that relationships take work - this fellow obviously hasn't listened.
To be fair, I'd see it more of a case of his being complacent, rather than of him wanting to get rid of you.
Originally posted by barista:If you say he is a jerk , then i'm a bitch. I'm no perfect.
Confucius say two wrongs don't make a right but three lefts do.
He's a jerk, regardless of what you're like. That's all that's relevant here.
Originally posted by barista:Initially , when he was head over heels with me, everything was possible, as long as i am happy. Now, i got blame for all the shit he had to take last time.
Again, complacency and familiarity breeding contempt.
Originally posted by barista:Perhaps, the only partner who is worthy of him is someone in the same industry he is doing. ( because thats the one of the few industries that he looks up to).If his partner is doing the same thing as he does , she will probably earn him some respect. Unfortunately i'm not .Then why be with me? Or am i speculating wrongly?
Now here's an interesting point. Is he supposed to be with you for who you are, or for what you are?
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As i'm the easily influenced, i agree with what you say.
When we're in a heated argument which can't seem to come to a solution , i do have thoughts of giving it up.
Come to think of it, he does most of the talking ... on and on.. sometimes, i was there keeping up with the first half of his grievances , but for the 2nd half, it gets too tiring to even response, i can only see his mouth moving.
Sometimes,i would imagine he is telling a joke and his funny faces... when i woke" up, he is still there, grumbling about all the things he had sacrificed for me. It felt like years had passed me by and i stood there looking at how a year had passed me by, motionless. I was thinking " unless i change to become what he wants me to be which is everything that i am not now , or we will always be in this state.No. Or even if i changed to become what he wants me to be, we will still be in this state. Because, expectations are ever changing.
I don't know why, but i still feel the excitement when he smiles at me and calls me darling. Or the thought of how he used to be there and make all things possible for me.
I don't go out with other guys anymore, since he emphasized it's not right to be going out with guys who likes me. Now, barely anyone of their contacts still exist in my mobile. Other than my boss whom i work closely with.
Is it still possible for him to be head over heels with me again? I always thought this solves everything(or does it?), as long as he is still very interested in me, no matter how bad the relationship is , a willing mind will turn it all around.
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Originally posted by barista:
Sometimes it gets so frustrating talking to him. But 我�。
He looks down on females so much , it gets to my nerves. Yes,I'm talking about the male chauvinist boyfriend.
There are females in his company who are VPs , MDs, AVPs .
To that, he will say "oh they are useless, they can't do anything right. They don't even know what's going on, they only make matters worse etc and because they are females that's why couldn't do things well. " Of course there are female bosses who are not very useful to the coy but It just boils inside me when the view points he makes is so sexist and disrespectful.
Eg, we are on the topic of engineering.. he mentioned about his girl friend taking engineering in uni because her results are too poor to get into business course. He will go on, alot of people who are in engineering (he is in business) have no choice but to choose engin because their results are too bad to enter business school.
I was quite surprised and replied, that's true but there must be some who really likes engineering and think that's the course for them
He: Oh but never the girls. I've never seen girls who are good in engin. It's always the guys who are better and even in business school it's the guys as well.
Me: but there must be females who scores well too
He: It's so rare that i've never met one. Oh and anyway ,are there any great inventors who are females ?
I can't think of any in the older days so i kept quiet.. to that he raised his voice, "none! "
I used to complain about my work as well but due to his incessant negative views on females' cabability, i just hate to share my woes with him anymore.
By the way, i am earning as much as he does although he is a degree grad and i'm a diploma holder. And i'm 8 years younger than him.
We have been living with each other for coming two years.
Is it really common still for guys to have this kind of thinking nowadays? SHould i just shrug my shoulders each time he does it again or should i better make my move from him if i want some respect?I really cant seefor fuk!
Is it me.. or are all the fonts so small. LOL!
Now u see me!
now u kinda dont see me.
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Originally posted by barista:
Sometimes it gets so frustrating talking to him. But 我�。
He looks down on females so much , it gets to my nerves. Yes,I'm talking about the male chauvinist boyfriend.
There are females in his company who are VPs , MDs, AVPs .
To that, he will say "oh they are useless, they can't do anything right. They don't even know what's going on, they only make matters worse etc and because they are females that's why couldn't do things well. " Of course there are female bosses who are not very useful to the coy but It just boils inside me when the view points he makes is so sexist and disrespectful.
Eg, we are on the topic of engineering.. he mentioned about his girl friend taking engineering in uni because her results are too poor to get into business course. He will go on, alot of people who are in engineering (he is in business) have no choice but to choose engin because their results are too bad to enter business school.
I was quite surprised and replied, that's true but there must be some who really likes engineering and think that's the course for them
He: Oh but never the girls. I've never seen girls who are good in engin. It's always the guys who are better and even in business school it's the guys as well.
Me: but there must be females who scores well too
He: It's so rare that i've never met one. Oh and anyway ,are there any great inventors who are females ?
I can't think of any in the older days so i kept quiet.. to that he raised his voice, "none! "
I used to complain about my work as well but due to his incessant negative views on females' cabability, i just hate to share my woes with him anymore.
By the way, i am earning as much as he does although he is a degree grad and i'm a diploma holder. And i'm 8 years younger than him.
We have been living with each other for coming two years.
Is it really common still for guys to have this kind of thinking nowadays? SHould i just shrug my shoulders each time he does it again or should i better make my move from him if i want some respect?
baristano need for you to save space for us or for the mod, really no need.
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Originally posted by barista:
As i'm the easily influenced, i agree with what you say.
When we're in a heated argument which can't seem to come to a solution , i do have thoughts of giving it up.
Come to think of it, he does most of the talking ... on and on.. sometimes, i was there keeping up with the first half of his grievances , but for the 2nd half, it gets too tiring to even response, i can only see his mouth moving.
Sometimes,i would imagine he is telling a joke and his funny faces... when i woke" up, he is still there, grumbling about all the things he had sacrificed for me. It felt like years had passed me by and i stood there looking at how a year had passed me by, motionless. I was thinking " unless i change to become what he wants me to be which is everything that i am not now , or we will always be in this state.No. Or even if i changed to become what he wants me to be, we will still be in this state. Because, expectations are ever changing.
I don't know why, but i still feel the excitement when he smiles at me and calls me darling. Or the thought of how he used to be there and make all things possible for me.
I don't go out with other guys anymore, since he emphasized it's not right to be going out with guys who likes me. Now, barely anyone of their contacts still exist in my mobile. Other than my boss whom i work closely with.
Is it still possible for him to be head over heels with me again? I always thought this solves everything(or does it?), as long as he is still very interested in me, no matter how bad the relationship is , a willing mind will turn it all around.
Yes it is possible, but you will need to change and make yourself more attractive to him again.The problem is usually because he has already gotten used to you, who you are, how you think, your behaviour, what you think of him....and etc.
Be someone different for the betterment of your current dull and boring relationship, and attract him to go after you again.
Since he is not changing, which makes you easier to attract him once more. You should know how he thinks, what he likes, his behaviour, his opinions about you...and etc.
Change and spark an interest in his heart once more.
Most people would start changing from appearances but I would suggest you to start changing from who you are and play with his mind SEXUALLY for goodness sake!
Read his mind and surprise him so that you can confuse him utterly in between your submissive-ness and dominatrix behaviour. Submit and Deny him then give in to him!
Remember, be sensual....if your man doesn't burn with deep desires for you inside his heart, then you have FAILED TERRIBLY as a woman.
Denied but Ruthless Temptations are probably the most powerful behaviour ever to be developed by women to be use to dominate men.
Forget about who you are right now, it doesn't matters anymore because you are going to CHANGE.
If you don't know what you need to do, then you should knock your head against the wall and then sit down and think about the MEN you knew and their deep desires about WOMEN.
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Originally posted by Lorry`:
Is it my eyes or the font size?
Wah piang, my eyes needs a magnifying glass le.
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ayiah sex is good then stay
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BUT don't get married
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:
ayiah sex is good then stay
if so easy then good. don't need post thread liao.
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Originally posted by barista:
if so easy then good. don't need post thread liao.
ok lah maybe u can take your mind off him by being with other guys?
bang the same girl all the time, its kinda boring
can't have apples everyday right? gotta have a watermelon, banana, orange occasionally
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you're right.. maybe he is bored with me. Argh. tian ahhhhhh
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i'm just crapping.
don't take whatever i say literally
BUT i really do think apples everyday is boring. ok, i'm being a bad example
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you making me worried la.go away la you.
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worried? about what?
i personally feel that if the other fruits can make me high
why not?
happiness is king!
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because i'm not in this rs with myself but with a person i love who is willing to commit to me too.
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suddenly it sounds so boring
i am such a commitmentphobic, so my illness lets me have fun
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haha. because you haven't met the one.
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why is squirting thrown into the discussion?
ok lah, got good ones, got bad ones. makes me wanna go back but after a while i will think its too tedious
i'm commited to staying single
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Originally posted by barista:
Parn,
I'm sensual and sexual so much so that he asked " will i leave him if he is not able to make love to me anymore?" If you would like me to go a little further , i can say , we never have a day without the loving sessions until i've started this thread because a sudden surge of realisation dawned on me ! perhaps the problem is really us and not the sex which what they always say is the best method to keep the man's heart with you. Seriously, i squirt juices more than his cum. I'm horny and sexual, i am usually turn on when he is around because i am hardly clothe. Perhaps only undies. I will finger myself , vibrator , touch him all over , wet kisses , sit on his lap and do anything to turn him on and make me squirt. The most loving time of a day will be after sessions, we'll hug to sleep, After we wake up, sessions repeat and we're off to do our own things and quarrels begins.
On some ocassions , i got scolded for the one who is controlling the rs, why didn't i know? now, to think about it, it's nt me. It's the lust which is the controller .
I did try changing and appearing more serious when i'm with him until he starts to touch me all over , how to change? off to another session!
I should've known earlier that you are a guy.In that case, enjoy your fun time with the guys in here.
What you need right now is not advice....
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excuse moi lady, i'm not a guy! what makes you think i am a guy? I really do hope you are reading. i'm a 100% female.
I need advice from the people here because i'm confused with my rs.Obviously i listed the annoying ones as the reason i started this thread. It just so happened that you're convinced i've sexual issues when i didn't even mention it in the first place ? So i'm elaborating it for you to judge whether is there a problem? But since both me and my bf reckon there are no problems but pleasures , then maybe we should focus on other aspects of the rs where the problem arises.
I hope you are aware there are problems as well as pleasureable moments in a relationship.